August Due Date Crew (Thread 4)

[AnnieApple123]

Here’s a new thread for the upcoming new year.

I think we’ve got all due dates covered now but newbies are still of course most welcome. We’re a friendly, chatty bunch so do feel free to join in.

@AnnieApple123 totally agree @Createcomet i remember going to work and no one knew I was pregnant then at 12 weeks I told them and the next day I came into the staff room and someone said ‘ohhhh I can see that bump!’ and I was thinking this is my normal belly and you wouldn’t comment on it any other day of the week yet here you are, highlighting it to the whole room because you have an excuse 😂 I didn’t realise I’d feel as self conscious about that stuff last time.

I have a picture from 23 weeks in gym leggings and it’s just a small tummy I have, no bigger than if I’d be really bloated normally. A few weeks later though I looked full on pregnant so I think around the 23 week mark I just went massive. This time I’m hoping not to tell anyone until 16 weeks (because I can’t be bothered with the ‘oh I hope it’s a girl’ comments when I already have a boy, would rather just know everything then be able to tell people) but I can already see more of a belly than I had at this point last time!

Thanks @Createcomet and @BCxx . We’re at my parents’ today and I just asked my mum what she thinks. She agrees that I am starting to show a little ‘but only if you’re looking for it.’

@AnnieApple123 my clothes got too tight about 17 weeks so I ordered my maternity uniforms.. at 27 weeks I fully pooped though and was growing at a ridiculous rate 😂

Dorothy Perkins are the best for jeans though if anyones been looking.

@sally16 Thanks that’s good to know as I’m going to need some proper maternity clothes this time I think. Last time I was pregnant in lockdown and so got away with just living in a few old massive T-shirts day and night.

As I’ll be 11 weeks tomorrow, it seemed reasonable to tell my brother today. Now of course I’m worried this was a bad move and I’ve jinxed it.

Hey all, I'm due 15th August so currently 8+5, I'm really struggling with symptoms that's impacting on my mental health - anyone feeling similar?

@AnnieApple123 how did it go telling him? I don’t know if it’s just me but I find it so awkward the thought of telling people in real life, I hate the thought of people hugging me🤣

@ChloeN 🤣🤣🤣 it’s definately not like you see on bloody tik tok is what i’d say! My sister (who is 10 years younger than me so 20) was like eemmm congratulations? Is that the right thing to say? We aren’t huggers either so none of that! My fave has been telling my friends rather than my family tbh!xx

@tropicalplaydoh very much so! I've had to stop my sleeping medicine and I've struggled every since :( fearing I'll end up signed off work again if I start to lose the plot 🤦🏼‍♀️

Sorry your MH is being impacted! Have you been in touch with the perinatal MH team? Xx

I told someone at work on Tuesday night.. Not because we are close but because she loves a list of things to be done for everyone 🫠😅
And I knew there was certain things I wasn't comfortable with..
i went in last night and everyone on shift knew.. I'm so annoyed! I mean I was going to tell some of them last night anyway but it really annoyed me. she knows how far along I am and that it's early too so I've no idea why she felt the need to blab!

@LMM91x one of my friends said 'oh shit! Wait were like 30 now.. this is ok yeh?' 😂 I was like yeh it's a good thing 🤣🤣🤣

@sally16 oh no! I'm sorry to hear that. It's so tricky isn't it! I have the same fear about being signed off work but also, I'm struggling to go in so it's difficult. No, I haven't yet, I know it's just down to struggling with the symptoms at the moment so I'm trying to get them under control, not much luck though lol! X

@sally16 yes exactly that!!! Like OH THIS IS A GOOD THING!! 🤣

omg how annoying about work - some people are unbelievable aren’t they, pregnancy isn’t gossip to be shared ffs. I’ve told one girl at work who I am close with as I had spoken to her about TTC before and ALSO i needed an ally at the christmas parties for booze avoidance!

