Navigating pregnancy after loss thread 5!

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Probably time for a new thread - forgive me if I forget anyone...

@Annny27 @arianasky @B1993 @Bridgey8 @calimc83 @chasingtherainbow1 @Elspethelf @flowergarden16 @IWillBeWaxingAnOwl @Mrs173 @Prayingformyrainbow93 @Skl2021 @Srx1 @sunnyd67

Congratulations @mrshodgy21 🎉 hope you and baby are doing well such a fast labour amazing 💕

Amazing @mrshodgy21 ❤️ huge congrats xx

Congratulations @mrshodgy21 💙

Can’t believe we’re all in these final stages preparing for baby’s arrival! Hope everyone is doing well, who’s next??? Xx

@Shefliesonherownwings good luck today ♥️ were all behind you for support x

@mrshodgy21 huge congratulations 🎉 lovely! Are u home from hospital? @Skl2021 so my first I had forceps and a 3rd degree tear, 2nd was a fast birth and another 3rd degree tear. The risk increases every birth you have. I really don't want any ongoing issues..so that's why I'm thinking c section xx

@calimc83 Ah I didn't know that. How did u recover from them? Obviously u don't want any ongoing issues but c section recovery can be hard and u have little ones to look after aswell. It's a hard one as u don't know how your body is with a c section. I can't offer much advise I'm afraid 🙈 xx

@mrshodgy21 huge congratulations, I hope you are both doing well xx
@Shefliesonherownwings I hope your scan goes well!

I'm 37+5 today, I have my birth plan/midwife app today. I've been having some weird pains down below 😂 it feels like stabbing in and around my vagina, sorry tmi. Could it mean baby is getting ready? No braxton hicks yet...

@sunnyd67 I am 36+3 and also get some weird pain/pressure down below when I go for a wee? Not everytime though (tmi) - I wondered whether it’s baby making their way further down? I have been having braxton hicks (I think) for a little while too. Got midwife this morning so going to mention it xx

@Prayingformyrainbow93 it mostly happens when I'm moving around, I was wondering that too as the baby feels very low down at the moment.

@sunnyd67 @Prayingformyrainbow93 I'm 36+5 and I've been feeling occasional pressure/period pain on/off in my lower abdomen, also have some during night when i go for a wee, midwife said it's common at this stage as baby pressing down, mine is apparently quite low in my pelvis.

The last few days I sometimes have period like light pain in my stomach during the day too and it goes away after a while,I have been wondering if my body is getting ready! 😬 Also had a bit more discharge (sorry for TMI) and I think I read somewhere that is also a sign of preparation.

Not sure about Braxton Hicks though, never completely sure if I recognise them or if it is the baby!

I finish work this Friday and hoping I'll have some time to get in the right mindset before everything kicks off 😄 finally got my bags ready!

Hope your scan went well this morning @Shefliesonherownwings.

@sunnyd67 I'm 37+4 and get stabbing pains in my vagina and sometimes my bum too!! 🤣 Had a midwife appointment this morning and he's still only 2/5ths engaged so he's not sitting right on my cervix at the moment. Think it must be gravity and baby laying on a nerve sometimes!

@Skl2021 how are you getting on?

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@Cruz86 I'm sleep deprived 🙈 forgot how hard newborns and no sleep are. He doesn't like sleep at night at the moment and then getting the other 2 ready for school and clubs etc 🤦 it's just alot trying to get into a routine and fit everything in. How are you xx

Oh don't @Skl2021, sleep deprivation is the worst isn't it! Not looking forward to it either 😩 How is it trying to juggle all the children? I'm good thank you! Apart from being borderline anaemic, I've not been suffering much at all. Still getting fed up of course though 😂 xx

Congratulations @mrshodgy21 and little Kian!

Hi all, thanks for the messages. All fine here, baby looked good and measuring 9+4, so bang on track. Strong heartbeat and saw bubba moving around too. Such a relief!

@Shefliesonherownwings Hooray! That's lovely to hear! And not too long to wait until the 12 week scan.

