Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈

[MooBugz]

Hi all,

4+3 according to Flo app, pregnant after a miscarriage in March at 11 weeks so feeling very anxious / scared and needed a safe space to speak about pregnancy worries without thriving anyone of joy!

Feel free to join and share the journey together.

Thanks everyone for your lovely replies 🙂

Hope everyone has a good positive day today!! ✨️

How is everyone doing symptom wise? I've just got sore boobs cramps and (TMI) diarrhoea once a day 🙄

Hello!

Symptom wise I've really just had tiredness and occasional cramping nothing too drastic yet. I'm waiting on the nausea or morning sickness which always gets me! I remember being pregnant and attempting to feed my almost 1 year old at the time baby food and the smell just made me vomit 🤣

@MooBugz urgh, its such a joy isn't it!

I remember my husband very kindly made a chilli for tea one day and I literally had to go and lock myself in the furthest bedroom away from the smell until the next day 😂

I recall it starting around 6 weeks last time. I was lucky and only really got mine from about 4pm so was able to happily eat breakfast and lunch before it all kicked in. Not sure how it will go with an almost 3 year old 🙈

Having said that, I am currently sat here feeling pretty sick right now. I need to go and have breakfast I think...

Morning everyone :)

Not much to report here again. I had some cramping last night on my left side but it wasn't severe so just assumings its a normal part of the aches and pains.

Hope you managed get some breakfast @madeinthe80z before feeling too sick.

Hope you got some breakfast in you @madeinthe80z and yes cramping very normal @RedElleJ :) my cramping has died off a bit now but I think it can come and go throughout the first few weeks.

I did another test today at 15dpo 😅line is darker - almost a dye stealer which is what I've been wanting 😂I think I'll stop now for a few days and test on Friday once more with both a digital weeks and one more Frer then maybe just leave it - need to stop at some point don't I! Its' just been nice to see the line get darker. My DP is not impressed 😅he doesn't understand why I'd waste the money but if it reassures me I dont really see it as a waste. I also already have loads of FRERs in the house as I preordered on Amazon. Anyway, I do plan to stop soon. I'm just looking forward to being a few weeks further along and it'll all feel more real.

Oh and re sickness - with my DD I also used to get the evening sickness @madeinthe80z ! It was horrible - about 6pm on the dot I'd have to vomm and often be spewing all night from there. I had crazy aversions too majority of the day but chewing on plain crackers helped. And like you was glad I could eat during the day, most of the time! It kicked it about 6 weeks then got bad about 7-16 weeks for me last time so assuming that'll be the timeframe again... who knows! I do feel a bit iffy already if I let myself get hungry.

Does lemon cake count as breakfast?! (🤭🤭)

Oh the testing. I really need to stop too. I'm out of FRERs now. Got a dye stealer on Sunday at 17dpo so won't buy any more of them.

But I am still doing the cheapies. I have done 2 today. I have decided I won't do anymore now until after the scan on Thursday. I promise!!

This is what happens when they sell these things to crazy anxious people so blummin cheap and in such high quantities!!

I know why we all love FRERs so much though. The line progression is so much quicker than on these.

Some lovely line progression there @madeinthe80z ! And yes the FRER lines are so satisfying, when they progress well. Here's mine from today. I think it's alllmost a dye stealer today but not quite so will do one in a couple days as want a dye stealer 😂

Ooh yep, wait till 17dpo and you should get it. Mine were very similar!

Oh ladies your making me want to bust my last FRER out and join you with the line progression 🤣 although I only have like two tests to compare it to!

Morning sickness mine was very much not morning either before it was pretty much nausea all day long and some actual vomiting at random times. And because this is an anonymous word I can safely tell you I was driving from my mums one day and threw up mid driving on the motorway into a plastic bag I managed to find now that's multitasking!

Another time I was driving to work and threw up so bad it came out both ends (I had a 3rd degree tear with my son so control wasn't what it once was back then) so yup 👍🏼

You're all doing great! Go us ❤️ 🌈

@madeinthe80z what happened to day 16 🤣

@Skylark1990 those lines though😍

@madeinthe80z oooh beautiful progression there!! Eep excited to test on day 17 then, hopefully I get my dye stealer then haha.

@MooBugz that made me laugh out loud! You poor thing, argh being sick is horrible. I used to be regularly sick on my walk home from the train station after work - it was in Jan / Feb time too so bitterly cold and often windy and I'd have to bark on the side of the road while cars whizzed by. Not elegant at all!

*barf not bark, although I'm sure some horrible sounds were escaping too 😅

LOL @Skylark1990 our typos are too funny barking and checking knockers 🙈

Ah yes it's nice to be able to have happy vomiting memories lol but side of the road hustle is hard i had a similar experience except hubby was driving and I shouted at him to emergency stop and orient the door and threw up. Classy 🤓 and on my street aswell I felt mortified but thankfully nobody saw, I think!

Bless you on the walk home from the train station that must bring back memories 🥴

Hi everyone, so happy for all of you with your BFP’s.

We got ours today on a clearblue digital (2-3weeks, it should change to 3+ tommorow or Thursday though) and I’m consumed with worry about it all happening again. I’m so happy but so scared of having it taken away from me again.

We had a missed miscarriage at the end of September last year at 10 weeks + 6, heart beat they believed stopped at the 10 weeks +4 and it was just mentally and physically draining for me.

Im trying to remain positive and hope for the best but I just feel stressed out/worried and a lot more emotional than normal! LOL. I just feel so guilty that I’m not overjoyed by seeing those two lines when it’s all I’ve dreamt of since September.
Im so happy it’s happening again finally but so so so scared.

My boobs are on fire again same as the last one and the tiredness is killing me today.

Im kind of hoping someone here feels the same way as me, reading through your comments.

