Navigating pregnancy after loss thread 4!

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Hello ladies though I'd start a new thread, I'll tag who I am remember I'm sorry if I've forgot anyone...

@Skl2021 @Cruz86 @flowergarden16 @aesgriff @Sassy144 @Arwen7 @Bridgey8

@Margo34 thanks will have to look ones I have seen are around 50+ for an original one x

Also hating this heat 😭 it's so sticky and horrible!! I also have the chicco next 2 me I haven't used it yet obviously 😂 but heard good things

Thank you for the recommendations, I was looking at tutti bambini cozzee and joie roomie glide, I will take a look at the next2me too.

Also hating the heat, cannot sleep at night. Can't seem to eat much either, I wonder if it's due to the heat or having no room in my stomach, haha, I feel full after few bites, also seem to be feeling sick again at times. Officially in the third trimester - 28 weeks! Cannot quite believe it 🥲🥲

@Margo34 congratulations on your BPF 🥰

Congrats @Margo34 !

I also have the next to me which I loved. Have bought a new mattress from Chico Spares for this baby.

Heat is a nightmare. We bought an air conditioner which is amazing for the bedroom!

Still feeling mega stressed about the previa but taking each day as it comes. 26 weeks on Monday x

Hey lovely ladies,

joining in at my 4th pregnancy in 11 months, first 3 ended in miscarriage 😔

First one natural at 6 weeks, second one chemical pregnancy at 4+2 and last one a MMC discovered at the 12 weeks scan after a private scan shown a heartbeat and foetal pole at 7+4 weeks and was especially harrowing.

Currently 5+3 and have been trying my best to dissociate myself and have a detached approach to this pregnancy like almost take for granted it won’t work out and trying to get on with my life, but it’s getting increasingly hard not to freak out, finding today especially difficult.
No sign of bleeding or even light spotting whatsoever so far, but I’m on progesterone pessaries anyway and heard they can stop bleeding from showing even when MC is happening sometimes.
Anyway mostly freaking out as although I know it’s really early for symptoms I had quite strong nausea for a week between 4-5 and for the past 4 days that’s completely stopped, this is a similar experience to pregnancy one when I had nausea for about a week early on then nothing and I miscarried at 6 weeks.
Sore boobs have started to wane too.
I cannot remember when these other symptoms started, but with my last pregnancy, the one that got the furthest, I was also getting recurring night sweats, needed to pee in the middle of the night or woke up with a very full bladder in the
morning and this time none of that really, not yet, maybe bladder slightly fuller past couple of mornings.

Sorry for rambling on so much, but I’m basically desperate for some reassurance about symptoms early on and if one of you had a similar experience.
For added context I’m on Cyclogest since 2dpo, blood thinner injections since the day of a positive test (even if investigative tests found no evidence of blood clotting disorder, this was prescribed by a private clinic), low dose aspirine and 5mg of folic acid daily.

I had private HCG blood tests at 4 and again 4+4 and they were good levels and rising nicely just over doubled each 48 hours, last blood test was Monday just gone.
I’ll be speaking to EPU on Monday to try and book at early scan hopefully by the end of next week as I’m a recurring miscarriage patient so they should offer that from week 6.

thank you X

@clhiu Hello and welcome. First - congratulations!
From personal experience - I have been pregnant five times, when comparing my early pregnancy symptoms, they all came at different times, they all felt slightly different, four of them have ended in different ways - so it might be because of that - who knows. Looking back - I wouldn't read into symptoms so much, but I also know how hard it is and I still do it now. There were times when my nausea went during this pregnancy and I was panicking - but everything has been okay!

hello girlies ❤️

I hope you’re all doing ok. I can’t believe how far we’ve all come! 30 weeks now and I know we’ll have some 33/34 weekers 😱

I’m in anxious mode and as always I find myself back to the support from this thread. I’ve been told I have gestational diabetes (long story but they should have never left it this late). Does anyone have any experience in this or some advice to share? Xx

Hi @clhiu welcome as congrats. I agree with @sunnyd67 and everyone on this group has had that horrible anxiety and has experienced loss. You're not alone.

X

Hi @aesgriff sorry about the GD. I'm also now in a high risk pregnancy it's so nerve wracking! My friend had GD and her baby was totally fine but just needs to be managed and monitored. Keep going, just a few short weeks and you'll have your baby! And hers disappeared once her pregnancy was over. How you feeling?

@flowergarden16 I’m getting in such a muddle with all of these appointments 😱 how has your experience with consultants been? I’m feeling ok, a bit scared but just trying to remain positive (easier said then done!) xx

@aesgriff I feel your pain. I have only see consultant once and won't again now for another five weeks...

