Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈 Thread 2

[MooBugz]

New thread following the almost full last one! Sorry if I missed the tag for anyone 😬

@Ally256 @madeinthe80z @Lmcc88 @OceanbreezeSun @doingitalllagain @RedElleJ @STom2 @WonderWoop @LittleLottle @Skylark1990 @Rubes1234 @Hagster @JoKB @Gamergirl84 @Franklin321

Im 15w1d today with my rainbow baby :D I miscarried January 2022 and we've been trying since, 6 months in and we have a little pumpkin growing well.

Welcome @justy95 and congratulations!

Is anyone else getting headaches? I seem to get them every few days the last few weeks. Not totally horrendous ones so I question if I'm more dehydrated than anything. But seem to hang around for hours and I usually cave and have to take a paracetamol (when several glasses of water fail to shift it).

Also where is everyone else at with movements? I feel like for days now I've only felt the occasional little fluttery/popping bubble sensations. Baby must be in a tucked away position. Really looking forward to some more significant kicks. Will be 19 weeks this week.

@STom2 thank you lovely!

im 15weeks and last week and an half the headaches have been a nightmare. Got to stages where I had to nap as pain wasn't going away, I don’t take paracetamol unless it’s really really bad.

last 4 days I get headache around 7/10pm and it’s so bad I end up falling asleep and when I wake up it’s worse, e.g. I fell asleep with headache and this morning I was dying from the pain and felt like not going to work. Eventually I got up and It went away after few hours x

Congrats and welcome @justy95 :)

@STom2 ive been getting headaches - seem to have tailed off at 17 weeks but 13-16 I was getting them quite frequently. I’m terms of movements, the occasional bubble but I have an anterior placenta so let’s me honest, it could be wind 😂 x

@justy95 welcome 🥰 have you past the point where you mc last time, hope you are doing well!

@STom2 I've had quite a few headaches over the last few weeks and felt like there were lingering in the background and that's with several paracetamol along the way too so your not alone. Hope it eases up soon feels so debilitating when it takes up so much time can't really concentrate on life 🧟‍♀️

Re movements I've felt little flutter last week but nothing since, it does make me overthink but have my scan next week so trying to just stay positive for the meantime as I know it's early and I can't even remember at what point I felt more in the last pregnancies as wasn't really paying attention to the time, joys of pregnancy after loss is to over analyse everything right 😬

Thanks ladies. I'm not overly concerned on the headache (don't think it's anything sinister). But it is different from pregnancy with DS I think water intake is a factor for sure so I'm going to have to cop on and make sure I'm drinking more every day (I obviously lapse some days when I get distracted chasing a toddler).

@MooBugz This is exactly how my headaches have been! Lingering in the background!! And that's after nights of good sleep (less frequent with a toddler). I know hormones can cause them. Wonder if the fact i disjt have them last time (plus fact my skin got so bad this time around), is any sort of indicator theres a girl in there thus time around. But maybe thats all rubbish 😄. I didn't take any paracetamol through pregnancy with DS but I never had need to really. I think I'm more relaxed this time around as I know they're okay to take now and then so I've taken one when a headache won't shift. But you're right, it makes it difficult to just get on with the day. I had to take a nap earlier while DS was down. First time I've had to do that in a couple of weeks.

Anyone with a toddler that's not on childcare and planning to either take them to the 20week scan or alternatively go to the scan alone and leave DH with them? I'm a bit stuck as we don't live near family etc so don't have any childcare options when the scan is on! Don't want to take him as its a professional medical setting but equally nervy about going to scan alone.

@STom2 I think I'm going alone. My son goes to school half days but needs to be dropped off at 8:45 and my scan is half an hour the opposite direction at 9am, and we only have one car. So he's going to have to miss school and wait outside with his dad while I go in alone, it's not ideal but as you said the 20 week scan is long and very technical so not appropriate for them to be in there, most hospitals won't let them, it is tricky!

