August Due Date Crew - Into Trimester 2 (Thread 6)

[AnnieApple123]

As always, newbies are most welcome.

Apologies if I’ve missed out anyone who gave a date. Do shout if so. Ditto if you’d like to be added or have updates.

July
26th @MidnightSunshine12
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29th @DesertSnow,@Mulner88 & @overwork
30th
31st @AnnieApple123

August
1st @ChloeN & @SnowL2021
2nd @Amme18
3rd @PumpkinEverything, @Chl0o & @LS888
4th @BMK & @UsernameNotPresent
5th @BusyBushBaby @LBF2020 & @BoodifulGoose
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7th @CityKity
8th @Sjw30
9th @marleyandme & @buttercupbee
10th @VickiGo & @Desperatelyboredhousewife
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12th @Rose05
13th @sally16
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15th @BCxx & @nadsc
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17th @narwhal88
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19th @Firsttimemomma1 , @P1pk & @Nic2908
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30th @unluckyinlife

@BCxx id scream about your MIL she sounds so bloody annoying. I hate when people post all over Facebook when in reality they do nothing!! I dread seeing my partners family, I haven’t seen them since they know I’m pregnant and I really don’t want too🤣 She’ll be messaging everyday when we’ve got a newborn then it’ll fizzle out, but I’ll appreciate that I don’t want her her involved😂 I sound so horrible but they’re just not nice people

@BCxx aw definitely!! My mum did my washing for 3 months until covid lockdown haha!
My son was born the 21st dec and we got home the 24th.. my sister turned up Xmas day at 8am like 'when you guys coming to mums? I'll bring the stuff for bay up the now to help' then went in a huff we didn't turn up till 2... like.. you coulda offered to bath him and take him a walk while we tried to get a nap? 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

Some people's priorities are so shit!
FiL has already said he will be taking DS to nursery and picking up as long as I need and will take him on a Monday morning to give me some rest! He's amazing! 83 aswel! My mums said the same she will help with DS more than anything because that's where I'm going to need help but I feel like where ya been when I've been stressed out my mind not pregnant 😂

@BCxx that's a really difficult position for your family as she's still his Mum so he probably feels stuck between you and having to listen to complaints against her is probably hard even if they are reasonable, it's just the awkward position he's in. My OH's family are similar: odd but at least SIL does help but they're totally totally different to mine and I'd give anything to live close to my family (who can't do enough etc but are 4hours away),than his. Also there's no accounting for people and their behaviour and if you expect things you can be very disappointed so like everything you have to find your own way and not dwell on what they should have done, but it is actually harder said than done as it hurts a little or you have felt the pain and exhaustion of having no help when you needed it. Humans can be so disappointing.

But as for people commenting: I have to say before being pregnant and probably even still,when someone discusses the fact they're pregnant with me pretty much the first thing after how do you feel/howare you(a more recent question due to experience) was and is: when and do you know boy/girl, do you have a preference re boy/girl and now I also understand to ask the logistical question re managing. However before being pregnant all there seemed to ask was about the baby and as it wasn't born all there seemed to ask was when due and what was it going to be and what they wanted.

I don't think people ever really think about this and it's the first time I have, after seeing this discussion!!

Re bumps: I absolutely HATE them and the look of them and ugh I absolutely hate pregnancy for that reason as I just feel enormous. I see lots of you like them and that seems to be the vast majority in general but I really don't at all: I avoided my friends when they were pregnant largely, although I got better as I had to; but even myself: the bigger I get the more I try hide it or just cancel going places to limit exposure for others and myself!(*even though it may not bother others but I hate being so big and compromised)

@ChloeN no I completely agree. For all it’s annoying that she does nothing, I’d rather she just did nothing and stayed out my road. The newborn thing is so annoying when people are only interested when they’re a tiny baby. FIL was coming for really long visits multiple times a week then 2 months went by that he hadn’t visited from about 2-4 months old. This time I’m like I’m not putting myself through that stress and having to make people tea and make sure the house is tidy because I’m scared to say no to them. Mum and baby are the only important people in the first few weeks/months so everyone else can wait their turn or do something helpful! 😂

@BMK yeah they have never had a good relationship and he didn’t live with her growing up as she kicked him out (mainly due to her husband). I think he’s really hurt by that and she’s never really done anything to redeem herself and shows herself time and time again to be a waste of space but it’s like he still thinks he needs to run after her and help her every 2 seconds 🙈 I try to contain it most of the time though! That’s a shame your family don’t live closer, sounds like they’ll be desperate to help out.

