Babies due April 2023

[41andtryingforfirst]

Hi all

Thought I'd start a new thread. Just got my BFP. Had a MC in May so tentatively optimistic. Looks like my due date is April 1st. Would be good to get to know others in the same boat x

Congratulations @JA42 you must have been thrilled 😁 @36and4th I am self-employed so will just be getting the maternity allowance this time rather than amp. You might be eligible for that if not getting statutory maternity pay?

Also looking forward to the free hours next September for my son as will definitely be needed if money is tight and nice for him to go and have some fun away from me and baby

@JA42 congratulations!

Can I ask if anyone plays a lot of sport and what they're planning on doing?
I play netball 3 times a week and don't really want to stop until I have to - probably 12 weeks so I can tell me team after the scan - but obviously don't want to put myself at risk.

Tentatively joining if that’s ok?

4+5 today and tested again this morning but the CB hasn’t moved on from 1-2 weeks. I was really, really hoping it would show 2-3 and it’s made me a bit anxious.

I got my first ever BFP today. CD33, usual cycles length 28-31.
Been trying almost two years.
Can't quite believe it.
Due date is apparently 2nd April according to the two calculators I have done.

Only the second time I've done a pregnancy test as AF has nearly always turns up on time. Only other time I tested was a 36 day cycle (month after COVID vaccine).

I wasn't going to test until I was more overdue, but decided to because of the slightly different symptoms and fact I'm going out for "drinks" so wanted to be sure I wasn't pregnant.

Symptoms so far - Felt a bit dizzy yesterday and my nipples hurt (usually with AF it's the boob itself). Didn't get my usual PMS mood swing where I hate everyone and everything for a good 24-48 hours. Felt a bit queasy when I woke.

Really hope we all have healthy beans.

@pinkpirlie congratulations! It must of been a bit of shock when you saw the positive line!

@Greatfyl congratulations! I did another digital this morning and I'm still on the 1-2 weeks, I'm 4.4 today, it's also made me anxious (but I have been since I found out last week). I was hoping it would change too, but I've scoured threads and tbh it just seems a tool to torture us with! I wouldn't worry unless something changes 😊

@Loz365 no sports here, but if you've been doing it regular before hand then there is no reason to stop at all unless the doctor/midwife advice it. I think it's only if you've just started it and is likely to put unnecessary strain on your body. Keep doing what you love, but chat to the midwife/doctor if you are concerned!

@tulipsunday yeah, I'd probably be entitled to that and possibly universal credits (?). I had maternity allowance with the twins, and it was better than nothing!

I hope everyone is feeling okay today ☺️ Trying ginger ale and sticking to plain food today as the nausea is being a bugger today! Luckily coffee is my friend still xx

Hi everyone,

Hope I can also join this group. I got my BFP on Friday with due date of April 2nd. This is my second pregnancy after a cervical ectopic several years ago. I’m 36.

I was due to have surgery next month for a large (8cm x 7cm) fibroid which was causing a lot of pain and bleeding and is obviously a risk factor for miscarriage.

I am a pretty level headed person but I am so worried and anxious. I’ve done CB digital which shows 2-3 weeks, and keep doing cheaper tests which are so faint they scare me! I should really stop but really don’t have proper symptoms - boobs are slightly sore and I’m tired but nothing notable.

I’ve contacted the midwife but don’t know how long it will take for them to get back to me. I’ve also tempted fate by booking a @private scan on August 11th.

is it normal to feel so little at this stage? X

@Claire859 Hiya, congratulations! Try not to worry - I've been testing loads and had similar results too.

It's normal to not feel many symptoms, every pregnancy is different. Some feel nothing and others feel everything!

I've also tempted fate by booking a scan on the 10th August. So you aren't alone! Wishing you all the best x

Congrats to everyone that has joined today, wishing everyone a happy and healthy 9 months! X

@pinkpirlie gosh you have the willpower of steel to not test until after your due on! I was TTC for a long time and used to rinse through about 10 a month. Your method is far more sensible! Congratulations 🤗

@Longbin weirdly I haven't felt it hard at all. I've never been particularly impatient to find things out. And I figured I either was or wasn't pregnant and knowing didn't really change the outcome. I also think I thought it would never happen due to my age and weight so I never expected to actually be pregnant.
So I would say I am really lucky as I didn't have that stress every month as I know so many go through.

Feeling so nauseous though and having so many new, strange feelings which I assume is my body getting things ready for the baby to grow. I'm 4 weeks, 5 days today.

Congratulations to everyone else I have seen today and before.😍

Welcome and congratulations to all the newbies!

My husband has hidden all the toilet roll. I have developed a wiping obsession and my vulva is very sore. I don't think I'd realised how much the MC had affected me. Any positivity you can send my way would be greatly appreciated as I'm definitely having a weak moment after all this spotting 😢 xx

@41andtryingforfirst I feel you so much there, in exactly the same. I can't stop going to the toilet, it's driving me crazy.

When I think back to my first pregnancy I totally took it for granted after the positive test that I was having a baby. When I miscarried by second pregnancy it absolutely floored me- it never crossed my mind, I thought it was rare, I was youngish and healthy, I did not understand in the slightest why it happened to me. Of course I soon found out how common it was.

I think I should be taught to girls in school some of the realities of pregnancy... not just the "have sex and you will great pregnant" message that was given out when I was growing up anyway. It then comes as a shock how conceiving can be difficult, and how fragile pregnancy and birth can be.

