Minster's 9th Side Car - who runs the world? Girls! (Where are all the boys?!)

[larrythelizard]

Babies Due: 👶👶👶

@feliznavidad2 5 July 💗(induction towards the end of June)
@paintfairy 24 July 💗
@Vil10 1 August 💛
@Juno231 11 August 💗
@kaylsd 15 August 💛
@larrythelizard 18 August 💛
@Inkypaper 28 October 💛
@BellatrixK 15 November 💙
@Somatronic 2 Jan ish (I think!) 💛

Babies who are earth side:

Kirky658 11 August 2021 💗
Kate105 14 October 2021 💙
Justanothercyster 10 November 2021 💗
2020Mission 27 December 2021 💙
blackcurrantqueen 17 January 2022 💗
Crazydoglady123 29 January 2022 💗
Haiyaa 1 February 2022 💙
becarefuloutthere 26 February 2022 💗
Lexber 14 April 2022 💗💙
Minster2012 29 April 💗
bez91 8 May 💙
DKDK123 10 May 💗
whatwonder 7 June 💗
2under2 10 June 💗

@juno231 I’m having my pre op tomorrow with the consultant and anaesthetist so I’m hoping to push for some more opinions tomorrow / potential scan tomorrow so I can tell them I’d rather opt for natural route if I can if it’s safe to do so if bubs has turned at the last minute! As my midwife said yesterday whether it’s a buttock or a head your pelvis is fully engaged so they can’t turn back whichever it is 🙈 if I can’t get a scan tomorrow I’m going to pay privately as I didn’t think of that so thanks hunny! Most importantly have you slept hunny? How are you feeling? Sending lots of hugs over ❤️
@larrythelizard pizza sounds a good shout! We used to do a thing on the ward by asking all the new doctors who are joining on rotation to choose their death row 3 course meal to see what kind of person they are with their food choices 🤣🤣🤣🤣 late nights McDonald’s run for a McFlurry maybe? 😋
@2020misson congratulations on your new job hopefully it won’t cause any issues with your current employer getting a little advance insight on you having the new post!
@franklydear they like full bladders so they can visualise the pelvic organs more, I tend to drink 500ml pre scan and then 500+ on route so I’m not doing the chicken dance for the toilet whilst waiting☺️
@somatronic pre op tomorrow, booked next Wednesday 10th, my minds blown 🤣
@minster2012 I think I would go down the route of natural over c section just simply because the c section was for the safest route at the time but it bubs has turned round then hopefully should be no implications for trying naturally which I’ve never had chance to consider since 20 weeks of my pregnancy as I had the low laying placenta and then breech so c section has always been my main birth plan but now things might have changed 🧐 🙈
@bez91 that’s what I’m going to push for tomorrow! I’d hate for my space to be taken up by someone who needs it and they can be brought forward and I’ll just take the natural route plus I don’t want to fuss about with dog and everything on the day of the scheduled section next week if I don’t have to, fingers and toes crossed I have a productive pre op!
@bellatrixK I sound a right en on about last meals don’t I but yeah I was thinking fish chips curry sauce small battered sausage salt and vinegar and scraps 😋 my mouths watering at the thought 🤣 so exciting you guys putting the nursery bits all together it makes it all feel very real doesn’t it! I’m glad you’ve got a nice MIL who you can also share the experience with :D
@vil10 it’s just typical thing to do isn’t it get all planned and head round sections then bammmm potential to be natural and I’m like hmm where do I start with the thought of natural birth I’ll have to bring my bouncing ball back out of garage since I’d be able to use it again 🤣🙈 and hot curries! Congratulations sweetheart on your gorgeous little girl, when I saw the photos I went spam city to you 🤣🤣😍 beautiful name too, I hope you’ve managed to catch some rest as I can imagine your just running on adrenaline right now! Glad to hear the latch is improving just take each day as it comes hunny! It sounds like you did so well with your labour especially with her being back to back girl! Rest up the best you can sweetheart

Nightmares are awful, puppies being burned on fires 🥺 like what the hell is all that about 😦

@larrythelizard @Minster2012 the medicine thing just did barbaric when they are already upset. 🤣 I'm just not hard enough! God. The dropper is also shit though. I'm wondering if a tiny syringe might be better.
@Vil10 The looking at them crying lasts a while. 🤣 My friend even came round and did it. Which set me off again. 🤭 I'm pleased you didn't get the forceps- that sounds less than pleasurable. I've no idea how mine was but I had loads of back pain too. The nurse and DH took turns rubbing it, which did help. But I couldn't decide which was worse- that or the rest of it! Agree its not great if you have a crap back already but after (not that day, as you are sat in those stupid beds, which really hurts mine anyway) its been not bad and now I'd say it's pretty much back to normal.

