Babies due April 2023

[41andtryingforfirst]

Hi all

Thought I'd start a new thread. Just got my BFP. Had a MC in May so tentatively optimistic. Looks like my due date is April 1st. Would be good to get to know others in the same boat x

Thank you @41andtryingforfirst ❤️ I'm feeling a bit better, just sore and tired so I'm sat on the sofa watching Come Dine with Me.
I'm sorry you're going through this. The wait can feel like an absolute lifetime-honestly I would love to hibernate through the first trimester of pregnancy! How are you feeling now?
@Loz365 I'm so sorry to hear ❤ I wish you all the very best for the future. Sending kind and gentle thoughts xx

@ANiceBigCupOfTea ah bless you and thank you. Glad you're taking time to rest and recuperate. I like come dine with me. There was a new version that has just finished that was basically a hybrid of the original version and four in a bed where they threw dinner parties at their restaurants. I really enjoyed that series. I think it's on All 4 if you're into that kind of thing.

I'm ok - I'm lying on my bed watching the commonwealth games feeling sorry for myself, trying to decide if I feel sick, crampy or both. I keep telling myself that I've been bleeding ever since I found out I was pregnant and it's still grown as the scan on Monday proved. It's just that today there was a lot. But wondering if the process of going to the loo pushed some out or dislodged something 🤷🏻‍♀️

Here's a question someone might know the answer to. When your cervix is closed, how does blood/discharge come out? X

Oh I bloody love CDWM and three in a bed, I’ll have to check it out..

it sounds like you’re bleeding old blood @41andtryingforfirst rather than fresh blood? I hope Monday comes around quickly and that little bean is hanging in there 🤞🏻

I’m 4 weeks today exactly. Just did the Clearblue weeks indicator test, got 2-3 - hoping that’s okay given conception was (by my dates) 14 days ago. I’m constantly tired and hungry, I just want to eat chocolate hobnobs and nap 😂

So sorry @Loz365 please be kind to yourself 💕

@41andtryingforfirst that sounds really stressful but I agree it sounds like older blood. Really keeping everything crossed for you.

How's everyone feeling? I've had nausea the past few days which i hope is a good sign. I've also got quite noticeable cramps on and off every day which is making me panic. I had this my last pregnancy and wasn't worried as I read that cramps are normal however that pregnancy ended in miscarriage so now I am really worried at every twinge or cramp. Anyone else cramping?

I rang my doctor yesterday to be referred on for maternity services and she said that because of my history she will refer me onto the early pregnancy clinic and get seen by them and get an early scan.

@Wouldloveanother and @CinderellaFant yup it's definitely old blood. But 2 weeks worth of old blood? Where the hell is it coming from?

I have a theory that it's from the miscarriage as I never had a period between the 2 pregnancies. I've been told by 7 different medical professionals that there's no way it can be that. But they haven't given me a better explanation so...,

@Wouldloveanother I think it's called Come Dine with me the professionals. They go to a city and try out 3 different restaurants hosted by the owners of each establishment. I really liked it x

@CinderellaFant I've cramped throughout. However, as I'm Miss Bleedy Mcbleederson that maybe doesn't offer any reassurance! 😂

Hey everyone. I’m 5 weeks pregnant due beginning of April. I’ve had a bleed tonight and I’m in bits. Has anyone else had this? It was pink, then bright red, then stopped now after 5 hours. It was every time I wiped after a wee. I can’t get a scan until the weekend x

Hi, can I join?

I may not be here for long but DH has absolutely banned me from telling anyone so I thought I would tell some strangers.

We have been trying for 2 years and have had 5 losses, one of which was our beautiful daughter who was born sleeping in Feb.

We found out today and the test line is pretty strong (usually I test so early that I need to get the right light to find the 2nd line!) so not sure when I am due but think it's around mid April.

I can't quite ever believe we will have another baby but I'm trying to remain positive. So, as I said this may be a short stay but I need to talk about it and I just can't bare to tell anyone in real life then have to backtrack and say I've had another miscarriage. It feels embarrassing.