@tropicalplaydoh it's maybe worth speaking to them! They aren't all about typical pregnancy anxiety! They deal with all MH during pregnancy :)
I'm hoping to be referred to them this week.. last time I had insomnia I had a bit of a MB and I'm so nervous this time.. keeping on nights aslong as I can to try and hide 😅 xx

@LMM91x she is the sweetest person and I don't think she's done it out off gossip but maybe because we had a ttc journey so maybe was jsut excited?
But either way I was like oh fuck off whyyyyy!!!!
There's someone I'm super close with at work who's struggling with fertility and failed ivf etc and I'm really hoping she hasn't been told as I wanted to tell her myself out of work :(

@LMM91x I defo would not film anyone’s reactions🤣🤣 have you told most people close to you?xx

@sally16 thats so tough with your friend, it’s always such a horrible feeling to hear people are pregnant especially when you don’t get to tell them yourself☹️

@sally16 ohhh !! Still frustrating isn’t it! it’s so difficult isn’t it. I am absolutely DREADING being in the office tomorrow. I hace a meeting 10-12 which is my prime time for feeling sick if i’m going to and most certainly I’m gonna think myself into being nauseous even if im not! Just cos i can’t be sick it always makes you feel worse doesn’t it!! The last two days I have had an awful headache in the evenings too- trying to up my water but its so sore. I suffer with headaches anyway and was suprised I had got away with very little up until now :(. Just wanna put a cold flannel on my head and go to bed! (After i’ve stuffed mt face for the 618119 time today….)

@ChloeN I really don’t have that many friends🤣 so I’ve told my close girl friends - bar one who had a miscarriage a few months ago at 11 weeks so I’m going to wait until after 12 week scan to tell her as wouldn’t want her to have to relive any trauma. I haven’t told my dad either - he lives up North quite far away and I am waiting til after 12 weeks for him too - will probably end up being closer to 20 weeks with him by the time I see him - he would be absolutely useless if something were to happen compfrting wise etc so i’ce only told people i’d want support from. Which is a really negative way to look at it but that’s where i’m at. You’re waiting aren’t you?? Still feeling that way after your scan?xxx

Welcome @tropicalplaydoh and sorry to hear you’re struggling so. I was wondering too whether perinatal health might be able to help you. I love your username by the way. I have a Pinterest board somewhere of play dough recipes including all sort of funky themed ones with different scents. I’m definitely not up to making anything like that at the moment though!

@ChloeN My brother seemed totally surprised. Said, ‘What really?’ Then, ‘Are you sure you’re ready to go through it all again?’ DS is now closer to 3 than 2 so it’s certainly not a tiny gap and you might think an announcement wouldn’t come out of the blue round about now. But apparently for him it did. He got married last summer and I was quite hoping there might be a cousin coming in the not so distant future but it’s not seeming like that’s on the cards just yet.

@sally16 That’s totally out of order if your colleague. Especially given that you’re not 12 weeks yet. I’d be fuming.

@ChloeN Yes we found it super awkward trying to figure out what to say 🤣 we’ve only told immediate family and I’ve told 2 close friends, but definitely found it easier telling friends some how. Even though our parents have been waiting for that moment for years!

@LMM91x me either lol🤣 I wouldn’t tell any of
them yet tho none are ttc and honestly don’t get it most still live with their parents so just no point! Are you telling all of them in person? I’d probably tell the mc friend over text do you think? Yep still waiting so just my mum and dad who know, probably till around 17/18 weeks xx

@sally16 Ah that’s so frustrating, especially at the stage you are only telling people for your own safety. One thing that puts me off telling people at work, but I’m in a similar situation to you where sometimes it’s going to come up to keep me safe! That’s tough about your friend 😞

@AnnieApple123 oh not a tiny gap at all, I’m surprised that he was surprised! Would they be open about their ttc journey if they were?

@sally16 isn’t it weird🤣 I just can’t imagine the words coming out my mouth I don’t know why

@LMM91x I'm the same I only told people who I would want support from or if I knew I wouldn't get away with not reaching for the shots over Christmas/NYE with 😂

@ChloeN hmmmm yeah i’ve not really thought about it. She had the mc when we were both discussing TTC and she said please don’t feel like you can’t tell me etc so I feel bad i’ve not told her already when all my other close friends know but I just want to be past that 12 week mark… it’s hard. I know the general consensus is over text to let then process , it’s hard to know what’s right, I have a few more weeks to think about it!

ah I’m at the age where I reckon everyoneeeee who wants kids is getting into trying mode or already doing so so I need to tread careful, but i have a ‘friend’ who knew of my situation re trying and id got a little upset afte r afew wines a month or so before and then she fell pregnant and literally told me over the dinner table with a large group of people… was really really odd actually and I was totally suprised she would do it like that! Luckily my bf had already said a week before he thought she was cos of something her bf had said so I was half prepared!

god such a minefield this ttc / pregnancy / having a bloomin baby malarky!

@MinnieFirstTimeMum hahaha omg I know, i’m such an obvious non drinker too as I’m always up for a wine or 7!