Due late Oct 🎃 - early Nov 🎉

[Foxella]

I don’t know when I’m due, I’ve not had a period since DS was born but I got 1-2 weeks on a Clearblue digi this morning which puts me sometime late October or early November (I think!)
Feels like I’m too far behind the October group but too early for a November one… anyone due a similar time and want to join me? Would love to have some company 😊

@TheBirdintheCave so sorry to hear you're so stressed out - when you're not pregnant, you think the only thing you need to stop stressing is to be pregnant, but I am now sooooo anxious. i have a feeling that the 7 weeks to go until 12 weeks is going to feel longer than the year+ it's taken us to conceive....

@Bringonbaby3 i haven't been able to bring myself to register yet either. i'm holding on for a scan around 6/7 weeks (my fertility clinic won't seem to book it in until after i have a pregnancy blood test), and then i'll go ahead and register because i don't want to be too far down the nhs list (i was booked in for a hycosy with the nhs in march, which they have just sent me a letter to convert to a phone call (!?) in june....so they are clearly very stretched at my local hospital!).

@AmyEF that's good to know, i think i will give the acupuncture a go! any excuse to lie down for 60 mins will do :) and so great that you can have your scan before your honeymoon!! so exciting for you!

Thanks everyone :) I made it through today, no idea what tomorrow will bring but hopefully it will be easier.

@Bringonbaby3 I remember you too :) I don’t plan on doing my referral until about eight weeks for fear of something going wrong. I don’t want to waste anyone’s time.

@99pctpractice They changed it to a phonecall?? I’d love to know how they were planning on doing a HyCoSy over the phone 🙄 Good job you don’t need it anymore 🙂

Hey everyone ☺️

Is anyone else suffering with extreme fatigue? I keep waking up around 2/3AM for a wee and I’m unable to get back to sleep and can’t seem to nap in the day. Just feel like a zombie! Has anyone got any tips for dealing with the fatigue? I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and usually can manage but this is a whole new level. I’m lucky I’m still wfh couldn’t imagine going into work. You ladies who already have kids/physically are going into work are amazing! 🌟

How is everyone coping with symptoms in general? Any tips?

Happy Monday everyone! It’s a new week, sending positive thoughts to you all :).

@Hjklasdfg I am going to bed at 8pm asleep at 8.30pm then wake up several times for a wee in the night and finally get up at 4am in a viscous cycle now!

Looks like it’s all over here. Today’s cheapy and FRER are no darker than two days ago :( I guess I’m just waiting to start bleeding now. So upset :( Good luck with your pregnancies everyone!

How many weeks are you @thebirdinthecave ?

My morning tests are always lighter than evening tests. Someone I talk to on a nother thread had a lighter test, rhen her scan the next day showed a healthy 9 week pregnancy!

Healthy 8 week*

@Annny27 Only 5 tomorrow. I wish I could have a blood test to tell me for definite, I can't concentrate on anything other than worrying. I WFH and have some meetings this morning but can't pretend to be happy x__x

Congratulations @73nat those lines are looking good! Welcome to the group 😊

Thanks @GodspeedJune for giving me the benefit of your Googling! It’s great being part of a group to share these worries with, my cramps eased off and no more spotting so I think it was DTD that set it off 😳 I’ll remember for next time 😂

@Hjklasdfg yes to the fatigue 😩 even when I think I might sleep well, DS wakes at 4 and I have to get up to re-settle him. And that’s me awake for the day. I’m working from home and can fit my hours in pretty much as I like, I’m seriously thinking of getting in a couple so I can take an afternoon nap! 😴 I know my work will be really accommodating once I tell them but I’m not ready for that yet. When do you think you’ll tell yours?

@TheBirdintheCave I find a lot of tests reach a point where they just don’t get any darker, and they’re really not showing HCG rising anyway, only that it’s there. I know it’s impossible not to feel anxious but there is far more chance that everything is ok than not. Sadly only time can tell so be kind to yourself… might you find it helpful to ring the midwife and explain how you’re feeling? I know you’re wanting to wait but they’re there for every bit of pregnancy no matter how early and they might be able to help?