Hi @KatySp congratulations! I totally get what you mean about not wanting to tell anyone, I'm the same. Last time I told family quite early and you are right- it was embarrassing having to tel them we had miscarried. Embarrassing, heart breaking and gut wrenching all in one.

If I miscarry this time I'd rather just deal with it on my own with DH.
I will probably tell my mum after my 12 week scan however everyone else can find out either when they see me and I have a big bump or when baby is born!

I don't get why I feel so embarrassed. It's so silly because it's nothing I've done wrong.

I've spent the last few months desperately wanting to be pregnant but in the last few weeks I've sort of changed my mind. I already have a child and he's at such a good age and we have finally finished paying any nursery fees. I got to a place where I was quite content but still had some stuff to work through. This month was more relaxed and I really believed it wouldn't happen. I said to DH yesterday that life is good now and I don't know if I want to do all the sleepless nights etc again 🤣

Whatever happens with this pregnancy we will not try again.

We have no plans to tell anyone. We have a get together with our parents when I will hopefully be 6-8 weeks and by then I should have had an early scan so we will tell them then. But everyone else can find out when (if) the baby is born! If I do miscarry I will probably tell our parents but last pregnancy we got so excited and told them right away but then the lines kept fading then coming back and it was hard to explain about line progression when they are of the generation where you had to miss 2 periods then go doctors then wait 2 weeks for the results (probably showing my age here!)

Anyway, sorry for the long post. I have so much going on in my head!

Hi girls, well I might be back, so confused.
I'm so sorry to hear about losses and people ending up in hospital, it's such a stressful time.
@41andtryingforfirst So glad your scan went well and I bet you can't wait until Monday to see your little bean again.
@bubble55 I have been told by lots of professionals the last few days that if it doesn't last as long as your period usually does it probably isn't a miscarriage.
@KatySp Tentative congratulations. I also gave birth to my little girl in Feb, we only got to 18weeks as she was very poorly. It's a terrifying journey isn't it.
Had an appointment with a consultant to discuss my 2nd trimester loss that happened in Feb and she's not sure if I've miscarried. Due to having symptoms still and the bleed not lasting too long she wants me to do another test on Fri. She thinks I could still be pregnant but possibly ectopic or just could have been a false negative. This is messing with my head so much at the moment!!!

@HoneyPea oh bless you. We got to 22 weeks and had to TFMR. I felt such guilt for a long while until my consultant said we needed miracle after miracle to save her. It was such a traumatic time.

I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through at the moment. The waiting is the worst isn't it? Has she not offered you a scan? Do you have a bereavement midwife?

@KatySp Ours was a TFMR as well. The guilt is hard isn't it!
Yes it was a meeting with consultant and bereavement midwife. I've got to do a test on Fri and let her know either way. If it's positive they will book me in for a scan at 8weeks and then a NIPT soon after. If negative but I still have symptoms then she said she would like me to have bloods and then probably a scan next week. They said it was too early for a scan I was 5+4 from LMP when I went.

@HoneyPea I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you. TFMR is the worst experience. I rang my doctors about my fertility and they said "oh yes we have your record of termination". And I know it's just a medical term but "termination" to me suggests an unwanted pregnancy and she was so wanted.

I'm glad you have a bereavement midwife. Mine is great but I have to be direct in what I want.

I really hope everything is ok for you and we will both be celebrating our babies in April

Morning all, I haven't posted in the last few days but have been keeping up with everyone's journeys.

So very sorry to hear of the recent losses. I've been there and it's an awful time. I'll be thinking of you all.

Welcome and congratulations to the new joiners!

@HoneyPea I really hope you get some answers soon - what a rollercoaster! What symptoms are you having?

@KatySp Wishing you lots of luck and baby dust. I'm the same and have never shared about my MCs with family. I don't like people feeling sorry for me. It's such an individual thing though, and I completely get why some people would want the support of their loved ones.

