👶 Due November 2022 - part II 🎆

[Cheetocat]

The first thread got to 40 pages. 😊 If anyone can find the list of due dates please post it.

@Brailsbaby i'm sorry you're having such a hard time. I can imagine why that must be so worrying after your previous loss. How far along are you now? Could you get an early scan (or extra scan) to help put your mind at rest?

Hi girls.
First time using this and first pregnancy so bear with me!
I'm 11 weeks tomorrow, due date 4th nov as far as we know until our scan on the 27th.
Was just wondering when people tend to announce. After your scan or after you get your results back from the blood tests. I've looked it up and they can take another 2 weeks I've heard?
Not going to lie I'm very anxious and don't want to say anything before I know everything is okay.
Not had many symptoms other than fatigue, sore boobs and a sicky feeling but goes if I eat.
Had a small bleed at 6 weeks when we were on our honeymoon so came home and got an early scan, seeing the heart beating was probably the best day of my life so far. As very emotional even though baba just looked like a kidney bean haha. Sorry for the long post! TIA xx

@Laura236 I understand, I feel the same. Personally I’m going to wait until the latest possible time to tell people which based on friend/family weddings for me will be June/August respectively

@Laura236 hi, due date buddy. Like you, I've not had many symptoms. My first scan is on the 4th though. I've told people one by one as I don't really like hiding it. But when to announce is very personal, whenever you feel ready. Pregnancy feels so long definitely got time to wait.

@Bramblecrumble21 oh how exciting! Is this your first? Yeah I've told my family as they would know as soon as I said no to a Prosecco hahaha. And we are planning to tell close friends the weekend after our scan. I think I will leave it until I get the results from the blood tests before I tell work or announce anything else. So hard to enjoy it when your worried it's too good to be true! Xx

@Laura236 it's my second, I have a 3 year old. I actually told work as soon as I had a pregnancy test so I could get a risk assessment as I have risks at work. We'll announce to less close family and friends after the scan.

Ugh my appointment was literally just a finger prick and I'm not getting a scan for another three weeks, so disappointed. The info I was given was that the finger prick & scan were at the same appointment. Now have to wait until the 6th of May to see if baby is okay.

Ugh, 10 weeks now and feeling worse. Vomiting, vertigo, extreme tiredness. This is much harder in my late 30s than it was in my 20s.

@tigger2022

I had another scan this week! It was lovely to see the bean again but it was at the fertility clinic (basically they scan you to check that you’re pregnant and discharge you back to the NHS) and I had some really weird feelings in there. As I was waiting, there were other ladies leaving their appointments crying, who must have gotten bad news, and I felt SO guilty being there. I have imposter syndrome but for pregnancy, I feel like someone deserves this more than I do. Is that weird? Does anyone have anything like that?

I feel like this too. We're pregnant following IVF and we were fortunate enough to fall pregnant on our first round. I'm in quite a few IVF groups and have had to mute them because the (understandable) devastation and constant sadness just makes me feel horrible and guilty. Did they want it more than us, do they deserve it more than us? Have we somehow cheated the system because it worked for us and not for this poor couple who are 12 rounds deep? I feel guilty for feeling anxious and not feeling excited a lot of the time.

Fertility treatment is so weird. You want and try for something for so long, only to "get it" and then feel like there's someone else more worthy because they've had it harder or been waiting longer.

@netofmums I totally understand your feelings!

In the same breath, everyone's paths are different. Let yourselves feel joy, you have waited for this for a long time and been through so much...you deserve it as much as everyone!

It took us 5 years to get pregnant, we were told by a fertility expert a month before we conceived that IVF was our only option. We were broken, completely broken and then a month later we got our BFP. We were so happy.

The biggest struggle for us is that all of our friends have had multiple children and have all said they are done and we now feel like they have been there done that and we have missed the boat for all the fun and excitement of having a family. I also don't feel like I can complain to them about how I am feeling as they might think "well I have done it twice or in some cases three times so get over it". Part of me doesn't want anyone to make a fuss as it feels forced and too late. I'm not even sure I want a baby shower. I hope my feelings change about it, I really do.

I know I deserve all the fuss but I just don't feel like it right now.