Possibly a syringe would be better @paintfairy it's been that long since I did that I can't remember but I go to the back of the mouth with calpol

@kaylsd seems like you e got a vague plan which is good, and a natural birth then c section back up seems good, hopefully you can get more answer's tomorrow in the check 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@larrythelizard OMG the wriggling is insane if a child!! X is getting earlier again, luckily he agreed to go back in his room but we were awake ffs 🤦🏼‍♀️ why do we think another one is a good thing?!

@Franklydear you sound like you are bossing it

I think I've got time (maybe) to give you my birth story now! 🤣 Get a drink and some popcorn. 🍿 I didn't want to short change you.....

It was gone 4am and I had been awake all night on and off with ridiculous pushing out and uncomfortableness, which wasn't that unusual. DH was awake at that point too, and we were chatting. I also got the odd shooting vag pain but again- not unusual. In the end I physically said out loud - 'ffs, if you've not got enough room in there, just get out!'. 😂 Not 10 minutes later (4.40am) i turned over and felt a pop. 😮 I instantly knew what it was and went 'fuck' as I leapt out of bed and ran to sit on the toilet. I hadn't yet put the mattress protector on my bed (was really sure she wasn't coming yet) and we've a new bedroom carpet! Sat there for a bit and one l knew it was definitely waters on wiping. Then I started getting blood on wiping but I couldn't decide if that was normal as you read about the show etc. 🤷‍♀️ Put a pad on and went back to bed. DH asking what's going on. I was thinking it could be hours so might as well get some rest. DH started flapping about and in the end got up and dressed. Pains started just before 5am but only light period type and I downloaded the Freya app. He was getting on my nerves and clearly I was getting no sleep, so I got up too, and said I'll have a cup of tea. DH starts frantically bringing bags down and putting them in the car. 🙄 This ended up with 400 trips, door slams and likely neighbours being pissed off, as I'm then like I need that out of there or this needs to to in etc. I suggested he walk and feed the dog before we have to go out, and do something useful (then I could just alert mum and she could collect him whenever). I was sat at the kitchen table and decided I should eat breakfast as I could be in it for the long haul. Contractions were 3-4 mins apart which seemed not right, as the app was saying established labour. Some of them didn't hurt that much either and so I didn't really know what to think. Were they proper ones and did they count? They got a bit worse though so I despatched DH with dog and thought I'd better call. They went through everything and her reply was- i wouldn't usually bring you in at this stage (stupid woman) but because of the blood loss (which was still happening and definitely not normal) and the fact i couldn't feel baby movements (not sure how you are meant to through that) to go in to the triage. Off we trot at about 6.50am. With me complaining about DHs erratic driving.
Arrived around 7.10am and parking was great at that time! 🥳 They hooked me up to the baby heart monitor thing and also did obs etc. I could hear them muttering about being locked out the computer. Then moaning how I hadn't been hooked up long enough so what was the point? Pains did reduce a little on arrival but didn't take too long to ramp back up again. They then came in and said I was moving to labour suite.
Labour suite was pretty empty (great for me, when I know they are short staffed generally). One last came in with a clipboard and asked wasn't i being induced today? 'Well not any more' was my reply. 🤣 (And actually I had already decided in my mind not to go ahead that day anyway).
I had 2 midwives the whole time in there with me. A dr also came in. Again I was hooked up and shoved in a bed. By now the pains are worse and it was hurting me to sit propped up in the bed. Every time it came I leant forward which lead to them complaining they were losing the babies heart rate. I was arguing I can't just lie in a bed and I needed to move. They asked had I taken paracetamol and I just laughed and said no. They said I should have. (Have these people had babies? 🤔). I had a cannula put in and then the dr wanted to examine me to see where the blood was coming from (another dr also came along to join in, from the next shift). They were concerned in case it was the placenta. Yep- shoving a speculum in when you are in agony? Fantastic. I said she could but only around the pain. She couldn't tell anyway in the end. Then asked if she could check how far along I was whilst there. I said she could not she had to get out and wait a minute as another pain was coming. 😆 Turns out I was 6cm already. I'm still arguing to get off the bed. I also pointed out I'd wanted to be in the birth centre side. But if not at the very least have a water birth. They just laughed and said yeah that's not going to happen. 😳 Apparently the blood loss made it a no. I have since decided they just can't be bothered to fill pools up. That's why no one hardly uses them. They did keep asking me questions throughout that were all listed in my birth plan too, which annoyed me. I'm sure they never even read it. 🤬
Then they said if I have a clip on the babies head for heart rate monitoring, I'll be able to move about more. Yep- do that then ffs. As I was getting pissed off by this point. They do that and I get off the bed finally and I stood up just leaning over it. They gave DH some massage oil to rub my back and that was amazing. With me constantly shouting 'harder'. 🤭 They also said I could have gas and air now. Oh thanks!
I was in that position for a while but I started to feel my legs might give way. So eventually I said I needed to move again. They kept asking throughout did I want to lie back on the bed. I was getting pissed off as no i didn't want to lie back on the fucking bed! Sitting like that kills my back anyway but I certainly don't want to sit like that now. I need gravity on my side and wanted to hunch forward with the pain anyway. She asked me if I wanted to sit on the ball and I was at that point thinking- I'm sure this baby is coming out. How the fuck will sitting on a ball help? I did keep asking for pain relief but no one seemed to care much. I'm just not sure they acknowledged the baby was coming at any time!
So I got back on the bed to go on all fours and lean over the back of the bed. But as I did she said let's just check where you are. Lie down first and then you can turn around. 9cm. Then they said oh well it's too late for any pain relief now. Fantastic. 🥵 Wasn't there that long and started feeling it was coming whether I liked it or not. They asked if I felt I needed to push and I said yes. But I think I was half heartedly doing it as it hurt and I didn't like it. There wasn't much space between contractions now and I was thinking why is no one getting this out? Someone help me. 🤣 Not that they could....... They then said ditch the gas and air and just concentrate on pushing. I was like wtf? But it hurts? DH was still rubbing my back. Or maybe the nurse had taken over now......
In the end I decided I had better put in more effort as otherwise I was just dragging this out, and no one needs that. So cracked on. Until the point they tell you not to push and to pant and it was the hardest thing ever trying to stop my body from doing that as I was fighting a losing battle. My mind was saying you will tear but I just couldn't really do much about it. Then they said on the next one just push and she'll be out (DH saw the head and got emotional). I asked what kind of specific pushing they wanted this time. 🤣 She was born at 10.52am.