@Cruz86 personally I'm finding it harder going from 2-3. I don't know if it's because my two are older and we have school and alot of clubs and things we need to get too. Were as when I had my second my eldest was only 2 so we didn't have school runs and we could just do what we like with our day there was no rushing. Or maybe it's because I'm alot older 🤦🙈 max likes to be awake at the start of the night and then sleep when its time to get up for school so it's not like I can sleep then 🙈 I'm sure things will get easier as time gets on it's just alot at the moment remembering everything! It's half term here next week so that will be interesting 🤣 oh no bet u feel crappy then? Have u been given anything for it? Haha I was fed up for the whole 3rd trimester 🤣🙈 x

@Shefliesonherownwings fantastic news 🙌♥️ x

@Shefliesonherownwings wonderful that you got to see the wee one moving around with a strong heartbeat. The 12 week scan will be here before you know it xx

Thanks guys, am feeling so relieved as I’d convinced myself it was bad news and being on my own was hard as I was on my own when they told me our DD had died so it was quite triggering. Thankfully the doctor was really thorough and talked through everything. It was worth the 1 hour I had to wait lol.

So.. I was referred for a growth scan due to excessive fundal height growth. I went for a scan and baby is measuring 7lb14oz (3576g), I am 38 weeks. Now they are worried if I am going to be able to push him out as I am only 5ft3. They don't want me to go over my due date, they booked me in for an app with consonant - nearly a week after my due date 🙄 as if that makes sense. I'm clueless, they were talking about induction, that's my birth plan out of the window 😂 Can anyone recommend how to get this baby out before it comes to being induced? Any other advice?

I’ve got a growth scan tomorrow @sunnyd67 (third one) baby went 3.7lb (32weeks) to 6lb (35 weeks) - the consultant said to me that if the growth continues then they’d look to induce/section, but I also feel like if baby doesn’t grow enough they’ll also say this tomorrow too??
So you have to wait 3 weeks for another apt? I think that is ridiculous! Especially is f baby is almost 8lb now? Have you had any other growth scans or is this your first? X

@Prayingformyrainbow93 this was my first growth scan with Maternity unit, I had a private one at 33 weeks and showed the report to midwife, she didn't seem to be concerned then as my fundal height was on the 50th percentile. I have a midwife app on the 1st which is two days before my due date, but still two weeks away. I really don't wish to be induce, I will do it if I have to to keep the baby safe, but obviously prefer to go natural, indication just comes with so many possible complications, it seems that c section might be better, knowing it might end up that way anyway with the induction..

I had a list of questions for just in case they tried to offer me induction. Having had previous section, was worried about it. In the event, not needed, but here is the list:

Why do you feel I need to be induced?
Am I or my baby in imminent danger?
Specific benefits of induction in my case?
And the risks?
What percentage of women in this hospital who are induced go on to have caesarean or instrumental delivery?
What kind of monitoring? And how can you adapt it so I can move around?
Choices of induction?
Alternatives?
Can I have a think about it for a couple of days?

Scans are only so accurate. Just looked at my notes: she was scanned at 38+5 weighing 3378g. Born at 39+6, weight 3280g. My SIL was induced for apparently massive baby - was totally normal weight, just tall. Another friend told she should have a section as the baby was measuring huge - totally normal size.

If you have time to read a book, I found the positive birth book really helpful, or there are online YouTube videos about birth. Most useful thing I found was about having calm surroundings - easier said than done sometimes, I know - so that the oxytocin kicks in. Dark, nice music, nice smells. Somewhere you feel safe.

If you don't want induction, they cannot make you have it. But I get how scary it is to be told you're expecting a whopper, so you might want to give it a go for that reason.

Also, how useless is your consultant appointment? They don't want you to go over, but no earlier appointments? Wtf?

Morning ladies, just to let you know we had a little boy yesterday morning. Roman Miles 💙

Roman was 7lb 11oz and 52cm long so not quite the tiny baby we were having bi-weekly scans for 😅 Both doing really well xxx

@speake1 congratulations that's amazing news 🎉 I love his name 😍 I hope you're both feeling well xx