Then we all read, and overthink every little symptom or lack of symptoms. I did giggle to myself that I was sat here worried about having cramps and a pp was worried that hers had disappeared! Shows how subjective it all is and not matter what I think we would find something to worry about.

Although I'm knicker checking and POAS like mad I am trying to keep as positive mindset as I can- chances are much more in my favour (and all of ours) than this pregnancy will be successful! I know that telling friends or booking a scan realistically will not make me miscarry.

I am going to try and better distract myself throughout the day and hope the days until my first scan go as quickly as possible :)

Congratulations to all the new posters!

@36and4th Are you having a private scan? I'm going abroad on the 10th and EPU won't scan unless you've had 3 mc or bleeding so tempted to book a private scan. 🤔

@41andtryingforfirst How you’re feeling is totally normal, and I really feel for you. I honestly think the only way to get through these early days is to distract yourself, whether that’s with Netflix, cleaning, walking or whatever you’d enjoy. Sending you lots of baby dust and positive thoughts.

@Loz365 I swim a couple times a week and will continue with it, as I find it really relaxing. Maybe give your gp a call just to check about netball?

@36and4th I’m a teacher and would hopefully take the full year off, but I’ll have to do the sums as I think it’s going to be a challenge affording mat leave whilst paying my dd’s nursery fees, not to mention adding a second set of nursery fees when I go back to work! But I’ll cross that bridge if and when I come to it.

Congratulations to everyone who’s joined recently! Interesting to read about the variation in symptoms and the lack thereof. My symptoms are coming and going, but did feel a bit nauseous at one point today. Gone now though. I had no symptoms till 6 wks with dd. Sending all good wishes to everyone!

Congratulations to all the new joiners to the thread 😊 I am also going to continue with a dance class that I do but will probably take the lower impact options for the more full on cardio tracks.

Totally understand the worries everyone has. I am worried how invested I feel already in this pregnancy when it is such early days. Had so few symptoms with first baby and all was well so hope that is encouraging to anyone who is worried about not really feeling pregnant xx

@41andtryingforfirst definitely a normal way of thinking, and also quite rational! I've found distraction helps, although it can be tough because all you want it is it to go smoothly! Spotting is normal and some people do spot throughout pregnancy and have a healthy baby. I keep wiping thinking that something is going to happen, but I have trouble with anxiety :/ Sending lots of baby dust and love your way xx

@Elciekay yeah, its a private scan in Stockton. My sister in law convinced me (didn't need much tbh) to book to put my mind at rest.

@SearchingTheSkies nursery fees are just so high, not looking forward to that again when I do go back to work.

Congratulations to everyone new!

Is anyone planning to do an NIPT test at 10 weeks? I'm considering it instead of doing an early scan at 6/7 weeks

@Longbin what's that?

@36and4th it tests for genetic abnormalities but it's done earlier than the NHS tests and it's more accurate than the initial test I think

Hope no one minds me hopping onto the thread!

DH and I got our BFP on 25th July (10dpo) - although it seems more than 2 days ago! I've had multiple faint BFPs on cheap strip tests and a clear BFP on a FRER (for peace of mind). I'm continuing to torture myself by doing a strip test each morning to check if the line is getting darker...

Estimated due date is 6th April 2023. All going well, this will be our second child. Our DS was born in January 2020 and it took us 9 months of TTC and a MC before we conceived him, so I'm trying to manage my expectations - but I'm just so excited!

Is anyone else feeling really hungry?

Oooh okay. Not really considered it tbh!

@MeantToBeReading congratulations on your BFP. I think we all understand about the testing and the anxiety 🙈

Between feeling like I want to vomit and actually being sick, yes very hungry! 🤣

@MeantToBeReading not feeling particularly hungry. But then I'm recovering from food poisoning which destroyed my appetite.
@36and4th sorry you're vomiting. I feel very nauseous but luckily not being sick yet.

I had so many cramps in the night, and some stabbing/pulling sensations. Nothing like period pains I usually get. My nipples continue to hurt so much and my DP has said my boobs are huge.

What are others doing about informing family (&friends)?

We decided I'm going to do a FRER again on Sunday to check for progress and then tell our famililies. By then I will be 5+2. I wanted to tell them early as I would like to be able to share in any bad news if that happens and have some additional support to just DP. Thought that would be easier if they knew we were pregnant already. They are going to be very shocked as I have spent a lifetime until we started TTC saying I never wanted a baby (& I never told them we were TTC).

@SearchingTheSkies thanks, I think I will. I've book an appointment with the GP but it's not until 18th August, earliest they had available!!

@MeantToBeReading congratulations! Yep, I'm waking up really hungry and if I don't eat something it then turns to nausea. Feel like I'm eating loads because I'm snacking all the time 🤣

@pinkpirlie we're telling family next week and I've already told a close friend. We've been trying for 18 months and everyone knows we've been under the infertility clinic so they always ask how things are going. No way I'll be able to keep it a secret until 12 weeks 😆 and I thought the same, I'd need the support if anything goes wrong

@Longbin don't think I will do a private NIPT test unless anything concerning comes up in the NHS one. Understand why people do though.

@pinkpirlie ah yes I can relate with the cramps! We have told both sets of parents as happened to see them all soon after we found out but no one else yet.

Midwife called yesterday and first appointment booked for when I am 7+5. Was surprised when she said it would be at my house as my son was a lockdown baby so nobody ever came here 😂