Page 10 | Just for fun - what was your 'push present'?

AWholeNewWorls · 2023-02-04T09:48:54+00:00

I'm curious! I've only just come across this term! What did your partner/husband give you if anything? And for which number baby? I'm pregnant with my first and our midwife mentioned it in our NCT class, specifically an eternity ring! Apparently it's quite common..? I fit in the 'millennial generation' and apparently have been living under a rock 😂

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JessicaFletcherscrewnecksweater · 05/02/2023 10:45

RidingMyBike · 04/02/2023 15:21

Because he's at home doing useful things rather than out buying a present?! I'd have been furious if mine had been browsing in jewellers rather than getting stuck in!

Are you usually this linear?

4thonthe4th · 05/02/2023 11:23

@RidingMyBike does your husband not have internet access? Or did the birth of his child come as a complete shock to him on the day of the birth, meaning he had absolutely no time whatsoever in the 9 months of the pregnancy in which to buy a gift for his wife? I hope your pregnancy didn’t fall over Christmas or your birthday is he is so unable. Maybe you could buy him a WiFi connection and a smart phone for his next birthday so he can buy online like the majority of the UK population can.

Doremi1689 · 05/02/2023 12:17

A 2 week holiday to Thailand with our 8 month old and it was the best time ever! Travelling with a baby that young is as easiest as it’ll ever get, until they turn 1-2😄

Darkdiamond · 05/02/2023 12:47

4thonthe4th · 05/02/2023 11:23

@RidingMyBike does your husband not have internet access? Or did the birth of his child come as a complete shock to him on the day of the birth, meaning he had absolutely no time whatsoever in the 9 months of the pregnancy in which to buy a gift for his wife? I hope your pregnancy didn’t fall over Christmas or your birthday is he is so unable. Maybe you could buy him a WiFi connection and a smart phone for his next birthday so he can buy online like the majority of the UK population can.

I was actually able to put my baby in the pram and go into the jeweller to pick my ring and I didn't have to run home to change my baby's nappy/feed him/bath him/get stuck in. I was actually able to incorporate it into my day, much like buying literally anything.

4thonthe4th · 05/02/2023 12:50

Darkdiamond · 05/02/2023 12:47

I was actually able to put my baby in the pram and go into the jeweller to pick my ring and I didn't have to run home to change my baby's nappy/feed him/bath him/get stuck in. I was actually able to incorporate it into my day, much like buying literally anything.

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Crazy isn’t it! I don’t know who these women are married to.

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 05/02/2023 12:52

A healthy baby followed by marmite toast and tea!

RidingMyBike · 05/02/2023 13:04

A lot of this is personal preference, where you live, how much money you have and what makes you feel appreciated though?

DH doesn't like buying online, preferring to choose and buy in person (I'm similar). He doesn't drive and the small town we lived in didn't have lots of shops. We were struggling - I was in hospital for 10 days for the birth and aftermath, then developed severe PND. Him going off on a jaunt to a different town and shops wasn't an option. I wouldn't have been capable of getting the pram out, boarding a train and joining him. I do drive but driving to a different town, with a newborn just to choose a present, would have been insane?!

There is no way we'd have bought a present like this in advance - high risk pregnancy, friends have had stillbirths. We didn't even unbox the pram just in case it ended up being returned.

He bought me jewellery previously (when I completed a professional qualification) and spent ages choosing it. It's something I wear everyday. I don't wear jewellery other than that, wedding/engagement rings and watch so no point getting me more.

His work only paid statutory paternity and we were on a very tight budget for maternity leave. Buying jewellery in the run up to this or during maternity then childcare costs would have been irresponsible.

There are so many threads on here with deadbeat partners who don't pull their weight. If you want a push present then I hope you do get both that and a useful partner but I know I couldn't have cared less about a push present.

Sallyh87 · 05/02/2023 13:43

A swinging capsule garden chair, I wanted it and it was waiting as a surprise when I finally got out of the hospital after several days.

Id been through the mill and he wanted to do something nice for me. Not sure why getting a gift is tacky?

I bought him a nice bottle of whiskey when he had surgery.

TooBigForMyBoots · 05/02/2023 15:58

Do people really think that men who get their partners gifts are deadbeats/don't love them? Why?

UnicornRainbowSky · 05/02/2023 20:36

I got a very special necklace after our DC was born. I guess you could call it a push present but for us it marked the start of a new part of our lives together, much like an engagement or wedding ring.
Not sure why so many comments here are so negative about the concept. It's a joyous occasion to be celebrated and sometimes jewellery or other meaningful items can serve as life-long mementos. My mum has a ring my dad gave to her after I was born. She still wears it every day. And I plan to pass my necklace on to my DC one day.

eliayd · 06/02/2023 00:59

Mydogatemypurse · 04/02/2023 10:15

Carton of ribena

Haha

Choc2022 · 08/02/2023 20:50

Wow I'm suprised with how negative some of the responses are. The OP's intentions seem to be asking if/what did people receive not judgement on how tacky or deadbeat the DP is. I clicked on this thread for inspo on what I could hint for but I've just read a lot of bitterness.

starlingdarling · 08/02/2023 21:07

Choc2022 · 08/02/2023 20:50

Wow I'm suprised with how negative some of the responses are. The OP's intentions seem to be asking if/what did people receive not judgement on how tacky or deadbeat the DP is. I clicked on this thread for inspo on what I could hint for but I've just read a lot of bitterness.

Go for the 7 dressings gowns. It was funny but also very practical when you've been puked on and are too tired to run a wash.

JessicaFletcherscrewnecksweater · 08/02/2023 21:49

RidingMyBike · 05/02/2023 13:04

A lot of this is personal preference, where you live, how much money you have and what makes you feel appreciated though?

DH doesn't like buying online, preferring to choose and buy in person (I'm similar). He doesn't drive and the small town we lived in didn't have lots of shops. We were struggling - I was in hospital for 10 days for the birth and aftermath, then developed severe PND. Him going off on a jaunt to a different town and shops wasn't an option. I wouldn't have been capable of getting the pram out, boarding a train and joining him. I do drive but driving to a different town, with a newborn just to choose a present, would have been insane?!

There is no way we'd have bought a present like this in advance - high risk pregnancy, friends have had stillbirths. We didn't even unbox the pram just in case it ended up being returned.

He bought me jewellery previously (when I completed a professional qualification) and spent ages choosing it. It's something I wear everyday. I don't wear jewellery other than that, wedding/engagement rings and watch so no point getting me more.

His work only paid statutory paternity and we were on a very tight budget for maternity leave. Buying jewellery in the run up to this or during maternity then childcare costs would have been irresponsible.

There are so many threads on here with deadbeat partners who don't pull their weight. If you want a push present then I hope you do get both that and a useful partner but I know I couldn't have cared less about a push present.

This is a long old waffly response about how you both make a meal out of everything, just to prop up why you bizarrely seem to think buying a present makes a man a deadbeat father and husband 😆

annlee3817 · 08/02/2023 22:35

Not termed as a push present, but was a thing when I was born for the Mum to get an eternity ring for the first born. My DH bought me one, for DD2 the excitement of DD1 meeting her was enough :)