Due April/May after MC 🌈

[BellaBella38]

Hi everyone, I know this is might be a bit early to start a thread but after more than 2 1/2 years of trying the overwhelming excitement is real!

Me and my husband lost out first at 10 weeks back in December 2020 and to be honest had kind of given up. I only peed on a stick at 16DPO because a banana repulsed me to the point of spitting it out! Trying not to be too excited or paranoid, but we'll see how that goes. 🤣

I've ordered the Pregnancy after Loss book by Zoe Coates Clark in an attempt to keep my sanity, but the going to the loo fear of seeing blood is real. And I've booked an apt to talk to my GP on Thursday at 5+3 to talk about whether or not progesterone would be appropriate.

Thankfully my husband is level headed and reminds me not to get too ahead of myself yet, but it would be great to meet others in the same boat for a hand hold.

@BellaBella38 6+2 weeks x

@calipoppy I'm keeping everything crossed for you. I had light bleeding in both of my successful pregnancys, and once in an unsuccessful one. So it's a waiting game 😔 I understand completely the reasons behind not wanting early scans xx

@somethingluscious Wishing you all the best for your scan today ❤️

@BellaBella38 Thank you! I am quite nervous. It's amazing how hard I find it to trust my own body. I've been trying to relax a bit more as have got to 8w, but by conception more like 6w3d so I'm not sure what they will see or think when they are estimating from LMP.

My hCG was up above 4000 a week ago and I read that the doubling rate starts to slow down to 72-96 hours doubling between 1200 and 6000, so that's been fine. I'm going to do another hCG and progesterone test tomorrow, mainly just to check the progesterone is going up as it was on the low side a few weeks ago.

I'm hoping I get to the point soon where the placenta is starting to take over as that is usually when things feel smoother for me. I don't tend to have many early pregnancy symptoms other than tiredness and a sore chest. I keep waking up between 3-5am though, and not always getting back to sleep, which is annoying. I have a lot of bloating around my midriff, which is really noticeable to me.

Anyway, I have all my fingers and toes crossed and feels like I am hanging on to such a lot of hope and wishful thinking atm. It feels contrary to be pessimistic and hopeful at the same time. I keep trying to remind myself that I had a successful pregnancy after my miscarriages last time.

Good luck @somethingluscious I really hope the scan is good news, it's good you know ovulation dates so if the measurement is off it won't make you panic!

No more brown discharge for me so hopefully it wasn't anything too worrying.

How's everyone feeling? I usually get hit by a bus woth nausea and fatigue at 6-7 weeks so im just enjoying the last week or so of feeling a bit less dreadful! Overall though I've just felt so much calmer since I found out than I have since our loss in March ❤️ that baby can never be replaced but the hope of a new baby really does help doesnt it.

@calipoppy that's good news xx

I've been awake since 3 am and on the ginger biscuits since about 5 🤢🤢🤮.

Oh nooo @Zincoop 🤢 sorry to hear! Are the ginger biscuits helping? They don't work for me but weirdly fig rolls do 😂

@calipoppy I think just eating a little bit of something helps me, it doesn't matter what it is but my dp bought these ginger biscuits as he thinks they help so I'm giving them a shot 😆 ( fig rolls much nicer 🤣)

I tried again with the weeks indicator this morning and still 2-3. I'm 6+3 today. I know they're not 100% reliable but it's a bit of a worry.

@Zincoop those weeks indicators ones area an expensive way to drive yourself crazy, aren't they? 😩 I've stayed away from them this time, partly because of that and partly because it makes me sad when the readout disappears after 24 hrs. Fx all is well.

How is everyone going with exercising? I'm not a big exerciser, but I try and get a bit each week. Have been doing swimming & pilates. Swimming is obv fine, but I'm not sure about pilates... feels way to early to tell the instructor I'm pregnant -- she'd be the third person I told, after my partner and the guy at airport security (was worried about the scanners). 😂

With exercise we've been getting out walking at the weekend & I had to walk up to the hospital as it's in the city centre lol. I might get back into swimming as my 11 year old wants me to take her at the weekend, but there aren't aquanatal classes anywhere locally.

My scan went well, which is such a relief. She agreed that I was dating earlier like I thought and everything was where and how it should be. It was a midwife sonographer I saw and she wants me to go back in 3 weeks to check growth & progress. She confirmed the heartbeat pulsing away, checked my ovaries & showed me the gestational sac, embryo & where it's all attached to the womb.

I think I'll be about 9-10 weeks when I go back. She said I could check progesterone levels again for my peace of mind, but that the scans over rule those results & they only test HCG or go by ultrasound progress at the EPAU. She also said I"d be on a red path for obstetric consultant care because of my age, but I am happy about that.

Hi! A lovely MN user just told me there is a thread for pregnancy after loss so here I am

Due may 2023 I’m 4 weeks tomorrow

Had a traumatic loss and recovery at 9 weeks in April and I’ve found out I’m pregnant again

I’m 10% excited 90% absolutely terrified

I know nothing can change the outcome of this pregnancy but I’ve been scared since I found out 6 days ago. Will be having a scan at 6 weeks if I make it till then

Basically, how on earth do you cope xx

Glad your scan went well @somethingluscious and congratulations @Essexgalhere 💛 I don't know really what to advise you, for me it's just taking each day at a time and I try not to imagine the future too much yet! I've also chosen to ignore the 12 week rule this time - I've told some people already (I'm 5+3) and others I won't be telling for much longer as my previous loss was at 17 weeks so it all feels different this time.

