August Due Date Crew (Thread 5)

[AnnieApple123]

We look like we’re heading towards breaking some records with threads here!

Newbies still most welcome to join in as always.

@BoodifulGoose that’s so sad, I think any happy occasion brings out these feelings. I even just randomly stop some days now and think how much my gran would have loved to see my little boy. My other gran is still alive but my papa died not long before he was born. My gran lights up when she sees him but you just feel something is missing as you don’t get to see how they’d react to them 😢 It’s so sad. Sorry you’re struggling. Just think how delighted she will be for you x

@AnnieApple123 my hv said the same because he had reflux. We gave in at 4 months due to being desperate and the only difference was it was slimy purée food he was throwing up instead of milk so stopped 🤣 my gp is honestly like my guardian angel! She called me to say my old gp had moved and left a list of patients she wanted covered directly and asked if she could take over 😭

Oh @BoodifulGoose 🥺 I can kinda relate, DP gets so emotional all the time that his mum isn't here to enjoy DS and new baby news!
It's a horrendous grief to bear :(
I told him to look out for white feathers and there was one on our windshield when we took DS home from the hospital and that made him so happy to think it was related to her in any way xx

@BoodifulGoose big hug, lovely. I lost my gran who brought me up right around the time when I got pregnant with this baby. I understand. For me, I keep telling myself that she is seeing all this, from 'up above', and she knows, and is there for me. It brings some comfort.

@sally16 My GP was just plain out of date. When I pointed out that the guidelines recommended waiting until six months for years now, he quickly back-tracked and said to check with the health visitor.

@BoodifulGoose Much love to you. You’d think I’d be elated after yesterday’s scan but actually I was disappointed by how quickly that wore off. Not comparable I know but for me I’ve been feeling sad about how, for certain friends, this is likely to cause more of a rift between us. Lots of my oldest friends don’t have children for a variety of reasons and they’re probably going to write me off completely once I have two and not bother anymore. They assume I’ve made loads of new friends through baby groups and that my opportunities to meet others now are endless, yet this doesn’t really feel like the case. xx

So lovely to see such positive scans ❤️

@BCxx @sally16 @UsernameNotPresent @AnnieApple123 thank you for the messages I'm sorry if I brought it down at all just so hard sometimes :( very appreciate the support though 💙

@BoodifulGoose sorry you are missing your gran. Grief is so hard. We lost my nana last February. With the date soon approaching it is a hard time especially with pregnancy hormones. I would have loved to tell her and know she would be so so happy for us. I’m actually due the day before her birthday and the baby I lost was due on the day she passed away. So I think of that as a sign that she knows. Take care of yourself. Sometimes grief hits you at the strangest of times xx

@BoodifulGoose totally relate ❤️ It all feels very bittersweet honestly. My mum lived for her kids and grandkids, and I am so sad for her that she’s missing out and for my son who at 3 likely won’t remember her, and my future baby who
will never know her. I’m expecting big emotions throughout this pregnancy and afterwards, we only lost her in October and she was only 53 so it’s just so unjust. Same as @sally16 said I try and find comfort in “signs” and just hope she’s watching.
I’ve still got my nana (my mums mum) and I am thankful every day for her ❤️

I'm so sorry for those who have lost love ones. It is such an emotional time anyway and must be so hard ❤️

@BoodifulGoose I’m so sorry to hear how you’re feeling, it’s really hard when loved ones aren’t around to share your joy.

My gran is currently in a hospice for end of life care for cancer and it’s absolutely heartbreaking because she too would have been so thrilled and it’s so upsetting to know she won’t be here.

We’re all here to support each other though and as sad as it is, your little bundle of joy will still know about her and her wonderful memory through you ❤️

Oh @Amme18 that is so young. ❤️

I ended up having a really nice exchange yesterday with the lady whose name I’m considering using. I was worried I’d offended her as she took a week to reply, yet it seems she’s only on that particular email on a Monday.

