Due in June 2022 - Thread 12

[PlodandPod]

@EarlGreywithLemon
@fpeg
@PeeAche2
@pregnancydiaries
@Rolledthedice
@Vimto1991
@Annabell1
@Prema112
@Lostintranslatio
@Roxystar23
@PleaseSendNoodles
@imhereforthecake
@RoseValleyRambles
@t0nim92
@Yecats22
@AlbatrossSociety
@unknownscot
@beansprout55
@MrsNT
@Letsbekindplease
@GrowBabyGrow
@MrsTwentyNine
@Flowerbug1994
@BrightSmoke
@DaimDillyDoo
@MsBubbles85
@Octoblockisadick
@C1ueless22
@CurryandSnuggle
@rathernotshare
@InvisibleDragon
@4thtimethecharm
@ALHCTPS
@RooSut25
@Jammymare
@NorthDevonBeachLover
@Clomid1

In anticipation for thread 11 coming to an end.. Apologies to anyone I have missed out tagging, have tried to include everyone!

Congratulations @Clomid1 and @sunflower198 , great news!!

@Clomid1 SO happy for u...congrats

@Roxystar23 oh no sorry to hear! This has almost happened to me at a private scan, I had to be asked to sit up and a dental appointment. They really should know not to lie us down! I found I went really clammy as well, my shirt was practically dripping!!

@Clomid1 im so pleased for you, massive congratulations!! Take your time updating us - you have a lot of baby bonding and resting to do!!

anyone else feeling a bit overwhelmed? I’m not sure what emotion to feel. Induced tomorrow and not sure whether to be excited or terrified, don’t know whether to laugh or cry? It’s so strange this is my last evening without the baby here, I really want this baby, and I’m so anxious I will be in over my head (I’m also not good with change and it’s taken until the day before for this fear to kick in)!! I’m so worried something will go wrong during induction as well. 🙈but I am also excited, so I don’t know how to feel!!

@Clomid1 yay! Congratulations x

@Vimto1991 I'm the same, I feel a bit apprehensive/anxious - I'm not screaming with excitement for her to come because im very nervous about becoming a first time mum... 😫

@DaimDillyDoo yeah I’m really nervous, too! I really want them out as I’m so anxious about something happening to them, but then im so anxious about something happening after 🙈 and I have no idea what to expect and how I’ll adjust to my life completely changing! How will I cope without sleep? 😂 will my cats adjust? Will I be a good mom? Etc 🙈
hopefully this is normal anxiety!!

Yes @Clomid1 I'm so happy you!! Well done!! Looking forward to hearing details, enjoy your lovely baby!

@Vimto1991 & @DaimDillyDoo Ooo it's so exciting!! I can definitely understand being scared too though! Pretty massive to be having a baby in the next day or so. Hope your induction goes so so well Vimto, all the worry on movements will finally be over 😃

@Vimto1991 I could have written that. I keep spacing out and day dreaming that something will go wrong during labour or when he's tiny. And I'm also worried how my daughter (who's canine) will adjust to having a brother. Also worried that my marriage will suffer in some way when it's so new and other than the hiccup a few months back, it's pretty perfect in all areas.
I think it's normal we're anxious about everything as we approach the end?! I hope so anyway 🙄 xxxx

@Clomid1 so relieved to hear from you. Was starting to get anxious. Take all the time you need to update us you superstar! Such a long labour, you must be so exhausted. You're amazing xxx

@Prema112 thank you!! Yes thank god, although the past week their movements have been perfect… typical! If I have a second child I hope they stick to a pattern of movement and I have a posterior placenta! 🙈

@beansprout55 it’s nice to hear others with the same fear. It must be completely normal considering how big of a change it is. I’m sure when baby is in our arms all our worries will disappear 🥰

Anyone else’s hospital kick our partners at 10pm? DH can come back once active labour kicks in, we live 45 minutes away and I’m worried he’d miss the birth (my best friends DH did for that reason), I’ve asked if he can camp out in the car. 😅

@Roxystar23 stressful day today no doubt, and lots to get your head round, but exciting that the journey to the outside world starts tomorrow! Hope you have a great labour experience xx

@DaimDillyDoo fingers crossed it progresses nicely for you now!

@Clomid1 how absolutely wonderful! Enjoy the baby bubble and take all the time and rest you need xx

@Flowerbug1994 good luck for tomorrow morning, how very exciting that you get to meet your little one tomorrow, it's the most amazing feeling and I've just never known love like it 💕

@Vimto1991 it is totally overwhelming at times but utterly remarkable! Good luck for the induction tomorrow and I hope you have a smooth and positive labour journey. That moment where they pop out into the world is just the most amazing thing you'll ever feel 💕

From reading the thread I know that you're all going to be amazing mums! I've always been someone who needed lots of sleep, but somehow the tiredness isn't so much of a concern now. I take naps where I can and seeing that adorable face just fills me with all the oxytocin feels and makes everything better! Can't wait to see the updates over the next few days ❤️❤️❤️

Yes ours did, visiting was 8am to 10pm, one of the reasons I said no to being admitted when they offered it. To be fair though once I was on the post natal ward there was one husband came in with his wife at about 11pm after they'd just had the baby (allowed the dads to come briefly onto the ward at that point to see mum and baby settled in place) and he was so unbelievably disrespectful that there was anyone else in the room. Talking at the top of his voice on the mobile to all sorts of relatives - midwife came in and told him off and then when he didn't stop kicked him out a couple of minutes later, so I sort of get it too now.

