Pregnant after recurrent miscarriage

[LostFox82]

Hello

looking for some support from women in the same boat, while I await the first scan!

I’ve had 2 missed miscarriages in the last 18 months 9 weeks and 6 weeks and found out I was pregnant again last week before starting the drugs the clinic had prescribed.

im now 5+3 I’m on hydroxychloroquine, progesterone and prednisone. I’ve had brown spotting but that has eased but have had no pregnancy symptoms apart from bloating! I’m not very tired or nauseous and I’m really worried it’s another empty sac or something.

I have early scan booked on 13th may but it’s so torturous.

anyone in a similar boat?
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@LostFox82 ……… oh I’m so sorry you are having to deal with all the insensitive comments, i think your mum is obviously trying to be helpful and to say the right things to comfort you but ultimately she isn’t in your shoes and can’t understand how you are feeling……….. of course you are absolutely happy and grateful for the 2 beautiful boys you already have but it doesn’t stop your want and need for another baby.

I’m sorry your husband got cross at you when you mentioned trying again, I’m sure once he has had time to process and heal he will be ready to start the conversation again……… but I know what’s it’s like to just want to get the mc done and over with to try and get pregnant again asap! …….. I think it’s harder for men to understand that need.

I completely understand your want to get the process over with before you go abroad, you def don’t want to go with it hanging over your head , so I really hope your body starts the process naturally for you so the ERPC isn’t needed.

i do think it’s good though to focus on the positive events you have coming up like going away with the girls, it’s such a sad, hard time so I think it’s good to hold on to whatever helps you get through it!!

thinking Of you!!!
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Hi @LostFox82 sending you the biggest hug right now, it’s such a lonely time and I’m glad we’ve found each other. No matter the path miscarriages and after miscarriages are so lonely and heartbreaking.

I’m sorry your struggling with comments from family, but unfortunately our parents do have our best interest and I’m sure your mum can see the heartbreak your feeling. My mum text me a few nights ago this message ‘You will always be my baby. And I will alway be looking after you’

just as you feel towards your boys, we want to protect them from any pain.
but, the dream of another baby is yours and only you can make the decision when enough is enough. Please believe we on here know what your feeling, the confusion, the lows, the want, etc
this is our 4th pregnancy in two years, my husband has hardly said a word about it - he’s happy, I know that but he just listens to me, he doesn’t know what to say because until this baby is here he doesn’t have the answers to help me.

this isn’t about me right now, but I want you to see other men can be the same as your husband, they are struggling and ultimately they want to protect us from this pain. But I must say, it’s unhelpful to mention your age. As I’ve said I have 3 friends who fell pregnant at 40 & 41 with no issues. I’m equally 33 and am going though the same, so it’s unfair to put that in your head.

you must be proud of yourself for being so strong as the after loss if what I dread the most. You are going to be okay and yes I think it’s important you have Mykonos to look forward to, even just for some time alone to heal & think about your next step.

we are all here for you xxxx

Thinking about you @LostFox82

Hope we hear from you soon @Mawitchy

Yes I’m thinking of you too @LostFox82 @Mawitchy ……. Hope everything is ok?

@Emily090 ….. how are you doing?? How are you feeling about tomorrow? Did you manage to have a good weekend?

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Hi @Willow11981 Thanks for checking in. Weekend went well. How was yours? What bizarre weather.
i tried to stay positive and not think about anything other other than what we had to planned each day. Today I’m feeling quite nervous and tbh emotional - I’m home alone which is nice but also gives me time to think. My scans early tomorrow thankfully so I’ll have an early night and head straight there in the morning. Not sure if my legs will get me in the room but I will try.
how are you doing? I hope well - any symptoms yet? X

Ah my weekend was good thank you, your right though the weather was crazy!! Super hot on sat then rainy yesterday!

ah that’s really good the scan is early tomorrow, waiting around all day is the worst so be good to just go in and get it done! Will your husband go with you? Everything crossed it will go really great and you will feel so much better about everything!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻
Even though my symptoms so far have been pretty minimal I would say this last week or week and a half I have felt the least pregnant so far! Like apart from my boobs being slightly bigger than normal I would not know I was pregnant, which doesn’t really help with anxiety!
although now I’m waiting on my harmony test results so obvs I’m fearing the worst! …….. plus we go away to Marrakesh on Friday so it could be a pretty miserable trip if it’s bad news!
im trying to think positive but it’s hard as my default setting seems to be doom and gloom!
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Just got my 3+ on clear blue digital surely a good sign 😁

@Willow11981 I’m sorry your feeling this way, but try to remember your symptoms have never been strong and on your scans the baby was fine and kicking away. There’s no pain or bleeding which is a positive. Try and focus on your holiday, which sounds lovely and when your back you could get another scan. There’s nothing wrong with getting more scans to ease your mind.
im here if you need. X

thank you for your encouraging words, yes he’ll be coming too, I think he’s just as nervous. I truly hope we hear good news, but I’m prepared for the worse (not that you ever can be prepared!)

when are you expecting your harmony test results back? It’s all so stressful isn’t it. Xx

An thank you @Emily090 …….. you are right actually, the fact that I haven’t really has managed symptoms has made me realise that they don’t actually mean much and you can just never tell what’s going on in there!