I’ve never liked being around pregnant people and have always had a bit of a fear of being pregnant myself, I just could never understand why people could walk about pregnant and be so chilled 😂 I’ve never ever touched someone’s bump or asked to touch someone’s bump. I wasn’t even that pregnant at work, I think I was 18 weeks and a woman at my work came straight in with two hands almost like she was going to hug me but went for my belly. I really didn’t have a bump much at all until 20 weeks last time so I felt so so uncomfortable, she was just touching my belly when I’d put on a bit of weight. It’s like all social norms go out the window!

I found the same after the birth. Never would randoms in the street or family members discuss your vagina or reproductive health but when you’ve had a baby they ask all the questions about your insides 🙈 I’d quite like to just glide through pregnancy without anyone staring or commenting on my appearance 😂 I didn’t put much thought into what you say to pregnant people before it was me but I’m so careful now!

@sally16 that’s so sweet! I think that’s probably what my mum will do too. I don’t think people fully get it unless they’re in it with a newborn baby. I remember the first day my husband went back to work last time and my mum came to pick me up to go for lunch but she just pulled up outside as if I’d be ready to go. I was still pathetically hobbling about trying to get clothes on him and hadnt been able to have a shower 🙄 You just want someone (you trust and want to help) to come in and ask what they can do

@BCxx I used to have to beg my sister to come by before work to watch DS so I could shower.. it really pissed me off that I'd have to ask her constantly!

This time I'm just gonna crack on and make it work 😅

Had my scan yesterday and my due date has been moved forward to 6th August.

It's probably the worst timing in terms of my husband's work, he'll only be able to take the minimum off and will probably be a bit hectic. He want to get his mum to come up to help me as we also have a toddler but like a lot of you I don't know if I'll find it helpful or more stressful!

@BCxx its such a stress isn’t it, the thought of having them come round is already pissing me off so I’m trying to avoid thinking about it🤣🤣 I just hate people butting in and giving unwanted opinions which will probably happen especially with first baby??

@TattyTil Glad to hear your scan went well☺️ I would definitely rather struggle alone, my mil would be more of a hindrance rather than help 100%! Will he mind if you say no thanks to her help?

@BCxx omg I just got angry reading your message about the lady at work touching your bump without permission! Lockdown actually saved me from all that last time but I would honestly hit the roof if any of the people at my work touched me without permission. I feel like people don't think pregnant women's bumps are part of them anymore!? Like how weird would it be if I just randomly started rubbing a colleague's belly? I'd probably get the sack!

@TattyTil congrats on the scan! Definitely say no if you don't think she'll be any help. I plan to be so bossy this time round - basically anyone that comes round is expected to help me in some way and I may also go for a nap while they're here 😂

Btw does anyone else use the pregnancy+ app? I absolutely loved it with my first pregnancy but it's been really glitchy this time. Like I would love seeing how big the baby was compared to fruit/sweets/animals but this time it's only showing me fruit! And as much as I like fruit I'd rather see animals 😂 lol know it's not a big deal I just wondered if others were also experiencing this glitch or if there were better apps out there? (Have done all the reinstalling and restarting tricks!)

@Marmaladebear ive got it, I don’t use it loads but whenever I do it’s been fine! How annoying 🥲

@Marmaladebear yes!!! It's like it's a week behind or ahead half the time 😂 if you click on the size you can scroll to the right week though!

I know I'm going to sound mental, but I'm between 11 and 12 weeks and I'm convinced I can feel flutters. But I almost don't want to say it because I haven't even had a scan yet so realistically, anything could be happening in there!.....(the other day I even managed to convince myself that maybe I wasn't pregnant and it was all in my head 🤣 but if that's the case I need to see a doctor because I've had no period since Nov, and I feel sick 100% of the time 🤣🤣🤣🤣)

But this is my second pregnancy, and so I know what to look out for, and what I'm feeling is 100% not gas....It feels like movement.