She says, ‘Wow, that’s quite a compliment thank you! I would say that I do like my name now. As a child I found it awkward as people often got it wrong... <well-known person with the name> becoming famous helped to get the name on people's radar, and I think that helped!! People do often say that they like my name when I meet them for the first time.’ I’m convinced it’s a boy now though.

Ah @AnnieApple123 im so glad she got back to you!! I always end up feeling so anxious in situations like that, where you just want to take your words right back.
Do you have boys names ready?

@Amme18 we did have a boy name agreed but I’m having doubts now! Need to review the list again I think.

This is a great site for anyone interested in names by the way: names.darkgreener.com

Talking of lists, here’s the list for the top of the new thread which I’m thinking we’re only a day or two away from now.

Do shout if I’ve missed anyone or any updates. @Mumtobabyhavoc I’ve moved you up to the 24th so you weren’t all on your own at the end (I know there’s also a late August/early September thread so the later dates have likely gone for that). Hope this is OK.

@sally16 and @Createcomet I’m just tagging you as two frequent posters who aren’t included yet. Apologies if I’ve missed either of you.

When I post the real thread, I’ll try to make it so everyone is tagged so that you can find it easily.

July
26th @MidnightSunshine12
27th
28th
29th @DesertSnow, @Mulner88 & @overwork
30th
31st @AnnieApple

August
1st @ChloeN
2nd @Amme18
3rd @PumpkinEverything & @LS888
4th @BMK & @UsernameNotPresent
5th @BusyBushBaby & @BoodifulGoose
6th
7th @CityKity
8th @Swj30
9th @marleyandme
10th @VickiGo & @Desperatekyboredhousewife
11th
12th
13th
14th
15th @BCxx & @nadsc
16th
17th @narwhal88
18th
19th @Firsttimemomma1, @P1pk & @Nic2908
20th
21st
22nd
23rd
24th @Mumtobabyhavoc

Ahh isn’t it exciting 😍

Sorry I’ve been MIA! Just had my daughters birthday, hosted a party for her and 15 friends.
Tested positive for Covid yesterday 🙄 feel rubbish - heavy head cold and lethargic. Only plus point is a week off work! My EDD is 12th August, 12 week scan next Wednesday.

@AnnieApple123 I've been moved a day lol.. so 13th august for me 🥰

I really need to get a grip.. I'm sitting in a state about wether to go to work tomorrow night or not.. I feel like I've failed the first hurdle before even 12 weeks in pain when there are others working till 35 weeks with there own health issues..
they are so judgmental it's gonna be so embarrassing..
I think I'm just going to go in.. see how I get on and if it's too much get a line Thursday 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Poor you @Rose05 ! Hope it passes soon.

I understand @sally16 . I think I’d feel the same and fear their judgement. Sounds like a wise plan to try going in tomorrow.

@sally16 my friend is 35 weeks and has had SPD symptoms since 11 weeks. I think if you are in pain and have a job where it will make it worse then there is nothing to be ashamed of and your work should be supporting you. Can they not put you on light duties where you can sit down? And if they can't then that is unfortunate but you need to look after yourself first and they will just have to deal with it.
I am a band 8 in the NHS and would 100% be supporting my staff if they were in your situation.

@Narwhal88 I'm on wards so isn't much opportunity to sit :( my band 6,7+8 would be fine! They would be supportive! (I'm just a bit scared of my 8 haha) but it's the rest of the staff just being so judgmental, I was accused of not pulling my weight already. I felt like screaming I can barley pull my body weight right now.. it's just so stupid because no one would probably bat and eyelid but youll know what it's like sometimes with teams full of women 😅

DS isn't helping my brain today, we've already fallen out and he's now cuddled in giving me the eyes knowing he's gotten away with everything 😂😅

@sally16 it's so wrong isn't it. Women should be supporting women. Once they know you are pregnant I hope they feel bad! Do what you said then and try tomorrow night and if it's too much get signed off.

@Narwhal88 the team I'm on with tomorrow are all so lovely! They all know so they are constantly looking out for me it's just the odd person tbh.. rarity if anything but im just in a state so I think I'm getting myself overly anxious about it all 🤦🏼‍♀️