Pregnancy after Miscarriage - Welcome to Knicker Checkers Anonymous II

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And so we continue...

lackaDAISYcal little prawn will be fine I am sure it's you it will be taking it out of. Just make sure you keep drinking pleanty and eat when you feel better.

I did ask what flavour I might be having but someone was not cooperating LOL Part of me so wanted to know because I felt I needed to prepare my self if this was a girl again but seeing 4 clear chambers in the heart and vessels leading off, no sign of spina bifida, bladder and kidneys fine, no indicators of downs, diaphragm in place and intact, placenta in good position cord working well, guts all in right place, could even count fingers and toes some how today it was reassuring. Being able to interpret scans somtimes comes in useful

ZamMummy I am on Facebook too somewhere

Are you EB? Was it me??? On facebook as KI (London), friends with quite a few mnetters

Hi everyone, I'm new here! I am currently 6+1 pregnant with baby number 3. I had a missed miscarriage between my 2 ds's. We found at at 9 1/2 weeks that the baby didn't develop past 5 weeks but the sac was the right size, hence why I still had some symptoms. It makes it very hard to relax into this pregnancy even though I have had a baby since then (born with birth defects, a whole other kettle of fish and a whole new set of worries!).

So far, so good for me. I know that there is little point really worrying myself into a tizz as what will be will be, but it is nice (and sad) to know that there are so many of us in the same boat.

hi heartmum, glad you found us here I had 2 mcs between my DS and DD and this thread was an absolute life-line for me. I think friends and family in RL see you with a growing bump and assume all is well; even if it is physically, no-one can understand the stress and anguish of the constant "what if?" that we all ask ourselves on a daily basis. Even my lovely, kind and understanding DH has a hard time getting to grips with me being upbeat one minute and then very worried the next.

It is a real roller coaster ride for women who have had problems in the past, and it so good to be able to share those worries and angst over any twinge with like minded women.

Healthy and Well thoughts to all.

my tummy bug has settled down a bit today and I've managed to eat something. Scan tomorrow; nervous and excited in equal measure

I have found some familiar faces over here, thx LackaDaisy for suggesting I visit. Hi to Heartmum as well & to everyone else of course
I had a m/c at 12wks last Aug, and am currently 6+2wks, due 5 Nov. Saw my gp on Tues and explained how I wanted check everything was ok with pregnancy, so she suggested blood tests 48hrs apart and a scan. Scan is booked for 25/3 and I had blood tests taken yesterday and again tomorrow. The gp's nurse rings my home phone today and leaves a message saying I need to ring them about my blood tests. They close at 5pm and I got home at 5.30pm so can't ring until tomorrow
I've done a Clearblue test and it came up postive straight away but I'm not convinced something isn't wrong.
Sorry for the long rant but can't believe I need to wait until the morning to find out why she rang.

scully good you found us . There is fantastic support on here and it is a place to worry and moan and vent, so no apology needed. Like I said on the AN thread, she probably didn't want to leave a message incase the wrong person picked it up. Try not to worry .

It's a bit quiet at the moment, but there are a few babies due around now!

Thanks lackaDAISYcal. I feel it is going to be a long few weeks to be honest, I wish I could feel more positive. At the moment, everyday feels like a week, lol! Hopefully with Easter just around the corner and dh having the next 4 days off after Easter, it should go a bit more quickly, plus DS2 has an appt at the children's hopsital on the 31st, so I have something else to to occupy my mind and someone else to worry about!

I'm glad your tummy bug is settling and wanted to say good luck for your scan tomorrow.

Scully - I saw your post on the November thread and was a little confused about the time differnce, lol! I hope you aren't too stressed waiting to call them (who am I kidding?!) Hugs.

Hello,

I've just got a BFP today so am exactly 4 weeks pg after a m/c last August. I recognise some of you guys from the threads I was on around that time. I am SOOO excited but also really nervous about the next 8 weeks until the scan. We have been ttc for 4 months after a break to recover from the m/c and that time seemed never-ending (even though I know I'm lucky and it hasn't taken long at all)

Believe me I will be knicker-checking every hour from now on!

