Pregant after miscarriage - support thread

[Nervousbuthopeful]

Hi everyone,

I'm new to posting on mumsnet, but have spent plenty of time reading through others' conversations for reassurance when anxious, and this seems like such a friendly place!

I've just found out I'm pregnant again after the miscarriage of my first at 11 weeks in August. I would love to connect with other people in a similar situation.

I'm feeling relatively ok, i.e. not totally panicked all the time, about this one, but I know it's going to be hard. I really find it hard to believe sometimes that this could work out.

Please send a comment if you're in a similar situation and would like to share/receive some support!

Hi all, I hope everyone is doing well and had a lovely Christmas yesterday!

I'm 17+2 today and doing ok but am suffering from a cough after having covid last week. Things seem to be dragging at the moment; I have my 16w midwife appointment on Sunday so trying to focus on that. I also have my 20w scan and consultation coming up on 16/17th so ok that's something to look forwards too - can't wait to see baby again as it feels ages since my 12w scan.

@Gee94, I'm sorry to hear of your miscarriage and can completely understand why you're feeling so confused! I know that FRER tests only require 6mui of hCG, other super sensitive tests are 10mui and the standard is 25mui, which would explain why FRER is positive but other brands aren't. I hope you get some clarity either way! Keep us updated 💐

@squirrelnutkins1 Thank you. I'm okay. Still not having many symptoms. Always had slightly sore nipples, but that went and hasn't come back. I'm having less nausea than I was too. The one thing that's going strong though is the weeing 😂 I woke up 5 times in the night last night for a wee 😫😂

Measuring today at 12+1 so one day ahead and all looks good 😊 such a relief x

@squirrelnutkins1 what a relief ☺️ my first is next Sunday, will be 10 weeks, I feel sick at the thought of it ☹️

@squirrelnutkins1, congratulations! 🥰

@ChloeN, not long to go now! Is it a private one? I remember feeling exactly the same before all of mine, too. Remember that every pregnancy is different and the likelihood of it being good news is definitely in your favour.

My 20w scan is on the 16th, which is two and a bit weeks away now. It can't come soon enough for me!! I've been so worried as I've had covid and my midwife was concerned too, so I just want to know that it's had no lasting effects on baby! I've felt baby move everyday for a while now so that's reassuring but I still can't help but worry... 😣

@B1993 yep a private one, they’ve been really good and booked out extra time for us so no one else will be in the waiting room, it was so awful having to walk out in front of people last time so I just want to minimise the things that make me
anxious! I’ve had a lot more symptoms this time so im really hoping it’ll be okay🤞🏻definitely good news that you can feel baby moving, must be an amazing feeling!

We had a scan at 6w3d yesterday and saw heartbeat. My hcg doesn't seem as good this time, but then still looks like it is doubling ok. The hcg levels with Sept MMC really gave me a false sense that everything was going to be ok.

The EPU doctor prescribed cyclogest pessaries so I started taking those yesterday and my body temperature has finally started to rise again. She emphasised that there was no evidence to suggest progesterone would help and she was giving it to me on the basis that I've had 4 previous early losses. She said the last MMC had been a genetic abnormality and I said that nobody had told me that, but she didn't go into any more detail and I was too taken aback to ask more. It doesn't really change anything and my previous losses had to have been something similar, even though I was much younger between 2008-2010 as they only ever progressed as far as 5-6 weeks.

We have another scan this time just after 8 weeks, so struggling a little as it was relief yesterday to know it is in the right place and starting to develop. I had pretty much gone in expecting the worst I think just to self-protect myself and was pretty stressed. I'm trying to tell myself that I've made a lot of lifestyle and supplement changes, plus aspirin since we conceived last time in August so should be in a better position this time, plus it was good I conceived again so quickly as I really didn't expect to, but also there is no getting around the genetic risks. Trying not to think too far ahead just now. I haven't arranged a booking appointment this time as want to wait to see if I progress past 8 weeks. I keep going from overanalysing to trying to distance myself emotionally in case things go wrong.

I had loads of hassle with sending blood tests when the weather was bad and there were postage strikes as got 2 sample errors when I was testing hcg and progesterone, but if anything it's shown me those made absolutely no difference lol! It'll be good to get a result back from earlier this week though and I'm really glad I had tested luteal and 22dpo progesterone levels as I think that let me show the EPU my progesterone is inadequate. If I ever get to the point of being referred again to the miscarriage clinic I will have plenty to show them as also did day 2-5 bloods. It annoys me a bit that there is the automatic assumption of age-related anomalies and infertility, but then my gut feeling is losses are because of underlying issues, maybe compounded by age, but I don't really know.

I was wondering if I could have some thoughts please. I have posted on this thread previously…

I had my second miscarriage in November and my period came the beginning of January. Since we have been trying to conceive. I don’t know why but I took a FRER test today and it has a faint line.

But, these tests were still giving me faint positives 2 days before I got my period.

What are your thoughts? Thank you!

@Gee94 I would take another in 2 days and see if the line is darker 😊 if it’s not it could be left from before but if it’s darker then I imagine a new pregnancy. Fingers crossed for you.

