August Due Date Crew - Into Trimester 2 (Thread 6)

[AnnieApple123]

As always, newbies are most welcome.

Apologies if I’ve missed out anyone who gave a date. Do shout if so. Ditto if you’d like to be added or have updates.

July
26th @MidnightSunshine12
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29th @DesertSnow,@Mulner88 & @overwork
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31st @AnnieApple123

August
1st @ChloeN & @SnowL2021
2nd @Amme18
3rd @PumpkinEverything, @Chl0o & @LS888
4th @BMK & @UsernameNotPresent
5th @BusyBushBaby @LBF2020 & @BoodifulGoose
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7th @CityKity
8th @Sjw30
9th @marleyandme & @buttercupbee
10th @VickiGo & @Desperatelyboredhousewife
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12th @Rose05
13th @sally16
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15th @BCxx & @nadsc
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17th @narwhal88
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19th @Firsttimemomma1 , @P1pk & @Nic2908
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30th @unluckyinlife

When I had my son (my first) my Mum told me that I'd definitely need her to come and stay for a couple of weeks to help, especially if I had a section.

In the end it turned out to be a godsend that she had said that because it made me think that having a child was going to destroy me. It turned out, even after EMCS that it was actually fairly easy. And (thank god) I didn't need mum to come and stay.

I did invite her and my stepdad to stay for a couple of nights when I was 3 weeks post partum...they decided it would be appropriate to bring their massive 1 Yr old st Bernard. The house is tiny and was covered in dog hair. To this day I do not understand how anyone can be so bloody stupid as to do that. And then when they were here, they weren't really helpful.

Suffice to say, I won't be repeating that this time.

I can’t cope with the horror stories 😅 I was lucky in comparison! My mum was amazing, came only when asked and either did my pots or cuddled the baby so I could shower. My mother in law did drop in unannounced which we put a stop to straight away, we had a rule of planned visits only. But again when she came she always did tidying! one SIL cooked us lots of meals. The other SIL was actually the worst one, she’s actually one of my best friends, but she came round at 6.30pm with her 18month annd dog?! And stayed far too long. I felt a lot of pressures last time of everyone wanting to meet baby ASAP and both having big families it was like all or no one but I’ll not be trying to be “fair” to everyone this time, and they’ll get over it 🤷🏻‍♀️I want to relax and enjoy having a newborn, and also it’s going to be a big adjustment for my little boy so he needs time without the house being a circus!

@Createcomet @sally16 that's good to know and know that you actually don't need the support that you think you will need. This is all making me feel so much better about our situation!!

@Mulner88 honestly, my one piece of parenting advice is always...Ignore everyone's parenting advice 🤣 it's just not relevant to you. We all have different stress thresholds, different commitments, different family relationships, different ways of parenting etc. Some people stop at one child because they felt that they couldn't handle another, some women somehow manage to have 5 kids and a stressful full time job (like my aunt). Our situations are all so different.

My mum was convinced I was going to need so much help, and in actual fact I was fine (I also think i parent differently to her) Its going to be different with 2 kids for sure, and I'm already very apprehensive. But, we'll figure it out. What I learned from having my son was that some people can't offer the kind of help you expect from them and its best to ask for what you need.

You will be absolutely fine. The horror stories about parenting, birth etc are far worse than it feels when you're actually in that moment yourself, I promise you 💛 (and I had an emergency section in lockdown, and my family all live 6 hours away)

Reading all your stories and not sure what is worse 😂
My parents live a 5 min walk from me and my Mum doesn't work and is so excited. I think she will want to be round everyday which may be good on one hand but maybe not another 😂 I know she will just help out though and won't need entertaining.
Luckily the in laws are a 45 min drive and always plan their visits so hoping that should be ok!

Oh my I was in a really bad mood and read this and it really made me laugh the way you wrote it , I can just imagine it wasn't funny at the time at all but thank you! The thought of the big St Bernard in a small flat and the hairs I could have imagined myself going bananas if it was me . Thank you 😁

@Createcomet such sound advice, you're so right. Everyone has different stress thresholds and different parenting styles! Thanks so much for sharing xx

Hello fellow mamas to be,

Last time I checked in we were on thread 1 - love it!

Hoping for a little reassurance I guess - Am a little worried as have had some light spotting, it is just on wiping and like a light brown discharge. Has anyone else had this?