I know I have great reassurance in the EPU and the Gynae clinic that I have attended but even the thought of calling them today has triggered everything back off.

I think that’s everything lol. What a vent!

@Rubes1234 congratulations on your BFP and sending lots of love your way. It's so so hard when you've had a miscarriage previously, many of us on this thread have done (and many of us are actually also on the due on Feb/ March after MC thread that @MooBugz set up). It just shows how common it is but that it won't prevent us also having a pregnancy and birth after it all ❤️ can really relate to your mixed feelings and natural for this wonderful thing to bring up memories of your previous loss. Be kind to yourself and one day at a time. Don't feel you need to call the epu straight away if you don't feel it's right. I've not called the doctor or midwives yet, I decided I'd wait till 5/6 weeks just so I feel more secure. Although in saying that It could be good to get a blood test - I've had two previous losses this year, they were both before 5 weeks. Also have a beautiful 21 mo DD so blessed with her. And just hoping this bean is a sticky one as we all are xx

Thanks @Skylark1990 , To be honest the EPU have been great with me. I’ve been back quite a lot since everything and they have done three monthly checks with me and really been amazing. On my last appointment I was stressed because I hadn’t conceived yet LOL and they really reassured me that they would help me get pregnant and sustain a pregnancy if they could so I don’t know why I’m feeling like this to be honest. I just think everything’s fresh.

Cried my eyes out earlier because I thought of potentially this child asking me about how and when we found out about them, guilt tripping myself. Love the hormonal side of it 😂

Im hoping after a good nights sleep tonight I’ll be more level headed. I’m in the scared to tell anyone boat but my partner is so happy and overjoyed. He’s one of those annoyingly positive people 😂 the way I am with everything but this.

I think my due date will be 15th Feb. I pretty much know the date I ovulated as we were tracking for the EPU to check ovulation so I’m hoping it will be spot on and be our little love bug!

Thanks for setting this up @MooBugz x

You're welcome @Rubes1234 I hope you're able to get the reassurance you need here and know we are all in this together and that there's no guilt in no feeling the same joy we would have felt pre mc.

I think my due date will be Feb15 too so that's a good start for us right 🥰

The ladies here have been fab, feel free to vent and share anything you are feeling we're here to supper each other and normalise what is going on in our head and hearts.

Sending you lots of positive vibes 🌈

@madeinthe80z It absolutely counts! Sounds like a delicious breakfast.

Hi @Rubes1234 - I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My husband is the same as yours and I think that can help balance things out...especially when you are having a rough day of it. I hope that you have moments where the worry eases but you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about in the way that you are feeling. Nobody prepares you for a miscarriage - I remember friends and family telling me not to worry and everything will be fine. I know they were trying to be kind but its just not helpful - we haven't been prepared to talk about, let alone deal with miscarriage so please don't feel guilty about how you are feeling. Congrats on your BFP and sending lots of positivity and love your way! 💖

I must admit, I have had a rough day of it. The left sided cramping got me worried so I didn't take a test day - as much as I want to see an amazing line progression like you guys @Skylark1990 & @madeinthe80z. To be honest, I don't think I will test again until hubby is home - we don't live near any family and haven't told any friends so I don't have that support network. I ordered some clear blue digitals so will take one end of this week and maybe the end of next?

I think because my first pregnancy was a MC I am worried that it might never happen for us. I see stories of women who have had 4 or more miscarriages before being successful and I am just in awe of their strength. And, I don't know if I could do the same. I have wanted to be a mum for as long as I can remember but since the MC I struggle to see myself being pregnant. Then I worry I am putting negative energy out there and I will become a self fulfilling prophecy...its exhausting.

The stories of throwing up have made me chuckle this evening though!

Anyway, it is way past my bed time - hopefully a good sleep will sort me out x

Promise I won't be a worried mess next time I post haha!

I've had quite a bit of nausea this evening! Only 4+1 so who knows if it's here to stay and on and off still. But had to sit down as got all sick and hot when I was spinning my daughter around in the kitchen earlier and feeling a bit queesy again now. Also feeling more worried this eve about another MC. I guess these fears will come and go. 😔 Trying to focus on the positives tho and it does generally feel more real and better this time 🤞🤞

Must be something in the air tonight @Skylark1990 @RedElleJ as I also had a bit of a wobble thinking if I should get an early scan around 9 weeks after saying yday I decided not to.

Fear least wins doesn't it when you think how hard and long it feels till that positive test then the thought of the physical and mental side of trying again. I do think we have to think positive and hang on to each other for support because it's anxious times for us all and we deserve some happiness ❤️

Goodnight for now ladies

Aww @ RedElleJ hope you are feeling better this morning 🧡
I find when I am distracted it is best. Its a shame I can't just sit, rub my tummy and feel a bit excited .... in fact, screw it, that's exactly what I'm gonna do today when I start feeling negative. I'm gonna try anyway!!
Tomorrow may be different whilst I wait for my scan, so today I'm gonna stay positive. (Watch this space!)

Oh and I only had one test left and wanted to see a definite dye stealer so used all my will power and strength to miss a day 🤣 saved myself another tenner there!

So girls you win I ended up using my last test I mean it was just sitting there asking to be peed on tbh..

Lol @madeinthe80z that explains it!

I hope everyone has a good day today. I was thinking about it this morning and thought you know what if the bad happens it happens no amount of worry or not worrying will change that. And the way we should think of previous MC that our bodies are so powerful so amazing they knew the pregnancy wasn't viable so out and end to it so save us heartache down the line. Saying goodbye to an unborn baby over saying goodbye to a baby we held in our arms can't imagine having to go through that. Our bodies are amazing we should be proud 🥲

PS here's my sad line progress lol