Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈

[MooBugz]

Hi all,

4+3 according to Flo app, pregnant after a miscarriage in March at 11 weeks so feeling very anxious / scared and needed a safe space to speak about pregnancy worries without thriving anyone of joy!

Feel free to join and share the journey together.

Oh @RedElleJ fingers crossed that isn't the case, thinking of you.

@WonderWoop congrats on the scan! We had a private gender scan at 16weeks last time so will probably do the same this time too.

@RedElleJ Thinking about you now. I desperately hope this isn't the case for you. x

So sorry to hear @RedElleJ

After my last pregnancy ( I had a missed miscarriage around 18 weeks it was picked up but baby had been dead around 5 weeks ) I got offered extra scans and thankfully my consultant has been so kind I had another scan a few days ago and everything is still ok at the moment, so although I’m not as pregnant as I was when it all went wrong, technically this baby has made it further. I was really reassured for a day or so and now I’m back to worrying until my next scan on the 1st September.. I’m just lucky he’s doing them every 2 weeks for me or I think I would fully lose my mind

Thanks for all the kind words ladies.

I went to EPU, who also couldn't detect a heartbeat. So, they scanned me there and then...all is fine and baby is wriggling away.

Kind of got a bit of a lecture from EPU for contacting my GP and coming into hospital as I should have called my midwife. However, I was told that my point of contact until 16 weeks is my GP so I have no clue what to do. Might just call the unit my midwife is located at and explain that the hospital have stated that they should be my point of contact for worries/concerns.

It is fair to say that I am really struggling with the bleeds, mentally that is. No one can find the source of the bleeding so I feel like I am just going to have to come to terms with the fact that I am just one of those women who bleeds.

Thanks again ladies - hope everyone is doing well :) x

Amazing @RedElleJ

I can totally empathize on the bleeding. It terrifies me every time. I'm hoping once start feeling movement my nerves will hugely ease.

You can relax now... for about 5 minutes...

@RedElleJ Relieved to hear all was okay! Sod them for giving you a lecture!!! As if you haven't had enough to deal with today. It sounded incredibly worrying. The information varies from hospital to hospital. My pregnancy say if I've any issues before 20 weeks (including bleeding) to go to my A&E. Which isn't entirely encouraging if I'm honest.

Can appreciate how mentally draining the bleeds are. We're all anxious enough after previous experiences but this must be making it particularly tough for you to feel you can relax in any way. I know there's no end to people on MN who will have had inexplicable bleeds through pregnancy and all has been well. But I know, if in your shoes, my head would be all over the place.

Are you taking progesterone? Perhaps when you speak with your midwife make it very clear the toll the bleeding is having on you. Perhaps she can book you for additional appointments and/or scans?

@RedElleJ so relieved for you, actually brought tears to my eyes as did your story @doingitalllagain ❤I'm really glad all is ok.

I think it would maybe help to get some mental health support maybe through the perinatal mental health team? Also as @STom2 suggests, maybe ask if you can have routine extra scans like every two weeks or every month? It's just so draining to be going through bleeding so often. Also potentially you need higher dose of progesterone? I know some women are on 3 times 400mg a day. I'd also be asking to stay on it for longer than the 16 weeks at this point, I think - or at least querying this.

You have been through a lot - hope you can have a nice little chill this afternooon x

Hi all and oh @RedElleJ what a day you've had you just be so drained mentally.

Glad it was a good result at EPU. We have hospital numbers to call
If there is any worry all the way through so must be different depending on where you are.

The good thing about to it scenario is you are proof that you can have that bleeding and still be fine. It's bizarre hearing about these stories but I know that some people get that and bleed all the way through and get periods during etc. hopefully your not as unlucky to have it all the way through! One of the plus points of pregnancy is expecting no AF for 9 months!

Glad you are ok though that's what matters.

Sending love to everyone else. Just in a weird limbo now till the next scan personally lol that's not till end of next month so just kind of waiting around but feeling ok 😊

@RedElleJ that's actually a good point that @MooBugz ... does the bleeding tend to happen every four weeks or so? as I've also heard people say they get breakthrough bleeding every month during pregnancy... x

@doingitalllagain that feels a long wait doesn't it! Just got to keep yourself busy or book a private scan if you feel the need to be at peace 😊 I'm trying to avoid anymore scans and going with the positive vibes for now!

@Skylark1990 glad all going well for you and your finding it's gone in quickly so far! Are you planning on any early scans? What a journey a lot of us have been on. Bless you all ❤️

@RedElleJ What a time of it you’ve had! I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough day and a rough time! No wonder you are struggling mentally! I would definitely mention this to your midwife when you speak to her.

Sending you love at least you have so much support here to help you a little! All here for you!

Ah @RedElleJ what a bloody rollercoaster for you. I'm so happy it was all ok on the scan. The bleeding must be so disconcerting. And like @STom2 says, sod them for telling you off. Honestly where's the humanity sometimes?! So relieved for you though, great news.

@Hagster so true there's no humanity sometimes especially considering the nature of the job you'd think it's a prerequisite! I remember when I went into EPU for my bleeding which ended in my, without an appointment, and the nurse told me off for just appearing then when she had to tell me the baby died she changed her tune. I was a mess as it was and then to be tested like that only to find out it was in fact a mc it was horrific. Some people shouldn't be in that profession, epu aswell they should know better.

Morning ladies, thank you so much for the kind words - definitely needed it!

I am definitely going to ask for some support when it comes to mentally managing all the bleeds I keep having and I think I will keep utilising private scans as our sonographer there is brilliant.

Sorry to heat about that experience @MooBugz - that truly is awful.