Freaking out!

@Createcomet the best advice is this! Not to take everyone's advice on parenting!
All children are different 💙

@Mrs1stTimeMama usually brown means old blood! So usually isn't a worry 💙 can always phone epu if under 13 weeks and see if they have any advice to settle your nerve? Xx

Thanks everyone for your kind words. I’ve just been freaking out about a lot of things this past week. I hadn’t quite dared think beyond the 12 week scan and NIPT results until they came, naively viewing that point as ‘Happily Ever After’ territory when all my worries would just melt away and I could get on and enjoy this pregnancy. I’ve felt quite disappointed in myself that that hasn’t happened and in how quickly I’ve moved on to a whole new set of worries (having a super preemie, the baby having a heart defect or some other serious medical problem, getting the same placenta issues my mum had with me where she was on bed rest and at risk of heavy bleeding, etc.). There’s a therapist I’ve known on-and-off for nearly 4 years now so I’ve been back in touch with her and am going to talk to her on Tuesday.

Glad to hear lots of positive news from here. xx

@Mrs1stTimeMama welcome back. I had two episodes of spotting in the first trimester, both pink and brown. None of the healthcare professionals I spoke to were ever concerned.

How many weeks are you now? I’m assuming at least 8 by which point statistics are very much in your favour.

@sally16 and @AnnieApple123 really appreciate the responses - The graph definitely works in our favour as it should be 12 weeks on Monday/we have our 12 week scan booked then. So very hopeful it eases off and disappears!

So nerve wrecking @AnnieApple123 I feel like it's just one stage of worry after the next, whilst all the while trying to stay calm - Out of one stage and into the next worry. You are not alone in this definitely.

Thank you both so much, have put my mind at rest a little. I will give the epu a buzz in the morning too

What was that names app where you can swipe names tinder style?

I think it’s just called BabyName. The icon is yellow with a white egg on it.

This site is fun too: names.darkgreener.com

Thanks @Mrs1stTimeMama . Glad it’s not just me who is like this.

Got my 20 week scan through today! 23rd March (so will be 20+6). Had my pregnancy risk assessment at work today too. It’s all feeling very real 😅
Also realised I’m getting 3 extra scans at 32,36,39 weeks for growth because I have subclincal hyperthyroidism and they’re deciding what to do with me. Found it on my notes on the mypregnancy app my hospital uses. Happy for the extra scans though!

@AnnieApple123 glad you're feeling slightly better and have sought help! Sending lots of hugs x

These stories about family have made me laugh this evening. It's my 1st time so I am sure I will have some stories to share further down the line!

@Mrs1stTimeMama I've had pink spotting, brown spotting and bleeding since I was 6 weeks. I rang gp and was referred to epau each time for a check up. If it turns red before the morning just call 111 and speak to someone

I now have yellow discharge making me think it could be a yeast infection. Anyone else had this?

@Amme18 I had my pregnancy risk ax at work on Monday and few relived that I can scale back on the manual handling side of things!! My 20 week scan got scheduled for March and 15th! So very real now 😀

I also got another appointment today in the post although I don't really know what it's for? It says with a member of team in obstetrics! Would this be a consultant app? In my booking app, my midwife said she would send a referral for consultant review just something that flagged up in my PMH, although the app isn't until MAY 🤔

@AnnieApple123 how have I missed this?? What has happened are you ok??

@sally16 yeah I was thinking the same, hopefully I’m less panicky this time and can go for a shower and just plonk the baby in a seat at the door 😂 I’ve just got to the stage now where my toddler comes in the shower with me and I’m actually able to have a proper shower, he just sits in the water, I know where he is, he’s not opening my cupboards or endangering himself for once. Going to put myself back to square one again 🙈

@BCxx my toddler comes in the shower too 😂😂😂

@Nic2908 Oh don’t worry, nothing dramatic happened. I’ve just been a bit of a basket case with anxiety so took a break from here for a few days.

@Amme18 That’s interesting as I have hypOthyroidism. The implications for pregnancy are different though and it’s the first two trimesters that are most key for me before the baby’s own thyroid has developed.

@Marmaladebear I actually just discovered that you can see the sweet and animal options on the pregnancy+ app. Where it says fruit there is a drop down arrow...apparently 14 weeks is a hamster 😂

I have my scan this morning and I’m so nervous 😭😭