Pregant after miscarriage - support thread

[Nervousbuthopeful]

Hi everyone,

I'm new to posting on mumsnet, but have spent plenty of time reading through others' conversations for reassurance when anxious, and this seems like such a friendly place!

I've just found out I'm pregnant again after the miscarriage of my first at 11 weeks in August. I would love to connect with other people in a similar situation.

I'm feeling relatively ok, i.e. not totally panicked all the time, about this one, but I know it's going to be hard. I really find it hard to believe sometimes that this could work out.

Please send a comment if you're in a similar situation and would like to share/receive some support!

@Gee94 what test did you use? If it wasn’t an early detection one I guess anything under that level wouldn’t show? I have no idea to be honest! I would do the same home pregancy test again and hope for a line this time xx

Hi ladies! Anyone else struggling with horrendous sickness? I desperately want to enjoy every second of this pregnancy but my gosh it's hard when you feel so rough 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

Hi, I’m new to the group. In January I had a miscarriage and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant (around the same time as last year!) I’m not feeling excited, I can’t see me having a baby at the end of this…just another loss. I’m also worried as I used an internet cheapie and it’s come up as a strong positive and there’s still 6 days until I’m due on! I did 3 more to compare and they’re all just as strong, even throughout the day.

@sian124, I'm a bit further along now (16 weeks) so sicknesses has fully subsided for me. Even in my early days, the neasea was bad but I wasn't constantly sick so it felt manageable and, with my first, I didn't really have any at all! Sorry I can't relate but definitely take it as a good sign that things are healthy and normal!

@Nik84, I felt like this too, particularly in those early days and was very pessimistic about the whole pregnancy. After serval successfull scans, I'm feeling a lot more postive. Unfortunately, I have no advice as it's only really come with time and seeing things progress (despite some hiccups). As this is my second baby, I have been feeling those early movements too, which is also hugely reassuring.

@B1993 I’m happy to feel detached for the time being. Hopefully if I make it to the 12 week scan I’ll allow myself to believe it x

@Nik84, that was a turning point for me too. This is my second baby (third pregnancy) and at 16w I have been feeling some movement. It's stopped over the past couple of days (totally normal, I know) but when I feel baby that's SO incredibly reassuring. 🥰

@sian124 yep sickness is WAY worse in this pregnancy than my last. I'm eating my body weight in Pringles each day to help 🙈
I had evening sickness up to 19 weeks with my last pregnancy. I'm 10 weeks at the mo with no sign of it going away.

@Nik84 detached is absolutely the feeling I'd use. I was like it through my whole pregnancy last time. The midwife even referred me to the GP because she didn't think it was normal. The GP told me I was the sanest person she'd spoken to in a long time! It's ok to protect your heart xxx you may feel better after 12 weeks, or you may not but this time round I'm really trying to
just follow the mantra I've seen on here a few times.... TODAY I am pregnant.

@squirrelnutkins1 that’s a good way to think, I’ll be using that mantra.

Are people holding off telling family early this time? I told my parents when I was 6 weeks last time but I think I’ll wait until after the scan. I also told my girls as soon as I found out and then they had to go through the sadness of a loss. Although it is life and something they should be exposed to, I’m just not sure it’s fair if they had to go through it again. I haven’t even told my husband yet, I just don’t want people to be hurt and it’s so early, I haven’t even reached my missed period yet!

@Nik84, we were much more cautious with announcing this time around. With DS and our loss, we announced between 4-5 weeks. This time I waited until around 9 weeks to tell close family, just told my employer last week at 15.5 weeks (only him, no other colleagues know) and still haven't announced to people in general (don't use social media so unless I've seen them in person, they won't know).

Do what feels right for you though as there's really no right or wrong! 😊

Hope everyone is feeling as ok as they can be.
The mantra of 'today I'm pregnant' seems to be working well for me. I'm way less anxious than last time.
Got my 12 week scan a week tomorrow so really looking forward to that milestone being done (here's hoping).

I've just had a private scan today. 8+6 and baby was moving around and sucking its thumb ☺️

Amazing!!

@sian124 I'm massively struggling with sickness, I'm trying to stay positive but it's so darn difficult when I can barely function.

I've got postural hypotension as well now and a temperature so the doctor gave me antibiotics incase. I'm on my 4th type of anti sickness now so hopefully it works. I had a private scan around 8 weeks, and saw a heartbeat even though it measured a week behind. Now I'm 9+5 weeks so just hoping everything stays ok. Next week will be the point I lost the last one :( My mental health has taken a plummeting since I've been poorly and I hate it, I just want to feel like I can function to keep my brain busy and distracted but now I've just been in bed pretty much all the time and can't keep my head upright to even watch tv 😱

Hi can I join please?

I’m 5 weeks pregnant today (19dpo) as ovulated a bit late because of early miscarriage/CP last month. I also had the same in October so this is my 3rd pregnancy in 3 months. I’m really hoping this one sticks. Both of the other 2 times I started bleeding on 18dpo with by then negative tests. They were faint even on the first at 14dpo. This time both lines were same colour on 14dpo and a dye stealer on 18dpo. I know this doesn’t really mean anything in the scheme of things but for me it means it’s sticking longer than before.

I’m worried that this will go the same way but trying to take each day as it comes. I’m not taking anymore tests just going to hope it will be ok.

