June 2023 Babies ☀️ (thread two)

[firsttimelondonmummy]

Starting a new thread as other is full.

@firsttimelondonmummy thank you so much for replying, that's so encouraging! I have googled a bit too and it seems quiet common so I'm a little more hopeful know. The week wait is going to be looong though!!!

Is anyone else just overthinking and anxious, even when you’ve got no need to be?

I had a scan at 5+6 and saw the heartbeat, which eased my anxiety for a day and I felt really excited. Then I was back to the “but what if something goes wrong” again.

This is my first pregnancy so I’ve nothing to compare it to. My symptoms have remained consistent (except today where I was all dizzy, legs felt like jelly and I slept all day), I’ve (touch wood) had no cramping, no spotting, nothing… but I just can’t shake this anxious feeling of somethings going to go wrong.

I already want to book a 9 week scan for 2 weeks time, just to check everything is still ok.

The worrying is exhausting and I just wanted to check if I’m the only one? If anyone has any tips, please send them my way - and if anyone else is feeling this way, you’re not alone! ❤️

@TrulyMiss I have been told during private scans in this pregnancy that I likely have a tilted uterus. I don’t remember hearing that with my previous pregnancy which was successful and game me my DD. Like @firsttimelondonmummy said it’s still so early. Don’t be disheartened. From what I understand a tilted womb isn’t likely to cause problems, it just makes for more difficult scanning until baby gets big.

How are you doing @positivethoughts1 ? Thinking of you and hoping your scan today went well. 💐

@TrulyMiss no worries I believe it’s super super common so would try not to worry 😊❤️

@justbelieve every single day.
I booked scans a week apart.
£160 already just so I could see a heartbeat and slightly reassure myself.
Panic about what I’m eating constantly, about my lack of symptoms, about how much sleep I’m getting, about something going wrong.
You definitely aren’t the only one I promise ❤️
Also if a 9 week scan would make you feel better than book it!
I had one last Thursday I’m going to book one for the 17th and one for week 11 where I’ll also have NIPT testing done.
Do whatever you need to do to ease your anxiety! People keep reminding me stress isn’t good for me or my pregnancy and so that’s how I rationalise the cost of my scans is that they significantly help with the anxiety.

@CaliGirl47 Scan went well, baby has grown and the heart was beating at a good rate! Measuring 7+3... I think maybe either the scan on Saturday the heart had only just started beating or maybe the sonographer was overly cautious? I'll be thinking of you Thursday, your message meant the world to me and my inbox is open if you want to PM me xxx

@CaliGirl47 thank you too! It's all a bit of an emotional rollercoaster which isn't the best of you feel like an emotional wreck to begin with!!! Fingers crossed for everyone...

@justbelieve I just wanted to second @firsttimelondonmummy (Sorry this is so long!)

The anxiety has been the hardest part for me, I think. From almost the moment I found out until about 9 weeks or so, I was just waiting to miscarry, sure that it would happen. Every feeling in my stomach I took as a bad sign, every time I went for a wee I was convinced I’d be bleeding. Then once I had nausea from 6 weeks, I got really anxious if I didn’t feel sick, even thought it comes and goes. I panic about if my bath is too hot or if buying something out will give me food poisoning. It’s exhausting.

I’m 10 + 2 today and the anxiety has eased up a bit. The passing of time has been the biggest help but a few more practical things have helped too. The first one was breaking down the first few weeks into little milestones. I booked a scan at 7+3 so my focus was on getting to that. Then I was travelling back to the U.K. (after working away) at 8+6 so held onto that. Then it was getting to my booking appointment at 9+1, then another private scan at 9+4. Seeing the baby moving around so much at that scan settled me quite a bit and the sonographer said she thought my chance of miscarriage was now only about 0.5%. After that I bought a set of babygrows to make it feel a bit more real and try to focus on the hope rather than the fear.

I also used this website datayze.com/miscarriage-chart and wrote the decreasing % down in my diary and crossed each day off. You are so much more likely to have a healthy baby than you are a loss and every day the odds get better.

I let my midwife know I was struggling with anxiety which was affecting my mood and she has referred me. Her taking me seriously helped. I also reached out to a therapist I’d seen before and had a session about my thoughts and fears, which helped a bit.

I also tried to limit my scrolling of Instagram accounts focused on miscarriage because they weren’t helping.

I’m not sure if I am going to book a final private scan between now and my NHS one at 13+1. I can’t really afford it and I got so anxious before the last one I couldn’t work for 2 days but the previous ones have been really reassuring. My therapist said it was fine to book as many scans as I could afford/wanted.