@bubble55 had pink spotting that turned to red blood with my last pregnancy. I thought I was having my third mc, but all was well. Wishing you the best.

Hi @SearchingTheSkies thank you. Unfortunately I’ve bled a lot more overnight but still no cramps..I am fearing the worse but still can’t be seen until Saturday for a scan I’m heartbroken.

@bubble55 so sorry to hear that. It's such a worrying time. I hope the time passes quickly until you can be seen by the EPU.

Hi everyone, since I found out I was pregnant Ive had mild cramps, back ache and the odd headache, but the last couple of days nothing, I’m six weeks today. My question is, is anyone experiencing or has anyone experienced the same and everything is fine? Do I need to worry? I’ve fortunately never had to experience a miscarriage so I don’t know what it’s like and I might be worrying over nothing. So I suppose I’m after some reassurance that this is normal?

@JA42 ive been worrying about the same thing today…I was quite nauseous last week but nothing since yesterday, fingers crossed it’s just our bodies coping well 😬

Fingers crossed @N27 . I’ve had two successful pregnancies before and I was lucky enough not to have hardly any symptoms through most of the pregnancies but I just can’t remember what the first few weeks were like.
I’m hoping that now it has implanted, it’s just quietly growing away 🤞

Hi, hope everyone is okay! I’m so annoyed

I obviously went to EPU Monday and they tested me negative so wouldn’t do any blood tests. They said their machine was very sensitive and picks up on HCG as low as 25ml so it wouldn’t be wrong. My sample that they took was very, very diluted and I told them this. I’d been to the bathroom before going to hospital and I’d drank water on way

Well today I tested just to check it’s all clear for trying again and I’m still positive on the home tests. I assumed the test might be extra sensitive so I checked the box and it’s 25ml ! It’s faint but still clearly positive and I’m almost certain that my hormones are just steadily dropping but I’m still a tad concerned and now I’m annoyed they didn’t run bloods

My concerns are because the urine test only measures positive or negative so it could be susceptible to error from a very weak sample. But because I previously had an ectopic and ectopics are notorious for throwing up random test results I’m worried I could still be pregnant and it’s located in the wrong place. I don’t have any symptoms of an ectopic and I would know them immediately but I have this tiny nagging doubt that it could be and if that ever turned out to be the case it would be catastrophic for my fertility. They said test again in two weeks and if it’s still positive tell us 😫 but two weeks feels like forever and would def be too late if It was ectopic. When I had the bleed it was heavy for a day but then it stopped so not like a normal period or a normal miscarriage. Im also worried that I haven’t lost everything and might get an infection which could cause me problems. I’m going to test again Saturday and phone them Monday if I’m still positive.

If anyone has had a chemical pregnancy before can you tell me how long it took for your tests to go negative ?

Hi can I join please? 4+2 today. This is my third, although have previously had early losses. I’m soooooo bloated. Anyone else still breastfeeding another child?

Now that’s what I call a dye stealer, congrats 💐

I’m having a very low evening. Tough day at work followed by picking up a slightly-poorly DD (she’s ok but temperature a bit raised, she clearly feels grotty and is in a bit of a mood).

I keep thinking, what the fuck have I done? And have a thousand worries running through my head - how will we cope, what if the baby isn’t healthy, will DD enjoy a sibling, what if I get PND again. I had the same feelings with DD who is my whole world so I think it’s hormonal.

sorry, I hope I’m not bringing the mood of the thread down 😟

@Wouldloveanother all normal worries. Also totally normal to not believe you’ll ever love the next as well as the first, and feel massively guilty. But corny as it sounds, the baby really brings their own love and there’s nothing that matches seeing your first looking adoringly down at your second. I couldn’t sleep the week pre C section, just holding my first and crying silently all night, feeling like I was about to ruin her life. But truly, they love each other and I love them both.

I worried myself sick the whole 2nd pregnancy and really thought I was ruining Ds1's life by having another baby! I was convinced I couldn't love another as much as him and was scared I would resent the baby for taking me away from him. The second I saw my second born, all my worries disappeared.