@doingitalllagain Okay glad it's not just me in this predicament! Feel bad DH can't come in but we did have to do same with DS as he was a lockdown baby. I asked them to write the sex on a piece of paper and we checked it when I got home. Will probably do same again! Main thing is they are healthy. Get nervous on my own for that reason.

Yes that's the scary part isn't it. I'm the same. All I am telling myself is when we went through the worst last time and found out baby was gone at 17 weeks it was traumatic but it would of been a lot worse if my son had seen the immediate aftermath too. So I guess in a way being alone is the lesser of two evils.

I've got everything crossed for all of us though, we've made it so far. I went to get my eyebrows waxed this morning and lying flat on the chair there I got kicked a lot, which was lovely and reassuring as he's been so quiet this week.

@STom2 I'm in the same predicament my usual childcare persons are unavailable and it's an early scan but was thinking if we could take my little one if we can then we will. My last was a lockdown baby too and couldn't come to the scans and it would be a shame if it was the same again now especially needing the support since I am petrified !

Good luck to us all 😬❤️‍🩹

@doingitalllagain I totally get what you mean about the concern of having your LO in there if the scan didn't go as hoped. We took DS to an early private scan and he was good as gold (surprisingly as he's not one for sitting still usually!) but I had DH fully warned beforehand he had to extract him quickly if scan didn't go as hoped.

@moobugz This is where my head is at too. Last time DH couldn't come to my NHS scans so we ended up booking a private one at 25 weeks. Just so we could have a "nice" scan where I wasn't petrified going in and ee could both just see baby (and have the sex reconfirmed again as it was glaringly obvs from the first couple of seconds 😄). I think I'll just check with DH what his thoughts are. If he really feels like he wants to be there then we will work out something with DS. If he's happy to wait outside (I suspect he probably will as he's been to a couple of scans with me already with this LO), then I'll go that route. They do a growth scan at 36 weeks at my hospital so perhaps I'll be more organised for that and sort childcare so DH can definitely come to that one!

Also @doingitalllagain Fantastic to hear about all the movement today!! Much as you try keep it at the back of your mind at this stage when they do suddenly get jiggy in there (however briefly), you breathe a little sigh of relief!

Oh ladies, I’ve had a meltdown of a day.

I have done way more than I normally would - lots of deconstructing and moving furniture. Boxing up books and moving them about. I also had to walk 35 mins either way to a garage for my car today which was mega hilly. One of those walks involves a very bruised or broken toe from earlier on today (my dog got under my feet).

So I’m basically stressed that I did way too much and have caused harm. Logically though, the lifting things is to do with hurting yourself rather than the baby right? The overexertion I am worried about though - I know it doesn’t sound like much but due to my fear of exercise my activities levels have been reduced this whole pregnancy so I have lost a lot of fitness.

My car also cost over £300 and it’s just sent me into a total tizz as that is all of a months savings 🙈

Sorry for the long message - hormones/worry/stress…it hasn’t been a very relaxing day off 😂 No obligation to reply I think I just needed to vent.

Hope everyone has had a good day today x

@RedElleJ I wouldn't worry about the exerting yourself. I think the rule of thumb is you can continue with most of your usual exercise when pregnant. It's more anything that might cause abdominal trauma (like extreme bouncing on a trampoline). I was saying to DH how I am getting much more back pain etc with this pregnancy and I've realised it's most likely due to the fact when I was pregnant with DS we were in the height of first covid lockdown. So I just about went out for a gentle walk daily in the evening. Whereas this time around I'm chasing/carrying a toddler through the day or pushing him in a heavy pram. So naturally it's having more of a toll on my body. But this is to be expected.

Also - sorry about the car cost. Between expecting and the current climate that really is pants. So you deserve the rant! Go relax for the evening and eat something you enjoy while watching Netflix.