The rest of the day was a blur. I had asked for no injection for the placenta but given the blood issue she suggested the injection was best. So I just said do what you want. I had past caring. 🤣 Then of course I needed stitching up. I had 2nd degree tears (no idea what that even means) but only needed like a couple of stitches up inside somewhere- which I was never aware of afterwards, and then 2 on my labia which were the ones I could tell were there. I was slightly concerned when she started asking the other lady which bit did she think went to where? I've not dared look still...... 🤣 Whilst doing this she asked me if I have a high pain threshold (I assume because I hadn't really had much of anything or complained enough). This amused me, as in my mind I was thinking - what choice did I bloody have?! No one was listening to me or giving me anything. 😒
I was having skin to skin time at this point feeling like I'd just been woken up from some strange dream. DH kept saying it felt like Christmas day. You get no time to really enjoy it though as people keep coming in and out and i was getting annoyed again and just wanted to be left alone! Admittedly I liked the part where they fed me. I was pleased to have had breakfast before going though and I got lunch at lunch time plus toast, so I thought that was pretty good. We had taken snacks too anyway.
Baby pooed on me and I had to call the midwife to deal with it as I had no idea if I could even get out of bed. It was a new one (mine both left at lunch to have half a day off) and she was nice and sorted it all out with DH. Suggested I go for a shower. She asked had I had a blood transfusion and what all the extra equipment was. I was like eh? Dunno. Of course I wouldn't notice as I don't know what should be in there. But clearly they were prepared! Turned out they thought the blood loss was purely down to the speed of the labour and my body being shocked by it. Placenta was fine. Thankfully.
I hadn't taken half my stuff into the shower with me as I just wasn't thinking. 🤣 Useless. DH meanwhile was being shown how to put on a nappy and dress her- which was useless as clearly he did not remember anything. And I never got shown. Baby was then laid down in a crib next to me, only to be removed 4 seconds later by some evil lady that came to check her and make her cry. It actually made me want to cry too. I was now saying to DH- ffs, why can't they all go away! 🤣 I hadn't even really taken any photos. It was just constant. Hearing test woman also came down and she failed that in 1 ear. (I went back Tuesday though and all was fine, it was just fluid). I was asked if I wanted to go home that day and I said yes. Maybe the extra help might have been nice but I just couldn't wait to get out of there. I got dinner at 5pm. And then we were able to go home about 6.10pm.

