Due March 2023 - Thread 6

[TeddyBeans]

The one where we might start meeting babies!?

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@Babynum2 does it have a bassinet for under 6 months?

@JB2021 very organised! I'm not sure yet if I will return full time to work or part time, or go down to 4 days... is it possible to book a nursery but then amend the days later on?

@havanamama we openly asked the nursery this. We booked 5 days as easier to reduce days than to add days on..they need a month's notice but I'll likely know October November time what I'm doing as have to submit to work then anyway.

I'm glad we've sorted it as means it's done and weight off our mind. We only really wanted the one nursery, just viewed another so we said we had. The one we have is an 8 minute walk from home!

@JB2021 that's great!

Thank you for sharing, I'll have look too and inquire about our options. Would be good to know the costs as well ahead of time

With DC1 we looked at nurseries 6 months in advance, but I think it was a low birth rate that year. We just had to give 6 weeks' notice to change number of days.

Have heard some horror stories at the moment about shortage of places. Keep meaning to put this baby's name down officially, but they know he's coming!

Same situation as me

Just wanted to jump in on the induction chat to say that you are 'allowed' to decline and go over 40 weeks if you are comfortable with the risks and make it clear that you understand them. The policy provides the recommendation, but risk is relative and some people are more comfortable with risks than others.

There's a nice BRAIN acronym I've seen for birth/labour decisions - benefits, risks, alternatives, intuition, nothing. When a procedure, intervention etc is proposed you can find out the benefits/risks/alternatives, consider how you feel, and sometimes 'nothing for now' feels like the best choice and you just reassess when something changes.

Make sure you know the absolute risks, not relative - e.g. the risk of stillbirth doubles after 41 weeks or something like that. It goes from around 3 in 1000 at 40 weeks, to 6 in 1000 at 41 weeks. The 'doubling' sounds frightening but 6 in 1000 might actually sit well with you compared to interventions. We're all different!

I work in a nursery and haven’t registered him yet. I’ve got the forms so I can if I want to and can check how many are registered around the time I might think about taking him although won’t know about any that start while I’m off. They do already have a fair few booked in but I just can’t decide on it yet!

The fees increased in January and are increasing again in July - just seen what they expect to increase to. They could possibly again in 2024 but by that point I absolutely couldn’t afford for him to go there and that is with a discount! I would pretty much be working to pay myself by the time tax, NI & pension comes out (I know we technically all do already but as I work there I’ll feel like I am putting him in nursery and paying myself to be there but won’t necessarily see him myself until end of the long day!)

I’m hoping my mum will have him one or two days a week to begin with and a childminder, at least until I can decide whether nursery will be possible or not. Just got to figure out what hours I can work with timings! Crazy that you’ve got to think about all this before baby’s even born!!

Those are terrifying statistics, so frequent!!

Is it possible to opt for an elective section at 40 weeks if baby is still in?

If anyone else got totally shocked by the statistics, it's actually only 0.11 per 1000 at 37 weeks.

Sorry didn't mean for those stats to frighten anyone @havanamama, maybe should've used a less extreme example - I heard it used by a midwife on a podcast. I've double checked and they are actually 3 in 3000 at 40 weeks up to 6 in 3000 at 42 weeks according to nhs. No idea why they quoted in 3000 instead of 1000. But quite rare - 0.1%. You're much more likely to be in a car crash... not sure if I'm helping 😅

Point being everything carries a risk and not only are the risks of each option different for different people depending on circumstance, we also perceive risk differently.

Why does the risk of stillbirth increase so much over 40 weeks?

@Blocklynn the placenta stops functioning - although anything between 37-42 weeks is considered full term so it's not like you have to panic the day you hit 40 weeks xx

I'm a Hella positive person so those seem like really good odds to me 😬

Anyone else expecting a baby boy finding the clothes to be… well, horrible?! With girls there are so many lovely things to choose from, for boys it’s all blue/grey/khaki 😭 just bought a couple of knitted cardigans from Etsy in nice pastel colours because I can’t bear seeing any more dull colours!

@Cuppasoupmonster I found this with DS ☹️ the clothes are so drab for little boys! I bought a lot of stuff from miniclub in the early days (from boots) because it was more colourful. Not sure if they do miniclub anymore or whether they just sell Mothercare clothes now. Might be worth a look

I’ve bought a couple of things from the Mothercare line at Boots but the choice is so much more limited than when the shops were open! I’m resigned to a series of drab baby grows with colourful cardis over the top 😂

Haha 3 in 3000 is a bit better! I was looking at the 3 in 1000 and thinking that's 1 of every 333!!!

The placenta can stop working/have complications after 40 weeks (this is very close to home situation for me) I understand why people choose to not get induction though.

They seem to need to be obsessed with dinosaurs! Have managed to find some cute bits but it's all very blue.

Found my first stretch marks 😭 as if our bodies don't go through enough

@ChristmasJumpers I thought I'd got lucky with just a couple with DS...it wasn't until after I'd given birth that the true extent revealed itself...they were everywhere

I've heard they are far worse post birth! Which seems ridiculously unfair!

@alotoftutus thanks. I’d looked on the NHS website but that just seemed to be about things you might do while pregnant that could be a contributing factor. But nothing about why it might happen to a healthy baby/mother.

@Perexi I have one on each hip crease that is literally a crevasse in my skin. They've silvered now but my god they were horrendous to look at for years! I'm hoping DS stretched me out enough that DD won't make too many new ones but I think it's a bit of a pipe dream 😂

I've got stretch marks in the same places I got them as a teenager, just longer lines now.
They faded practically invisible back then, so now hoping in my late twenties they will do the same, but if not, I'll wear them with pride of what the body can achieve. :)