I started not feeling great yesterday and then noticed last night I’ve got white spots on my tonsils so have tonsillitis. I can’t get an appointment to be seen until tomorrow afternoon as they said have to see a gp not a nurse when pregnant and if I get a fever to go to urgent care (which is over half hour drive away and not got access to car today). Luckily I’ve not got a fever my throat is just in pain and feel a bit under the weather. I’ve had it a lot worse. Just feeling sorry for myself and hoping I don’t have a miscarriage now or I’ll probably blame this and myself.

@Beapo Oh yes, I am with you there - I can't watch TV, read a book, go in the car, or basically do anything without feeling/being sick! I'm trying to sleep through it as much as I can. If I can't sleep, I'm listening to audio books because I'm so bored and there isn't anything else to do that doesn't make me want to vom! Absolutely dreading Christmas day and all the dinner shenanigans 🤢

I've been given some antisickness meds but too scared to take them. I know that's silly but I just don't want to take any risks at all and I'm already taking so much medication for thyroid problems this time round.

When do you have another scan? We had one this week at 8 weeks and all was fine and measuring to date after having measured a week behind at six weeks, so I don't think babies all like to follow the growing rules! I'm trying to take the sickness as a sign that all is going as it should but I know nothing will ever stop us worrying after our losses.

Are you taking progesterone? I am on 400mg twice a day and wondered if that is maybe contributing to the sickness.

Welcome @allgoodthings84! It sounds like you've got a really optimistic outlook for this pregnancy and also wish you a healthy, sticky bean!!

Sorry to hear so many of you have been suffering with sickness! I hope the meds kick in soon and you all get some relief!

I've had covid this week (still do) and have felt pretty rubbish. I should have had my 16 week midwife appointment today, which, of course, has had to be rescheduled. She spoke to me on the phone and has told me that she's going to book a consultant appointment after my 20 week scan on 16th Jan (I'm consultant led care) to discuss any issues it may have caused. 😬 I'm obviously very anxious now that something may be wrong, but, after a good few days of no movement, I've felt baby wriggling away the last couple of days so hoping that's a good sign!

@B1993 thank you. I’ve got to try and be positive or I would go crazy. Just got to hope for the best as out of our hands. I’m sorry to hear you’ve got covid 😞 I hope everything is ok at your scan. It’s great you can feel baby wriggling around 😊. I totally get why you’re feeling anxious though it’s so worrying being pregnant

Sorry to hear all the struggles 😔

Does anyone know anything about UTI's in pregnancy? I gave a sample at my booking appointment and TEN days later I got ask to give a repeat as there was some contamination. I did the repeat on Monday and got a phone call tonight saying they'd had the same result and that the guidelines say I need to take 3 days antibiotics and repeat sample after.

Now I'm worrying it's all taken so long that it could have affected baby, but I've not idea about any of this!

Hi everyone, after a successful scan two weeks ago dating me at 7w4d, I have started spotting again this evening. I can bring myself to call the 24hr number tonight but if it carries on until the morning I will call. I'm a bag of nerves and can't stop crying thinking this will all be over. Has anyone else had spotting and it's been ok?

@sian124 It's a nightmare isn't it! I'm dreading Christmas, everyone is all positive and such and I'm just a miserable mess who literally sleeps 90% of the time. I want to be happy that I'm pregnant but I'm so damn scared and feel miserable and poorly constantly, honestly my mental health has taken such a beating.

I had my first appointment with the midwife yesterday so that's something, and she told me I've got a high risk pregnancy and she's worried about blood clots since I'm lying down so much, just to add to the anxiety I'm now even more paranoid 😱 They said the first scan is usually around 12-13 weeks so 2-3 more weeks to go. No I'm not on progesterone. I don't blame you for being paranoid about taking tablets. I trust this midwife and she seemed fine with it since it's a slow release one I'm trying out now so it works better or something (?). Got no clue really, I'm just desperate 😅

Hope you're able to enjoy Christmas somehow x

Hey @Butterflies12 , I know of lots of people who have had spotting and been ok! Wishing you all the best, and sending a hug!

@Beapo, so sorry to hear you’re having such a rough time—it sounds awful! Wishing you some respite soon!

To everyone else who is worried or ill or just feeling miserable—sending much strength and love! Christmas can be brutal, and pregnancy is tough. Please take care of yourselves and know that you’re not alone 💗

Happy Christmas everyone.

Having one of those 'I don't feel pregnant' days today so I'm worrying 😫 Having a nice day all in all though. Hope everyone else is too xo

@rach971 how are you today?

I've had some normal discharge the whole time this pregnancy but today it was a light brown colour. Has anyone else had this? I've got my scan Friday but starting to feel a bit worried now ☹️

Hello,

I have posted on here before so hope you don’t mind my update and even more confusion…

I recently had a miscarriage at nearly 10 weeks in November. I had my op and tested negative with a strip test on the 7th December. Since, I thought I was pregnant again so had a blood test on the 9th December and my HCG level was 17 so had another blood test on the 14th and my HCG was 10, the doctor confirmed I wasn’t pregnant. Since, I’ve been showing more symptoms including very sore boobs. I did a home pregnancy test on the 22nd and used First Response 6 days early which showed a faint positive, since I’ve had 3 other tests with the same result. But, any other brand says negative. Am I pregnant?