That's why I like these forums, they make me feel like what I am going through is special and you absolutely should too!

@roobearbaby funny how different everyone is. If I was a group of friends and one person aka you was having a baby I would be so excited and looking forward to the newborn cuddles! I would also feel sorry for you feeling sick having been there before. When my son was young although I could relate to others with newborns and hang out, I wasn't as excited about someone having a newborn as I was pre baby or now he's a bit older!

@ALittleBitofVitriol sorry you are feeling so rough, hope it eases off a bit.

@Cheetocat I'm not surprised, I would be disappointed too after expecting one soon. They really should think about how they word correspondence. What was the finger prick for?

In terms of telling everyone, we are just doing it as we see people and then anyone left probably after the scan. First time round except for immediate family we waited until the scan but was easier not to say as we were in lockdown.

@otimama you are probably right, in fact I know you are right but my socially anxious brain tells me otherwise 🤣

Sorry everyone I haven't checked in for a few weeks been struggling with sickness and anxiety due to MMC in October. Just had my private early scan and it went well 😭❤ measuring 8+3 and strong heartbeat! My due date has been brought forward 3 days to the 21st November! Best get booked in with the midwife now!

@Cocobeau yes I’m getting ‘anti-cravings’, same for me with tea and chocolate. OH is thrilled I don’t want my tea bought up to bed every morning anymore 😂 and same goes for the creme eggs with me, I normally cannot function without chocolate everyday but it’s just all sitting there in the cupboard!

@Lou2022 congrats on the scan. I have my private early scan next Tuesday and I’m terrified.

@smiles39 I was SO terrified! Horrendous! Especially as I went to the same clinic I found out the baby wasn't viable last time! Was in floods of happy tears this time though! Hope yours goes well too not much longer to wait x

Has anyone experienced any bleeding,I’m 10+2 and yesterday morning I went toilet and there was a little blood on the tissue more like spotting,then nothing until the exact same again today at the same time.
I’ve got a emergency scan tomorrow I am so scared and fearing the worst,I have had no cramping,pains ect x

Hi guys, 7+4 today and the pregnancy is now sinking in. Im constantly nauseas and feeling so moody. I should be grateful but I’m hating being pregnant. Feel like crying all the time.

I think I'm having a miscarriage. I didn't realise it would be such a long, uncertain process waiting for it to be confirmed. Started bleeding last Sunday (brown spotting started end of march). Told to monitor it when I rang on Monday. Rang them back Thursday, told to come in get a physical and bloods done but no chance of scan into Tuesday. No sign of infection or ectopic but hcg lower than expected (almost 10 weeks, 1025). Back for more blood tomorrow to track 48h hcg changes.
I am not hopeful but I am so ready to know one way or the other so I can get on with processing it emotionally.

@sarahxdx I haven't but I've heard that small amount of bleeding without cramping is quite common and doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong with baby. Hope you get reassurance soon.

@sonicHg I'm with you being pregnant is not enjoyable if you get bad symptoms! Especially the first trimester. Just counting down the days to the 2nd trimester!

@zoeQ90 really sorry to hear that. It's such a long process. When I miscarried last time I had to wait 2 weeks for confirmation even though I knew it was hopeless from the first scan I had! It's so hard waiting. Hope you get answers soon. Thinking of you ❤

@Lou2022 thank you,I’m at the hospital at 9.10 for a scan so I’m hoping everything is okay xx

I'm so sorry @ZoeQ90, I'd be worried with bleeding & those hcg numbers. 😔💜 Hope you get an answer tomorrow. Take care of yourself.

@sarahxdx - hope your scan shows everything is okay. Fwiw - I've bled a bit like that in most of my healthy pregnancies.

Well my small goal is that today I am 10 weeks pregnant. And I didn’t get to that stage before.
I’m definitely burying my head in the sand with this pregnancy but that’s the only way I can function day to day!

Happy Good Friday to all in the group, tentatively or otherwise. Love to all

Thank you,everything was okay with baby he/she was dancing all over the place 🥰 they have changed my due date to 5th November so I’m 10 weeks and 6 days ❤️

Aw that's wonderful @sarahxdx you must be so relieved x