Due November 2022 Thread 4

[NotAdultingToday]

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2nd - @KDerbs @Kathno4
3rd - @Dontbeaneejit @SareBear87
4th - @Elle1709

5th - @readytoglowx
6th - @Bramblecrumble21
7th - @starflake
8th - @LittleJumpingBean
9th -@circe22 @TFMinx
10th - @ALittleBitofVitriol
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14th- @Grgs @roobearbaby
15th - @KatieP8
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18th - @NotAdultingToday @cocobeau @FishyBaby @bubbano2 @WandaVon @Ccatalina @Beanniebaby22
19th - @tb4122 @StrongUsernameHere @OtiMama

20th - @JanuaryBirthdays
21st -@GeorgieEm

22nd -@arianasky @smiles39
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24th - @CurlyNo2
25th - @sarahj878 @jordini
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28th - @greenerfingers
29th - @teddy2806
30th - @rickandmorts

Hopefully thats everyone? I will go back through the old thread later to check 😊

Congrats everyone that's had their baby 🥰! Can I just ask if towards the end of the pregnancy you felt quite low? I've been feeling really positive and chilled all pregnancy but now I'm 39 weeks I just feel really flat, a bit depressed and doubts are creeping in about my birth plan that I was previously so confident about. Just wondering if this is normal?

@rickandmorts sending you a big hug!
I never made it this far with my last pregnancy and I'm surprised at how much I'm struggling. I'm low because of the inability to do anything. I feel like I can't go anywhere alone or do basic bits around the house by myself, it's making me feel quite down. Not sure if that's the same as what you're feeling ❤️ I'm 39 + 2 xx

I'm 39+3 and I'm feeling exactly the same, had a super relaxed pregnancy and felt good up until a week or so ago and now i'm struggling quite a bit with feeling depressed, trying my hardest not to let it get to me but it's not easy.
Hopefully things are better for all of us soon🤞

Feeling the same @rickandmorts for the last 2 weeks. Just can't really feel happy at much at all and it's come out of nowhere. Just want to enjoy the last few days but really can't as I feel so low. Think I just want this baby out now. 39 weeks today. Was thinking to ask midwife for a sweep tomorrow but I doubt it'll do nothing other than mess with me mentally like my mucus plus has been.

Not feeling low as such but starting to get twitchy about pressure being put on me to start making overdue choices this week. I'm 40+2 based on dating scan, 40+0 from last period but based on cycle tracking I think I may not actually be 40w until Wednesday or Thursday this week. Doesn't feel like much difference but I feel like I'm on the clock now and that my midwife appointment on Wednesday will be about sweeps and induction discussions. Had a lot of braxton hicks yesterday and baby felt really low but nothing at all today. Happy in myself to stay pregnant until he's ready but fearing the external pressure will start to be put on now.

Hello everyone, baby is here!!!! He arrived at 7:55 this morning.

Thank you for the replies, you've made me feel better that it's not just me! Yeah I just feel tired and sore and it's boring being in the house. I'm still going out every day because I need to look after my animals but the weather is so shit and depressing and I just want baby here now 😭 just hard to stay positive and upbeat every day. I'm having a summer baby next time so I'm not sat in a cold house every day 🙈🤣

So relived it’s not just me feeling this way, but sorry to hear so many of us are feeling down. 40 weeks tomorrow and been feeling pretty low about everything. I’m not even that uncomfortable really, just desperate to meet my baby and frustrated at how nothing is happening yet

Congratulations @feistymumma ! Lovely news 💙

I wouldn't worry @tb4122. You just need to say no and they'll back off hopefully. With my first I had a lot of external pressure but they had to respect my decision and all was ok.

Agreed @rickandmorts I said the exact same thing to my husband about summer pregnancies in future. This is my 3rd winter delivery and hopefully second (living) baby

Congratulations to all the new mums since I last caught up on the thread! And hang in there those who are still to go, not long now ! 

@ALittleBitofVitriol - my scar sounds similar in many ways to what you describe. I have a pocket that overhangs where there is still a lot of swelling but this is slowly going down.

The hard and raised areas either end are likely where the knots are buried for the intradermal stitches if you didn't have staples. I also have a scratchy patch one side which I presume is where they have used a dab of tissue glue to close over at the end.

Definitely keep an eye on your temp though if you aren't feeling well! I saw another post some ladies are popping a sanitary towel on the inside of clothes to help keep the scar dry and stop it rubbing :)

Going a bit crazy here. I feel like there's no progress whatsoever happening here, no mucus plus loss at all, no uncomfortableness or aches, nothing!! I'm praying that he comes soon, it feels like this baby will just live in me forever at this point lol. Trying to be patient but time feels like it's dragging now.

Same here @curlywurly10 but it's still early days for us. Not long too much longer to go, we got this! Sending hugs

Congratulations @feistymumma ❤️

Hope everyone is doing ok and babies continue to arrive soon.

We finally came home late last night. Everything seems to be ok for now!

Trying my best to breastfeed for the first time (DC1 was bottle fed) and my god it’s so hard. My nipples are on fire as our latch isn’t right. He has tongue -tie so don’t know if that’s affecting the latch but I’m topping up with formula and that seems to be fine.

