Babies due April 2023 Thread 6

[Skylark1990]

Just starting a new thread for everyone 💕💙

Let me know your theories! X

Does anyone else have tenderness above their bikini line? Presumably where the uterus is moving up. Mine feels really tender when I touch it. It's not my c section scar because it's a bit above that.

Glad your scan went well @SavedByGraceAlone it must have been such a relief.

congrats on the scans everyone, they are lovely!

Those who have had your scans, have you received your 20 week scan appointment already?

@Chocolat yes I got mine at my 12 week scan

No, I got my 16 week appointment date but not the 20 week one! I imagine it’ll be end of November, they seem to run a bit late.

@MrsC2018 I feel like this is a wake up call for me too, a diet of hula hoops and general savoury junk was never going to be sustainable 🤣

@SavedByGraceAlone congrats on your scan! 🥰

Thanks for the guess. I was 12+4.

@SavedByGraceAlone wonderful news! Congratulations!

@Chocolat no, not received mine yet. I do have my 16 and 25 week appointment dates though.

@Chocolat yes I got my appointment yesterday after my scan.

@bluebubbles12 yes that's me

Everyone has said girl I can't even tell 😂

@SavedByGraceAlone so glad your scan went well!

The consultant we saw was lovely and has referred me for an iron IV infusion next week. I can't wait!

Ooh ok thanks everyone seems some people got their scan at the 12 week scan and some didn’t.

I got my oral glucose tolerance test and 28 week bloods booked at my 12 week scan and was told my 20 week scan date would just appear on Badger..

Hi ladies! I really don't know where else to post or who else to talk to so I thought I'd just write it here and let you all tell me if I simply need to let it go.. I just want to preface this by saying that I KNOW it is not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things but I'm feeling very agitated as of now and I just need some feedback if that's okay... I'm happy to put this somewhere else if this isn't the correct place for this.

I had the NIPT last week when I saw my Dr. because my husband and I wanted to be as informed as possible (we're older) when it comes to our chances of having a pregnancy with a congenital defect. I have been waiting a week for the results and I got a call today (just now) to have the results read to me... After I verified my name and DOB I was told that we are low risk (it's not a diagnostic test, only tells I there is a need for further invasive testing) which is fantastic because I can admit I did have some worry, and before I could ask any questions about the tests and what next steps are (if any) the nurse goes on to add, "Before you ask, it's a __." I asked her to repeat herself and she explained what was and was not present in my bloodwork (the lay process for how the gender is typed with this test... I guess she thought I wanted her to break it down for me???

I am fg livid! I think I'm pd but now I'm getting sad... I specifically checked the box detailing that I did NOT want the gender typed/read when getting the results!!!
I had only just come to terms with not finding out (my husband has his heart set on a delivery surprise...) He works from home so is here and downstairs and now I don't know what to do... I am so mad I could f**g cry!!!!!

I hung up the phone and the clinic called back thinking we'd been disconnected and I told her we were not finding out the results of the gender and she put me on hold to have a look I guess then came back and apologized but I am still so f***g ANGRY! Im waiting for the hospital's ombudsman to call me because I was raging at the headnurse, but I don't know what else to do right now.
I KNOW a healthy baby is the most important thing but right now I'm so shocked and panicked I don't know what to do.. Maybe I'll feel different after I've calmed down but I just don't know what to think right now!!!
Sorry if this doesn't make sense!!!

🤦 I used asterisks in my swearing and it seems to have jumbled my words but you ladies hopefully understand what I am saying... A few f words and p words....

Oh that’s so annoying, I’ve seen a few posts about spoiled gender surprises and it must feel very unceremonious just having it blurted out like that! I would definitely send a shitty email to say please make sure people want to know in future. BUT your baby will be a huge surprise no matter what - their face, their smile, the colour of their eyes, whether or not they have hair, their weight.. etc! Try to hang on to that although I feel annoyed for you!

@Releasethehoundss sorry you've had to go through the shock of finding out like that, really unprofessional of them

Oh no @Releasethehoundss I'm so so sorry! I totally understand why you are so angry, bless you! Did the nurse admit that you had ticked the box not to know and it was her error?