I have my 12 week dating scan booked in for next Friday 27th!!!!!!!

I think I should hear the results from harmony wed or Thursday this week , apparently anything from 5-10 days but she said prob a week!

ah I’m glad your partner will be with you! I’m sure he is just as nervous!! I’m praying for everything being ok for you! Will you be 10 weeks tomorrow??

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That’s good, I’m sure it will be good news and then you can try and enjoy your holiday. To be honest, we will never stop worrying. I have a friend who has never had a MC, is super healthy, etc and she’s 22 weeks and so far has had 5 scans… just because it’s made her feel better.
so really, I think we are quite calm 😂

yes I’m hoping to be 10.1 tomorrow. Nerves are kicking in - it’s that horrible feeling of stopping any possible excitement and letting the negative take over. I know we have all been there. It’s a awful path to be on but one that will be so amazingly worth it.

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Will be thinking of you this morning @Emily090!!! wishing you the best of luck 🤞🏻 🤞🏻🤞🏻 Xx

Feel like I can’t breath, really trying to have happy thoughts but my god it’s hard. I’ve had so many negative scans it’s hard to think of a good outcome. I keep thinking back to my daughters, which I took for granted how simple and easy it was. Thanks for thinking of me x

Ah I’m so sorry you are Feeling this way!!! You can do this! Abs your husband will be right by your side!
Just take it one step at a time……. And there is every chance you will have a great scan and just imagine how relieved you will be!
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Hi @Willow11981 back home and my scan went well. I’m in utter shock. 9 weeks and 5 days. This has been a long journey to get to this point and so much heartbreak that neither of us could believe the news. But everything seems fine and healthy.

@Emily090 ……….. oh wow I am so so so so happy for you!!!! I had a good feeling!!!! Honestly this news has made my day! Oh I really hope this has brought you much needed reassurance! Will you register now and get a date for your 12 week scan? Xxx

Ohhh thank you! It feel like such a weights been lifted of us and we can breathe, even just until the next scan. Yes, they’ve asked us to register and book a scan so ill do that tonight. How are you feeling? Have you got your 12 week scan booked? X

Ah yes you can def breathe a bit now! I mean I’m sure in a few days the panic will be back like me 😂…… but for now relax and enjoy knowing everything is cooking away as it should be! And as others have said , after a heart beat at 9 weeks ( well more like 10) it’s very very likely that everything will be ok!!

yep mines 9.30 next Friday 27th! We are off to a camping wedding that afternoon for the weekend so if everything is ok ( and once my harmony results are back and if ok ) we will might stop off and tell my husbands parents the news! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

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Oh @Emily090 I am so thrilled everything went well today!
@Willow11981 your 12 weeks scan is so soon! So exciting!

I have a 6 week scan tomorrow to check positioning and my husband can't come anymore and I just cannot imagine it being good news...

Ah I’m so sorry your husband can’t make it with you tomorrow @PossiblyPertunia 😢………. I will be keeping everything crossed for you that it goes well and you get some encouraging news!!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻…… will be thinking of you! X

@PossiblyPertunia Thank you. Thinking about you for tomorrow. Positive thoughts if you can, I literally couldn’t breath this morning but once I got in the room I just thought, ‘this is it and either way I will be okay’. Good luck xx

@PossiblyPertunia …. Good luck today! Let us know how you get on x

Thanks guys.
Scan went ok! Measuring on track and they could see a teeny tiny heartbeat! Just waiting for a dr now to get my prescriptions.
I've been SO sick the last few days, my GP has prescribed Cyclizine to see if that helps because I can't eat anything atm.

So pleased you managed to see a little heartbeat, I know it’s sometimes hit a miss at 6 weeks as still small so that’s great news. You must feel relieved. Very happy for you xx

Ah that’s great news @PossiblyPertunia !!! You can relax a little bit for a while!! Oh so sorry your so sick though, that doesn’t sound fun!!! Hope the meds do the trick!! X

Hi LostFox82
I posted at the start of this thread I was also pregnant again after 2 miscarriages, one in August last year and one in December last year.
I also had a miscarriage this pregnancy. Thats my 3rd now so had some investigations.
Anyway myself and husband are taking a break.
I want to get really healthy lose 2 stone. Exercise routine and get my autoimmune diseases calm before I try again.
I took asprin and low dose prednisolone omega 3, vit d and high dose folic acid this time. I will try these all again. I think there was possibly a chromosome problem this time as I had no pregnancy symptoms which completely contrasts to my last 2 miscarriages i was very sick.
I definatley think have an 'unfussy womb/hyperfertility' as I get pregnant first try every time. So I think that puts your higher risk of chromosome issues as your immune system at the endometrial lining let's anything implant.
But I think I need to have my immune system much calmer to avoid it attacking healthy embryos.
Im going to do a very strict mediterranean/anti inflammatory diet before trying again, combined with intermittent fasting.
I feel calm though. It really is a numbers game.
Im also cutting gluten before trying again. As it flares my autoimmune diseases.
I'm waiting to hear my blood results for antiphospholipid syndrome and awaiting awaiting to see a gyn consultant (been referred).

Take care. I know how hard it is.