Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈

[MooBugz]

Hi all,

4+3 according to Flo app, pregnant after a miscarriage in March at 11 weeks so feeling very anxious / scared and needed a safe space to speak about pregnancy worries without thriving anyone of joy!

Feel free to join and share the journey together.

Ooh what a lovely dye stealer you have there! 😍

@RedElleJ sorry I missed your post last night, as it was late when I checked back. So so sorry you've been feeling rough, it's so hard and totally natural to feel like this. I know many people who have had a miscarriage with their first pregnancy then gone on to have their baby with the next. And I've heard of so many other stories too. It's incredible how varied the experience of starting s family is. With my DD it happened first try and all was well, but then when we started TTC for no 2 of course I had the two losses and it really threw me - I've also had fears I would never have another baby and I imagine that would be a stronger fear if I didn't have DD so can really empathise and I'm sending lots of love to you. But like @MooBugz knows we need to remember that miscarriages happen for a reason and vast majority of the time it's our bodies actually being clever as they know something isn't right. It's heartbreaking but it means there is then room for a new little life that is right ❤️ and I hope this pregnancy will be the one for all of us! Good idea to wait a few days before doing the Digi I'm also hoping to do one on Fri. How many weeks will you be on Fri? The digis can be a bit unreliable and they sent me into a spin when I had my early loss in April as it never went up fr 1-2 weeks so I'm quite scared to do one this time (even tho I know it can be unreliable!)

A few typos in there sorry, hope you get the gist! 😂
@MooBugz beautiful dye stealer!!! Woohoo.

I stupidly did another two tests today - another FRER and a cheaper one I bought ages ago when on holiday. Tbh it made me worry more as the cheapie isn't super dark. I know it's less sensitive than frer tho and I'm only 4+2 so it is still early days .. I did the same cheap tests while on holiday last pregnancy and they never got dark and that ended a few days later. But today the line was darker than the ones I did in April so I shouldnt worry should I? I mean, it's not super dark but it's darker and it's a cheap test and diff from the FRERs and I shouldn't really compare. But ergh just anything is capable of making me worry.
The FRER was good tho, a bit darker again than yesterday! I really need to stop testing with them now 😬
Pic of them both. 16dpo today. I think I just need to dig deep and know it's going to be ok and the tests aren't crystal balls!

So because I'm a gumpty and need reassurance attaching the progression. The last one from today is a bit darker isn't it? See how control line slightly lighter? It's been daily so not huge increases. And I'm running out of room on my tissue haha

Yesterday and today's! Bit darker right? 😅

@Skylark1990 that FRER looks perfect for 16dpo. Don't worry about the cheapies, they are a nightmare! Mine only got properly dark in the last few days and I'm 20dpo now x

Yep, definitely definitely darker...and a dye stealer 🥳

@Skylark1990 they are 100% precession each of your lines are darker than the last don't worry they definitely are it's not just you seeing things.

I'm sorry that you are so worried and I feel for you but you totally deserve to be happy and enjoy these moments and I feel like your going to end up more stressed the more tests you take rather than the other way round. Lots of love and hugs to you lady 🥰

And also cheapies are cheapies for a reason, that's why anyone you know who has used cheapies always follow up with a branded ❤️

Morning Ladies,

Hopefully today is a better day for those of us who were struggling yesterday.

Feeling a bit more positive this morning despite a bit of a scare. I had some bleeding first thing but it was bright red and has stopped now so think it was implantation bleeding. I had it with my previous pregnancy but I thought it was my period. The dates seem to add up too as AF was due 13th-15th. I have the doctors calling today though so will see what they think.

I think I will get an early scan at 8 weeks if the doctors don't offer it to me @MooBugz but I equally know it isn't a guarantee so it is difficult to know if it will help much. So I completely understand toing and froing over whether or not to do an early scan. Beauty of private though is that you can pretty much make the decision last minute so maybe just see how you feel as time progresses?

Thank you for all the kind words and @madeinthe80z I did exactly that this morning. I was in the car and just held my tummy whilst telling our little sticky squish to stay put. Power of positive affirmations right?

@Skylark1990 The lines look great to me and try not to worry about the cheapie ones. Compare apples to apples not apples to oranges - I think that is the saying anyway. So, I am only 4 weeks tomorrow so I think I will take one on Sunday then I might even leave it two weeks...if I have the will power that is! I never used digital last time so I am not sure how long to space them.

I do dread to think how much money we have all collectively spent on tests!

Sending love to you all today x

Thank you so much everyone you don't know how much you're words helped!

May we all have worry free days 😅❤️🤞😬

Also sorry I feel I am constantly writing typos or weird sounding sentences! Lol I promise I do know how to write, I did English at uni 😂😂 x

I am living for the typos right now @Skylark1990 haha! So no need to apologise x

Same here with the typos too 🙈 progression not precession!

@RedElleJ you are right I can always do a last minute book if need be but for now I'm going to hold off. I'm counting on positive energy to see me through these next weeks then have my holiday booked halfway through week
9 then it's just over a week of waiting till I get my nhs scan on week 12. I'll probably be nervous around the holiday weeks as that was the mc weeks with being 11 weeks gone or so I thought but baby had no heartbeat and stopped measuring at 8 weeks and I don't want to then put a downer on on the holiday with bad news but equally could be good news. So best I stay put and just focus on getting to august which feels years away right now but I know it'll fly in

Has anyone contacted the doctor for midwife referral yet?

I haven't yet. I remember when I had my daughter the midwife shouted at me as I didn't call up till like 7 weeks as I didn't want to tempt fate after my first loss!

I guess I will call up Friday if all goes well tomorrow with the scan...