@allgoodthings84 is it possible to be left over from before when I’ve had a period since? Thank you

@Gee94 I don’t know if I’m honest as I’ve only had 2 really early miscarriages and was negative before bleeding finished

Hi! I was in the exact same position as you last year and also found myself searching online for reassurance and support to make me feel like I am not the only one- as when it happens it does feel so isolating (even when you have a supportive partner).

I feel your pain and anxiety and have come through the other side (now have a dd 6 months old). The fear when pregnant with her was there but I was determined not to let it overwhelm or taint my pregnancy experience. Especially as it was my first!

It's tough I'm not going to lie and still to this day I cry thinking about what we went through. But it wasn't meant to be and makes you appreciate it even more when it does happen.

Just trust and do whatever makes you feel comfortable. I was super obsessive with all sorts- gave up certain herbs, avoided baths, anything else that posed a risk. I now look back and think maybe I was OTT, but then again it made me feel more in control of the uncontrollable.

Just do whatever makes you feel good and try to relax and enjoy the experience as no point worrying until there is something to worry about!

Hello. Wondered if I could join this thread? I'm 7w today after 2 miscarriages last year. Found out I have hypothyroidism so have been treating that since and praying this one stays. I've got an early scan tomorrow and I'm absolutely dreading it. Being back at EPAU will be so tough. I've also not had a huge amount in the way of symptoms which has really upped the anxiety but trying to remind myself not everyone feels absolutely horrific through pregnancy. X

Hi.

I will also join, as I really need reasurance. I should be 5 weeks and few days. But, after a blighted ovum and 2 CPs, I am extremely stressed. Didn't even contact my doctor until know. I've done soooooo many blood tests in the last year, I feel overcome with emotions when waiting the results.

She prescribed some medication - progesterone and aspirin, but I am out of the country and only can take them starting Saturday. Now I am scared I should have taken them from the start and I caused harm... At what stage of the pregnancy did you start medication, if the case?

i'm also scared that today I ve done some unwilling cardio effort. I got very heated and my heart rushed like crazy. I am panicking so so much... could I have done any harm?

I'll have my scan on Monday and I'm starting going so So crazy...

Wishing all a healthy pregnancy.

@Ella1211 Welcome ☺️ I only started on progesterone at around 7+2. I'm not on aspirin.

Also, had palpitations for 10 hours back when I was just over 6 weeks pregnant. Ended up in A&E and my heart rate was 184bpm and had been going like that all day. Didn't do baby any harm so I'd honestly say you'll be absolutely fine ☺️

Thanks. Happy to hear ot was ok for you. Hope will be the same for me 🤗

@Laro2323 good luck tomorrow💕 early scans are so tough I really struggled with mine xx

@Ella1211 its hard not to panic but I’m sure you’ve not done your baby any harm!💕

@rach971 hope you’re okay lovely, how many weeks are you now? xx

@ChloeN Thank you ☺️ hope you are too! Bang on 13 weeks today. Have good days and more anxious days but I'm doing alright. Going to book in for a 16 week scan to find out gender and as some more reassurance before the 20 week.

Hello everyone!

Welcome to all who have just joined!

How is everyone doing? Though I haven’t been posting, I’ve been thinking of everyone here and sending wishes for healthy pregnancies. So many of you must have had scans by now—@B1993 , how was your 20 week scan? And @ChloeN , how did the private one go? I know there are so many of you I’m not tagging (on my way to work so no time to check!) but I’d love to hear your news!

I’ve had two very emotional but positive weeks. I had my 12 week scan at 13w0d and incredibly all looked healthy, measuring at 13w1d. I initially declined the combined test because we were about to do NIPT but then as soon as I was out I regretted it. My husband urged me to go ask if they would still do it and I was sceptical but they did—so I had a second ultrasound, and baby had grown a whole cm —4 days😂. Such a useful lesson in the accuracy of ultrasound dating, and a reminder not to worry about a few days more or less.

I haven’t had combined test results yet but NIPT came back Tuesday morning—all super low risk, and it’s a girl. I cried so much, hardly able to believe that I would be at this point. This is all I have wanted for so so long.

I then immediately told lots of people which predictably provoked my anxiety that something will go wrong all over again 😅—but on the whole I’m just very, very grateful to be at this point.

My heart goes out to anyone still waiting for a pregnancy that reaches this stage or for reassurance—fingers crossed for all of you that it comes soon!

Lovely to hear from everyone. How are people's symptoms? I'm 15+1 and still feel awful some days. My anxiety is up and down. We've still not told anyone. We're waiting til next weekend after our gender scan x

@rach971 think I’m a week behind you☺️ I’m going to do a 16 week scan too!

@Nervousbuthopeful it was amazing! I was so anxious but the sonographer was really good and showed me the baby moving round straight away! Amazing results on your nipt and a lovely little girl🥹❤️

@squirrelnutkins1 we’re still so undecided when to tell people! Or whether we’re finding out the gender, I can’t make my mind up🤣☺️

@Nervousbuthopeful What a lovely couple of weeks you've had. So jealous of everyone finding out the sex so early! 😂

It feels such a big thing telling people doesn't it! Almost makes it feel real! I still don't believe it!! X

Had my 12 week scan, baby was soo active literally rolling around having a party! But that meant she couldn’t get a precise measurement, so haven’t got an official due date and can’t have the screening🤦🏻‍♀️ so now need to decide whether to have the NIPT xx