Pregnancy after Miscarriage - Welcome to Knicker Checkers Anonymous II

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And so we continue...

Sending lots of love to you and your boy Jules.

I think your little boy will be looking down at you and DP and he will be so very proud of his mummy. He will be holding you tight in his heart and he will be giving you all the strength that you need to get through this pregnancy. He will be keeping his little sister safe as he knows just how very much you need and want to love a little baby, his sister.

Be strong Jules. Take comfort from his presence.

Oh Jules
Your little David is definitely looking down feeling so proud of you and wanting you to be strong for his baby sister.
I hope your visit to the crem gives you some small sense of peace - and that the joy of feeling mini-jules wriggling around continues to help you heal, although you'll never forget.
Many hugs lovely Jules.
(And my hormones are encouraging me to well up now)

Jules you sound like you are being v. strong through a(nother) sad time. Many hugs x Hi everyone else. All ok?

jules Mixed feelings are only natural, think most us on here totally understand how you feel.

It is ok to grieve for your little boy, it is natural to do so, he is your child too and part of your family.

When you are feeling happy do not feel guilty either I am sure he would love a little sister even if he cannot be with your physically.

jules - sorry about your little boy and i hope everything goes as well as it can today. lots of hugs

ive moved mom, lucky lady, i wish my little one would put ina an appearence.

graduated
Mumofmonsters - 20th March

3aTaichimum - EDD 16th Feb
Gingercat12 - 7th March
AnguaVonUberwald - 18th March
Feedmenow - 18th March
Winkygirl - 19 March
Spugs - 24th March
Siameez - 1st April
Rainbowdays - 8th April
Positive - 12th April
DonDons - 15 April
EllieG - 17th April
ZamMummy - EDD 14th May but planning C-section previous week.
Janus - 14th May
goingfor3 - 29th May
flosspot/makecakesnotwar - 29th May
nh101 - 1st June - twins!!
basilbrush - 10th June
Tjuice - 26th June
Sweetkitty - 8th July
McChesers - 9 July
Lovelylou - 13th July
justjules - 28th July
Alittlebitshy - 3rd August
TwilightSurfer - 16th August
Iliketosleep - 17th August
KashaSarrasin - 3rd September
Perkypopsy 2nd October
Bethoo - 6th October
ronshar - 7th October

Jules {{big hugs}}, hope today was okay xxx

Good luck to all of you about to pop too! From the list it looks like there are quite a few due round about now! Be lovely when you can join us on the success after m/c thread (if you can tear yourselves away from your gorgeous LOs) xxx

Jules Hope everything went OK today and that you feel at peace this evening. You chose a beautiful and touching way to remember baby David. (((hugs))) to you.
Hope everybody else is OK?

Sorry- fell off the face of the planet for a while...

sending love to Jules, and big hugs.

Sending congrats to MOM

Sending hugs to anyone who needs them (hoping some of them come back to me as having pants day.)

SPD beginning to get tough. MW says she will get me an OBS appointment at 34 weeks to talk about the possibility of an early delivery (epidural or induction.) 11 weeks to go. How did I get here?

So excited I could honestly burst...

wow makescakes - you are so so close now

(((hugs))) jules, thinking of you today. You've been so strong, you will never forget your little boy, but the best is yet to be xx

Hello to everyone else, I too have fallen off the planet for a bit, SOOOOOOOOOOOOO tired, and the big commute to work isn't helping either. Can't quite believe it but am 11+4 today!! 12 week scan and nuchal booked for Friday, obviously terrified but am trying hard to stay optimistic, am hoping beanie will behave and not give me any more scares between now and then! Right, 7.35pm, think that means bedtime for me and Special-K (Thanks for the name Popsy - love it )

(((Jules))) I hope today has been OK. Your little boy will never be forgotten. xxx

Makecakes Wow the time has really flown by!! I hope your day has got better - I've never had SPD but I've heard that it sucks!

kate Have a nice early night!

