August Due Date Crew (Thread 5)

[AnnieApple123]

We look like we’re heading towards breaking some records with threads here!

Newbies still most welcome to join in as always.

@BCxx I go down the girls isles looking for bits for my friends children and I just think omg how cute!!! And it's so much cheaper to dress them nice! I'm still searching for decent joggers for DS! They just go all horrible in the wash or come in packs with black ones or patterns.. i just want joggers.. plain joggers 😂

@DesertSnow i think you sometimes have a stronger feeling with your first, you can just picture what it will be. I haven’t ever really seen beyond that so have no clue what another one would be. The only thing making me consider it could be a girl is the fact I don’t have a single name I could call a boy. Literally no idea who it would be! So I’m like do I think that because it’s not a boy? 🤷🏼‍♀️ The nub thing is so hard to judge when people give you answers. To be fair on the Facebook group I posted on most people did guess boy last time. I looked up my old email last night and the place I paid to get one from has shut down. Will attach the picture though so you can compare!

@sally16 the lack of plain stuff for boys is honestly criminal! Everything has to be highly patterned and covered in dinosaurs. I spend so long hunting for stuff that is a bit more plain or neutral

@BCxx yeah DS was 2 and a half. He loved it, but it was just the same hard work as at home but with no housework and sunshine 😁 Although my partner did do a lot of the playing in the pool with him so can’t complain too much 😅

I’m honestly happy either way, would love to experience a girl but also two boys would be lovely too. I do love being a boy mum!

I’ve been emailing with the treasurer of DS’s music classes. I’ve not met her in person as she works remotely. Her name is my favourite girl name and is fairly unusual. So I asked her: ‘By the way, I’m expecting another baby this summer and am considering ___ for a girl. Would you recommend it?’ She clearly thinks I’m bonkers as she’s completely ignored this! Either that I suppose or she can’t stand the name and doesn’t want to say so.

@Amme18 i think for them growing up another boy would be lovely and after they’re out of the baby stage their friendship would be so lovely. The matching clothes etc too would be cute 😂 the girl thing would be more for me than it would him and I don’t think my husband would be fussed, I think he did want a boy when DS was born so he’s got that! I just wish I knew either way!

@BCxx my other half really wants a girl, really wanted a boy last time. But our boy is a total mummy’s boy and he thinks a girl will be a daddy’s girls 🙄 My boy will be 4 though when baby is born so not that close in age, so don’t think it will actually matter all that much in terms of play friends if it’s a boy or a girl!

Im also swaying girl because I have no boy names though 🙄 and have a girl name picked out I love.

@AnnieApple123 that's made me giggle 🤣 poor woman's sitting reading her emails after maybe being tortured all the way through school of her name and you've given her the fear 😅😂

I’d thought it might make a pleasant diversion to her day from chasing parents for music lesson fees at the start of term. Definitely didn’t think it could offend her but perhaps it did.

@Amme18 theres a big gap between my sister and I and we weren’t that close when really young but by teenage years we’ve been really good friends so itl still be a friend for him either way.

It’s such a strange thing when it’s a 50/50 chance and I don’t mind saying on here I’d quite like a girl although I think boy but I would never say it to anyone in real life. I hate other people making comments about either so I’m tempted to try and not tell anyone I’m pregnant until 16 weeks so I know for sure and don’t need to listen to the ‘oh I hope it’s a girl’ etc. I don’t know if you’d get the same comments if you had a girl already and were having a second although my friend had two girls and said she was really fed up of people coming round when #2 was born and asking her husband if he wanted a boy now then laughing. It’s such a sensitive thing and it’s made into a joke but chances are the husband would actually quite like a boy now, so why are people pointing it out and making people feel bad about it? 🙈

@BCxx yeah and just comes across like the baby you’ve had isn’t the “right” one! Having a preference doesn’t mean you don’t love the baby you have. We all would prefer our children are born healthy, if they’re not they’ve not disappointed you…and nobody would ever say “aw, do you wish you’d had a healthy one instead” 🙃 People are rude and just don’t even realise it, and we’re too British to tell them 🤣

@BCxx Agreed, those comments get really irritating.