@AmyEF I might have to get strict on going to bed earlier to see if that helps as really struggling to nap at the moment. I’m glad you’re manage to get almost 8 hours in ☺️

@TheBirdintheCave sending you all the virtual hugs possible. I agree with @Foxella maybe call the doctors or midwives and share your concern? Look after yourself and be kind to yourself 💕

@Foxella oh it’s another level isn’t it?! Don’t know how you’re managing with your DS but I’m glad your work are flexible does make a world of difference. Part of me was going to tell my manager early but I might wait until closer to my first midwife appointment. I have a lot of health problems so my sickness has been high recently anyway and they are assuming the fatigue is down to my CFS. I’ll see how my early scan goes next week and probably decide from there. When are you thinking of telling work?

@Foxella @Hjklasdfg I am thinking to tell my work after my 12 week scan mid-April, I think that gives them sufficient time to find cover and more when I feel comfortable.... I think it is different for everyone. Law states don't have to tell up to 15 weeks before due date.

I wouldn't say I get 8 hours, but I am for 7 hours of sleep and 8 hours of rest I guess. Going to bed early is the only way for me, my husband always laughs how can I sleep at 8.30pm haha but it is what works for me

@TheBirdintheCave please please try to sneak in some positive thoughts it will help we promise!

@Foxella I found one to email (I'm autistic so don't use phones) so I guess I'll see what she says, if she even replies. I feel very, very stupid and I hate how much I'm bothering you all.

@Hjklasdfg if your work are understanding already then that’ll help, to be honest although it’s tough with DS I think that CFS sounds super challenging! At least I can get DP to look after DS for a while if I need a break. As soon as you tell work that you’re pregnant then any sickness related to it wont count on your regular sick record so it’s not a bad thing to tell them early.

@AmyEF totally agree, whenever you’re comfortable. I waited until 12 weeks last time (spent a chunk of it on furlough anyway so it was easy to hide) and then only my managers knew. I kept it quiet from the rest of my team until about 24 weeks, then just stood up one day on a Teams meeting with a huge bump 😂😂

I think this time I’ll tell them earlier, I’m on a sort of secondment at the moment and would be returning to my normal role (on site) in May-June. But if I’m going on mat leave a few months later there’s a high chance they’ll keep me where I am. I’d rather they make that decision knowing all the information rather than them planning my return then dropping the news a few weeks later 😣
I don’t feel as superstitious this time, I’ll tell them when practically it makes sense - and if I’m struggling with sickness/fatigue then I definitely will, rather than have them think I’m slacking! I trust that my managers will keep it quiet though, I know it’s not the same for everyone and it can be really nerve wracking to tell them.

My mum will be the first person I tell for real though, she’ll be so happy (even if it is a bit of an unexpected surprise!) What does everyone feel about finding out sex/gender?

@AmyEF ah glad you’re getting a decent amount of rest though ☺️

@TheBirdintheCave you’re not bothering us at all! We’re all here for you, I really hope you get a response soon and it’s good news rather than bad news. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@Foxella ah it’s good he’s around! I wasn’t sure how it worked with previous sicknesses when they found out, I’m lucky as occupational health are heavily involved with me anyway so work have for the most part been extremely good. I know they’ll be fine and my manager is really kind I think as weird as it is to say this I’m holding out until I know if I’m getting a pay rise or not, I should know by the end of March. I know once they announce it they can’t change it but because nothing has been said I wouldn’t want to miss out etc. I think as well when I feel more informed by the midwife appointment I’ll feel better which is almost a month away. Haven’t been given a date for the 12 week dating scan yet.

It makes complete sense to wait a bit and tell them as much info as you can etc.

Ah you excited to tell her? My husband told my mother in law and I told my parents yesterday, I keep saying if something goes wrong I would reach out to them anyway. I was worried my mum would be overbearing but actually she’s been really helpful I think cos she knows how much of a journey it’s taken to get here!

Haha definitely finding out about the gender, I get obsessive with getting things organised and sorted so would have to find out! What about you guys?

@TheBirdintheCave not at all! This group is totally here to share anything and everything and for getting all the virtual support and hugs that you need. I’m so pleased that you’ve sent an email 😊 and don’t be disheartened if you don’t get a reply, just see if there are any other options in case she doesn’t. You could try your regular GP for some advice, or see if your local NHS trust has some sort of contact. Have you booked a private scan? I’m sorry, I can’t remember if you’d mentioned it or not. But you are most definitely not stupid, we’re all in the same boat 💐

@Hjklasdfg that makes sense, although they can’t discriminate you’d rather know you’re getting it (or not) than wonder if it had anything to do with your pregnancy. Fingers crossed!

