June 2023 Babies ☀️ (thread four)

[firsttimelondonmummy]

Hey all,
We are getting close to full so getting another thread ready 😊

@summerpoolandsun no, that's really really helpful, thank you! I think doing the 'other stuff' is a good idea, and a way for me to get more comfortable being sexual again! I'm exactly the same, been together 12 years and it's definitely the longest we've abstained by a long mile!

Hello are there any checks/questions I should ask for my next appointment with the midwife? I haven't had any bloods/urine samples for months now.
Also, has anyone else put on a rapid amount of weight at 23/24weeks (I've been very slowly putting it on which was concerning me that baby wasn't getting big enough, hence weighing myself to ensure I was gaining enough) I've put on 5lbs in 2weeks now as I'm extra hungry and baby has been waking me up for food and my bump size has really increased. I called triage and they told me off for weighing myself and I said I was concerned about pre-eclampsia which she said they would check in my appointment but to not weigh myself. Anyone else experience similar? Or, have any questions I should ask or comments I should make? Thank you!

Off to a second hand baby sale this morning. Got my list. Hope to get a few bits off the list for a bargain.

My next midwife app isn't until the 4th of April 🙄, I'm chronic anemic and have only had my bloods taken once, also had protein in my wee at last app and haven't heard anything since, I think my midwife is rubbish tbh she's so quick to get me in and out its really quite annoying. On another note, decorated the nursery this morning, everything is finally coming together and I can relax knowing everything is now done before I get to big and tired 😊😴

Just looking for some reassurance -

Baby was really active Friday night, most active that he’s ever been. I had eaten a chocolate cake after dinner, so putting it down to that. I said to my partner I think he’s moving to another place because that’s what it felt like. He was on my left at this point.

Yesterday morning I didn’t feel him (I normally do, but very light and not many movements). I don’t think I felt him throughout the day. In the evening I think I felt a few very light, very low down movements in the middle of my belly, it felt like he was right at the top of my pubic bone, but can’t be sure because I keep doubting myself.

This morning again, I think I felt some light movement but keep doubting myself. I then downed a glass of orange juice, had a shower and then sat on the sofa and drank some ice cold water. I’m sure I felt him, and I’m sure I even saw two kicks on the outside (I felt so relieved!), but then afterwards because they weren’t very strong I doubted that I’d even felt them. I got the Doppler out and put it low down where I thought he was and heard his heartbeat straight away, so I’m a bit more confident that it was kicks I felt (not using Doppler as a sign all is okay though).

We decided not to ring triage as surely I did feel him and he’s maybe just having a quieter day? If I don’t feel him this evening then I will ring them.

Have I done the wrong thing? I know my anxiety is playing tricks on me and making me doubt things, even his movements 😣 I’m 23+3. Sorry for this ridiculously long message 🙈

@Dewintergarden i put on 4.5 lbs in roughly two weeks - week 20-22. Haven't gained anything this week and it's stayed the same so hopefully it's balancing out as my diet hasn't changed. I weigh every Friday just to keep an eye on rapid weight gain. I would think that a couple of lbs should be okay every once in a while as long as not accompanied by swelling/fluid retention

@justbelieve I'm 23+1 and I've spent alot of time googling this as my little guy does the same. Earlier this week he wouldn't stop moving but for the last few days he's gone alot quieter and I've only felt him twice so far today. He's done this a few times before now, having a few mad days before a few quiet ones again. All I've found out is that it's normal at this stage for them to have quiet days and to start counting kicks from about 28 days. However everything on the NHS website says if you have a drop in kicks to phone the midwife without mentioning what weeks, which I havnt done yet as I'm still feeling him and never sure what's normal or not.

@justbelieve I had a similar situation last week where baby was not following their usual routine.
I ended up calling midwife and visiting triage (as midwife was fully booked) who suggested to call in whenever I feel anything out of ordinary.

So please do call triage later if you still are not confident on the baby's movements.

I second calling triage if you have any worries about baby's movements. My midwife told me on Friday that my movements now at 25 weeks should carry on the same pattern everyday and if I have any change I'm worried about to call straight away to get checked.