Dear all
new to mumsnet had a look through and decided to take the plunge and write my bit.
Have one lovely 4 yr old uly hence my chat name, and survivedjusta late miscarriage/ neo-natel death due to ecoli infection last april at 22wks our little girl Marni who lived for 90 mins and looked exactly like her brother. Fell pregnant again in oct and pregnancy was going well until last week at exactly 22 wks discovered that my cervix had gone from 25mm to 11mm in a matter of weeks! Was rushed back to hospital for a dose of antibiotics due to gastric bug and urine infection and then given a cervical stitch!
Have made it to 23 weeks but i feel like my feet has'nt touch the ground in the last two weeks trying to be positive and knicker checking every time i need a wee for infection etc.
Anyway hope i have'nt made you miserable but wanted to share with you girls my experience and ask is it normal to feel so mental!!!!! Counting the grey hairs until july the 9th.
Thanks Vicky

hi uly, and welcome to MN

I'm so sorry for your loss; I can't imagine the pain and anguish of losing a baby so late on in your pregnancy.

I hope you can find some comfort on here; there are lots of women who have had similar losses. And I think under the circumstances, you are OK to feel so mental. Feel free to come on here and vent when you need to.

I would suggest signing up to your Ante-natal thread in the Ante-natal club topic as they'll all be at the same stage of pregnancy...as well as posting on here of course

wishing you an uneventful rest of your pregnancy!

Hi All

Have barged in earlier on in the thread but forgive me, I can't keep up and only get to check the t'internet occaisionally. I am coming up to 5 weeks and have had 4 mc previous with my 4 year old son in between. I have been under the recurrent mc clinic and have called them today to let them know I am pg again, they have asked me to take part in a SPIN trial and I have an appointment booked for 26th March to see them, have a scan and sign up. Some people just get checked every couple of weeks and others get aspirin and heparin doses daily (self administered). Has anyone been on this.

I know what will be will be but I am having a major wobble today as I have felt sick most days but not today, please tell me I am being silly!!! I have been trying to eat well and getting plenty of rest as I have felt really tired but ok today.
I am an avid nicker checker, get terrrified before I go to loo and say a little prayer afterwards!

Any help to calm me down?

Smiles

smiles, hi again . ms symptoms can come and go at this stage, so try not to worry. I had similar when i was pg with my DD, 9weeks and all symptoms went. we booked in for a scan and i really was expecting the worst, and there was this little bean somersaulting and waving. the next day MS came back with a vengeance and didn't go till around 20 weeks!

can't help with the study thing I'm afraid, but good luck with it.

Thanks lackaDAISYcal.

I haven't told anyone (except DH) about being pg again so it is good to have mnet! You are right, I may well regret saying I don't feel sick! Just having a hard time with my emotions as well - cried on the phone to my hubby this morning whilst sitting in the car park - I have no idea why!!

Smiles

hormones....dontcha just love 'em

smiles I have heard of the study it has been going on for a few years (I think it started in 2003 but might be wrong) and they are trying to prove a theory that aspirin and heparin can increase the success rate of a pregnancy in women like you who have 2 or more miscarriage and if so which women it can help. Sadly it is taking so long because thankfully so few women ever go through it (although anyone who visits this thread would find that hard to believe).

I have a friend who was give aspirin years ago in the hope it would stop her recurrent miscarriages (Poor J had that many she gave up telling anyone she was pregnant) she went on to have 2 successful pregnancies both children are now scarcely well into their teens it is that long ago

I am sure you have already found this but these are the only things I can find on line which is odd because it originated in Scotland although now they are taking candidates from all over the world.
www.nurture.org.nz/about-us/personal-stories/brihony-and-michael
www.auckland.ac.nz/uoa/about/news/articles/2007/04/spin.cfm

Thanks for the info, not had a look at it yet, will try and get a look at it later as I should be working at the moment!!!

X

Smiles

Welcome to all the newbies, sorry you had to join us, but huge congrats for the (sticky) little beans who have now brought you here.

