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no-one likes the name we chose and its really upsetting me.

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frootloop · 30/01/2008 10:52

we have decided on the name Myrtle if we have a girl, i know its not everyones taste but i don't see the need for the nasty comments from DHs family and his work collegues.

the latest comment which quite upset me was 'i hope you have a boy for the babys sake'

what on earth makes people think they have the right to make such rude comments to the babys parents face? i don't think much of the names they chose for their children but i would never dream saying anything.

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nh101andhertwinbeans · 31/01/2008 13:39

Frrotloop, if your MIL hates it then I'd say that is a great reason to use it!! My MIL won't even let us tell her what sex our twins are. Silly cow! (So I've been telling EVERYONE I know in the hope someone will "slip up" in her presence.)

themildmanneredjanitor · 31/01/2008 13:42

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bitofadramaqueen · 31/01/2008 13:47

I mentioned Penelope to DH last night and he started going on about Penelope Pitstop. I suspect that kids today wont know who Penelope Pitstop is/was (I may be wrong). If anyone worried about teasing at school etc, it might be worth remembering that different generations will have completely different cultural references.

Crikey - giving a child a name is such a huge responsibility. Still like Myrtle though.

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sparkybabe · 31/01/2008 14:10

Yeah well TMMJ Andrew has to put up with his parents (!) calling him Andy Pandy. But then one child got picked up by his mum after a playdate (hate that word!) and she called out ' come on Jimmy-Jim-Jams'. He was about 10.

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CrushWithEyeliner · 31/01/2008 14:47

people are so sometimes. I was thinking of holly for DD and mantioned it to my boss who pulled a face and said "my next door naighbours dog is called that" I mean what the F* has that got to do with anything?

We ended up calling DD my grandmother's name - very unusual until a certain "rainbow family"-adopting actress came on the scene but it is still not immensely popular despite this, and we love it to bits. Although people did assume this legendary beauty is who we named her after...LOL

Scampmum · 31/01/2008 14:51

Don't agree with people who say no-one will comment after the baby is born and named - our DD is called Poppy and we have had loads of comments along the lines of 'what will she be called when she grows up?' 'what's her real name?' and 'is that a real name?'. I never fail to be taken aback at how candid people are about anything to do with children and how they feel you are raising yours.

elbarto · 31/01/2008 15:16

we decided on lily before our daughter was born.

beautiful name, not unusual, works with our surname, relevant to us (dh loves lilies)

and yet there were still some people who made nasty comments!!!!

so f* em. there are some people in life who never have a nice thing to say about anything. thats their sad life and not yours

myrtle is lovely

quint · 31/01/2008 15:31

I wish I'd stuck to my guns and named DD2 the name I liked Phoebe, but I'd had negative comments about the name so it became her second name (also she didn;t look like a Phoebe when she was born), however now it would really suit her but seeing as she;s nearly 18m old it would confude her to change it, though we did consider doing it last year!

Your baby, your choice of name. Myrtle may not be on my short list, however there are clearly lots of people who do like it and as long as it doesn;t cause real probelsm for the child as they grow up, you should be able to name your child what you want.

Of course you could tell everyone you;ve changed your mind and if its a girl your going to call her (think of a really hideous name that noone likes) then when she arrives and you call her Myrtle everyone will be so relieved!

nh101andhertwinbeans · 31/01/2008 15:37

If I'm honest I don't like Myrtle but what the f*ck has it got to do with me

It's no one else's business, but I have been "trying out" the names we have chosen to gauge people's reactions cos I wouldn't want my child to have a name other people thought was stupid/funny/something they thought they could comment on. I mean, if you are getting upset at people commenting, perhaps your daughter will feel the same and she will have to put up with it for a lot longer. Then again, she might love it.

My sis called her daughter Delilah which I think is awful but it was her choice. My other sis called her daughter Edith which everyone turned their noses up at but it's becoming quite trendy now. People will always think they have a right to say something.

Hopeysgirlwasntbig · 31/01/2008 20:44

NH101, PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEASE come and post on the September anti natal thread, everyone would be SO happy to hear from you. CONGRATS!! Really happy for you

Rochwen · 01/02/2008 20:25

I like Myrtle, it's a lovely name.

Don't tell people the name until the baby is born.

charleypops · 01/02/2008 22:20

Myrtle was in my top 5 but I'm having a boy. Got a few "turtle" comments, which was a bit annoying, but that's all, it's a lovely name. Took us much longer to come up with even 1 boy's name, so we've not told anyone. I've found people can be uncharacteristically rude or opinionated about if you ask for their opinions about possible names, it's weird.

nh101andhertwinbeans · 03/02/2008 11:41

I agree with the MNer who said that names sound flat until there's a person attached it them. Then the name always becomes lovely cos it refers to a lovely baby!

Flllightattendant · 03/02/2008 11:48

I really like it too.

Mind you, nobosy IRL liked Ds2's name, there was an embarrassed silence every time someone asked.

That was no fun.

But we love his name and it suits him so they all just have to get used to it

nh101andhertwinbeans · 03/02/2008 11:58

what is it then????

Flllightattendant · 03/02/2008 11:59

Wilbur!

vInTaGeVioLeT · 03/02/2008 12:02

my cousin's dd2 is called myrtle it's a lovely name and it really suits her - we also had a great aunt who was called myrtle - i had it on my list of names for dd too

dont listen to others call the baby what you and dp want

my mum didn't like ds's name but we ignored her it did annoy me though (she's very oppinionated!!)

Flllightattendant · 03/02/2008 15:00

That'll be the embarrassing silence I told you about then, Nh101...

sweetkitty · 03/02/2008 15:10

I personally don't like Myrtle sorry.

I agree with all the others DO NOT TELL ANYONE what you intend to call your baby.

DD2 has an unusual name which I love, we told no one we were thinking of calling her it so when she was born we phoned people up and said "I've had the baby she is called X" then be ready for the put downs. My Mother "how do you spell it, I better write it down or I will forget it" MIL "as long as she's healthy" My Dad still cannot pronounce it (it's not difficult) the thing is we love it so sod anyone else.

Your baby your choice, next time they say anything say "well the next time YOU have a baby you can get to name it"

FenellaFudge · 03/02/2008 15:16

I love the way the consensus seems to be that only fuckwits would comment negatively on your babys name yet lots of those saying just that also feel the need to let the op know that they don't like it...you know, just so she's aware of that fact.
That is some odd logic.

DonDons · 03/02/2008 15:51

flightattendant - I thnk WIlbur is a lovely name and the picture of him is soooo cute.

I myself have an unusual name in RL and I love it (middle name) I am passing it down to my DD (it's also my mum's middle name) and I don't give a monkeys what anyone else thinks.

Flllightattendant · 03/02/2008 16:08

Thanks so much, Dondons!

fishie · 03/02/2008 16:47

myrtle is a lovely name, isn't it a flowering shrub?
also wilbur, great name.

i am always astonished by the way people find it their business to tell you that they don't like your choice, even here on your thread when you have posted for support saying it is upsetting you. bloody rude.