We joked on the way out that I had packed all this stuff into bags and bought all sorts. I had a suitcase for me and a big bag for the baby. Plus a food bag. When we could have just walked in with a carrier bag. 🤣🤣🤣
I also at this point realised I had completely forgotten to use my TENS machine! Or that it existed. 🤦‍♀️

Oh and all the stress with the extra scans and worry about her being 10th centile all the way through? She was actually 31st at birth. 🤦‍♀️ So perfectly fine. 6lb 13oz.
She was weighed again last Friday and had lost 3%. And yesterday she was weighed again and is now 7lb.

Amazing @Vil10 so super happy for you all 🥰 glad you got so much time after too that's lovely! Try and get a little bit of rest before it catches up with you!

Damn you @paintfairy 😂 I've been eating lard too it seems @minster2012 still got 5kg to loose, target is Christmas. Not putting myself under too much pressure as neither should you. We've been through a bloody lot in 2 years. Some of mine is what I'd put on when TTC rather than pregnancy 🙈

@kaylsd hopefully you get all the answers tomorrow so you know what's what! Very frustrating for you. I did the last meal thing too as knew was being induced, big afternoon tea with my friend in the morning then pizza in the evening with DD and DH like a last supper 😂

@larrythelizard it isn't hard to keep still is it, DD is the same it drives me wild 😂 not what you need heavily pregnant either!

Ooooh off to read your story @paintfairy 🍾

Just dropping this here 😂

Stupid shit people forgot to mention about parenting http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4604162-stupid-shit-people-forgot-to-mention-about-parenting

Congratulations @Vil10 Lovely news.

Re weight, I weighed myself yesterday. I need to cop on - I'm eating pretty normally but I eat something sweet (several sweet things?) every single evening which must be the culprit. I blame coming off metformin, inositol and quitting my vape. My mother claims I was born with a sweet tooth but metformin definitely curbed it somewhat and now that's gone.

@Soph0105 is that the one I commented on last night?! Hilarious 😂

Also I was listening to the parenting hell podcast this morning where they are Sue's king to finest ranganathan & he made a comment at the end I had to lol at. He says his wife often insinuates he's more of a hindrance parenting wise than a help for instance he keeps the kids up later at bedtime & mucks around at bedtime & he often gets her hissing at him "it's ok for you, you don't have 3 tired pricks to deal with tomorrow" 😂😂😂totally this when DH mucks around at night in our house

Bloody hell i don't think k can read @paintfairy's essay novel story til I've got rid of at least one child and I'm too busy eating lard (see Insta story) again 😂

Haha love that thread @Soph0105!

Nightmares here too and also hot feet @kaylsd both of which I think are hormone related. Yay.

That sounds like a complete whirlwind @paintfairy and I'm super impressed by your efficiency!! Also think you must have a high pain threshold! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

5kg by Xmas completely doable @bez91 - I have May in mind to be excellent shape (ie better than last autumn when I got knocked up) as there's a family holiday and a wedding to motivate me!

I'm yet to weigh myself since being pregnant @Somatronic so you're a better woman than me...I have no idea how much weight you're 'meant' to gain and at what point but remember you're also growing a baby as well as eating the sweet stuff...!

I'm considering a second cornetto @Minster2012 (not in a row, I'm not a complete animal) - I think it would help me support the commonwealth games athletes better...!

@bez91 I have a lovely app called NHS weight loss to help you set up a target and count calories and exercise, in a 12 week plan, I have loss a kilo so far but 5 cm in my waist, exercise is making me feel much better, but I realized how many calories there are in some tiny things I was eating, most definitely lard, so those been abandoned now
@Minster2012 fake it till you make it, right?

Right I've got my drink & popcorn @paintfairy I'm going in!