Just wanted to add a quick post for scully - I had 48hr bloods done early in this pg due to a mmc in October, which showed my levels weren't rising as they should and then started falling. We were TOLD by the doc it was another mmc but when we went for a scan at the hospital at 6+5 everything was FINE. So what I really mean is that even if your blood results aren't as you'd like don't give up hope. The early preg specialist I spoke to at the hosp said it's really common to have odd blood results and then a perfectly normal pg. I was very surprised, but I'm positive she wouldn't say it if it wasn't true. (((hugs))) to you, hope everything goes smoothly xxx

Well, I'm 12 weeks tomorrow... Scan on Friday and I'm absolutely TERRIFIED.... Please please be ok beanie... I keep telling myself that there's no reason to think things are anything other than fine, having had a good scan at 10+1, but it's still so scary. I know you all know what I'm talking about!

PS wanted to say to jules your DP's words to David made me blub. So beautiful. Sending so much love to you and your family - Ella and David xx

Hello everyone, been a while since i posted but been real busy with work which is good for taking my mind off it all... Today though got my letter thorough for the dating scan and they have given me 31st March!!

That means I will be 14 +4 weeks. Not sure I can manage to wait that long (plus we are supposed to be on holiday, and see loads of friends the weekend before who I wanted to tell finally after (IF) it was all well).

Seriously it has been hard enough getting to tomorrow (same to the day as you kate 12 weeks tomorrow). I am just not sure if i can manage another 2.5 weeks of waiting to know if it is ok......

Going to call them tomorrow but doubt can get a better result. Honestly, you would think after a referral for recurrent m/c you would get a chance to get the earlier option. Should I opt for a private scan now? Arrgh.

(sorry for big rant. how are you all BTW, a very self centered post

Hi I'm back, with good news Spoke to the receptionist at 7.45am this morning and luckily my dr had come in early so called me back and my 1st test was all good, can't remember the name of what they tested but she said they look for over 30 and mine was 44, so they were happy with that. I had more blood taken today to check hcg levels have doubled in the past 48hrs.
Now just have to hang on until my scan on 25/3, when I should be about 8wks.
Sorry for my small panic yesterday, I know that legally they can't leave detailed messages on the phone, but I would have preferred she didn't call at all, I wasn't expecting any news until the 2nd blood test had been done, which is why I was so worried.
Thanks Kate, the advice you were given makes sense. Uly, you have every reason to feel very mental most days after what you've experienced, hopefully there are no more dramas for you until your baby arrives.

Scully Excellent news I've been keeping my fingers crossed for you and I'm so pleased it's good news.
Rainrain at such a late scan date, especially with a history of mc. You'd think they'd be more sympathetic. Might be worth going private - you could have nuchal fold scan at the same time if you're not due to have one on the NHS?
However, I've discovered that the private hospitals seem to be just as bad - I'm currently trying to book an 8 week scan at my local one and after leaving several messages with the ultrasound dept, I finally got through to somebody on Tuesday who said I needed to fax through my GP referral form and they'd get back to me. I did so immediately, and I'm still waiting. I've left several messages again but no response. Grr! We're going away for the weekend today so wanted to get it sorted out but looks like I'll have to chase them next week. Sorry - just had to moan there!
Kate Good luck with your scan tomorrow
Hope everybody else is OK and that you all have an uneventful weekend. Talk to you next week!

Hi Justjjules. Thanks for your message about the aspirin and heparin. This is my 6th pgy and I have one son who is 4. It is the most difficult time, the first few months. I had a scan last year and got a hb at 7 weeks but mc'd the same day so I have got it in my head that I need to get to 12 weeks and then I can only start to relax - it seems so long away. I will only find out at appt on 26th march whether I get the aspirin and heparin as they have to phone somewhere in Scotland to put me on the trial and they decide quite randomly whether you get drugs or not. I am just praying each day that I have the strength to get through the first weeks.

X

Smiles

Hello all - loads of posts to catch up on which I will when can....
Hope you are all ok and beanies are fine.
Went to first ante natal class last night and now am VERY SCARED of giving birth. Do you think baby can just stay in here? She seems very comfy and settled.