@madeinthe80z I called line last week when I was just over 4 weeks and have my first appointment 13 July and scan booked 3 august 😊

Hey guys, hope you all had good days!
I've not booked or called yet I guess I'm waiting to get to 5 weeks then I think I will ☺️ I don't think the first midwife appointment is till 8 weeks anyway.
I've been a bit constipated today (I would say tmi but actually I don't think Tmi is possible on these threads 😂) and trying to embrace it as a symptom rather than be annoyed by it. But also been having some uncomfortable cramping feelings low down this evening, not sure if it's to do with the constipation or my womb 😞😬 hoping it's the former. Or if womb just normal stretching etc.

Hi everyone! Would love to join this thread – very similar story to several of you over here. My first pregnancy I had a MMC (discovered at 12 weeks, heartbeat stopped at 11 weeks), but then second pregnancy brought gorgeous DD1 who is now 10 months. Currently 5+4 and not feeling very many symptoms which I'm finding a bit scary! But trying not to overthink. With a little one wanting to toddle, I've got lots to distract me... 😅

@RedElleJ I know exactly what you're going through, with my first pregnancy having ended in MC. But it was lucky number two for me, so really hopeful it's the same for you! I so know that spiral of thinking that your stress about miscarriage will cause a miscarriage, but the thing that use to get me out of that head space was remembering that plenty of women sustain pregnancies through the most extreme circumstances (wars, grief etc. etc.) and others who are totally happy and zen (like I was first pregnancy!) have MCs. What that says to me is that it really isn't about your mental state/level of stress – if it's a healthy little bean and your body is ready for it, it'll stick around through all sorts of turmoil! And if it doesn't stick, it's because it really wasn't meant to... Don't know if that's helpful to you, but I always find the most stressful bit thinking I have to be perfect in order not to mess it up. Remembering I'm not really in control helps me chill out a bit...

Welcome @daisyhrl
Hope you're doing okay. The little ones definitely do act as a good distraction!

Welcome @daisyhrl and very wise words about it mostly being out of our control! I've also had that worry about worrying etc... it's horrible as so circular and hard to get out of it!

The sun here is lovely today and it's making me feel more positive :)

Morning All ☺️ And welcome @daisyhrl - thank you for the advice it does really help. I’m trying really hard to retrain my thinking pattern with this pregnancy so will definitely use some of those examples. Sorry to hear you first pregnancy was a loss - but super happy to hear second time was the charm. Congrats on you BFP! Hope you are doing okay too? Definitely agree with distractions though - I’ve got two doggies and masters degree to finish so that is helping lots!

@Skylark1990 Hope you are doing okay today? If it helps I’ve been backed up for ages now…I don’t understand how I can still be eating, like where is it going!? 😂

Just got my booking appointment today - 19th July. And shockingly my GP agreed to progesterone if I bleed so…I have been referred for an early scan 😬

I also caved today and took an easy@home test - 1st one is 11DPO and the 2nd is todays at 14DPO. I think it’s looking okay?

Hope everyone has a lovely day 💕 x

Hi All,

Can I tentatively join you? I’m only 10/11 dpo
but have had a couple of positive tests in the last 2 days and showing some line progression, so I’m keeping everything crossed! AF due on Saturday.

I had a miscarriage on 22nd March and it came as such a terrible shock and has been really hard to process. I was 12+5 and I had only had my 12 week scan the day before when everything seemed fine and no risks flagged on my NIPT, but then miscarried at home the following morning. This was my first pregnancy and we’d been trying for 2 years (although on and off!).

Since the miscarriage I’ve seen a private consultant to try and figure out what happened, and although I don’t have many answers, I did find out that I have less than half the eggs I should have for my age (35). So he has flagged there may be an egg quality issue and may need IVF for a successful pregnancy. This has made me absolutely petrified of miscarriage again, but trying to be hopeful!

I have been having some really strange twinge-like sensations, which I don’t remember from the first time. The only way I can describe it is like the feeling of passing a large blood clot, but not sure if that’s quite right and I haven’t had any bleeding. I’m not sure if it’s because of my previous miscarriage being quite recent, has anyone else felt anything like this?

Sorry for such a long message!!

HPG x

Thanks for the welcome! Yes all well here thanks though it's 36° today (I live in South of France) and due to go up to 40° tomorrow so bit of a challenge!! Temperature regulation is always first to go haywire for me during pregnancy anyway 😅Anyone else get that?

Looks like a great line progression @RedElleJ ! Haven't tested in a while but itching to now....😆

I've just booked in for a scan and it's for end of July! Seems very soon, as I won't even be quite 12 weeks - but the only time they could do me. Guess there must be lots of people getting pregnant round here! Early scans (or private scans of any kind) aren't a thing in france, though wish they were...

Hi @HarryPotterGeek84 I am so sorry to hear about your loss - I can’t even begin to imagine how you must be feeling. Congratulations on you BFP…albeit a tentative one for now. I know lots of people who were told IVF may be the best/safest option for them but have gone on to have natural successful pregnancies so hopefully you will be the same 💕

Twingey sensations seems to be completely normal but I would say if you are worried to see if you can be checked over by the EPU. Surely they would be happy to have you in after having a MC beyond the 12 weeks mark?

I hope you are doing okay? This group has been amazing at keeping me level headed so far - hopefully we can help do the same for you x

Hi @daisyhrl @HarryPotterGeek84 welcome and you're in great hands here the ladies are AMAZING!

Yay to the booking appointment and scans booked for those of us that have done. It's nice to have something to look forward to you.

Great advice about things being out of our control we should make the most of each day esp after our awful experiences. And nothing we could have done would have changed the outcome sadly these things happen and not till it happens to us that we realise how common.