Is your booking appointment in person or on the phone? I’m excited for it as it’s the first appointment even though I know it’s a total anti climax 😂 but it feels good to be in the system. I’m getting tempted to phone sooner rather than wait now, I want to kick things off and get in the system.

I’m so excited to tell my mum, she’s the most amazing grandma and nothing makes her happier! She lives at totally the other end of the country tho so I don’t get to see her much. I don’t have any contact with my in-laws, MIL is awful and there’s no saving that relationship, very long story but she won’t apologise for the way she’s treated me so I refuse to get involved (and life is so much better for finally cutting her out!) I don’t think DP is looking forward to telling them but he says it’s tough if they don’t like it. I can see him falling out with his mum (again) but that’s life! So glad that you have helpful family around for support 😊

I think we will find out gender this time, we didn’t last time and it was lovely, but I think it feels better to know for this one and be prepared on whether or not we’ll need much new clothing etc! Do you have a preference?

@Foxella yeah I usually get one every year and even if it’s a 1% increase that’s still 1%. I should hopefully get a letter soon about it and it ties in well as my midwife appointment is on the 25th.

The booking appointment is in person, I think they’re doing all the bloods etc all in the one appointment and I believe they book in the scan from there but only going on what the leaflet said! My friend had a baby recently and her experience was completely different. She had a one to one but they did bloods etc first then she saw them again two weeks later for her booking appointment at the GP but mines at the local hospital. I would go for it, it does help having a date to focus on too!

Oh bless her she’s going to be so happy then! You going to tell her in person do you think?
Ah family is so complicated isn’t it? My husband told his mum as he was desperate to tell someone so I said it’s fine, we will probably tell his dad etc after the early scan anyway. I’ll probably tell my extended family after the 12 week scan as after that I don’t mind who knows.

Yeah I find as well there’s not as much unisex choices out there either. I don’t have a preference as long as they’re healthy and well that’s all that matters to me ☺️ My husband would love a little girl though but we will see what happens! What about you?

Yes same I will find out as soon as possible about gender, I would like to know. I always thought I would have a boy before I got pregnant but now I think it is a girl... Also some reason I can't get multiples out of my head haha lets see!

Hi ladies, can I join the group? I’m 16dpo and got a positive what seems like a month ago but was only a week ago. Time is going so slowly! But glad to have found a group due around the same time. I’ll be due 4th/5th November. I’ve had a couple of losses already and really hope this one sticks! I’ve no major symptoms yet, nothing obvious! Just hoping something starts soon! Going for bloods tomorrow and Thursday to check hcg is rising appropriately!

Joining in too ladies! Had a faint BFP on Friday and a slightly darker one today both with FRER and this morning had two very obvious and clear BFP with FRER and CB!

Calculated my own due date which would be 07/11/22!

My partner and I are very lucky and fortunate as this is the first cycle we been TTC with my coil removal on 05/01/22!

Breasts are so so sensitive and I'm so tired already which is unlike me as I'm a super active person.

We booked in for a private early scan for 14/03/22 because I'm a bag of worries atm!

@AmyEF I have a weird feeling about twins, I can’t explain it it just feels it may be possible I will find out next week maybe if they can see on the early scan 😅

@DM1720 welcome and congratulations ☺️ Time just doesn’t seem to be moving does it?! I feel like since I found out it’s just super slow. Hope the bloods go okay tomorrow and keeping my fingers crossed for you for this pregnancy!

@Nict4214 congratulations! Oh the breast tenderness is major isn’t it? I feel like I’ve had to find every bralette I have with no underwire and been living out of those. I’m exactly the same, trying to not worry but it’s easier said than done!

Hi, still taking everything thing in but got my bfp this morning and working out dates I'll be due start of November
Still hadn't sunk in at all and quite nervous about telling work but we've been trying for a while so it feels like everything's coming together. Only symptoms so far are missed af and sore boobs so we'll see how I go.
Congrats to everyone else too!

@Nict4214 big congrats! So nice not to have to go through months of trying! How far will you be for your scan? I’d love an early scan but didn’t think they’d see anything until past the 6 week mark.
@Frida9 I wouldn’t feel the need to tell work for a while yet. Do you work in a job where you’d have to let them know early on? I won’t be saying anything until closer to 12 week mark or even after that.
@Hjklasdfg why do you think it’s twins? That would be amazing!