August Due Date Crew (Thread 4)

[AnnieApple123]

Here’s a new thread for the upcoming new year.

I think we’ve got all due dates covered now but newbies are still of course most welcome. We’re a friendly, chatty bunch so do feel free to join in.

Ah thank you for replying @AnnieApple123, I've been feeling so alone and miserable with it. Keep trying to have a word with myself - having a child is what I've longed for for so long and now I'm finally, happily, pregnant, but I can't enjoy any of it at all because I just feel dire. Fingers crossed we both feel better soon.

@DesertSnow I'm sorry you're feeling so I'll. this is exactly how I was feeling for 3 weeks prior to this. I'm 10+2 and starting to feel a bit better, although still feel a bit nauseous at times and still quite tired. No sore boobs though. This is my first and have been trying to conceive for over a year with a loss at the beginning of the year. I always heard the first trimester was tough but was looking forward to it but over Christmas and new year, I just felt awful and cried most days due to how bad I felt. I'm wishing the time away for second trimester, although starting to feel better now (which is causing me to feel anxious for other reasons 😂). There will be light at the end of the tunnel ☺️

@Mulner88 I was just thinking to myself earlier too how the first trimester really isn’t great or very exciting for most people. It’s mainly just anxiety and feeling rough! Lots to hopefully look forward to though…

Hello

Hope you do not mind me dropping in on the thread I've been silent until now as just so anxious!

I am 8 weeks 2 days pregnant with a due date of the 15th august.

This afternoon I went to the toilet and notice blood in my underwear it was dried blood on dark underwear. There was nothing when I wiped. I phoned the community midwife services and the midwife said bleeding in early pregnancy is common and just to monitor it and if it continues to phone back tomorrow. I currently do not have any more bleeding this evening. I had a private scan a week ago and they said everything looked ok with a heartbeat.
I had a chemical pregnancy back in April so am very anxious.
Has anyone had this before?
Should I book another scan?

My next scan is 12 weeks on the 31 January which feels so far away!

Thank you in advance xx

Welcome @tax19 and sorry you’re having this worry.

I’ve had two episodes of spotting if it helps - pink to brown at 6+2 and then more pink at 8+4, so about the point you’re at. Both times I spoke to two different nurses/midwives and none seemed at all concerned. They said it’s only fresh red blood that they’re interested in. I know how terrifying it is to go through.

@AnnieApple123 thank you for your reassurance and happy to hear your scan was fine, how long did your bleeding last?
I'm trying to not worry but it's just impossible isn't it!

@AnnieApple123 sorry I thought you had a scan I read that too quickly.
Were you offered a scan at all or they just said it was common?
The midwife seemed very relaxed to me so I'm sure I'm over worrying

@Mulner88 Thank you, yes just got to keep focusing on the light at the end of the tunnel. It's hard not to wish away time, isn't it? I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure I can't win, because if my symptoms vanished I'd probably worry about other things! Just hoping all is ok at the 12 week scan and that all this feeling rubbish will be worth it.

Hello @tax19 and welcome! Sorry to hear about your chemical and that you're currently going through this worry. Quite a few ladies seem to have had spotting and apparently spotting or light bleeding can affect 1 in 4 pregnancies, and it's usually nothing. It's reassuring if the midwife you spoke to sounded relaxed about your situation, but I can image it's so worrying.

@tax19 It lasted about half a day each time. Others here have had it for longer though. A scan was never suggested.

@tax19 I've had quite a lot of spotting/different coloured discharge.
I have had scans due to pain on one side as well to rule out ectopic.
On both scans everything has looked fine, but because my spotting hasn't stopped, it has not stopped me worrying! Which I am sure is doing me no good, but it is impossible to not be concerned.

@kookyelephant I'm so sorry for your loss.

@MinnieFirstTimeMum @AnnieApple123
Thank you yes agree it's so hard not to worry thank you for sharing with me though nice not to feel as alone with this worry. Xx

@BMK this is so good to hear - thank you. Glad it's cleared up for you!! I'm hoping and praying for the same!

