Due May 2022 thread 5

[Kittycaz]

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Hey all if I missed anyone please add. Noticed last board is almost full.

@Kittycaz I've got a love to dream swaddle he just chews his hand, more than he ever does normally, yeah he hates the fan being on aswell, he's got a little fan so will try directing it at his feet or something.. thank you x

@MissM94 mine is similar with only sleeping on me, she also hates the car seat which makes journeys stressful and doesn't like the pram. The only thing I could suggest, which helped my niece, was a cranial osteopath I may take mine to one to see if she's uncomfortable in her head due to quick labour or something

Also pretty sure I have PND everything makes me cry :-(

I'm so sorry that things are feeling so overwhelming for a lot of us right now. I send you all hugs!!

My big issue right now is the heat. End of terrace Victorian brick house with side wall facing south is now an end of terrace Victorian brick pizza oven. We're doing all the normal things, closing the blackout shades/curtains on the sunny side, opening windows for cross-breezes. It's so hot.

Baby boy is in just a nappy and we're in shorts and I've got on a nursing bra. The only place he's cool enough is in the mesh baby bouncer, but he just wants to be held, making us both hotter.

Any tips??

@MissM94 I'm sorry you're struggling but it will get better. My first was like that when he was little. I don't think there was ever a nap that wasn't on me until he was much much older then it was hit and miss. Still now we get a couple of good nights sleep a month if we're lucky and then it's back to multiple wakes, 4am starts, screeching, squealing, shouting destructive behaviour because he's absolutely knackered. Keep powering through there is a reason they call this period the fourth trimester. Even with an angel baby It's shit, it's hard, it's infuriating, the sleep deprivation is horrendous but it does 100% get better and easier to deal with, and more sleep comes and more independence eventually comes. Sending hugs, you got this mama 💜

@aNewYorkerInLondon in my old house similar to yours we used to open the loft hatch but it depends how well insulated yours is wether that will help!
I hate moaning about it as we so rarely see the sun here anyway but it's so bloody hot!!

@Bubbasmama2017 sorry you're going through similar shit with yours.. hopefully it gets easier!

@JMill13 thank you 💕

@MissM94 I read your post and I was teary eyed. From one mother to another, it is such hard work and I just hope you know how well you are doing and what an amazing mummy you are. I don't think any mum would findit easy to deal with the journey you are on, or finds it easy with their journies... I feel it is an emotional rollercoaster at the best of times! Try to be kind to yourself and keep coming to talk to debrief if you need/want to. Virtual mummy hugs ❤️

@YummyMummyXoX ahh thank you so much 💕

Just want to send everyone good wishes! Stay cool over the next two days!!

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Thanks @aNewYorkerInLondon ive just had to collect my 5 year old from school as the heat was making him unwell. But all fine at home, we are all in front of the fan. Baby is passed out enjoying the cool breeze. Hope so the babies are doing ok in the heat and the mummies aren’t worrying too much. Ds1 was born in a heatwave and remember so well how anxious it made me!

Anyone else's baby having watery poo in nappies? Do we think it's just from boobie milk adjusting to a higher water content from the heat? He's still peeing normal amount.

It's so hot.

@aNewYorkerInLondon That would make sense - DS's poo has definitely been on the runnier side of things over the last few days.

Hope everyone is doing well. We spent the last two nights sleeping downstairs as couldn't get our bedroom below 30c. On the upside DS has slept very well the last few nights - blocks of 2-3hrs, unheard of! I'm crossing my fingers it's not just because of the weather.

@YfenniChristie, we stayed downstairs too. Looking forward to my bed tonight!

Sorry to hear a bunch of you are struggling. For us it’s getting gradually easier. Days are still long and boring, bedtime is a mess, but he sleeps well at night now! Wakes up once, and the first longest stretch is pretty reliably 5-6 hours now. So that’s helping me cope with it. Naps are pretty exclusively contact naps which is restricting, but I’m trying to think that in ten years I’m not going to be thinking “oh I wish I’d cleaned more”.

I feel like I should be going out more and doing things outside the house but I find it a bit overwhelming and can’t be bothered! We’ve been to a couple of mum meet-ups and one sensory class, and lunch out with dad, but mostly just holed up at home.

Argh! Don't know what happened there. Posted far too soon.

@GinnyBee I've barely left the house since DS was born, and he's ten weeks now. Nights are still all over the place so my mornings are spent sleeping when he sleeps. Then my afternoons are spent trying to feel vaguely normal, like showering and getting dressed. DH is trying to encourage me to get out and about and I want to and feel like I should be doing so much more, but the thought of going to baby classes and socialising with complete strangers just feels too much at the moment.

I do have visitors round, my parents are round once a week, In-Laws are round every 1-2 weeks.

I've been out a bit more recently but that's mostly because I have an almost 2 year old so can't just stay locked up in the house. Pram naps are going well though, white noise playlist on Spotify and she's out. Managed to go get my nails done today and she slept the entire time. It's all a bit strange as last time round we were in lockdown so we didn't really get anywhere until he was about 9 months and baby classes only opened the week I went back to work.

Bit scared of going to them now. So not sure if I should just swallow the anxiety and sign up and go or just keep to myself.

Hope you're all a bit cooler tonight. It's bloody freezing here again.

I've been nervous too especially as there isn't much in my area so have to travel to go to a group but I went to one this morning which I felt quite good about. Still using nipple shields and can't see when she'll stop which is very frustrating but having to reconcile that she is happy and healthy so I'll keep trying until she's ready. Glad the heat has died off a bit I was very anxious about us all being unwell if we got too warm and we didn't leave the house for a couple of days 😬
Naps are also often contact naps over here! Sometimes I can transfer baby to a bouncer but it's always a very short nap if I manage that

@Bubbasmama2017 i’m also still stuck using the nipple shields and baby girl is 9 weeks now! Not sure if she’ll ever latch without them to be honest which is very frustrating because they’re such a faff!

@MrsMcH2022 what have you tried so far to get rid of them?
I feel like I've tried everything and it's really making me feel depressed 😥

@MrsMcH2022 @Bubbasmama2017 I am stuck on them too at 8 weeks. I have joined some breastfeeding support groups and still have hope she will get off them eventually. Someone else in the group has just got off them at 11 weeks completely out of the blue. I am seeing my friend (a lactation consultant) on Tuesday to try and help. So hard to wean off them though! I am trying to remind myself that without them I may not have been able to breastfeed, so they are not all bad! Don't lose hope and you're both doing amazing xx

@Sarah239 that's so true. We'll do it sometime hopefully and until then we get pain free breastfeeding lol

How's everyone doing?

We're doing ok. Leap 4 sucks but we'll get through. Poor dear is teething too. ❤️

I think we’ve hit the sleep regression 😭 Arlo was sleeping reliably 7-9 hours until he suddenly wasn’t and has been waking up every 1.5-2 hours some nights, other times he might sleep 4 hours at first and then 3-2-1 until the morning, and man, I was not missing this! His naps are all over the place too, he’s literally just now woken up from a 2 hour nap, and I’m hoping I can get him to go down soon again as I want to go to bed myself!