I think we just have to trust them and then trust ourselves if we feel something isn't right. It's really hard :-( x

@aesgriff hope your doing ok 💖 I still haven't seen my consultant and I'm 33 weeks 😂🤦 pointless! I'm sure u will get your head round it all 💞 x

@aesgriff no real advice but hope you’re feeling ok with it? As hard as it is try not to worry, you’re in the best hands now they they have diagnosed it & are monitoring you and baby. If anything it might just mean a couple of extra weeks of cuddles with your baby girl 💖

Totally relate to the extra appts between juggling midwife, consultant & all the additional scans it feels like I’m constantly away from work & at the hospital! Will be well worth it when our healthy babies are here 🙏🏼🤞🏼 xx

@aesgriff My sister in law had GD and her babies are fine, try not to worry xx Although I understand it's frustrating when things are not ideal

I'm seeing my consultant in 4weeks to check on the kidney, hoping it will be good news. I'm trying not to think about it much as I literally can't do anything...

@flowergarden16 it’s really tricky to manage the worry sometimes. I just can’t wait to have her in our arms I think only then I’ll breathe! Xx

@speake1 oh tell me about it I know exactly what you mean! I feel like my work diary just has ‘private appointments’ littered throughout the week 🤭 it’s all the unknowns isn’t it… how are you getting on? Xx

@Skl2021 how are you getting on? Is Mr still giving you trouble or is he being a good boy now 🤣 xx

@Srx1 it’s hard isn’t it! You know you can’t do anything but it’s just there lingering… aaargh xx

Good luck @Srx1 - I'm sure it will be fine and managed but it's so hard

@aesgriff I'm exactly the same! Won't be able to breathe until they are here and I know healthy but then we have to deal with a newborn haha

@aesgriff I am well and truly over pregnancy now. So fed up. This heat is just horrible and I'm so uncomfortable I can't do anything it's getting me down! I hate moaning about it as I should be grateful after having a loss but it's just getting so hard! My ribs are killing me everyday which means struggling to walk or do anything without lying down every so often. I have mum guilt as my boys are home and I just haven't done anything with them 😭 He's behaving for now 🙊 we had a growth scan yesterday and he's following his curve so there just going to continue monitoring every week. There still saying he's small. My fluid is still the same aswell so think if everything stays the same they will decide more around 37 weeks. X

Hi ladies, just posting in here for a hand hold really. I miscarried at the end of January at 8 weeks. I found out I was pregnant again at the start of May, which was a total surprise as we were TTA for a little bit longer - I must have ovulated around day 32! I get really unwell (HG, GD and very low blood pressure) during pregnancy and so I have spent most of this year pretty much bed bound, vomiting, and crying. I am so pleased to be pregnant again, but I am just so anxious and detached. I would have been giving birth to our lost baby literally this week and I can't believe how hard I have found it being pregnant with a different baby. This little one is so very much wanted and loved, but the grief for our other baby is deep and I am finding it hard. Sorry if this is too sad to post here, but my husband is going through an intense time at work so I don't want to burden him with this, and my other friends who have miscarried are yet to get pregnant again and so I don't have anyone to talk to who might understand.

Hi @buntywindermere, hope you're doing okay, and congratulations on being pregnant again. Not too sad to post here at all, it's what unites us all. It's hard, particularly when the due date pops round, but we all know where you're coming from.
Welcome along x

@sunnyd67 and @flowergarden16 thank you so much for your kind replies, i keep telling myself that if I can make it past 24 weeks then I will relax, but it’s not true and there’s no end to the worries until the baby is safe in your arm. I am so so glad I found this group for support. It’s really hard for others to really understand what you’re really going through unless they’ve been there themselves!
I took a Clear Blue test on Monday at 3+2 from conception and the result was 3+ so that gave me a bit of reassurance at least my HCG levels are spot on. Have managed to book my first scan for next Tuesday that’ll be 6+5 from LMP, really nervous about it, but would rather know as soon as possible if there is an issue. 😅
Meanwhile sore swollen breasts have come back with a vengeance so feeling some reassurance with that X

@clhiu you'll get there we are all just taking it one day at a time

@clhiu I wish I could say you stop worrying the further you are, but that's not the case, not for me though, you just worry about every little thing. For example, I started to feel heartburn about four weeks ago, I had it for two weeks and then nothing, I thought to myself that's strange why would it stop, is something wrong, is the baby not growing etc, it came back yesterday - twice as bad 😂

3rd trimester ladies: who else is beyond exhausted?? I feel so lazy but honestly I just made lunch, felt super faint dizzy and tired and now need to lie down 🙈

Hats off to anyone doing this who already has kids at home!

@anny I feel ya 🙌 so uncomfortable not sleeping getting out of breathe all the time. Getting fed up!! I have to take breaks between doing simple things as I'm just exhausted. Also having to lie down alot to take the pain of my ribs. Feel sorry for my boys as there on school holidays and I just can't do anything 😭 x