Babies due April 2023 Thread 6

[Skylark1990]

Just starting a new thread for everyone 💕💙

Sorry everyone, but I really need to vent and don't want to talk about this to anyone in real life.

After a stressful day at school yesterday (another teacher here), I came home and starting throwing up. This has bee happening before, but I've been eating before 5pm in an attempt to curb it, which worked some days and not others. Yesterday, threw up practically nothing because I hadn't eaten yet, then after eating I was sick again a few hours later.

This morning, I couldn't keep anything down. Literally had a small glass of water with my medication this morning, and was then sick multiple times at school before the kids arrived. Got sent home to see if sleep helped. It did not. Around 3pm, had a couple of slices of toast and a little water, which I did not manage to keep down.

Aside from this being really demoralising after the last month of pregnancy issues (now 13w5d), it's the reaction from school that's made me really upset. My class includes a few challenging students and they've been awful already this week, even with me there. Today, I got sent home - I was going to ride it out but was actually sent home! This evening, I was told not to come in tomorrow, but that what I had left ready "wasn't detailed enough" and that the class had been awful because the supply couldn't teach from it effectively. Even though the head knows they've been dreadful regardless.

And then, at the end of the call, she said that we need to think "long term" about what's going to happen if I'm not well.

I mean, I know she can't and wouldn't try to get rid of me, but j just feel so useless and worthless and the whole conversation has really upset me.

@Springblooms08 I think the pregnancy plus measurements are the size the baby would be at the end of the week in question rather than the start of it, so almost the following weeks measurements if that makes sense

@Cuppasoupmonster yay scan date! The midwife at my scan last week said I won't get the letter for my 20 week one until about the week before 🤦🏼‍♀️ nothing like a good bit of notice!

We've got some girl and boy names left from last time, but my favourite girls name which was our close second for DD has since been used by a friend which was a little disappointing. If the nub theory is right though this one is a boy so won't matter anyway ☺️

@simplythequest ah so sorry you've had such a rubbish day both with the sickness and also works reaction. Really unfair of your school to blame your lesson for the behaviour of the class - surely the whole point of a supply teacher is filling in short notice absence in which case why would you have a more detailed plan / class info intended for someone other than yourself to follow?

Hey guys, I'm a bit worried so hoping others may have experienced this and be able to reassure me - today I felt quite sick, worse than I have for a week. Around 4pm I threw up so violently it has burst blood vessels all over my face. My skin is mottled still, nearly 4 hours later. I look like I have red-purple freckles and blotches all over 😩 I'm really scared this is going to be permanent? Tell me it goes away? It was the most intense vomit I've done all pregnancy and didn't help that I obviously didn't have enough water in my stomach and basically only had apple in there so it was horrible consistency too (sorry tmi!).
I still have a small burst blood vessel in one of my eyes from throwing up when pregnant with DD, but that's barely noticeable and this is literally like a mask. I never wear foundation but if this stays I'll have to 😔 I'm assuming it will heal... Anyone also had this happen? X

Oh @Skylark1990 💐 I haven’t had that but hoping someone else can reassure, maybe the hypermesis thread might be worth asking. I too am having a worse day than I have for a while, I really sympathise - it makes your body feel under such strain at a time you want to feel healthy and glowing! Sending hugs xx

Oh @Skylark1990 that sounds so awful, I’m sure it must be temporary or we’d see lots of ladies walk round with this I’m sure, but I don’t have any experience of it. Really hope it goes quickly for you.

@simplythequest What a really shit response from your school, I’d love to say I’m surprised but as an ex-teacher I’m not, just speaks of the toxic culture in so many schools (not all of course!!). At the end of the day your baby is your priority and they’ll just have to sort things out, I know that doesn’t help when they’re making you feel shitty though.

@Tropicana1 i also haven’t received my 20 week scan yet so assume it will be very short notice too 😅.

I’m a bit worried about that scan too due to my DS and E+P screening results but keeping my fingers crossed.

knitted dresses look so nice on pregnant women looking forward to getting some. But when did you all start to get a bump with your first? I’m 15 weeks but still feel I just look fat 😂

Hi @simplythequest, teacher here. Really sorry to hear how your school have been. They're lucky that you even went in despite what you're going through. Your head can't do anything and I echo what @Tropicana1 and @AliceinSlumberland said. Your priority is you and your baby, and it was insensitive for your head to say what she did. Are you part of a teaching union? NEU website have some fantastic information regarding taking time off when pregnant so legally your head cannot do anything. Respect to you for going in despite feeling so unwell. I hope you feel better and I hope it doesn't dampen your evening as in the end we don't live to work, we work to live and right now your little one is your priority.

