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Just for fun - what was your 'push present'?

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AWholeNewWorls · 04/02/2023 09:48

I'm curious! I've only just come across this term!
What did your partner/husband give you if anything? And for which number baby?

I'm pregnant with my first and our midwife mentioned it in our NCT class, specifically an eternity ring! Apparently it's quite common..? I fit in the 'millennial generation' and apparently have been living under a rock 😂

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TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 04/02/2023 15:22

roarfeckingroarr · 04/02/2023 14:14

I gave birth yesterday. DP brought me some mini eggs and a smoked salmon and cream cheese bagel. I was pleased.

Congratulations on your bagel!
And your baby.

tigerlily0 · 04/02/2023 15:22

I treat myself with my husbands money all the time anyway so no point in telling him to get anything. Told him I want a Jacquemus bag for this third baby. But again, il be buying it with his money so it's a present but not a surprise. He's a great hands on husband / dad too. Amazing with the kids

Alwayswonderedwhy · 04/02/2023 15:22

My children.

Whatmarbles · 04/02/2023 15:23

Fuck all and I was happy with that.

When I left hospital a few hours later, he'd managed to put on a roast lamb dinner. Delicious!

Johnnysgirl · 04/02/2023 15:25

tigerlily0 · 04/02/2023 15:22

I treat myself with my husbands money all the time anyway so no point in telling him to get anything. Told him I want a Jacquemus bag for this third baby. But again, il be buying it with his money so it's a present but not a surprise. He's a great hands on husband / dad too. Amazing with the kids

If you buy what you want when you want; why tell him you want a bag "for this baby"?
It sounds so bloody weird.

jumperoozles · 04/02/2023 15:26

I got an Apple Watch and I tracked the baby’s feeds etc on it so was v useful - I don’t care if it was ‘tatty as fuck’ 😂 I like presents

TooBigForMyBoots · 04/02/2023 15:26

My dad commissioned a piece of art for my mum when I was born. She got a gold watch when my brother was born. This was over 50 years ago, they weren't called push presents back then.

jumperoozles · 04/02/2023 15:30

SallyWD · 04/02/2023 10:45

Nothing! I find the idea a bit tacky. After having our second he got me a big bunch of flowers (because I asked him to 😆). We were both more focused on the baby than getting gifts.

Yeah I got a gift and it totally made me focus on that rather than my baby - silly DH for getting my a present and distracting me!

Iamacatslave · 04/02/2023 15:35

Piles.

frymeariverpls · 04/02/2023 15:37

An eternity ring

frymeariverpls · 04/02/2023 15:39

31, it was expected as his mum got one when she gave birth. I've wanted to replace my wedding ring as it's really thin but didn't want to just get rid of it so this was nice and ties all the rings in lovley together. It's engraved with name and birthstone too. My friend got a mulberry bag!

frymeariverpls · 04/02/2023 15:39

And I didn't push. I had an emg c section

OldTinHat · 04/02/2023 15:40

A what now?!! 🤣

4thonthe4th · 04/02/2023 15:43

OldTinHat · 04/02/2023 15:40

A what now?!! 🤣

There are 9 pages of replies. A gift you receive after your baby is born.

mynewname25 · 04/02/2023 16:08

Aw i got nowt, but then i didnt push. both were emergency sections!

currently pg with DC 3, il be hinting that im due 3 lots of gifts after reading this thread 🤣

OhIdoLike2bBesideTheSeaside · 04/02/2023 17:52

grayhairdontcare · 04/02/2023 09:52

I think a push present is all kinds of tacky and wrong.

Exactly
It's in really bad taste

Faradalla · 04/02/2023 17:59

RidingMyBike · 04/02/2023 15:21

Because he's at home doing useful things rather than out buying a present?! I'd have been furious if mine had been browsing in jewellers rather than getting stuck in!

Furious 😄

JenniferBarkley · 04/02/2023 18:08

OhIdoLike2bBesideTheSeaside · 04/02/2023 17:52

Exactly
It's in really bad taste

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And as for birthday presents? Why you should just be grateful for surviving another year, how grabby to think your husband should get you a token for the day.

And Christmas? Can you believe some people both give and receive Christmas presents?! How pathetic.

Pickles91 · 04/02/2023 19:07

DH wants to get me a gift when baby is born. I have no idea what it will be - it could be anything from jewellery to a bottle of wine to a slab of brie (any of which I would love) - but know for him it’s a sign of appreciation and pride for safely cooking baby for 9 months (which he knows has been hard at times) and going through the birth and postpartum period. Of course a healthy baby is the most important thing and is an INCREDIBLE gift for both of us, but personally, beyond the actual name of it, I don’t see a push present as tacky or especially different from a graduation gift etc. My dad got my mum an eternity ring, which I imagine we will do too once we have decided our family is complete ❤️

RJnomore1 · 04/02/2023 19:27

RidingMyBike · 04/02/2023 14:37

A baby?!
Honestly, you don't want a 'push present' you want a partner who pulls
their weight in the house without being asked, who does their share of the boring bits of childcare.

Mine did all the housework and laundry (still does, she's now 7!), had the baby for 3 hours every day so I had a break and slept with her in the spare room one night a week also so I had a break. All of that is worth far more than an eternity ring.

It doesn’t need to be either or!

bobbytorq · 04/02/2023 19:46

What a crass idea

SallySunrise · 04/02/2023 20:45

A medium rare filet steak and a glass of malbec.

Cakecakecheese · 04/02/2023 21:33

Percy pigs.

MollyRover · 05/02/2023 09:52

@RJnomore1 I thought exactly the same thing, certainly isn't the case in our family. DH was in awe of what pregnancy put my body through twice and the recovery is not always easy. Nothing wrong with a token of appreciation, be that the steak au bleau and red wine you couldn't have during the pregnancy or something sparkly.

Darkdiamond · 05/02/2023 10:04

If your absolute deadbeat of a 'husband' spends his money and time buying you a gift after the ordeal of carrying and getting a human out of your body, when he COULD be at home changing nappies and winding the baby you should leave that bastard.

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