Due December 2022 ❤👶

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So I know this is super super early, but I wanted to start a thread going for us ladies with December due dates. I had a mc during my first pregnancy in January so I'm nervous about everything, but also excited! I'm 4 weeks pregnant Sunday and my test lines have been fairly strong 🙏 I have a sensitive sense of smell and my nipples are sore (but I'm embracing every symptom I get!)

How is everyone? Has anyone been getting cramping in their lower tummy and thighs?! Woken up this morning to such bad cramps but only lasted 5 mins or so. This happened in January and the midwife said it's normal but though I'd ask everyone else! Xx

Oh gosh @Mommabear20 what an awful situation. Hopefully he changes his mind and things can be salvaged x

@5manc I'm just seriously and constantly bloated 😩 which is worse in the evenings and after I've eaten anything. I am starting to think I might have to watch out for certain foods that might make it worse (if I can figure them out) but last night I was feeling ok then realised I hadn't had much water that day so had a glass and then that set off the bloating! Gah!

The boob soreness has hit today! 😫

@5manc I’m constantly bloated but it gets worse the later in the day it gets.
I get the odd twinge but I’m really not sure what expect or what I’m currently feeling as I’ve god a heavy cold as well as being just over 4 weeks.
I’m also constantly doubting if I’m pregnant and hoping it will all work out..please tell me this is normal?

@Mommabear20 I really feel for you! Hoping it all works for you ❤️

I'm getting a little bit concerned by my lack of symptoms 🤔 with my previous 2, I've had every symptom from before my period, but this time I've only got very mild nausea so far! If everything is okay then I'm definitely not complaining! 😂

@December22NewMomma with my first, I doubted I was pregnant right up until I felt her move! 😂 even the scam didn't feel real! But once she started kicking my bladder at every hour of the night, it becomes very real 😂

@Mommabear20 I don’t think I’ve got nausea yet, I keep feeling a bit sick but I think it’s down to the cold. I’m suffering with insomnia more than anything even though I feel like I could fall asleep at any moment
I’m glad it’s not just me!! The only reason I feel like I am is the bloating and my stomach muscles seem to be really sore which I’m guessing is just the stretching. I’m hoping the scan will help…fingers crossed

@Mommabear20 I'm so sorry you are dealing with this :( Can I ask his reasons for not wanting the baby? Sorry if I missed it earlier on. It's such a tough time emotionally.

@lottie222 he's worried financially and that he hated seeing me struggling with pregnancy and that he only ever wanted 2. I completely get that he's entitled to his opinion on it, but I think what hurts the most is that he's not once asked how I'm feeling, and he's known since before we ever slept together that of o got pregnant I would be keeping it because I don't personally believe in abortions, and we've had that conversation many times over the years and he's always said that's fine, so it's just throwing me completely.

On a happier note, can anyone recommend a car that either has 3 isofix on the back or that you could fit 3 seats in (2 isofix with middle being fastened with seatbelt?)

My nausea yesterday was due to my Chinese the night before and not baby I don't think as I'm fine today 😅
Boobs are still sore and I can smell everything within a 10 mile radius but that's it for me symptom wise!

[quote Mommabear20]@lottie222 he's worried financially and that he hated seeing me struggling with pregnancy and that he only ever wanted 2. I completely get that he's entitled to his opinion on it, but I think what hurts the most is that he's not once asked how I'm feeling, and he's known since before we ever slept together that of o got pregnant I would be keeping it because I don't personally believe in abortions, and we've had that conversation many times over the years and he's always said that's fine, so it's just throwing me completely.

On a happier note, can anyone recommend a car that either has 3 isofix on the back or that you could fit 3 seats in (2 isofix with middle being fastened with seatbelt?) [/quote]
Do you think he's still in shock? Maybe it hasn't sunk in yet. Regardless, he shouldn't have given you an ultimatum like that because as has already been said, it takes two to make a baby! Good on you for standing your ground in expressing what you want and your values. You definitely don't need this kind of stress, bless you

@Mommabear20 good for you! I bet he's just still in shock and comes around in the next few weeks ❤️ I've searched mumsnet for cars and people always seem to recommend the citreon c4 grand Picasso but it's definitely a soccer mom car 🙈

I woke up so bloated today but dp couldn't notice a difference I've still got my mum tum but it's certainly no that bad 🙈

@December22NewMomma I felt like a total fraud until I actually went in to labour 😂

@BuchananBaby I’m hoping it might sink in at some point.
I’m just hoping everything is ok as I feel normalish so it’s hard to compute.
I’m apprehensive to tell anyone at this point as well so it doesn’t seem real as we can’t talk about it openly

@December22NewMomma I've told 3 friends already 😂 I was gonna try keep it a secret but we didn't with the last 2 so I thought ' why start now?!' 😂

@Mommabear20 I think I’m scared to if I’m honest. I’ve told my dr, PT and beautician but I don’t think that counts.
I’m going to tell my bestie this week so maybe that will make it feel more real 🤞🏼