Don't want to be an ungrateful Debbie downer but is anyone just not enjoying pregnancy? Not even 12 weeks in and fed up had 6 solid days on new anti sickness tablets of not being sick and then today made up for them 6 days 🤮

@Loudmouth1 I'm not at all, just feeling miserable with how ill I am. Desertsnow & Mulner88 also on page 20 feeling the same :(
I've been sick every day for weeks, nauseous when I'm not sick and miserable more days than I'm not. Back to work yesterday and spent a couple of hours crying each day since Tuesday as I'm so fed up of feeling so rubbish when I thought I'd be so excited/happy, but struggling to feel those feelings as I feel so bad!

praying (to a God I don't believe in 😂) that it'll get better after 12 weeks. Hope you feel better soon 💙

Honestly @blondebanana, if it didn't, life would be passing me by as I was only fit to sleep or be immobile. Starving but smells and eating induce either getting sick or feeling v sick and weird taste in mouth. Zero energy and anything that was supposed to be done was highly unlikely to be. B vitamins maybe have helped as I seem to improve a bit the day after taking them and I heard this has been the case for some others,so it may actually work but have only tried them a few times and generally did coincide. Just try give yourself whatever space you can get for this and next week. I hope then it eases for you. Many others seem to have eased symptoms after 8 weeks, albeit some the opposite (worse weeks later).

@BoodifulGoose awww I completely and utterly feel you!! I hope you feel better soon as it is unbelievably draining feeling/being sick 24/7 I'm lucky I only work part time but I still do 3 12 hour shifts a day and by the end I cry in the car on the way home 😂 I now understand when people say no pregnancies are the same as I enjoyed my first so much as I had literally no symptoms 🙃

@Loudmouth1 hated being pregnant last time and starting to get the same feelings this time..
last time I was immobile and couldn't even get out of bed myself by 33 weeks..
got stuck on the stock room floor while doing a stock check etc 😅

This time the nausea just knocks me most of the day, and the insomnia... I tell ya this better be a cute baby 🤣

I'm gonna get fat again. I can feel it... I can't eat all day then I'm starving at night 😭

I have my scan this evening. Fingers and toes crossed that I will be coming back here with some good news. Nervous after the last MMC xxxxx

I'm not feeling as bad as I did with my first pregnancy (I think? But its possible I'm just getting on with it this time because I have a toddler to look after). I think I was more sick in that pregnancy. But I absolutely definitely wouldn't say I'm enjoying this. I've done this before and the idea that I'm growing a baby just seems totally surreal. I feel sick all the time, I am EXHAUSTED, and I'm not enjoying trying to deal with 2 year old and purchase of a business whilst pregnant. I think the sellers and the solicitors are trying to kill me with stress 🤣🤦‍♀️
Its definitely very hard to be excited at this point. But I do remember it getting better last time and then getting to a space where i thought I could buy things for baby etc. So I'm praying that time will come.

I probably shouldn't admit it, but what worries me is that I don't feel as attacted to this one as I did to my first. I mean, obviously I'd hate to lose it (had 2 miscarriages in the past) I couldn't bear that again. But I'm sure I was attached to my first right from seeing the line on the stick. But this time it's happened so quickly (again!) I'm in disbelief. And rather than being excited and attached I'm mostly p***d off that it's stopping me from running, working efficiently and having more energy. I feel terrible for feeling like that, because I do really want a second child (then no more 🎉) but yeah....right now I feel a bit miserable too. You're not alone 💛

@BMK it's just awful isn't it. I only feel better when lying horizontal too - just unable to do anything at all. Have to drag myself to my early scan this afternoon with a vom bag and a bottle of ginger ale. Thanks for the advice re. B vitamins - haven't heard this before so will give it a try.

@Loudmouth1 I am absolutely not enjoying it either. The nausea is ruining everything. My friend is pregnant with her second and the first trimester was easy for her both times! She looked healthy and glowing - I look like a sallow potato that can't stand up.

@mamabeeboo good luck, I have mine too :)

@Createcomet thank you for your honesty in this post - it's so understandable that being so ill and miserable means you're not as excited. If I'm honest I'm not feeling excited at the moment either because I can't think of anything else but the nausea.

Sorry to hear so many of us aren’t enjoying this first 12 weeks. I’m hoping the symptoms will lesson soon. I’m feeling so rough too with the constant nausea. I’m also aware that I don’t want to put on loads of weight (at this stage anyway!). Forcing myself out for a daily walk later in the afternoon. I’m currently unemployed (left my teaching post before Christmas) and although I can’t imagine teaching and feeling so rough, I also haven’t got anything to take to mind of the contact horrible sicky feeling. I do have an interview next week for some part time hours. Hoping that will give me something to do or it will be back to the drawing board and forcing myself to job hunt!

Got my booking appointment today and blood test as part of it and I'm worried about the blood test! First time I've had one and I know I need to grow a pair and focus on it being for bump not me but I can't stop being worried!
Anyone else had this anxiety and can reassure me? Please no horror stories 😂