Also realised my horrible spelling mistakes earlier, apologies I blatantly can't push a pushchair, hold X's hand & type at the same time. It should have been "listening to parenting hell's podcast where they were talking to romesh ranganathan"

@Franklydear the full bladder will be for the abdomen scan then if they need to do a dildo cam one they'll get you to go out for a pee and come back in again.....at least that's what they did for all of mine. And don't worry it doesn't hurt at all they use plenty of lube.

@kaylsd I'll keep my fingers crossed that baby has turned and you can get your natural after all 🤞Pregnancy nightmares can be awful, I remember having loads, but they do go away once baby is born.....probably because you're so tired you don't even dream 😂

@paintfairy your story made me laugh, I can just imagine your OH panicking and you just like shh I need my sleep 😂 Glad you got home that day, I know what you mean about just wanting everyone to bugger off and let you enjoy your baby. I hated having to spend that first night sharing my magical moments in a room with 3 other mums and their babies plus the endless troops of midwives doing checks all while DH wasn't allowed to stay.

@bez91 I'm the same, I think I have more ttc weight to shift than pregnancy weight 🙈

@Minster2012 I go through DH if he starts winding up DS before bed time, tho my FIL is the worse for it but I don't hold back with him either or he gets told he can keep DS there overnight and deal with the consequences if he's going to keep winding him up.

@larrythelizard a second cornetto definitely would help, you need to keep your strength up when supporting others 😉

I've joined an online class that helps with postnatal exercise building up the core muscles and pelvic floor. It's designed to be able to do the classes while baby wearing which is what drew me to it in the first place as it means I don't need DD to be sleeping to work out. It's 3 live classes a week but the lives aren't starting until after the summer holidays again so I'm jsut doing the pre recorded classes from previous months just now.....and very glad that I am as my coordination is laughable, hopefully I'll be less clumsy looking by the time the live classes resume in september 🤣🤣🤣 It's £22 a month and ran by a former midwife but its more than just classes there's lessons that go alongside it and videos on other aspects of babyhood and mental health etc and a private FB group. I'm really enjoying it so far so thought I'd leave the link incase anyone else fancies giving it a go.......just don't laugh at me once we're doing the zoom classes in September, I'll try not to fall with the baby attached 😂 www.karenpostrehab.co.uk/

@paintfairy 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉your story is exactly like mine!! Except my waters didn't go first, not til 9am then she born at 11.30 but honestly I swear they don't believe us AT ALL!! You did fab!!! I bet you do have a high pain threshold. And she's only lost a tiny amount of weight now past birth weight that's bloody brilliant well done 🥳💓I think you are right they just don't like to fill up the birthing pools...& can they now with a hosepipe ban?!! 😜🤔

@DKDK123 the classes sound fab and a really good way to deal with the 2 kids! After you said about baby wearing workout I looked at a joe wicks one the other day. Looked at it, didn't do if mind you!

So a frantic day here today. X was at nursery in the morning then I was meant to join MIL & a few ppl at the beach in afternoon. What I didn't know was at X's party MIL had invited the world & his wife there today. Different groups of ppl though, only a few of whom have met. like our old neighbours brought 4 kids, then MILs best mate & her grandchild, DHs cousins over from Madrid & their 3 kids, plus their brother then up from London & his kid & DH's auntie PLUS our friends & their 2 kids. Plus me & my two & MIL had nephew. So it was mental. Weird & mental, kids playing ok then squabbling, I didn't get to talk to everyone & felt bad for ppl who didn't know each other kind of "hanging" which MIL didn't consider wasn't actually much fun.

Let's add in I had to go get X from nursery at 10.30 as he'd been stung by a wasp on his finger & had a reaction (DH reacts badly as does his dad) so he was going from "forgetting about it" to dissolving into "my hand is dying", add that there was some squabbles over spades/holes/sand etc & it wasn't great.

NOW consider that I got asked by friends for us all to go over to theirs tomorrow night whilst there, DH's cousin (up from London til Monday) also said "oh we need to see you guys, we'll sort it" AND then DH when he got home said he was trying to see another cousin in the next few days who is over for a funeral from Singapore our weekend looks like this

Friday : oh yeah, baby class and SECOND JABS yup great timing, then DH cousin (London) from 4pm, can't go to other friends
Saturday: we already have other friends coming over (was meant to be digging a hole in the garden)
Sunday : family time prob first time DH actually coming to beach with us this year, Sunday dinner out
Tuesday : see DH cousin from Singapore

I'm genuinely knackered even thinking about it after a busy day today too we've just sat trying to coordinate diaries to fit a load of ppl in that we'd love to spread out over a month 😫and I was social with a million ppl today and just want to curl up.

