Due December 2022 thread 3

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Starting a new thread due to last one being full. Such a valuable place to share our journey! Not going to tag anyone in case they don't want to be tagged.

Marching towards or in the beginning of the second trimester!

@JC84 @RhiRhi1996 and everyone else thanks so much for sharing your results and reassuring me, it defo puts it into perspective all our results are very low risk when u look at it all as a whole xx

@Jaaxe yes i have 3 boys already hence the username 😂 when do you find out what your having? My 20 week scan in 19th July x

@TeamBluex3 i have a 16 week scan in 3 weeks so I guess I could ask then as they can usually tell by then but I don’t think I will ask, I think I’m going to keep it a surprise as it’s my last baby and I’ve always found out before, I’ve no real preference either so no great desire to know asap x

@Jaaxe ohh is the 16 week scan through nhs or private? & yes this makes baby 4 for us so definatly will be my last no matter what would obviosly like a mini me but if i have another boy i suppose its babys health which all that matter to me 😀 was your pregnany different when you was carrying your girl compared to when you carried your boys? Ive been tempted to not find out at all until baby arrives which i think would be cute as its my last x

@TeamBluex3 it’s an nhs one, I’m high risk and my consultant is keeping a closer eye on me and scanning me more regularly because of previous complications in my last pregnancy and this one being riskier. Yeah I felt a bit different with my girls than boy but I can’t put my finger on exactly what felt different, nothing majorly that stands out maybe more heartburn and I was also a lot bigger with my boy, I’ve got a feeling this one’s a boy based on my other pregnancies so it’ll be interesting to know if I’m right. Aw I hope you get a girl for your last baby although both are just as good as each other, my boy is way more loving and cuddly than my girls xx

Ok so after moaning earlier, I got my results back. I'm 35 and 1 in 1300. Overweight but no medical issues. I feel that's very low compared to lots but it's still low risk.

@Jaaxe did you have like loads of sickness or more sickness when carrying your girls to you boy? & yes can definatly agree on that my boys are really loving also 😁 how nice for you then if you had 2 of each x

@TeamBluex3 no I didn’t have anymore sickness with the girls, I just got waves of nausea with both. I have heard people say girls make you more sick but it wasn’t the case for me. Do you feel any different with this one than your others?

@hopefulsunshine11 aw glad you got your results! Good it’s low risk and hope everyone else’s varying results have reassured you there is a vast range of normal low risk results xx

hi ladies
i am no longer part of this group as my pregnancy came to an end at 16weeks.
but I’m keeping an eye on it. Curiosity mostly I guess.

Anyway, for some context, my downs result was 1 in 2. After lots of anatomy scans, CVS test and bloods, they confirmed that baby did have downs. They also had a heart defect and hydrops and the latter issues meant I was most likely to have a still birth by around 25/26 weeks and very unlikely to end up with a living baby. So we took a compassionate route and ended the pregnancy last week.

however my point I suppose is, that when there is downs or similar, the initial screening results are most likely to be like mine: there always is a risk of course. But I hope hearing about a case where there was issues helps reassure you that results of 1 in 1000 etc are more than likely absolutely fine.

hope you are all doing well and feeling less sick.

@bbnotwo I'm so sorry you had to make that decision and go through that. I can't imagine how you feel but please be kind to yourself. I hope you have plenty of support and please feel free to jump in the group if you need to chat and get anything off your chest. Sending lots of love your way xx

@Jaaxe yes i suppose i have noticed this pregnancy has been slightly different symptoms wise for example, had no sickness in first trimester like i did with boys (infact i was only sick 2 weeks ago for first time but i had covid) so not sure if it was covid that made me sick or the pregnancy itself but i do have waves of nausea at times.. been having acid reflux since like day 1 where as with boys only got that towards end of pregnancy.. also still waiting for pregnancy glow like i had them with also as i havent got a clear face its the opposite! Spotty, all on my shoulders, neck and back 😞 didn't get a single spot with the boys lol and forgot to mention the headaches are bad! Never had headaches/migraines so much in all my life on a weekly basis their happening!.. how are you finding your pregnancy? x