@AnnieApple123 totally! Something about pregnancy just brings these comments out in people

@Amme18 yeah of course, and for me the same as last time, I want to process what I have at the 16/20 week mark and be able to buy for them, expect that’s who will be arriving, have a name ready etc, that’s just the type of person I am. Some people would rather get a surprise but for me I feel like there’s already too much happening at the end to also find that out 😂 I almost forgot you got two sexes when he was born, I was just so delighted he was out and he was okay!

Hey guys,

Long time lurker (been reading since thread 1 lol) but first time posting.

Just wondering if anyone has any experience flying in the first trimester?

I've been asked (with very little notice) to go on a short flight on Thursday for work (it's only an hour each way) when I will be 12+1 according to my LMP. I haven't had my 12 week scan yet it's on Monday but just soo worried after having an early loss in June.

Everything I've read in line says it should be fine but just looking for some reassurance tbh!

Is anyone else finding that, although they’re starting to get signs of a bump, they haven’t gained significantly on the scales? I thought I must surely be at least 5kg heavier by now but no. I’m still just at the top of my normal range.

Welcome @Chl0o . I’ve never heard about issues with short flights at this stage. And an hour really is very short.

@AnnieApple123 I just feel SO bloated!! It’s like a 6 month bump I swear 🤣 But scales also haven’t changed here, but know it can’t be baby bump as it’s all the way up to under my boobs not just a lower belly swelling. I’ve not been able to fasten my work trousers 🤦🏻‍♀️ But don’t want to ask for maternity trousers yet!

@BCxx thanks for sharing your pic from last time. I think looking at mine you can't really see a nub so will just have to wait and see ☺️

Even though it's my first there's some pressure re. gender as my DH and his family would all like a boy. My MIL said she was saying prayers for a baby with blue eyes 🙄 so no pressure there either.

Welcome @Chl0o and sorry about your previous loss. I think an hour would be fine, but do check with doctor/midwife if you're worried.

@AnnieApple123 I am definitely with you on the bloat front! Usually it’s worse in the evening, but I woke up today so bloated. I feel really uncomfortable and my trousers are definitely digging in. Any anti-bloat tips? I haven’t put any weight on, if anything lost weight. I’m putting in down to constipation (lovely!) as I’m definitely not as regular as usual. I bought in lots of dried prunes yesterday to try and get things moving so fingers crossed!

@Chl0o I've flown between the UK and Ireland 3 times (round trips, so 6 short flights in total) since finding out in November and no problems! I think it's completely safe! I fly back to see family a lot and have more trips booked in the coming months so I wouldn't worry at all

@Chl0o welcome 🥰 I think it's only late pregnancy they aren't keen on flights for labour, blood clots etc! So I wouldnt worry about early :) I flew at 15 weeks to Ireland last time and 27 weeks (I think) to Tunisia and both were fine :) xx

@Createcomet defo with you on the tired front. I thought it was just me but I'm napping once or twice and have such a low mood. I can't be asked to do anything around the house and feel so guilty because I'm not usually like this at all! I hope I get some energy back in the next few weeks

@AnnieApple123 I am very very bloated atm, I also thought I must have put weight on but at my first midwife appt last week I was the same. I've noticed at night I'm getting acidity a lot and so my tummy is the worst then

I'm such a crappy mum these days.. my beds covered in DS toys as I'm trying to make him play nicely without my attention as I try not to be sick all over the place 😭 I need a shower and to clean up but I'm just not doing it today.. I refuse 😅

@DesertSnow i went back to find yours and thought the same, but I don’t have a clue what I’m looking for and my own scan picture without all of that drawn on it wasn’t obvious at all either so it’s so hard to say.
Omg no way 😂 What is it with people just opening their mouths and saying whatever comes to mind when someone is pregnant? Just keep those thoughts in your head 🤣 My mum and dad are the only ones that know and I can totally feel that my mum wants it to be a girl. She keeps asking if I’d buy pink etc or what sort of girls clothes I’d go for. I’m like I’m more focused on getting through the early scans at this point and checking it’s okay first 🤦🏼‍♀️ I think when it’s not going on inside them it’s easy for them to have these airy fairy thoughts

@sally16 that sounds very familiar. I actually had a good day yesterday at 12 weeks exactly and dared to think, ‘Hurrah, perhaps things are going to change now!’ Yet today at 12+1 I woke up exhausted and sick again so Fireman Sam is back on. I’ve managed to wash sheets though. This is feeling like an enormous achievement.

To everybody with bloat - yes it seems this is me too!