WHEN WILL PPL REALISE I'M GENUINELY NOT THAT NICE 😳😂🤣😆

I've just been reading through the other stuff I missed. I have to say I'm really grateful of this bus and the support! I don't think I'd have managed without it! Its so nice to have a sounding board. 🥰

@2020mission I actually did see my mucous plug and it started 2-3 days before I gave birth. However I didn't even acknowledge this until I was talking to @Juno321 about it way afterwards. I thought i had thrush. 🤦‍♀️ Literally did not put 2 and 2 together as it just wasn't significant enough to really give thought to.
@Minster2012 coil? Eek. Know what you mean about pregnancy. I suppose we spent so long wanting it, maybe we still do? It did make me laugh that contraception is one of the first things they talk to you about immediately after giving birth. Like- an hour later. Yeah that's exactly on my mind. 🤭 Does B squeak? J does too. And whimpers. 🤣 Its so cute. 🥰 Do you not find the wondersuits look really long too? Might bode well for me mind, once she is big enough for the smallest size. I had forgotten about the hosepipe ban! 🤣 OMG your weekend! 😫
@Soph0105 I would have left the loo seat too. Assuming it's not too bad. We actually changed ours 2 weeks ago though as I hated the one that came with the house.
@Vil10 I can't believe the shitty arse nappy comment. Wtf? Welcome to the no sleep club BTW. 😁
@Juno231 Can't believe DH told people about your labour (when it wasn't). 🙈 Awkward. We told no one. Only mum because of the animals. Couldn't be doing with it. DHs dad still insisted on calling though when we were still at the hospital later, after she'd arrived and people had been informed. 🙄
@Somatronic I would not be impressed about cutting my summer holiday short!
@DKDK123 I need a bassinet pram cover but the one you linked looks great for when I need to move on to that bit. Thanks. Yeah I was getting to the point I might have had a breakdown and told them all to do one. DH was beginning to look at me concerned, every time someone came into the room. 🤣 Those classes look useful. I think I need to do something......
@Franklydear I didn't realise you were renovating either! Good luck. Usually they scan the outside first with a full bladder. Then you empty it and they scan with dildo cam after.
@kaylsd I think I'd definitely want to know either way, so I could mentally prepare myself!
@larrythelizard hate hot feet! I got that a lot. And I dunno- I was in pain but no one seemed to be listening. 🤦‍♀️

So- managed to register madam today. Only because I know someone who works there and I didn't need to wait for an appointment. Another thing ticked off. I still need to register her with my GP though. And this afternoon we developed a sticky yellow eye? 🤦‍♀️ On the plus side- some of the wind moving tricks are working.
I've also realised I didn't relay the dog drama. He's getting better now but he wasn't thrilled by the baby. He was at mums still night 1. Night 2 he was here and ok with us downstairs. Well, he just stayed out the way. Didn't seem to mind her crying. But at bed time later we were upstairs and she kicked off. And the dog got really stressed out and ended up coming upstairs (he isn't allowed usually) and then threw up on the landing! 🤦‍♀️ DH was then trying to clean that up and deal with a stressed dog whilst I was trying to sort J. He then wanted to be in our room with us despite hating the whole thing. So we just let him. Every time we went next door for a nappy change he followed. He's also been extra growly at visitors. When the midwife came he was in his bed, but she pricked her foot and obviously she yelped. He then came straight over and just stood staring at the midwife. Yet he's been giving the baby a wide berth? 🤷‍♀️ He is getting better now though and I think he will get used to it.
Something else I never updated on. DHs mum died a week ago. So obviously on top of all of this, he's been dealing with that. I can't imagine how conflicting that is. I also feel I haven't been that supportive as I'm just existing myself and finding any time to give thought to it has been pretty impossible. I can't actually believe it still. He's booked an extra week off work now and so he'll be off 3 instead of 2. I dunno how he's not having a breakdown to be fair. Plus there's still 1000 phonecalls back and forth about it

