Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈

[MooBugz]

Hi all,

4+3 according to Flo app, pregnant after a miscarriage in March at 11 weeks so feeling very anxious / scared and needed a safe space to speak about pregnancy worries without thriving anyone of joy!

Feel free to join and share the journey together.

I definitely resonate with the "if we do have a baby..." chats. Always adding in that caveat. I got carried away filled in my midwife referral form last night. I've never done that with any of my 3 other pregnancies/miscarriages. I definitely have more hope this time, but then also worrying that I'm in for a massive fall. We can't control how we feel though so it's nice to go with it. I even looked at maternity clothes online the other day .

@BEL88 I would try not to worry my FRER looked the same as yours at this stage. Fingers crossed all is well but I would try and not test tomorrow so you can at least have a days gap between the tests x

@seven201 that is good you are feeling more hopeful! I said to hubby today how much I would love for us to have twins. So, I seem to be going in swings and roundabouts with my hopeful feelings - some days I think it’s all going to go wrong again and then next I’m talking about twins! 😂

All part of the process though - trying not be too hard on myself for being worried or being hopeful, just letting myself feel how I feel x

So we had a nice time at the wedding last night but I did start getting worried as it got later and I got tireder that somehow it might cause a MC if I got tired and rundown. I have also had to twist in weird ways twice today to help DD and both times got worried I may upset the embryo/ cause. I know I'm being silly and it's not small stuff like this that causes them but on the other hand so much is unknown, and it's not clear what caused my previous early losses, so I guess I'm not sure if something I do might cause another one. I guess maybe this is a normal feeling to have after experiencing loss. I also hope after I've passed the 5/6 week mark I'll feel more confident. I'm considering asking epu for an early scan at maybe 8 weeks and seeing if they'll agree to it ...

A lot of the time I feel really positive about this pregnancy and I think in my gut I am positive it will progress well, but I do get those doubts coming in and so.much.worry ATM! I hope you have all had less worrisome days!

One day at a time. Also saw a couple of you are in Scotland? Maybe that was on another thread... Anyway I love Scotland! Not there myself but such a beautiful place x

I also feel so conscious of my womb 😂 even if I'm not having cramps I kinda feel this warmth or occasional twinges and sometimes feels quite low down like near my cervix. Assuming all normal, don't really remember this with DD. Maybe I'm just hyper aware atm

Aww @Skylark1990 it all sounds very normal what you are feeling considering the history. It does sound like an early scan would help ease the worries for you too being able to see that the baby is there sitting pretty for you 😊

I'm still in two mins about it but will decide nearer week 8/9 since that was when my baby supposedly stopped growing.

I think whatever the outcome it's better to focus on the positives and in your situation 💯 that would be the fact that your making it to week 5. Do what you need and feel what you need that's what we are here for. It's all natural what your feeling if you ask me

@Skylark1990 Sounds like you have had a rough couple of days with the anxiety - sending you lots of love. I think you do become hyperaware and I guess, when you have experienced loss, that isn't always a good thing. I hope epu do agree to an early scan, generally if they feel that your level of worry/anxiousness is detrimental to your day-to-day life then an early scan can be approved. I don't know if it will help but I listened to a podcast during my previous pregnancy and the doctor on the podcast said there is quite literally nothing a woman can do to benefit or harm the pregnancy in these early weeks - excluding the obvious no no's of course. Your body is made of tough stuff and your DD is proof of that :) x

I have decided against an early scan - mainly because we still got bad news after seeing a heartbeat so I don't think it is going to calm me at all. I think I will get a scan in between the 12 and 20 week scan though...if I make it that far! (There I go with the if's again!)

How is everyone doing in terms of symptoms? I think my boobs are trying to start hurting haha! Well at least my left one is anyway..which I find very weird. Hopefully, that is normal though and not something else to worry about. I have been super tired as of late too but that could be down to not sleeping as well as I normally do and I think I am peeing more but equally I think I am drinking more so...basically I have no idea if any of these symptoms are pregnancy related!

@RedElleJ ditto with the sore boobs I've noticed since yday they are definitely sensitive and the tiredness is another level I actually fell asleep at 8pm last night like a total granny!