Wow, thanks ladies for fast replies. I wasn't expecting them. Was just venting really. I know I'm overreacting (I think?) But I'm so angry I can't help it... The nurse DID say she could see it after i told her - there are literally two lines... One says 'I want to have the gender identified/reported back to mean' the other says 'I do NOT want such and such...' - it's not even like It's squashed into a paragraph or anything, it's very well organized, don't know how she overlooked it!.. I just don't know what to think... My husband is in a meeting and so idk what to do.. Or if I should even talk to him... I know I need to but I'm starting to realize that I'm more angry on his behalf and how disappointed he will be but you are correct @Cuppasoupmonster a lovely warm baby is a surprise either way.

That's a real shame, I can understand that you are shocked, but...

Hospital Ombudsman... really??

They might be busy with all the issues where someone has come to actual harm or died.

Perspective is needed here.

Congratulations on your healthy pregnancy.

@crowbargurl i KNOW I'm being unreasonable, and I really need people to tell me to just calm down because I KNOW it's not the end of all... And it was the nurse who made the mistake who said she'd send my info to the ombudsman, which, being a military treatment facility, there's really a snowball's chance in hell of getting a call back from one, unless like you said there was something actually life threatening that needed tended to... I think she just kind of panicked and didn't know what else to do/say when she said she's gona have the ombudsman get back to me because it was literally the first thing out of her mouth... At MTF's the ombudsman is literally the first person they shuffle the unsatisfied people off onto...

I would try to turn this to your advantage now as you can’t put the toothpaste back in the tube.

I would make a gender reveal surprise for your hubby - I wouldn’t tell him as part of an ‘unprofessional nurse’ story. When he finds out, then explain you had no choice but to tell him because of X and Y. But at least the surprise will be nicely done. If that makes sense.

@Releasethehoundss it must be really frustrating but you're right, it's not the end of the world. You can still keep the surprise for your husband if you think you can.

I didn't find out the sex in my last pregnancy but I took the view that it wasn't a secret to be kept at all costs - sometimes sonographers slip up or it might be obvious in a scan or something. Luckily I didn't have many scans so it was a surprise but I wouldn't have been upset if I'd found out accidentally.

This time I will need more scans than last time and I might also get the NIPT so even if I wanted a surprise I know there would be a chance I'd find out anyway.

Does it help if you think of it like this - it's just one fact about the baby. It doesn't tell you what the baby will be like. There are others you also find out in pregnancy like a rough idea of size, any medical problems, when they might be born. There are others you can only find out at birth - the colour of their eyes, if they have hair, the little sounds they make, the shape of their nose, if they have little fuzzy ears. I was struck by those things much more than their genitals when my first was born. Lots of surprises await you 😊

@ancienthouse and @Cuppasoupmonster and @crowbargurl and all the other lafies who gave great advice, I know you are all right and I am calming down now. I think I do like your idea @Cuppasoupmonster I might try that and see how it feels, but I know i can't NOT tell him, I have a long way to go still and we haven't ever kept anything from one another so I need to do it fast so I can tell him soon. @ancienthouse that does help, and I think another lady pointed that out earlier when I was fuming and typing so fast I couldn't really help myself complaining. I do know that it took us a long time to get to this stage where we even HAVE a viable pregnancy and that's what I keep telling myself that is the most important part... I'm gona talk to him tonight if I can't figure out a 'fun' way to break the news to him... I'm feeling much more calm so that's good.

All those typos with these fat fingers 🤦

Hi. First post here. Im due 9th April i Had my 12 week scan today, thankfully everything was fine and measured 13 weeks 4 days, 4 days ahead of what i thought i would be. Anyone want to have a guess on whether it could be a boy or girl?

Don’t beat yourself up, it must’ve been a shock! Imagine, months ago, if somebody had told you you would have a lovely healthy baby but the only fly in the ointment would be a nurse slipping the gender by accident - I’m sure you wouldve focussed on the first bit! Good luck however you decide to tell your DH.

Hi Lisa! That’s a baby boy I think 💙 great photo!