@paintfairy seems like doggie is just adjusting, I think she'll get there, it's better for her to give J a wide berth to start with, then often you find them creeping closer as things settle. That's Dylan, he's not really bothered by the babies then we find him lying next to the bouncing chair like "I'm just watching her for you". On DH & his mum I agree with what we've said previously, perhaps J has provided a good distraction but it must be hard, you will be supporting him in so many ways don't be hard on yourself 💓I'm also very grateful for this bus- maybe a gunky eye is contagious from B!! We called her speaker for the first few weeks then her noises changed, really cute 🥰

So yeah part one of today. Walk dogs, baby club then jabs. Oh and sell next 2 me 😂

@paintfairy dog is just trying to figure out baby's position in the pack, probably feels he needs to be more protective of family with a little one, so hard for DH, glad he got an extra week
@Minster2012 that sounds stressful, I am also very grateful for this bus, even if I don't really belong, I wouldn't do without you

Had a mini meltdown yesterday evening, silly really, DH wouldn't get me my toy filling from storage until late evening, I couldn't finish the Pokemon, the deadline was silly short with being out of the house but I wanted to give in person and now I'll have to post it on Monday,the drama i know, the builder hasn't started the floor tiles so I guess he's not finishing today, a couple of electricals to finish too, DH is to call him today see if he'll tell us what the plan is, we have appliances coming and would like to unpack the kitchen back and not have boxes everywhere, his only big flaw, no communication, the work is fantastic and the attention to detail fab
I am more calm today, just disappointed that I put unnecessarily unrealistic deadlines and then couldn't meet them

Example, the counter top is granite effect grey and the tiles white brick shape, so he put he grey grit to tie it all up

Ooft @Minster2012 I'm shattered just reading about your week let alone living it!

@paintfairy the raincover does from the carrycot stage too as well as the older pram, I've quickly thrown it on to show you. It's not the nicest looking but it does the job and can be put on quickly when caught in a shower. I left the house with the sunshade on yesterday and came home with the raincover on, wish the weather would make up its mind! Sounds like the dog is still sussing baby out but also knows its part of the family so still willing to be protective of her. I'm sure in time they'll be best of friends. Sorry to hear about DHs mum he must be feeling so conflicted at the moment being so happy for baby but wanting to grieve him mum, you'll probably find he doesn't grieve properly till later. It was only the other week that I properly processed my Gran dying and spent the day in floods of tears, I had too much to focus on looking after E in the early days that it hadn't properly hit me till then, your DH will probably be the same.

@Franklydear sounds like a bit of a stressful time, go easy on yourself. And you do belong 😘

@Minster2012 selling things already! 😮 Hmmm, baby club and jabs. No idea which is worse! Did B's eye clear up?
@Franklydear having work done is stressful though. Even with good people. Everything is just so upside down!
@DKDK123 ah! OK. At least it has vents. Mine has none and to me that's weird. Yes my concern is he won't grieve properly. Plus there's no funeral for him to do it at (bizarre situation) so I think that's really crap. There's no way he's processed it properly. So it's a bit of a concern.

Any tips on how you stop the baby bouncing all over in the pram bassinet? She starts spinning. 🤣 Never really thought what a ridiculous idea it was- expecting a baby to stay still in place yet you are bouncing them about? She favours lying one way so she ends up keep going. 🙄

Love that @paintfairy you sound a birthing expert 😎 really sorry to hear of your DHs mum. It must be a really hard time for him but just keep trying to check in on each other. Your poor pooch too, the drama though - imagine if humans went round everywhere being sick every time they felt stressed 😂

@larrythelizard yes the 5kg is more than achievable so if I fail it's even worse 😂 although I hope you had the second cornetto! You'll be fine getting back in shape with that super chill baby you're going to have 😆

@Franklydear that's great, well done you 👏🏼 I think most of the time cm lost is a lot better way to measure than actual weight! I use MyFitnessPal for tracking when my day isn’t ridiculously busy and Apple Watch for steps/cals. Anyone else on those it would be good to add each other for some motivation/encouragement 😊

@DKDK123 love how you're practicing in anticipation of the lives 😂 I'd be the same- sounds really good!

