Babies due April 2023 Thread 6

[Skylark1990]

Just starting a new thread for everyone 💕💙

Hey guys. I’ve been so nervous to post a message in this thread but I’ve been reading along. Had my 12 week scan today and they said I’m exactly 12 weeks so EDD is 24th April 2023. My first baby and I’m so excited for the journey ahead. I’ve got it into my head the baby is going to be a boy. Anyone got an opinion based on my scan picture below 🥺

Beautiful scan photos 🥰

@Skylark1990 absolutely that's 100% why I ended up with a c section my body was just totally not ready for things at all!

@limoncelloo so I paid £8 for an online nub analysis yesterday 🤣 and it's come back as a boy with 90% confidence! Bet it ends up being a girl now 🤣 haha here's what they said if anyones interested to learn more nub theory

Ladies I’m torn, what would you do. As I mentioned I couldn’t get the nuchal fold measurement done so they can’t do the screening tests. They’ve offered tbe QUAD test at 16 weeks but that only tests for downs and is less accurate. I can get the NIPT done locally for £500 or further afield for £400, should I go for it for peace of mind? It’s just such a lot of money but equally I worry about not knowing it’s edwards for example until 20 weeks and then facing that awful outcome then.

I know it's been mentioned briefly here before but has anyone had to have an internal scan of their cervix in this pregnancy or previous pregnancy? I have an appt next week, I'll be 15 weeks pregnant. The hospital didn't send me any letter or info just uploaded the appointment onto the app. Phoned midwife who didn't tell me much so don't know what to expect/how to prepare/how long it'll take so feeling a bit anxious about it x

@AliceinSlumberland did the NHS not offer to rescan? One of my friends had this and they invited her back as baby was wriggling around too much to get it x

@AliceinSlumberland tough one because it's a lot of money, but I think comes down to how much reassurance you would like and what decision you would make if you did find out the baby had Down's syndrome or another chromosomal abnormality.
Can you get a re-scan to check on a different day?

No sadly can’t have a rescan, I think basically because I’m already 13 weeks 1 day there just wouldn’t be time to get it done in time.

To be honest it’s more Edwards’s and Plateu I’m worried about than downs. Downs we’d continue the pregnancy but the other two are pretty much incompatible with life and I’d want to end the pregnancy now.

@AliceinSlumberland I would pay for the tests if that's the case. I would be the same. It'll give you peace of mind if anything x

If you would continue a downs pregnancy then I wouldn’t get the NIPT for that price, it’s a large sum of money. Edwards and pataus are generally very visible and detected at the 12 week scan (this is what the sonographer said when scanning DD). It tends to be downs that goes unnoticed. So if I were you I would hang on for the 20 week scan. Otherwise you can book a private fetal well-being scan to take a thorough look at the baby which would be cheaper than NIPT but may offer some reassurance.

Ladies who have had NIPT how long does it take to get the results back? Having the test on Saturday, would I get them back before the following weekend do you think?

Honestly my 12 weeks scan was so unclear I wouldn’t be convinced it would pick anything up.

Ive booked it, I go tomorrow to do the blood. It’s a lot of money but honestly I think I’ll feel so much better for it.

@Cuppasoupmonster mine came back in 6 days, I was told it should take 5 but mine was delayed

It’s worth it for peace of mind Alice. My odds for downs came back at 1 in 2300 so low chance, but the nuchal is again quite high (same in my last pregnancy) as is HCG (probably explains why I’ve had HG!) so I don’t want to be further ‘symptom spotting’ in my scans. And I will have extra scans for various reasons.

I just wish they offered it on the NHS for a more reasonable price! £400 is a huge amount of money especially in the current climate.

Thanks Longbin! How are you feeling?

@AliceinSlumberland I would have done the same thing. Even if you'd keep a downs pregnancy I think it's good to know as early as possible so you can prepare.
I went back for a rescan because they couldn't get the measurement the first time, and the baby was still being uncooperative. The sonographer said she'd try one more time and if she couldn't get a measurement then I'd have to have the quad test, so I said I'd get the NIPT. But luckily we managed to get baby to move slightly and she got a reasonable measurement. I might still get the NIPT depending on how the results come back.

I'm not sure if I'd continue a downs pregnancy, it's such a hard decision.

Yes it’s a very personal and difficult decision. I didn’t have the NIPT with DD but now she’s here I feel I have to make decisions for the good of the family as well as what I feel I can cope with, and DD’s interests are the paramount ones.

I absolutely agree @Cuppasoupmonster thats is different when there’s other siblings to consider too.

Thanks all you’ve really reassured me and made me feel better about it all.

@Cuppasoupmonster I feel like I'm basically back to normal at the moment and just a little bit tired. Of course I'm now worrying about lack of symptoms! How have you been?

Same @Cuppasoupmonster that's why I'm more worried about the testing this time around. Although I don't suppose I know how I'd really feel until I was confronted with having to make a decision.

I'm glad people are starting to feel less sick now! I have good days and bad days, today has been rubbish. I threw up earlier just thinking about food smells! I'm hopeful I'll have more good days than bad soon and then it'll disappear completely.

Is anyone else still absolutely shattered?

I'm having an iron transfusion tomorrow and I can't bloody wait!

I'm still feeling knackered @KennAdams and still feeling horrific as well. Everyone at work knows I'm pregnant now and they keep saying "oh, don't worry, it'll get better!" I'm finding it hard to stop myself screaming "WHEN?" in their faces 😅

I’m so tired, and up so many times in the night to wee!! I’ve had a huge adrenalin crash after my scan today too which hasn’t helped!

Glad to hear you’re feeling better @Longbin

I’ve definitely turned a corner and haven’t been sick now since Saturday morning. My eating habits are pretty much back to normal, I just feel a little ‘rough’ and the nausea comes back fleetingly at dinner time. I’m still taking the sickness meds but struggling with the sedative aspect, I’m honestly so groggy, but too scared to come off them!

@ancienthouse im more worried this time too. First time round it was a case of I felt able to cope with whatever the baby needed, but the last few years have been taxing on my MH - a pandemic baby, her ENDLESS nursery illness and the resulting time off work for PCRs, the cost of living has also meant we’ve had to tighten our belts and look at downsizing. Plus the obvious needs of DD - this will be our last baby so if it had Downs for instance, there isn’t the possibility of more kids as a ‘wider’ support network in future if that makes sense. Of course there’s a risk with any child, but I think it’s different between accepting that chance and knowing it’ll definitely happen if that makes sense? It’s sobering to discuss but important I think as it helps me to get my thoughts straight!

Eitherway you just deal with whatever life throws at you, but I like to control the things that I can.

Just had a frustrating ‘chat’ with DH in the kitchen. Somebody (probably me) left a nappy in DD’s washing basket and it went through the wash. No harm done, it was intact and hadn’t come apart. Cue DH swearing, throwing the nappy at the bin, all sorts of theatrics. His patience just seems to be so low these days and nothing seems too small for him to get worked up over it. He was a very chilled out and happy person until bloody covid 😢

*there was no poo in the nappy and hardly any wee I should point out! DD just wears them overnight and they’re usually dry in the morning.