Looking at all of the above as positive signs. Hope you are doing good. It's a shame we question every twinge after loss like you say about being hyper aware but that's just something we need to try and manage along the way. Baby steps but we will get there 🤞🏼

I was on one of the Ttc groups and it made me feel sad earlier that people need to go through such hardship for a baby I hope we all get our rainbows and they know they were wanted and prayed for 🌈 how special they are going to be

Thank you all so much for your kind words.
I will try and wait it out a day or so before testing again.
I do need to remember I am so so early testing.

Symptoms wise I've had a few twinges and a bit of diarrhoea today but no cramps like I previously did with the chemicals so trying to be more hopeful

Hi all👋🏼

I’m 7 weeks tomorrow, little one is due 5th Feb :)

Had a mmc at 12 weeks in Jan, deffo feel more anxious this time around but also hopeful. We have decided we are not going to have an early scan, part of me really wants to but I also feel like it makes me feel more anxious, it’s hard to explain.

Symptom wise, the nausea has kicked in now, seems to get worse in the afternoon and eve. Helps if I eat little and often. My nipples are getting quite sore now too ( I’m still bf dd, she’s 2 so only had it a couple of times a day now) had a few sharp quick stabbing pains this morning which made me abit worried but not had anything else, so touch wood it was just things stretching in there. Has anyone else had this?

Lots going on at the moment, we have just got over covid (luckily v.mild for dd and I, dh was bed bound for a couple of days though) and we are moving house in a few weeks!

I hope everyone is doing ok.

Thank you @RedElleJ and @MooBugz so kind of you to send those reassuring messages ❤️❤️❤️❤️ those symptoms all sound good imo and similar to mine! Since about yesterday I've not had any little waves of nausea (was having v occasionally) and only real symptom is being tired and sore boobs. Actually feeling quite good today after I went to bed at 9 last night! Didn't actually sleep till about 10 but then DD slept till 6:45 so had a good stretch.

@OceanbreezeSun welcome! Can fully understand your uncertainty around getting an early scan, I'm also unsure. I'm leaning towards not but I'll see how I feel about 8 weeks. I'm also still breastfeeding! Lovely to have someone else to share that side of it with 🥰 my DD is 2 in September. I've cut down so no longer doing night feeds and I tend to feed her 2-3 times in the day now (including bedtime). So painful when she first latches on but it mostly feels ok after the first 2 mins or so. Are you planning to keep feeding through pregnancy? I am keen to feed for a bit longer but my milk has dropped a lot already ! X

Hi @Skylark1990
ah yes, it’s good to have someone to share that side with😊
my dd will be 3 in September!
I never expected to be breastfeeding this long, but we have both had a good time with it, so never felt a reason to stop!
Dd still has a feed before nap and bedtime but also wakes up around 4/5 am for a quick feed most nights. That’s the one I want to drop, as she does it out of habit. I was going to just carry on with bf but I think my supply might have dropped abit too, I’ve noticed a few times dd is just sucking but no milk. She doesn’t seem bothered though😂
How did you go about dropping the night feed?

Hi @OceanbreezeSun I think you might be the furthest one on out of us all so far 😊 I'll be 6 weeks tomorrow.

I've not had much in way of symptoms yet but know that's probably going to change now the 6 week mark is here 🙈

Hi @MooBugz
I hope you are doing ok?

Oh really! I’m 7 weeks but feel so disorganised. I’ve not even arranged the booking appointment yet. Tried ringing this morning 4 times and couldn’t get through, going to try again tomorrow. I’m moving house in 3 weeks and want to be seen by current gp , as worried appointments will be delayed if I wait to be registered with new gp.

Yes, I only really started to get symptoms a week ago. Nothing major, although the nausea has been worse these last couple of days 🤢(doesn’t stop me eating though!)

@OceanbreezeSun I think it's amazing you're stil breastfeeding, I would have wanted to breastfeed till around 3 if it weren't for another pregnancy 🙂 so actually what your DD does sounds similar to mine, we do a nap time feed, bedtime feed and she has a feed early morning which is often around 5am but is sometimes around 6/7, if early on we snooze together afterwards and she doesn't then have another feed when up for the day, if that makes sense. When she's at nursery I only tend to do the bedtime and early morning feeds but sometimes will do one when I pick her up from nursery. I have just slowly reduced since my previous miscarriage in April, and really happy with where we are at now. Re night weaning, I had tried it a couple times in the past but always then went back to night feeds due to teething or sickness etc, boob is just so helpful 😂 but early May I decided to stick with it. We have mostly safely bedshared/ coslept with her from birth but recently she's been in a double floor bed in her room and basically just switched to Dad being in with her overnight and not me and that is how we managed to stop the feeding over night. Was a tough couple of nights to start but just replaced feeds with dad cuddles / I went in it really upset and cuddled her etc, then she got used to it. So yeah that's what is working for us for now! At some point will move towards her being on her own during the night but for now it's my DP in with her and me in our super king on my own 😂😂 not complaining.