Keeping everything crossed for you to have a healthy pregnancy! How are you feeling at the moment?

@calipoppy I’m so sorry about your 17 week loss ❤️

Right now I’m sort of just living in fear, I feel quite negative if I’m honest. I keep telling husband “I bet I lose baby next week”. My twins that I lost were non identical, they were complete different eggs yet both died so I wonder if there’s something wrong with me! xx

@Essexgalhere the only way I don't drive myself crazy is by being thankful that 'Today I am still pregnant!' and that each extra day that I am, my risk drops. All my losses have been very early so it feels a bit easier the longer I progress. Either our embryo is going to be viable or it's not and there isn't a lot I can do about it other than keep myself as healthy as possible, get plenty of rest and have a good diet. I think we question ourselves regardless though and think we must have done something wrong or that there are ways we can control our situation.

@calipoppy the main people we haven't told yet is our parents, partly because we are in our 40s so they will be a bit shocked from their own perspectives, but also because I don't want them worrying for us. Our kids found out because our eldest immediately spotted my pregnancy vitamins!

@somethingluscious really pleased your scan went well x

Hi @Essexgalhere congrats on your bfp, looking forward to chatting with you x

I'm not a big exerciser either but I'm going to try and walk a bit further on the dog walks and look into swimming. I have a 2 year old so I'm not completely sedentary but I think being fitter would be a good idea.

I've decided clear blue weeks indicators are just pure junk. I got my first dye stealer on my premom tests so I'm feeling more relaxed.

Hope you are all feeling OK xx

@Zincoop glad you've junked the weeks indicators. Just CB out trying to make more money off our anxiety!!

I've got a bad feeling today, all my symptoms seem to be getting weaker not stronger and it just doesn't feel like my body is pregnant anymore if that makes sense 😕 I'm trying to tell myself it might just be anxiety but I feel like that just gets my hopes up.

@Essexgalhere how is your spotting? I saw on the other thread you'd had some hope all is ok xx

@calipoppy I’ve definitely felt a bit like that this time around. I keep trying to tell myself that each pregnancy is different and I should be grateful for lack of sickness, but I just have a bad feeling about it. I might book an earlier scan than planned.

Sorry to hear you feel the same @Charl881 ❤️ do you remember when your nausea usually starts? I know that my doesn't usually kick in badly until 6-7 weeks but I feel like I've got more energy and feel less gross than even the start of this week!

Morning all, another one here trying not to lose her shit this morning!

6+4 and my sore boobs have gone away. Last time this happened at around 7 weeks when I also got this manic anxiety. I always knew 6-10 weeks was going to be hard, but this is horrible! I wanted to hold out until 8 weeks for a scan, for accuracy, but I just don't know now.

Morning all.
I've been trying to think of something positive to say to you all that are worried about lack of symptoms. I've got nothing. There's no point in giving the usual, symptoms come and go etc or each pregnancy is different because we've all seen what can happen. I guess we just take it 1 day at a time and try to keep calm. Easier said than done I know.

Xx

@calipoppy spotting has stopped thankfully xx
My symptoms pretty much went after I got my bfp on Sat 27th but today they’ve come back a bit. Terrified of another loss I spoke to midwife about it and it’s normal to lose symptoms and have them weaken or come and go. Most woman’s don’t kick in until 6/7 weeks. I think I’m just going to be spending the next 2 weeks counting down days until my scan xx

Isn’t it bonkers that we actively want to feel ill! My friend had zero symptoms in her first trimester and I was so jealous yet now I don’t have sickness I’m worried.

@calipoppy i think with my DS it had definitely started by 6 weeks, if not 5. With one pregnancy loss it was straight away like 4 weeks. And my other two were chemicals were no sickness before (lost both before 5 weeks).

when are people booking early scans? I was going to hold off until nearly nine weeks so I knew I was definitely at least eight weeks by my dates, but now getting tempted to go for next weekend when I’ll be seven weeks.

@Charl881 So I am going to get my scan at 6 weeks 1 day. I told myself before I got pregnant I’d wait until 8/9 weeks but I don’t think I can because of anxiety. All being well I will most likely get them every 2 weeks until after my 12 week scan

I'll be trying to hold out til 8wks for early scan. Worst case scenario for me would be bad news on a scan but not being able to act on it ASAP and before c. 7wks they usually want multiple scans before diagnosing miscarriage, I think? Last time I went three days between scan showing MMC and having the MVA and I really struggled with it so I don't think I could live with the uncertainty if there was an unpromising scan at 6wks but then I had to wait and see for 1-2 weeks before knowing if it was a MC. I'd rather just know at 8 weeks that it had happened.

Symptoms wise the fatigue hit me hard yesterday, and I'm starting to get a bit of a rumbly stomach which feels like maybe a precursor to nausea. Passed the date of my CP (4w4d) yday so that feels like a milestone.

Sorry to hear everyone is feeling quite down/pessimistic today. Me too - it's our defense mechanism against more heartache. 💔 But fingers crossed for everyone that it'll be ok.