@Skylark1990 I've had the exact same red marks on my face when I've thrown up during food poisoning. They went away within a day and I've had it happen many times when I've been ill. Hope you feel better.

Thank you @Cuppasoupmonster @AliceinSlumberland @Tubbytele it's really nice to have your support and I'm glad to hear they went away quickly when you had this @Tubbytele ! ❤️❤️❤️

@simplythequest really sorry to read of your rough day and the reaction from your work. They shouldn't be blaming you for not prepping how were you supposed to prep when feeling so sick?! Even though she said it very insensitively, hopefully your boss was just meaning that if you do continue to feel bad they'll need to think of an arrangement that supports you and also ensures there is cover at the school. As you know there is no way they could fire you. And I'm sure they don't want to. Please don't feel useless, your body is doing an absolutely huge thing right now, feeling sick is rotten and we just need to put ourselves and baby first in these situations. I'd consider saying something though especially if she is rude / insensitive again... They need to be treating you with respect and kindness x

@simplythequest ex teacher too and sorry to hear your head's reaction, echo what others have said. If you are off sick, you should not be expected to work, preparing things at home is just working from home. They've seen how unwell you are. Pupils always play up for supply and personally I would find it harder to follow a super detailed plan because there is too much to read and wrap your head around in a short space of time. I know how hard it is not to dwell on the interaction with the head though and feel guilty and worried 😕 Baby first, you are indispensable to you family, but staff can always be replaced x

Thanks @Tropicana1 @AliceinSlumberland @Tubbytele @Skylark1990 and @MamaMenna

I know she can't do anything, and with my rational head on, she isn't really blaming me. Things are tough at school for so many people right now, and she is struggling with the rest of us, truthfully. I think she probably just can't know how it came across - plus, pregnancy seems to equal hyperemotional too 😁

I'll be speaking to the doctor tomorrow about things - I literally can't even take a sip of water and it's been over 24 hours so not just one of those bugs. After weeks of struggling to eat and drink well with indigestion/reflux and the associated issues, this seems like another step in the wrong direction. I know I need to look after me and the little one. And deep down, I know so many other people would tell me the same thing. But, as those of you who are teachers will understand, it's hard to extricate yourself from the job sometimes!

I’m team girl all the way! 💁🏻‍♀️

@Skylark1990 i hope you are better today girl.

@simplythequest sorry to hear about your work challenges, I find it so odd when you are in your line of work that’s that the attitude.

Great advice a @Tubbytele , @simplythequest We can come and Bop them on the nose. Baby first, work second. Xx

@Pommy1 ❤

@Skylark1990 sorry you’re having a rough time with a sickness :/

My partner gets burst blood vessels if he’s ever sick, and even bruising and black eyes. The burst vessels always clear up within a few days.

Someone shared a link which showed the average risk scores for the trisomy’s by age and I’m trying to find it but can’t. If anyone has it please may they share again? Thank you!

@Skylark1990 it’s fine, I have loads from my vomiting. They’re just tiny bruises. They’ll fade quickly.

Morning ladies, hit 12 weeks and thought the worst of it was over….. until ive started bleeding again today!

Phoned EPU who are going to triage me as this is the third bleed in 12 weeks and they have some concerns my blood group may be negative (i have no idea haha).. the staff nurse was lovely who answered the phone but said my headache could be a sign of something more sinister as it can happen when hormone levels drop 🤦🏼‍♀️ she did also say that it can be normal but obviously ive focused on the worst!

EPU might be able to get me in at some point today, but they might not either so if they can’t fit me in i will be booking another scan private to make sure all is ok in there 🤞🏻

@LauraA31 how scary for you. I really hope everything is ok and you’re seen quickly x

@LauraA31 fingers crossed all is ok for you and that you can get seen today!

@LauraA31 Fingers crossed for you 🤞

@LauraA31 lets us know how you are later. It’s best to get checked out - your body is doing a lot of things right now!

Sending glitter on the wind for you xx

H&M sale came in today and there are quite a lot of maternity items included. Leggings x 3 for £15! I’m still in regular clothes at the moment but I got some anyway. ☺️