@CurlyNo2 thats good you got home. The breastfeeding thing is depressing me a bit. I’m pumping and giving it to him from the bottle. But makes me sad that he won’t take it directly from the breast 🙁

@curlywurly10 careful what you wish for.. my mucus plug started coming away at WEEK 37 😭😭. And absolutely nothing came from it. I'd lose some for two days then nothing for 3 then lose some then nothing. It's been constant mind games. My first was spontaneous with no signs and was mentally so much easier as I just waited till my due date like a normal person. This time I've been on edge everyday for the last 2 weeks.

@CurlyNo2 definitely get the tongue tie treated or you'll be in pain till baby grows out of it which can take weeks and weeks. Also use shields when you need a break as it becomes depressing dealing with the pain and you'll never heal.

@Beanniebaby22 if it's something you really want to do, please try speaking to an nct member online/phone. They offer video calls to help you and have people nearby too.

@CurlyNo2 I'm in the same boat. DS was formula fed and I was determined to breastfeed DD, however the pain, cracked nipples, soreness, constant pumping as she has an absolutely shit latch and that she never seems satisfied are making me think I'm going to have to either mix feed or switch completely. It's so disappointing to not be able to breastfeed as so many women make it look ridiculously easy and here I am struggling and actually dreading feeding my child

Congratulations @feistymumma!

Thanks for your reply @mjb0616. My temperature kept going up all afternoon and I ended up going back to the hospital. They said the scar looks like it's healing well. Possible UTI or possible caught infection early. Went home with antibiotics and dh is staying home a few extra days to force me to rest more. I feel alright, without the temperature I wouldn't have worried at all.

@tb4122 just to answer your question you just ask for birth Centre instead of labour ward and the midwife goes up there. All established labours require one to one midwife care, that is why they kept pushing back my induction.

Sorry for those feeling low and waiting for baby. It is tough. I spent 2 days in hospital before I finally got my induction properly under way. I was so tempted to just leave so many times!

My baby Felix arrived 2.20am on 20th November, 2 hours past his due date. Funnily enough his brother was born 20th October.

After my last post they didn't break my waters after they said they would as they become too busy for staff. I cried, I was so disappointed but then later that afternoon they did. There wasn't much water at all, hence the induction but also because of that it made no difference. So we moved to drip at 8pm. Contractions started and eventually they were able to turn the drip off as my body took over. Baby had issues with heart rate dips and I ended up in theatre prepping for c section. I was 7cm dilated when I left my room but when I got to theatre during the c section prep I was pushing, the consultant wanted to give me an episiotomy but I managed to have him naturally. They realised when he was born he was actually back to back. His whole body came out at once and I had no tears at all and minimal blood loss. None of us could believe it, even the consultant checked me 3 times as she was sure I would have. The process of having him was extremely distressing for us all but the result of the birth was positive and I've been feeling a lot better than with my first post birth despite his birth being more straight forward. I spent 4 hours post birth on a drip to contract my uterus (linked to blood loss with my first son) and then 2 hours later went home by 9am.

Last night was night 2 and tough, he just wanted to feed every hour and I am exhausted. this morning I was asleep on the sofa and my toddler was apparently jumping all over me, playing with toys etc. I had no idea! I forgot how tough having a newborn is particularly on the sleep front. My toddler isn't fussed about Felix, mainly ignores him!

Congratulations to those who have also had their baby, I will try and catch up properly soon x

Congratulations @OtiMama sounds like an eventful birth!

Baby blues are hitting me hard today, going to GP this afternoon.

Congratulations @OtiMama and thanks for answering my question.

@OtiMama wow! what a rollercoaster reading that, sounds very stressful but congrats on your baby boy🥹

@greenerfingers that's true, i don't think i could deal with that and constantly hoping for something to come of it for soooo long (on top of how long the end of pregnancy feels already). My mind is more at ease now knowing your first came spontaneously with no signs. I think i'm focusing too much on how it's happening for others, which isn't a good idea as it's a unique experience for everyone.

@ALittleBitofVitriol is the scar hot to touch? I havent noticed mine being swollen but its taken me until this week to look at it, i felt if acknowledged it it might start hurting 😂
The scar is kind of hard and a bit raised, thats normal (or how mine was)

@rickandmorts i felt low and very ragey towards the end of both of mine i think it is fairly normal?

@dreamcatchmee i felt like that too, and just felt very vulnerable every time i went out which is crazy as i never felt like that other than when im pregnant

@feistymumma and @OtiMama congratulations! 😊

@Beanniebaby22 im sorry to hear that, were the doctors able to help?

Dh went back to work today, so far so good i got a few bits done picked up ds1 and cooked and eaten dinner while ds2 has slept. Just got to some how manage bedtime with both of them as dh is working late!

I.am.so.tired! Ds2 apparently doesnt believe in sleeping properly at night and is a very nosy sleeper!
He also is going through a stage of crying/waking up every time you put him down (which i vaguely remember his brother doing the same thing!) which does not help my plans for napping when he sleeps! (Though he has slept for a solid 3 hours now and we have left the house and hes not even stirred!!) typical when its when i need to do stuff and cant nap
So i have just been watching tv with him on my chest and making the most of snuggles and riding it out
Is it bad i havent been out much? (Just to pick up ds and go to the shops). I just cba, its cold and wet and im tired and want to be close to sofa/bed to nap 😂

@NotAdultingToday noooo don't go out if you don't feel up to it, it's so rainy and miserable at the moment. Enjoy those cuddles and tv time! Hope you're doing well!