@Minster2012 that sounds absolutely exhausting, rather you than me! It's not too bad if you can go to others but my house with 2 children is a complete state 24/7 anyway let alone with people coming over 🤦🏼‍♀️

Also I planned to request to up my hours when I go back to work to pay for extortionate childcare costs! I currently do 30 over 4 days and was going to request compressed hours so maybe do like 35 over 4. Anyway my mat cover person is 37.5 and I found out they’ve also employed someone else on 22.5 to do what I did so there’s now 2 people doing 60 hours a week for what I alone was expected to do in 30 😂 I mean ffs 🤦🏼‍♀️ what a piss take. I'll not be happy if they can't accommodate my request. I was doing more hours anyway and just having to take the time back

@paintfairy oh yes might as well sell it though it is serving as a very useful large bedside table! Yes her eye has basically cleared now, tiny residue each morning, one syringe of colostrum from the freezer down 😂2 months to use up the rest! I'm trying to see if DH's cousin wants the snuzpod seeing as I bought a new mattress then used it for about 5 weeks 😂

@bez91 bloody hell 2 ppl doing 60hours?! Thats enough for you to be sick stressed 😳how is your fitness class btw have you made friends?

@DKDK123 tye first thing I thought when I saw that raincover was E is now a beekeeper 😂! I also have the snooze shade, waterproof cover & blankets with me constantly!! Isn't next week meant to be heatwave again??

@Juno231 🤞🏻things are good for you

Oh and B did her first giggle this morning, with us all there 🥰she won't be giggling later after being stabbed 😣

@paintfairy I spent last night selling stuff too, they grow out of clothes and equipment at an alarming rate. I've put my thing on FB marketplace to save me having to post them but if they don't sell there I'll move to vinted to sell them on there. I could make more on vinted but really need the space back in the house so have put thing on FB in bundles for cheap just to clear the space. Must say I did get a bit emosh packing up some of the clothes tho 😢 So even when you want to gouge your eyes out with tiredness, give J a little extra squeeze and remember she won't stay that little for long.
No idea on the bouncing about, I just let her or try go a little slower on rocky grounds 😂

@bez91 I don't have an apple watch but if you ever get a fitbit there's a couple of us in a group on there that do challenges together. That is a piss take on the work hours!

@Minster2012 that's cute that she did her first giggle! Hope she gets on OK with her jags. E had hers on Monday and the nurse was laughing at her afterwards because she was fine after the first jag then the nurse did the 2nd one and E didn't cry from pain, she screamed in rage at the nurse. Even the nurse said that's not a pain cry, she is actually raging at me 😂 To be fair I'd be raging too if someone stabbed me in the leg twice

@Vil10 you were an absolute warrior! And your little girl looks sooo gorgeous- I’m loving the Instagram updates.

@paintfairy love your story, thank you for filling us in with all of the details. You did so amazingly well, I can’t believe it was so fast! I love the honesty of wanting everyone to go away. At least you’re home now and away from annoyances! Sorry that she’s unwell now. Oh, I’m so sorry to hear about DH’s Mum. I’m sure that he knows that you’re there for him. You will be supporting him in so many ways that you won’t be aware of.

@bez91 and @DKDK123 I definitely have more ttc/post miscarriage weight. I lost weight before that then struggled and was horrendous with food during ttc and out most of it back on. My plan hope is that lots of walking and carrying a baby around will help shift it! Those classes sound great @DKDK123 I’ll look into that when I’m on maternity.

@bez91 maybe they’ll appreciate you a bit more at work now out send to take 2 people to replace you?!

@Minster2012 eurgh. That’s far, far too much socialising. That’s only so much I can take! I haven’t actually put any pictures up yet- I’ll get some on. It’s most just boring looking at the moment, but it’ll start to look cute soon! Aww, can’t believe that she’s giggling already!

@larrythelizard I know! Far too much painting. But the old owners of our house painted everything weird colours, so I’m trying to get rid of them! Definitely go for cornetto number 2… I’m craving one now!

@Franklydear I’m no help on the scan, I’m afraid. But I’m impressed with the speed of your renovations. So nice that you’re getting there with the kitchen. And now onto the bathroom. DS is doing well with all this change to from the sound of it? It’s so frustrating when you have an idea in your head and timings don’t line up.

Painting nearly done! DH is going to do woodwork this weekend then it’ll be finished. I also had the best day at Chester zoo yesterday. Lots of my family went, including all of my nieces and nephew. Lots of running around! I was exhausted after it, so having a slightly more chilled day today. Got a busy day tomorrow, so conserving every!