@lottie222 hope you’re okay that midwife was really not okay to talk to you like that! I’ve found where I live the ladies in the early pregnancy unit are so lovely, but the midwives on the main unit are just so overworked and constantly flustered, but not acceptable to downplay your chemicals and say that, a loss is a loss and I’m sorry
@Mommabear20 how are you today? So sad to see how your DH reacted, I hope he apologizes and sais it was down to shock, ofcourse he is allowed to have his worries but to put that on you when you’ve already spoke in the past that that wouldn’t be an option must of been upsetting

I had a bit of a breakdown last night, I have an 8 month old pup who I love dearly, but he’s taking so long to train and is still very boisterous and jumpy up, so DH suggested to me to consider finding somewhere else for him (pup) to live. I got really really upset as I love him so much, and the thought of how upset my children would be just absolutely breaks my heart. He then proceeded to say I don’t know why you’re so upset, if it bothers you that much then keep the dog and get rid of the baby He has since apologized over and over and blamed it on tiredness from long shifts at work. The icing on the cake to my breakdown was then texting my mum to tell her the news and if she would consider having pup, to which she replied well let’s see if you miscarry first I woke up after crying ALOT thinking maybe I’m just being over sensitive, but my god the 2 closest people to me saying these things has really really upset me!

@Mommabear20 I'm sorry, that's so hard. I really think it sounds like shock and he just needs to get over it. But it's not fair for him to make you feel like this. I hope you can sort things out.

@TheFantastic7 gosh I'm so so sorry. That was hard to read. I'm glad your partner has apologised but that's really not cool. And I'm sorry about your mum. Did she say it in a nasty was or maybe she was just being a bit forward and it came out wrong. Either way I'm so sorry. I'm sure she didn't mean it like that. X

Oh @Mommabear20 I'm so sorry your DH reacted in that way 😔 I really hope that he will come round in the end and apologise for giving you that ultimatum.

@TheFantastic7 what an awful thing for your mum to say! I'm hoping she didn't mean it in the way it came across. Maybe she was just trying to say we will see how your first trimester goes but didnt word it very well? You definitely aren't being over sensitive. People just don't seem to be aware that our emotions are all over the place and you need to be careful how you word things.
I've only told my bestie and she made a joke the other day about how when you have 3 everyone will bugger off and leave. I know she was joking but I keep dwelling on it 😔

Sending hugs xx

Thank you girls. I think you're both right with it being worded the wrong way and more like a lets not rush into any decisions, but for me it was my mum and DH who got me through 2 MCs last year so it just stung a bit, also while we're all already cautious/nervous, it's shit being reminded that this could all be taken away and basically not to look forward to anything. Hope is getting me through this, and you lovely lot

It seems I feel sick unless I eat something every 2 hours, anyone else? I used to intermittent fast so it's new to me to have to constantly snack

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It seems I feel sick unless I eat something every 2 hours, anyone else? I used to intermittent fast so it's new to me to have to constantly snack

Yes I feel really hungry which is then making me feel sick, eating little and often is keeping it at bay!

@TheFantastic7 that's awful! I'm so sorry! Is pup spayed/neutered? That can drastically help in their boisterousness! My aunt had hers done as he was, for want of a better word, mental! And it was like a whole new dog! I'm glad to see he apologised though!

And I'm not feeling the need to eat every few hours yet, but I can fully sympathise as that was me from about 3 weeks to 20 weeks with my last 2! Oh the joys of pregnancy 😂

[quote Mommabear20]@TheFantastic7 that's awful! I'm so sorry! Is pup spayed/neutered? That can drastically help in their boisterousness! My aunt had hers done as he was, for want of a better word, mental! And it was like a whole new dog! I'm glad to see he apologised though!

And I'm not feeling the need to eat every few hours yet, but I can fully sympathise as that was me from about 3 weeks to 20 weeks with my last 2! Oh the joys of pregnancy 😂 [/quote]
Actually no he isn’t! Brilliant suggestion, thank you!! We have spoken more today and said we can’t just rehome him without giving him a chance and will work on him from now until 20 week scan (obviously praying we get there), so full blown dog training starts today (I haven’t been lazy with it, but I could be doing more iyswim) have found some good dog trainers with techniques on TikTok so here it goes! (Send positive vibes this way I really don’t want to get rid of him)!!

Aww @TheFantastic7 I'm glad you got an apology. Dogs are such hard work aren't they? Luckily ours was DPs before I met him and is amazing in the house but really reactive outside so we don't get many walks with him now because of idiots with their dogs off the lead who have no recall. He gets plenty of running about in our garden though and hill walks 🙈

I'm snacking constantly when I'm making DD food but can't really face a big meal 🤢 just had a fish finger sandwich and it was absolutely amazing 😂

I'm suspecting that's what I've got going on too as has come on again this evening waiting for OH to come home from the pub for tea. I feel a stomach burn when I'm hungry and makes me feel sick 🤢 but it's only a sickly feeling and not 'morning sickness' I don't think. I'm glad you've said about the eating often thing because it makes sense now 🤣