@Hlc86 That's rubbish of your midwife. My midwife said my urine is clear but if she starts seeing even the slightest protein sign then she will be sending it off for analyse due to my high risk preeclampsia. I have to now have tests every 3 weeks to keep checking it. Ask if your midwife can send your urine off to analyse it. Mine said they'll be able to then track if it's a sign of oncoming preeclampsia.

Thank you @toomanysausages that is reassuring. I've put nothing on this week, so I'm going to try and calm down and just wait until I see the other midwife when I see her on 9th.

I do find it really difficult with movements. I have regularly had 1 or 2 days of slightly less frequent kicks for as long as I have felt movement. It feels as though baby gets himself into a different position on those days, as I can still feel him shifting about, just not frequent kicks per se. Then he’ll turn and by the evening, it’s back to normal. Or I will be busy and not notice anything until the evening. The midwife and consultant both told me that there isn’t usually a pattern until 28 weeks (I’m now 26+1) but to come in if ever worried. Trouble is, that would have been at least once a week since 17 weeks!! I feel as though I’m balancing between not letting anxious thoughts skew my perception and having a sufficient degree of caution that ensures I definitely now do go in if worried… 🤯

@justbelieve how are things now?

@justbelieve at my 25 week midwife app the other day she just said as long as I'm feeling him a few times a day that's normal & to start noting down when I do feel him so I can record what the pattern is. Only trouble is my boy doesn't seem to have a pattern yet 🤷‍♀️ he has busy days and quiet days! Weird how different midwives tell us different things.

Agree with what the others have said though if you're worried at all better to err on the side of caution and ring triage xx

Thanks everyone. I felt and saw about 2/3 kicks at around 3:30pm so that made me feel better.

That said, I’m going to monitor how active he is over the next 2 hours (he’s normally most active at night), and if I don’t feel him then I’ll ring triage because I’m still not 100% relaxed about it xx

@justbelieve just wanting to check in on you, everything okay now? It's so reassuring to feel the little ones move and so stressful when they get a bit quiet x

I think mine have moved positions. Still stressing over twin B movement. Got a growth scan tomorrow.
I think I'd need scanning daily to be anxiety free.

Also, anyone struggling to sleep because their body feels wrong? I don't know how to describe it, like something is making my skin crawl? I feel weird all over but only when I'm trying to sleep.

@Happinessandrainbows thanks for checking in. I didn’t feel anything and felt quite disheartened until I laid down in bed and then counted and saw 14 kicks within about 20 minutes, so I decided not to ring triage. Will continue to monitor 🥰

@justbelieve I find that lying down always makes them move a lot. Glad everything is good now ❤️

Has anyone flown 28weeks pregnant and not got a fit to fly. I'm going to be 28 weeks just as I fly and tui have asked for a fit to fly, and both GP and midwife have said sorry we don't do fit to fly notes anymore. I did so much research before I booked and I had never read that they won't do them. Should have asked them before I booked. My pregnancy is low risk and no issues. Now I'm concerned because I can't actually get a fit to fly!

I have asked if gp will do it privately and they won't. only tui are asking for it, I'm clear in terms of insurance purposes as you don't even have to declare you're pregnant.

Omg I'm so fricking hungry all the time !!!! Really trying to restrain myself from eating crap because I don't want to put unnecessary weight on but its so hard!!!

Trying to avoid stretch marks too but I think that's meant to be generic isn't it so I guess I'll get them if I get them but gorging on food probably won't help 🤣

Also anyone else had bad heartburn lately? I keep waking up with my throat burning like crazy!!🔥

OK so advice needed please ladies, there I was at work about 2 hours in and suddenly my vision started to get really blurred, almost like I had been looking at lights and all I could see is and still is flashes, I've had migraines before and I usually get the auras in my vision but this seems differant, I've got a light dull headache but nothing like the migraines I get so don't know if it's liked or not? This has taken me 20 mins to type cause I can't see my keypad, should I call my midwife or should I not bother? I hate to be thought of one of those that call all the time and knowing me I will just brush it under the carpet, but I dunno I just feel really off (hope that all makes sense I can't see what I've wrote properly 😂)

@Hlc86 its worth getting checked out. Its probably not, but it can be a symptom of pre-eclampsia x

@Hlc86 I agree with @Kladebs you should definitely get checked out as it could be pre-eclampsia. Best of luck to you, hope all is ok.

@Hlc86 yes, I'd get it checked out x