@bbnotwo so sorry to hear this! ❤❤❤

@bbnotwo ohhh goodness 😥 so so sorry to hear! Hope you have support around you & here if you need a general chat 💕

@bbnotwo I’m so sorry to hear this and I hope you’re doing as well as possible under the circumstances. And thank you for taking the time to offer such a compassionate and reassuring message to everyone on the thread, an extraordinary thing to do

@Jaaxe I'm 35 and my DS risk is 1:7729 and Edward's is 1:20000

For info my results took 15 days too arrive in the post and they're still not on badger notes

bbnotwo I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you have lots of support around you x

@bbnotwo im so sorry you had to make such a heartbreaking decision and that this happened to you, it’s so very sad that these things happen and that all babies can’t be born healthy. I really hope you are getting lots of support and recovering physically too. Sorry it was my message on the group earlier worrying about my low result, I’m really sorry if it came across insensitive at all to you, I really appreciate your message of reassurance to the group and that you took the time out to do that for us despite what you are going through, please know the group are here for you too if you need us xx

Oh gosh no @Jaaxe you are fine! It wasn’t insensitive at all.

I am feeling pretty horrified by the whole US abortion ruling after my experience this last few weeks. I and our baby would have been put in a very difficult and different situation if I lived somewhere where abortion isn’t legal. 😞

We have a wealth of support now which I am grateful for. Any future pregnancy will be put under the care of the fetal medicine team and my bereavement midwife. Lots of extra scans in the future and extra checks. Currently navigating postpartum which is cruel but all a way to get my body back to “normal” so we can try again (the thought of which both terrifies me yet I am desperate to do so).

@bbnotwo you are very brave to make that difficult decision and I’m glad you have lots of support around you. Thinking of you xxx

@bbnotwo, it's nice to hear from you, I've been thinking about you and hoping that you were doing ok after all the news you received. It's hard to pick up after a loss, especially when hormones are still surging. They're a mind trip. I also spent yesterday horrified at the news from the US. I'm in Canada and it's such a different culture here. We've gone the other way, keep religion totally out of government. My heart goes out to all those women. We go through so much in the pregnancy and birth process I can't even imagine being tossed aside as a second-class citizen like that.

@bbnotwo i am also horrified with the U.S. abortion ruling, absolutely abhorrent. I know I haven’t been in your situation but I can only imagine what a difficult decision it was and that you made the right decision with the best interests of your baby at heart as heartbreaking as it was for you yourself. I’m really glad they are giving you all the support now and that you will receive all the extra support and scans next time. I can imagine it’s scary thinking about trying again and I’m no expert but I would imagine the chances of the same happening again would be very rare wouldn’t it? Have they given you much advice or recommended how long to wait before trying again?…so sorry u are having to go through this, I hope each day gets a little easier…I can say I have done the postpartum bit before so here if you need any help with that xx

Morning girls! How is everyone’s weekend going?

We have been collecting our Facebook Marketplace finds - a MaxiCosy system with car seat, £170 second hand in brand new condition! Have we been pushing it round the house like loonies? Maybe. And we’ve got the cot for £30 and changing table for £15.

We’re starting to get very excited, and still have 23 weeks to go!

@bbnotwo I'm so sorry for your loss!

I'm absolutely disgusted with what is happening in America right now, and I say that as someone who (unless my life was in danger or that my unborn child would be suffering) would never even consider an abortion! It is a hugely personal choice and should not be removed by a bunch of men in government simply because it doesn't comply with their personal beliefs!

@Jaaxe mine says downs 1 in 75,000 and eds+pataus 1 in 49,000. I'm 25. I'm not sure what is classed as low or high risk to be honest. The midwife just said I would get a call if it was high x

@bbnotwo so sorry for your loss. What an incredibly hard decision to make. Sending you well wishes and virtual hugs x