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no-one likes the name we chose and its really upsetting me.

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frootloop · 30/01/2008 10:52

we have decided on the name Myrtle if we have a girl, i know its not everyones taste but i don't see the need for the nasty comments from DHs family and his work collegues.

the latest comment which quite upset me was 'i hope you have a boy for the babys sake'

what on earth makes people think they have the right to make such rude comments to the babys parents face? i don't think much of the names they chose for their children but i would never dream saying anything.

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sweetkitty · 03/02/2008 17:36

I don't think it's rude to say I don't like it but it's not me naming my baby and if you like it then you should call your baby it and try not to bother what anyone else says.

I'm sure the original poster wouldn't like some of the names I'm thinking of for DB3 but the world would be a very boring place if we all called our children the same.

Actually now I have thought about it I think it's not that bad. There's a difference between hearing a name and actually seeing a little baby or girl with that name and thinking "wow actually that suits her"

I would never dream of turning around to someone in RL and saying oh thats a horrible name etc but I guess thats the internet for you. I have been on the other end of nasty comments about names you have chosen and it isn't nice.

Fruitloop - I think you have just got to think of a few things to say when next time anyone says anything to you and best of luck with your little Myrtle.

luminarphrases · 03/02/2008 17:59

i like it. admittedly, i did think of hp's myrtle first, but as other posters have said, kids will get something out of any name.

nh101andhertwinbeans · 05/02/2008 14:36

Flightattendant, I like wilbur!!! That's cool

ChinaSurprise · 05/02/2008 15:57

Wilbur is a cutie!

Since I last posted on this thread DH and I have decided on the name for our PFB. We were going to have several to choose from depending on what she(probably) looks like. But then I thought of one which is so cool no others come close and DH agrees.

It works for a boy or a girl and is a bit nuts, but we love it. So, I may well be on the receiving end of similar raised eyebrows after LO is born. Still sticking to not telling anyone tho!

Stick with Myrtle - it's your baby! (and fwiw, I like it)

MimisMama · 07/02/2008 15:07

Ooh - China Surprise - don't leave us hanging!! Tell me and I won't tell anyone!

We're having problems trying to think of a name for our LO, well that is until my 5yo DD came up with a peach the other day - Pumpernickel!!

We won't really be going for that one..!

ChinaSurprise · 07/02/2008 21:09

Mimis I would love to, but I just can't - DH is really struggling as he's rubbish at keeping secrets. But I'll send you a note in June after PFB arrives and all will be revealed!

ChinaSurprise · 07/02/2008 21:10

Doh - what I mean is, DH is really struggling and it wouldn't be fair on him.
When are you due mimi? Are you in an AN club on here?

AgathaRose · 07/02/2008 22:58

We have finally named our poor DS seven weeks after he was born (!) because the bizarre bitching of people we consulted threw us into such a spin of anxiety and distress.

Ended up rejecting the name i loved (Ariel) bc of the number of rude and ignorant comments. Now i really regret our lack of confidence to do our own thing as I KNOW for certain that the person makes the name and not the other way round.

This is the time to shut others out for a little while. As soon as they meet your sweet little Myrtle they will learn to love the name as much as they will love her.

(And I agree: you've chosen a beautiful name. )

PussinJimmyChoos · 07/02/2008 23:04

I know a Matilda and I was when first heard it but didn't comment obv but now she is here it suits her to a tee and its really grown on me as a name!

AgathaRose · 07/02/2008 23:06

Are you still out there Fruitloop? -Let us know what you've decided...

RnB · 07/02/2008 23:08

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indiehendrix · 07/02/2008 23:24

I think Myrtle is gorgeous! How dare people comment on your chids name. I had same problem with my two boys names after they were born!Just smile and say your child deserves something different and special...you prob wont care a damn what people think once Myrtle s in your arms!

dontwanttogetoutofbed · 07/02/2008 23:34

i heard peaches geldoff on a show saying she hated her name growing up. i hated mine too since it was so unique. it is hard to grow up with a name you hate.
i do like my name now.
but i also still have all sorts of problems.

i wanted to name my girls octavia and aria, due to my love of music. i also think those are beautiful names and my dh agrees. i chose against it and didn't even use those as middle names since i figured it would be selfish to call my children based on things i loved. they will have things they love and they may not be classical music score.

dontwanttogetoutofbed · 07/02/2008 23:36

by the way AgathaRose, Ariel is a stunning name.

RnB · 08/02/2008 01:34

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lucyhoneybee · 08/02/2008 01:41

My dad's mum is a Myrtle. So obviously it was popular when she was born.She's a great moaner though.You go for it i fyou like it!

I got upset when the birth registrar rolled her eyes at my third daughter's five middle names. Then I thought, they're lovely names, how dare she?? They are after relatives so they're special to us as your daughter's name will be to you.

With my first girl my mum was still phoning me with baby names two months after the birth as she so hated the "hideous and dowdy" name I had picked( Matilda). I contemplated changing my phone number but she grew out of it

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frootloop · 08/02/2008 12:34

im still here and im still sticking with myrtle.

dh's family still making comments and i overheard him on the phone to BIL saying it wasn't set in stone and we might call the baby something different(oh yeah!!) wish dh would grow a backbone. the only way the baby won't be called myrtle is if it turns out to be a boy

now 40+3 so won't be long till we find out if we have a girl or boy.

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Riddo · 08/02/2008 13:13

I think Myrtle is a lovely name. My uncle said our name for dd was passe (sp?) but I ignored him and her name really suits her.

Once she arrives everyone will associate the name with a beautiful baby and will all love it (and her). Good luck.

bitofadramaqueen · 08/02/2008 13:33

frootloop - make sure you let us know if you have a girl or boy! Good for you sticking to your guns.

I mentioned in passing a name to my SIL and she said it was getting a bit common... I went and checked the registrar website for the last few years and it was used in Scotland only a handful of times each year. The SIL DC's name on the other hand is very popular! Since then I have kept my mouth resolutely zipped on the subject of names. Everyone can find out once the baby is born.

AgathaRose · 11/02/2008 23:51

Oh thanks so much Dontwanttogetoutofbed. -So lovely to hear that. One day the scars will heal...!

minouminou · 12/02/2008 00:03

we got some severe grief over our DS' name, and one of DP's oldest chums pretty much refuses to use it to this day.
however, the overwhelming majority of people have come right round to it, as it really suits him, as, at 16 months, he's quite the man about town (clue!).
myrtle's not exactly through the looking glass, FGS, so you just go for it
you know what's best (well, so i found), is just laughing at the comments.
you might feel like throttling the tossers, but just laugh and get yourselves to the registry!
hope all's well....anything happen yet?

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