It will get better and won’t last for ever (is what I keep telling myself!) but it’s horrible and I am thinking of you 💕💗

@AstroH reading this has made me really emotional but you speak so much sense. It does get easier as time goes on because risk decreases. I'm still in a tricky spot because my scan on Monday had me at 7 weeks so still very early. I thought I was 7 + 4 not that it matters a great deal as the dates never match with what you expect do they. I keep telling myself I just want to get to 10 weeks and then I think the anxiety will drop a bit. And the have as many scans as you want thing, I need to think like this because all I'm thinking now is, the clinics will think I am weird going every week so let's try and stretch to every 2 weeks but even a week is such a long time when every twinge or hour where there's no symptoms brings on this awful anxiety. My Husband although also anxious is more pragmatic and takes the view that if it isn't meant to be, it's because baby isn't strong enough this time and it isn't my fault and we can try again. You just feel more connected when it's your body don't you. I sometimes envy those who don't find out until they are more like 12 weeks as this is definitely the most difficult period.
Sending everyone lots of healthy baby dust 💓

Another one with mad anxiety here! I have a 2 year old and I was definitely somewhat anxious but I'm finding it so much worse this time around. I really struggle to think or care that much about other things because they seem insignificant in comparison!! I suppose all we can do is just keep going but I do find the support helps!

I am part of the anxiety party too! I’ve had bad nausea for the last week but the last 2 days it seems to have really eased and it’s made me feel so anxious. Im debating an early scan, but from others experience when is the best time to go? Im currently 6+5 x

It’s so good everyone is talking about it too. Feeling less alone it it makes a huge difference to me personally.
@AstroH the chart is a great tip and I’m glad your feeling more reassured as the days go by as you should be.
@BobbySD345 who cares what they think if it makes you feel better! I’ll have done 3 scans in 4 weeks. The improvement to my mental health is 100% worth it ❤️
@TrulyMiss agree! Having support is key!
@HalWin2221 I’d recommend 7 weeks! Going a bit earlier and not seeing the heartbeat was so stressful and I wish I’d waited that extra week looking back!
p.s my inbox is always open for anyone wanting to chat privately 💖

I would definitely wait a few days as I went at what I thought was 7 + 4 or 5 and they said I was just 7 with bean measuring 9.77mm. You'd have more chance of seeing the heartbeat at 7 plus weeks and I think anything less I personally would worry if I didn't see it.

I'd echo @BobbySD345 and @firsttimelondonmummy! I went yesterday at 6+4 and now need to wait and go back next week which is worse!!! I think 7+ or even closer to 8 is probably best but I know it's so hard to wait!

@firsttimelondonmummy @BobbySD345 @TrulyMiss thanks for your responses! I was thinking of going Sunday when I would be 7+2 but do you think that’s too early?

@HalWin2221 I got this image at what they said was 7 weeks and I saw the flickering heartbeat. My app suggests I was a few days further on than that but they measured bean 9.77mm which indicated 7 weeks. Hope this helps x

@TrulyMiss I have a backwards tilting uterus too. At my scan Monday at 9+3 they couldn't find baby on external. Internal scan. They just found it on internal one. They say it's hard to see because of the tilt. All fine though.

@BellaTheDarkOverlord I was similar - they couldn't see anything on the external scan and then the internal one they could see the sac and baby but couldn't get proper measurements as they were too small. I was positive yesterday, less so today. Thinks it's going to be a long week of ups and downs. I have loads of symptoms and no bleeding or anything but it's hard not to worry

@TrulyMiss I know, it's really hard not to worry all the time. I have my booking app in 30 minutes so I'll be taking all my notes from these scans to that. I feel like everytime I've gone for a scan they have found more and more complications. I never had this with DD who is 7. They didn't find any of this.

@BellaTheDarkOverlord ohhh good luck!! Hope all goes well and you find it reassuring!

Sorry for TMI ladies but have you had serious discharge recently?

I think this is quite normal in pregnancy. I'm sure I read somewhere once that it is your bodies natural defence from infections. Think only if it is an odd colour and/or bit smelly you should speak to the midwife about whether it is thrush. I can't comment this pregnancy as I am using the progesterone pessaries so I actually have to wear liners and imagine all that I get is from those. Super unpleasant but hopefully worth it x

@janie85 i had a lot of discharge the last couple of days! Eased off today but I read it was due to estrogen? X

Hey ladies, had my booking in appointment today I'm 8+1, I forgot how many questions you get asked. She said I would be under consultation team as my daughter was a low birth weight and I had to have iron infusions with her also so said I will get extra scans from 20 weeks. Seems more real now, although no real symptoms apart from sore boobs and constantly feeling full now, one mouthful and I'm stuffed and get super bloated. How's everyone else holding up?

6 weeks today, the AF like cramps have reduced lots which I’m glad about, they just come occasionally now and don’t last long. I’ve noticed now I have more of what feels like a pulling sensation in my lower stomach, has anyone else had this?

@Hopeful1992 I had a lot of period type cramps, stitch and pulling sensations around 6 weeks. Lots of things moving around and developing in there !