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no-one likes the name we chose and its really upsetting me.

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frootloop · 30/01/2008 10:52

we have decided on the name Myrtle if we have a girl, i know its not everyones taste but i don't see the need for the nasty comments from DHs family and his work collegues.

the latest comment which quite upset me was 'i hope you have a boy for the babys sake'

what on earth makes people think they have the right to make such rude comments to the babys parents face? i don't think much of the names they chose for their children but i would never dream saying anything.

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hatrick · 30/01/2008 14:29

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NKF · 30/01/2008 14:31

I'm really intrigued as to what the name might be, Hatrick. I do remember once when I was very young being very staggered by a name of a toddler. I realise I must have been rude. I wouldn't do it now. It was more surprise than anything.

VictorianSqualor · 30/01/2008 14:34

Hatrick it wasnt the middle name Scorpio wanted was it??

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foxythesnowman · 30/01/2008 14:38

I think it is a lovely name.

Tell everyone the baby will be called, I don't know, Sarah or John for example, then call your baby what you want. They'll all say how much they love the name when they see your lovely baby.

VictorianSqualor · 30/01/2008 14:43

We have Kitty on the short list for my bump, DP's great aunt was called Kathryn but everyone called her Kitty and we are considering it.

I thin about Saskia is just Eastenders. I love the name Roxt atm but am a bit put off using it because of the connotations it holds now.

mum2mum · 30/01/2008 14:46

no one liked the name we chose for our ds, Drew, but we liked it. would have to have had a rethink though if our surname was peacock! (Drew Peacock) couldn't have let him grow up with that! lol

ChinaSurprise · 30/01/2008 16:46

Really don't worry about it (easy to say). There will always be someone who doesn't like what you choose and children will find a way to tease about any name, however "normal".
And it's hard enough picking a name you and DH both like without having to get approval from others - even if they are your family.
We are keeping our favourite name deadly secret for this very reason. DH managed to tell his dad (grr), but luckily FIL is estranged from the rest of DH's family (luckily?) so they won't find out.
And we might change our mind anyway. I know a few people who were very set on names and then when their DC arrived called them something completely different, because it suited them better.
We have at least four options, and am just point blank refusing to tell people who ask.
The funniest thing is, all my friends who've asked feel like, even though we've said we're not telling, somehow they and they alone have a right to know.
When we found out it was probably a girl I even got asked what boy's names we would have picked! But just said I couldn't tell in case scanner was blind and is a boy after all!

ChinaSurprise · 30/01/2008 16:47

pmsl at Drew Peacock.
My first two initials are R and C = arsey... Luckily none of my school friends ever twigged!

missjennipenni · 30/01/2008 16:52

I have learnt not to tell anyone the names i have chosen. Its much harder to say "eww yuck" to an actual baby

SnappyLaGore · 30/01/2008 16:55

i havnt heard the name myrtle for years.
i love more obscure names.

good choice!

mylittlepudding · 30/01/2008 16:59

From my stepmother, after DD was born, "did you name her after the brand of lingerie?" Erm, no. Get lost.

You name your daughter whatever you like... HP does seem to have spoiled some lovely names for a lot of people.

SnappyLaGore · 30/01/2008 17:04

oh thats just daft. name ruining i mean.
by the time the child is old enough to have a social life, whatever film or book or whatever is popular at the time of birth will be long gone and forgotten about.

except maybe Luke will always mean skywalker coz that film never goes away!

SnappyLaGore · 30/01/2008 17:04

whats her name? the lingerie one?

mylittlepudding · 30/01/2008 17:07

Freya

Maybe that's the worst thing she could think is wrong with it

Fireflyfairy2 · 30/01/2008 17:09

We liked Sadie for dd (6 now) but no-one else liked it

She's now got a plain name but suits her.

Ds is going to get teased at school... think "ark".

SnappyLaGore · 30/01/2008 18:11

Freya is lovely.

and i know an extremely nice Sadie, so i like that too

Sarahjct · 30/01/2008 18:46

I've just had a Harriet, pirategirl (proud mummy moment - blimey, I'm a mummy!!). Glad you like it.

My DH blabbed our name choice to all and sundry and I nearly killed him. People are far too opinionated to tell important things to until it's a done deal. Tell 'em all to bugger off.

dejags · 30/01/2008 19:00

Don't take it personally. You can't please all the people all the time - especially if you go with an unusual name.

FWIW, I instantly think of Moaning Myrtle in the Bathroom in HP too. So it definitely wouldn't be on my shortlist, but it's not my baby or my choice.

I can never understand why pregnancy/childbirth and all matters related seems to obscure the bounds of courtesy beyond belief - starting with the size of your bump/name choice/sex of the child.

Other good examples are:

You are huuuuge - followed by inane laughter
Gawd your baby is (tiny/fat)

StripeyMamaSpanx · 30/01/2008 19:06

Oh god ex-MIL tried to tell us to change dd's (pretty and unusual without being bonkers) name after she was born.

Just take no notice. There'll be plenty more interfering over the next 18 years - start as you mean to go on!

BTW, I quite like Myrtle.

goingfor3 · 30/01/2008 19:09

I've learnt not to discuss baby names with anyone other than dp as everyone has an opinion and aren't afraid to tell you. If you wait until asfter the baby is born the likley hood is, if they have any manners, they will keep thier thoughts to themselves.

jbob · 30/01/2008 19:13

Myrtle is a beautiful name. The only thing I can say is that once you are pregnant/have a baby every one thinks they know best! Please take no notice of them. You have to follow your heart. It is your baby, have confidence in your self.

whomovedmychocolate · 30/01/2008 19:30

I think Myrtle is a lovely name. It can be shortened to Myra too if she likes that. The baby I'm carrying will be called 'noneofyoursoddingbusiness' until she's delivered since MiL has already said she doesn't like the name we were thinking of.

MrsEi25 · 30/01/2008 19:33

hi i think myrtle is a lovely name and fits with the fashion ATM of old fashioned names i do agree it might spark a little bit of harry potter related teasing though but that is true of most names apart from the harry potter part of course
i wouldnt be brave enough to call one of my DCs a name that i would consider to be high-risk of teasing as i have got one of those myself and cant introduce myself to anybody without a pretty popular 80s song being sung to me
it is your choice and just ignore the people who are being mean about it
xx ei xx