But yes re stopping the early morn feed, I'd probably just be consistent and replace with cuddles (either you or your partner) and explain clearly that she will have milk before nap time / at bedtime etc, put emphasis on when she will have it next, and say for now milk is sleeping or something like that ☺️ she will then likely stop waking for it as you say!

She will be upset at first but as long as you are providing comfort there won't be any harm and she will get used to it ☺️
Sorry everyone else for all the not quite on topic messages!! X

Thank you @Skylark1990 ! Very useful tips.
Yes, our dcs sound very similar!
We also co sleep for most of the night.
Once we move house and are settled, the plan is too gradually move her into her own room.
I fully expect dd to be unhappy with the no boob in the early morning but hopefully, she will adapt with consistency. I just need to not give in.

I know, boobs really are magic, I think that’s another reason we have carried on this long! 🤣

Yeah @OceanbreezeSun doing good thank you just time seems to be dragging even though I have loss to keep me occupied!

That's nice you and @Skylark1990 can share experiences for breastfeeding it's not something I was able to stick at but great that you have that's amazing.

How annoying that you couldn't get through to book your appointment, line was pretty easy enough and they asked which hospital I would like etc very straight forward for a change

@MooBugz definitely dragging isn't it! I can't believe I'm only 5 weeks 😂 the 12 week mark feels like so so so long away. Also have a lot going on with work over the next month which hopefully will be a good thing and keep me distracted but id like to just hybernate and suddenly it's August and 12 week scan time 😂 ah well, we just need to accept that time will move in the way it does and try not to wish away the time I guess.

@OceanbreezeSun that all sounds good and yes hardest thing is not giving in for sure. I'm sure when the time is right you will feel able to stop that feed. Also with milk dropping she may become a bit less interested in waking for it anyway!

Anyone else not got symptoms? All I've got is mild cramping (which is always a worry even though it can be totally normal). I don't know why I'm worrying as I didn't have any symptoms other than tiredness with my dd. Also, I'm on steroids and omperazole so I think they probably would mask sickness anyway and possibly the steroids have been boosting my energy levels. I'm 5+2. After my worry today I did another pregnancy test and it's a nice strong line, so I should stop worrying!

The last few days I have started to get food aversions and a bit of nausea but I've also been really tired after a few nights with little sleep, so I think nausea can come along with that.

Some people have no symptoms, and if you didn't in the first pregnancy, you're more than likely not going to have any this time too. Congrats on the super strong line!

I took another today too! Cant help muself. Not sure when i will actually stop! I think yesterday was the first day I didn't do one!! From what I remember, my symptoms only truly kicked in from 6-7 weeks and I'm just 6 weeks now!

@madeinthe80z thank you. I am being completely irrational I know . Glad I'm not the only one still peeing on sticks!

@seven201 I've not really had any symptoms either but not too worried as it's early days and think it's easy to overthink these things but need to keep telling myself I'm only just hitting 6 weeks.

@Skylark1990 defo dragging in but like you say really should be appreciating this time. Seems like we always wait first for cycle to restart after AF, then the tww and now the wait to the scan 🙈 it's a never ending circle lol but very grateful to be in this position I know some are waiting for a positive so we should really be more patient shouldn't we 🥹❤️

Hey everyone!

Hihi to the newbies in the group!

Ive just caught up with the last three pages! 😂
youve All Been busy!

Ive been a bit M.I.A due to just trying to block everything out a bit to stop myself worrying so much but trying to feel hopeful!

Is anyone else really struggling with this heat? I was never like this my first time around and it was deffo warmer! I just can not seem to regulate my own body heat. I’m boiling 🥵 Symptoms for me so far has just been drained. I feel like I could sleep for weeks on end!

So happy to see all your line progressions! I haven’t brought myself to see if we have gotten a 3+ on a clear blue yet. I think I should be around 5+5 now but still too scared 😅

what have we all been doing to stay preoccupied?