Congrats on all of the new babies.

My hospital visiting my partner had to leave at 8pm.

I agree with @fpeg I worried about how I would cope with lack of sleep etc because I love my sleep but I find myself waking 10mins before Louie is due up. It’s amazing how our body/mind adjusts. I am sure everyone will be great mums! You can already tell how much by all the worries through our pregnancies.

Got my time of 11:40, made it even more real! Had a freak out to my DH and a bit of a cry. Don’t feel like I’m ready, but baby can’t stay in forever. Need to get some of that oxytocin excitement back rather than nervousness!!

Good luck to all the ladies having inductions/sections today. Can't wait for the updates!!!xxx

@Vimto1991 @Flowerbug1994 and anyone else I've missed (sorry!!)

Awwww good luck darling @Vimto1991 xx
You've got this and you're so so ready. xx

Ooh @Flowerbug1994 good luck for today! I've got to go in at 8am tomorrow. Probably a bit late for advice as you'll be there now, but you will be fine 🙂. Any questions or anything you want just ask the theatre team and I'm sure they'll try to accommodate if possible. I've been advised to not do up the top back of my gown, then when in theatre take my arms out and just rest the gown over me so skin to skin is easier.

@Clomid1 congratulations!!

@Vimto1991 good luck for today, hope its a nice quick induction for you! The anxiety is completely normal, you'll be a wonderful mum 🙂. My hospital partner visiting is 9am to 7pm, not sure if they can just stay if having an induction though. Labour ward is 24h. Only birth partners can visit, not other family which I'm quite glad about tbh. With my daughter we had no less than 22 (😩!) family members come to the hospital. One even put on fb about baby arriving after my husband text to say the section went OK, we were still being stitched up in theatre! I was absolutely fuming haha.

Good luck today @Vimto1991 and @Flowerbug1994 !

And huge congratulations to @Clomid1 - glad to hear your baby girl is here safely. Hope you're all doing ok!!

I'm really struggling today. Sorry, this is way too personal but I don't know where else to put it. Had a big discussion / falling out with my husband about circumcision. He's absolutely adamant our baby should be circumcised, because he's Muslim and everyone in his culture / home country do this.

We'd talked about it loads before we got married and when we found out I was pregnant. And I'd agreed we could do that because it's so culturally important to him. But now that I have a baby who'll be here in less than 2 weeks I just feel so upset about the idea. I tried to talk to my husband about it and he just won't budge. It's completely non-negotiable for him and he's upset that I said I would do something and am now going back on it.

I'm so upset. I don't want to do anything that hurts my baby. And I'm angry that my husband, who isn't a very observant Muslim in his own practice, insists that this is an absolute must for our son. Why on earth can't he focus on teaching our son how to pray and celebrating the Eids and speaking Arabic and fasting at Ramadan without having to do the circumcision? Why can't all of that be enough?

Fundamentally, the answer is because a huge, key part of Islam is about surrendering to the will of God - as symbolised in Ibrahim's willingness to sacrifice his son Ismael (Abraham and Isaac in the old testament) and celebrated at Eid al-Adha. So it's an extremely deeply held axiom of faith that it all comes as a package and challenging it goes right to the centre of his sense of personal and cultural identity.

But my goodness, it is absolutely grinding my gears right now that I (a humanist) am the one bending right over backwards to really understand the nuances of his belief system and point of view. While he's so focused on how important it is to him that he can't / won't see how much effort I'm making and how hard it is for me.

@InvisibleDragon sending you a hug. I’m not really educated on other cultures so to me I am very much on your side for this. I wouldn’t have thought this would be allowed to be done unless medically needed ? How does the baby become circumcised? Surly it has to be done under medical conditions?
I would feel exactly the same about the situation, especially if he isn’t a very observant Muslim like you say.
sorry you’re feeling this way.

@Vimto1991 you’ve got this ! Thinking of you today. So exciting.

Just had my 40+1 midwife appointment, she checked and I'm 2.5cm dilated! She did a sweep and said it wouldn't be long!!! I'm suddenly terrified and just wanna stay pregnant 😂 I found the sweep really painful, kinda regret it a little bit but done now. Spotting and got backache...

@Vimto1991& @Flowerbug1994 Thinking of you!!

I had my little boy at 10:37 this morning via C section as he was breech. He’s 8 days early and a good chunky 10lb 15oz 😂😂 no diabetes or anything just a really big baby 💙💙

Do you think you can ask for a sweep before induction is started?

I'm due in on Wednesday for induction but would take a sweep on Monday or Tuesday if they offered to do it/agreed. X

@Flowerbug1994 congratulations! Xx

Oh my gosh @Prema112!!!!! 😍😍 so exciting!! Get plenty of rest!!!x

@Flowerbug1994 oh my word. Congratulations mummy! What a little chunk. I absolutely adore big babies, my nephew was 10lb 4 and he was just the most stunning chubster ever. The cheeks and rolls! 😢 so happy all went well for you both xxx