@RedElleJ I fully get it- some days with my toddler I feel I've overdone it and really suffer for the next couple. Baby is really protected in there though I think k it's o oy in the first few weeks you have to ve careful about lifting etc. Some people work out right up until 40 weeks and do marathons etc...

Also, my car failed it's mot! £600 big ones and it's hubby's birthday and DSs birthday in the next 3 weeks. The worst, isn't it!

If anyone is into Sci fi I just watched the first 2 eps of Andor on Disney and its AWESOME 👌

Aww @Gamergirl84 what nightmare timing! Bloody cars. I mean hats off to all you mums who are doing pregnancy with a little one at home - I really shouldn't be complaining but I suppose some days just get to you.

That is exactly what I did @STom2 - I went for a bath and put Gilmore girls on the iPad haha! Sorry to hear your back is playing up, I have physio for mine in a couple of weeks as its been playing up but I have had a bad back before so think all the hormones have knocked things out of place a bit.

Starting to get worried for the 20 week scan next week - it isn't until 4pm on Friday - hoping I can keep it together until then.

I'm sorry you had such a stressful day @RedElleJ ! As others have said, I think you will be fine but perhaps take it easy for a day or two to put your mind at rest :)

A scan has opened up for this afternoon and I'm so tempted to book it but also so nervous it'll be bad news and ruin our holiday which we go on on Sunday! But I'd also love to see baby. Ahhh what should I do??

Ok I booked it.... I hope I see a little wriggly 11 week old fetus! Feeling quite nervous now.

@STom2 @MooBugz
We don’t have family close by either, but my mum stayed over the night before & looked after dd on the day for a couple of hours whilst dh and I went to the scan. He wouldn’t have been able to come otherwise.
Tbh I’m more worried about what we will do for childcare when I go into labour! My parents live 90 mins away so not really far but I guess it depends on how fast it all happens! Dd and I have never spent longer then 3 hours apart & she gets upset at first, even with close family members. She’s fine after the first 10/15 mins though, which is reassuring.

@RedElleJ Your day sounds stressful, I hope you have a better one today.

I would not worry about the walking etc, it sounds like you had a high level of fitness before pregnancy which your body will remember.

Has anyone thought about their birth plan yet?

Also sending best wishes for those with scans coming up 💕

Good luck @Skylark1990 - I hope little one is happily tucked up in there :) Today is an easier day today - tomorrow is busy but i'll only really be on my feet for 3-4 hours, I can do everything else sat at my desk.

@OceanbreezeSun - I haven't even considered a birth plan yet...think I am waiting to get past 20 weeks before I commit to any sort of forward planning with baby. But would love to hear what others are thinking as I have no clue haha!

@RedElleJ I'm trying to watch Gilmore Girls at the moment too! First time. I enjoy the setting and want to live in Stars Hollow. But am nearly 2 series in and can't decide if I actually like the characters or not 😅.

@Oceanbreezesun I think I'm planning to go the elective section route again this time (had to with DS as he was breach and wouldn't budge). I like the idea of being able to plan a bit for that (including the childcare). Of course if I go into labour early I'll be stuck!

@skylark1990 Good luck with the scan today!!!!

Thanks @STom2 and @RedElleJ I am actually so nervous, my heart is jumping about all over the place!

@OceanbreezeSun Re birth plan, will aim for a home birth and use hypnobirthing, TENS and birth pool for pain relief. I had to transfer into hospital with DD but that was because labour was so so long and I was exhausted, so hoping particularly as it is a second birth, things will be a bit more manageable at home this time! I'm also worried about childcare though as we have no family nearby either. I think we might have to ask our neighbours and also a close local friend to kinda share being 'on call' and look after DD if she's awake/at home while I'm in active labour. I'm hoping I just give birth in the night while she's asleep or during the day when she's at nursery. We can only hope!

Scan went well! Measuring one day ahead at 11+4, but I'll stick with my NHS date of 11+3 for now! Very happy to see th little baby. Sleeping mostly it seemed but we did see a little bit of movement 🥰