I did wonder if it was breakthrough bleeding @Skylark1990 but it doesn't seem to have a pattern and I can bleed for up to two weeks at a time.

I have had some brown bleeding today - I was told to expect this but it is a bit weird as after my bleed everything went back to normal so it seems like something is going on overnight...maybe all the growing and stretching is irritating my cervix? No clue - just hopeful that all will be okay at our next scan at the end of the month.

Hope you all have a lovely Friday and are all keeping well. Thanks again for all your support ladies - greatly appreciated x

Sorry @STom2 missed your message there - yes, I am on progesterone. And hopefully, when I speak to someone they may offer some extra scans/support. If not, we are lucky to be in a situation where we can get regular private scans.

@Skylark1990 I didn't realise you could stay on it past 16 weeks? I will ask but a quick search shows that most studies have found the benefits of progesterone have been utilised by 12 weeks as the placenta has taken over by then. So, I wouldn't be surprised if I was shot down on that one.

@RedElleJ I've heard of women staying on till 30 weeks etc if having bleeding or some other issue. But just anecdotally. Really glad everything is ok, must be so scary to go through this so often ❤️

Hey everyone!! Sorry I’ve not been on been struggling recently with bad anxiety and just a lot of stress really. Couldn’t seem to get myself out of the funk.

@RedElleJ so happy you’ve had some positive news had a little cry reading through the last pages but so glad you seen the little ones heartbeat again. What a rollercoaster.

We went for another private scan yesterday. I really hit a wall with the horrible feelings of doubt and “not being pregnant” and after flying a couple of nights ago I had convinced myself something was wrong but we went and everything was fine and little bean was having the time of its life in there sick of us already and turned its back on us for no more photos.

Pregnancy after loss really is the hardest thing I’ve been through. Sometimes feel so jealous of the blind hope I had the first time around and sick of people telling me not to worry. I know they don’t understand and haven’t been through it (wouldn’t wish it on anyone) and can understand it’s just what’s said but we all have very valid reasons to worry.

I’ll attach a scan pic if everyone is ok with seeing one, I know it can be triggering even if we are all in the same boat different seas but I’d rather check before hand. I know many people haven’t sent one in yet. xx

Aw @Rubes1234 sorry to hear I'm you've been struggling but you are 100% right in what you say about the hardship of pregnancy after loss.

I was really happy at my 12 weeks scan and had even told my work and close family/friends but I do find that I'm not allowing myself to get as excited as I would have been otherwise.

I made a big sis collage and board to announce to everyone else but just haven't gotnit in me to send it on just yet even though I'm past the point it went wrong last time. Feeling like a miserable sod sometimes and I should be grateful! And I really am but there's always that sadness and doubt hiding isn't there 🥹

Hopefully once we can get to the stage of baby kicking etc it will feel a lot more real for all of us. It's a hard time and a good time together that's for sure

Ps very happy for you to post your scan pic ❤️

@Moobugz I know what you mean about the announcing side of things. We've told some close family and friends. But like last time with DS will wait until 20 week scan is out of the way before making a "nicer" announcement (like yours, with a big brother t shirt or something).

@MooBugz Don’t feel under any pressure to have to announce it. I had announced it on Facebook and Instagram last time and when I lost the baby at 18 weeks it was awful having to take it back. I didn’t want lots of awkward moments I’d rather just deal with it all in one so I put a post up just a few words that baby was born too early. I had so many people message me that it was so brave to do it but I didn’t feel brave at all I felt so embarrassed. I’m not one to really share things online ever so it didn’t feel right but it saved some awkward convos. I’ve told everyone this time that I’d tell if we miscarried again, especially the ones I know would help me through it again but I’m not putting anything on Facebook. Social media can find out when they are born this time around. It’s just what I’m comfortable with this time. My husband wants to announce it as he’s excited but I’ve said no. If you want to share it with the world don’t let fear stop you but if you want it to stay private (ish) don’t feel like you have to say a word

Morning everyone!

Well we have had an awful 24hours full of worry and stress. I started having a heavy bleed yesterday around 1:30pm and this continued through the night just when I wiped. Turned to light pink then now brown this morning. Just been for a scan at the hospitals BEP unit after having the private one 2 days ago. Everything is still fine. Baby seems good was swatting the sonographer away again heartbeat good but it’s really set me back mentally. Even more anxious than before now.

I know a few of you are bleeding here. Have you had any explanation on why or what is causing it?

Sonographer said they could see no cause inside the womb however they didn’t check if cervix was closed so feel a little like ugh. Felt reassured for all of the walk to the car now worrying again!

Hope everyone else is well. Xx

Hey @Rubes1234 - I understand exactly how you are feeling. I certainly feel I’ve suffered a huge mental set back with my most recent bleed.

Similar to you, no cause identified for the bleeding. They did tell me my cervix was closed though - only because I asked if they could see why I was bleeding. So I think they may have seen the cervix is closed in your case but not verbally mentioned it.

I don’t have much advice on how to deal with it all I’m afraid…I think I am just always prepared for the worst. Which concerns me as I worry if things do all go well, I wonder if I will struggle to bond with baby.

I hope that’s the end of the bleeding for you and it was just a one off 🤞🏻Make sure you rest up - I’m sure you must be feeling exhausted x

@doingitalllagain we waited until 20 weeks to announce socially with my DS- he was ivf and we'd had three losses before that between 8 and 11 weeks.
This time round, after a loss in January, I probably won't announce it at all. I've told my closest friends and family and I expect some of the mums at playgroup when I start to show a bit more but u less it comes up in conversation I'm keeping quiet!
Not planning on having a baby shower or gender reveal so I guess people will know when baby born!

Who is planning on finding out the gender? We're on team yellow 💛