Jules, hope you're feeling OK this evening, I'm sure David loved his balloon

jules, I'm glad things went OK for you today . It must have been a very hard thing to do, and I can understand your mixed emotions. {{hugs}}

things have settled down with me, no more bleeding, but still feeling a bit crap and very wobbly. The EPU were very reassuring and didn't think I need come in for a scan, but we have booked in for a private scan on Thursday. I'll be just six weeks then, so hopefully there will be something for us to see.

Has no-one heard anything from taichimum? I know she wasn't a prolific poster, but was she on the February AN thread?

jules - glad you got through today, Saturday was the anniversary of my due date too so I can empathise and I'm 22+4 with a little girl too. It's so hard you don't want to let go of the one(s) you lost and feel like you are betraying them but at the same time you have a new little person growing inside you, this little girl would not be here if her brother or sister had of made it. Part of me thinks they weren't strong enough to be here so I have been sent her instead. And you are so right they will be loved so much.

Daisy - all the best for Thursday x

makecakes - am with you on the SPD hell ride right now, it sucks big time.

Hope everyone else is having a relaxing evening.

they are fab jules thanks . DD is now crawling on all fours (after dragging herself around commando style since Christmas) and she started pulling herself up on furniture on Thursday. We call her Sherman, after Sherman tank as she barges over everything in her wake! DS loves having a little sister and is very excited about the new baby (he overheard DH and I talking about it!), although we have tried to play it down by saying we only think we're having another baby and we won't know for sure until after mummy has seen the midwife and had her scan (we're not telling him about Thursday).. They are very hard work though, especially as I'm not feeling on top things at the moment.

Jules, my thoughts were with you and you bought a tear to my eye. x

Ladies I need to vent if thats ok. I am 7+5 today and I just feel like crap, its pathetic, I never had this when pregnant with DD. I feel tired, I have no energy I have a permanent horrible taste in my mouth, I don't fancy any food, I feel sick and quite down. I have been off work with DD who has been poorly yest and today and I just do not want to go back. To be honest I am scared, why am I doing this again? I should be happy right but I am not. Not even scared of another m/c as I feel so crap .

Someone tell me its going to get better.....please

coolkat, I was exactly the same with DD and it gets so exhausting when you have another LO to look after as well. It will pass, honest, and you'll have s brief respite before it all gets tiring again . Try to get lots of fresh air and exercise, even if it's just a half hour walk, it'll make you feel more human and give you some more energy. Lots of leafy green veg as well, it's good mood food.

CoolKat, I was exactly the same at the beginning of this PG, felt so crap and that I that in a way I couldn't even be scared of another mc , just that I was being a bad mother to DS and was it fair to put him through all this, so I can really sympathise with what you're feeling. It DOES pass and you WILL feel better (but probably not just yet). If you get really down do take steps as for any other depression, be it yoga, counselling, anti-d's, whatever works for you. I can recommend Patrick Holford's book on Optimum Nutrition in Pregnancy (to be read with a pinch of salt tho...), just for his suggestions high-dose vitamin/mineral supplements, they've given me a such a boost in the last 3months that I've been able me to come off the Prozac I've been on since June last year - yay! DH very pleased as my sex drive is slowly returning... I think he was hoping that I'd be as horny this time as when PG with DS, no such luck!

PS Have found several of you on Facebook (EllieG, ALBS, DonDons, Kate2179 and someone who I know is from here but who??), who else is there? I'm in the Zambia network and the Mumsnet group, come be my FB friends!

Well still don't know if bump is a Rocky or a Rockette as they got stage fright crossed their legs and hid their face in one of my fibroids but every thing appeared to be in the right place the only thing she could not be 100% sure of is that there was no cleft lip but if there is so what in the great scheme of things that is nothing so fine

Anyway I like surprises

I'm on there zammummy . I'm ice skating and my initials are JJ.

glad the scan was ok kaz. Surprises are nice, especially if it's your first baby. I'll probably find out as I need to know whether to hang on to all the girly baby clothes or not!

I've been struck by the D bit of the D&V bug that is going around at the moment. Feeling pretty grim, and running to the loo every five mins. I hope my little prawn is allright through all of this!