Of course there's no way of saying one way or the other what's going on in there until I have a scan. But I'm absolutely convinced I can feel this baby moving....its kind of intriguing.

Ok @Createcomet this totally feeds into my totally random notion that you're having twins!! No lessening of sickness? It was pretty much towards end of wk 12 that I felt the improvement. I knew when I stopped gagging when brushing teeth that things were really changing! Have to say for the thepast week I feel totally back to normal and ,cannot believe the difference, thanks placenta!!! I am skinnier now than 6 weeks ago as bloat has gone, abdomen not like it would normally be,but so much better than was!!
I'm actually on my way to my scan now (at 13,5!) but not apprehensive at all,more curious!
@BCxx oh my goodness re your MIL...wow- no real redeeming features there so!!!
@AnnieApple123 hope you're OK and take some time for you and do something you have as an escape, for you and ut might make a difference!anyway don't mind me if not but getting away from the daily grind and being free to just relax, pamper or go shopping or stay in a hotel or anything just to give you a break is amazing in its positive effect!I had reflexology last week and was shopping yesterday and home on my own in my home home house last night with my parents-and both were amazing. Like saying this before having children would sound crazy,but these are now big treats!(*sorry I def went off on a tangent there!)

@BMK good luck with the scan!! Let us know how it goes.
Yeah I'm still wondering about twins...but, I can't really say the sickness is one of the reasons. I was sick right up until 16 or 17 weeks with my son, and there's definitely only one of him!

@Createcomet I’m convinced I am too. I’ve had it over the past 2 weeks. Feels like what I felt with my daughter early on but who knows!

@ChloeN don't know why it's hot working for me then 😂

@sally16 yes! It's doing that too me too!!

@Createcomet it's my second and I feel like I can feel movements already too! Like the little flutters you get at the beginning

@ChloeN no he won't mind at all if I say no, he finds her more stressful than I do! @Marmaladebear the thing is she is great most of the time but I know stuff will annoy me more. She will help but it'll be little comments that'll tip me over 😂

@TattyTil oh good at least he won’t be annoyed if you say no😂

@Createcomet I thought I could feel something too but I have an anterior placenta so probably not... Definitely feels like it though! When is your scan?

I've just been into the hospital to pick up a blood pressure machine and dip kit for home monitoring, is anyone else having to do this? I had high blood pressure and suspected preeclampsia in labour last time so need to keep an eye on it.

Interesting to read about in laws and family "helping" out...or not helping. I was really worried as I feel completely alone, as in I have my husband and he will be great, but both of our families are in a different country and only time we'll get support from them is if we fly them over 😂. This was really stressing me out as it's my first and don't know what to expect and keep thinking I won't manage. However, after reading, I'm now thinking it's not such a bad thing? Means I can get on with it without different opinions flying about and muck through on our own 😁 my sister was in the same situation as me but lived even way further away with no family and she actually thought it was good. She established her "routine" before my mum flew out to help her for a few weeks. I'm now trying to think more positively about this!!!

@Marmaladebear I have the app and find it okay...but I do find that it jumps a week ahead on the main page and have to go in the long way to get information on this particular week 😂 the fruit only comes up for me too.

@Mulner88 I have my mum close by who would be there to help but I’m going to try my best to just do it alone as much as possible! I don’t want to rely on her for help in case she can’t always be here! I’m sure you’ll be absolutely fine, sometimes I think it’s easier to just find your own way with others opinions xx

@ChloeN yeh I know what you mean and even if I did family around I probably wouldn't want them interfering too much also!

I understand where people are coming from in terms of you don't want to be entertaining people when you've a newborn unless people are actually willing to be productive and help out!

@Mulner88 we have a lot of people close by but everyone on DP side are retired and have lots of hobbies and my family all work full time shifts 😅
My FiL is 83 and is my main point of contact if I need help! He is fantastic!

You've got this without help! It's not too bad! I found getting an ad hoc nursery made life easier as it was when needed opposed to same days every week so was able to chop and change :)