Due late Oct 🎃 - early Nov 🎉

[Foxella]

I don’t know when I’m due, I’ve not had a period since DS was born but I got 1-2 weeks on a Clearblue digi this morning which puts me sometime late October or early November (I think!)
Feels like I’m too far behind the October group but too early for a November one… anyone due a similar time and want to join me? Would love to have some company 😊

@mochii My husband can never get through when he calls our surgery. He did manage a few weeks ago and booked an appointment to talk about our infertility issues but then by some miracle I got pregnant so he cancelled that one. It seems odd to me that no one seems to do any kind of early pregnancy counselling as that’s when things are most likely to go wrong ☹️ I work from home so am in the house all day alone which doesn’t help and I’m constantly going to the bathroom to check if I’ve started bleeding yet 🤦🏻‍♀️

@TheBirdintheCave I'm so sorry you're having such an anxious time. There are a few resources I have been recommended for dealing with pregnancy after loss: there's a book by Zoe Clark Coates and also pregnancyafterlosssupport.org which has support groups and emergency support that it might be worth checking out. There's also a bfn podcast on pregnancy after loss, which I might re listen to.

I had my blood test yesterday - the midwife called me at 5 to say "unfortunately......your test results are not back yet". I honestly thought she was about to tell me I wasn't pregnant so it was a relief to know the results were delayed but I'm also not enjoying the wait to find out what they are...! They advised me to wait until 7 weeks to get a scan because before then it could be a bit inconclusive, so depending on the test results (fingers crossed!) I would have to wait until about 14 March (aka a lifetime away!) for a scan. As 14 March is my husbands bday, we'll probably wait until after so that if it's bad news it doesn't ruin birthdays for him for life!! So I think I'll register with the midwife pre-scan after all because otherwise if feels like I'm going to end up at the bottom of the list!

Also, anyone know why pregnancy wakes you up so early?? I can't understand why my bladder can't make it through the night now when it's such early days that there isn't exactly anything pressing against it!!!

@99pctpractice The daft thing is that all it was was a potential chemical over Christmas. We had a very faint positive Christmas Eve which was gone the next day and then I started bleeding the day after that. I was a bit sad but just took it as a sign that it was actually possible for us to get pregnant again and carried on. I'd feel a bit of a fraud using miscarriage resources as it was so barely anything and other people have suffered proper losses. I've always had anxiety and depression, it was terrible with my first pregnancy (which resulted in my son) but it's even worse with this one.

I'm sorry your midwife used the word 'unfortunately' that's just mean as obviously we'd think the worst. Fingers crossed your bloods are good when you get them :)

I'm the same with the early waking. I need to pee and get terrible IBS around 6 and then can't get back to sleep x__x

Congratulations @disneygirl87 how are you feeling?

@TheBirdintheCave I’m sure that perinatal mental health can help at any time through pregnancy and first year. I had some support from them after DS but found that the midwife and health visitor were far better for accessing them - could you get in touch with your current health visitor maybe? They can do referrals or speak to GP’s if needed. Is there any chance of moving the scan by a couple of days? If you’re happy that there won’t be a heartbeat yet and that doesn’t mean that anything is wrong then I’d go with it. Working from home makes it hard not to get distracted too, I’m struggling at the moment with that but just getting started on a big report that I can immerse myself in for a week or so.

I’ve been mostly feeling ok apart from bloated and exhausted but took a walk yesterday and definitely felt like I was struggling. Also a horrible spell of heartburn/reflux and some nausea in the afternoon but back to feeling brighter today. It’s that weird stage of not knowing if it’s pregnancy related or dodgy meatballs on Monday night 😂😂 how’s everyone else feeling today?

Blood results were not good :o( hcg only 320, which at 5 weeks is very low. I'm going back in tomorrow for another test but not feeling very optimistic. Sob!

@99pctpractice :( I'm really sorry to hear that. Any chance you could be earlier than that? All the tables I've been looking at online for HCG say that the range at this stage can vary massively. I really, really hope it's doubled by tomorrow for you

@99pctpractice sorry to hear you’re not happy with the results. They won’t know for sure what’s going on until you’ve your second bloods done though, to see if they’ve doubled! You never know, might be late implantation! What did they say on the phone? Had you a feeling this was going to happen? I hope you’re doing okay anyway. Sending virtual hugs!
@Foxella I am experiencing the exact same kind of things. Nausea, heartburn, tiredness, food aversion… but really nothing consistent and I really don’t know if it’s pregnancy symptoms yet. Or if I’m just a bit off coz I’ve just had Covid too! I had to cancel my bloods this week as my Covid test was still positive. So I won’t know anything until next Monday! Time is seriously dragging!!

@99pctpractice I’m so sorry to hear that, I’m really hoping that you’re earlier than you thought or just following the low end of HCG levels. Sending big hugs 💐

@DM1720 gosh, Covid as well, that’s miserable! I hope you’re feeling better from that soon and that we can start to feel that symptoms are definite pregnancy rather than rationally caused by anything else in normal life! Although I’m not going to be hoping for too many symptoms, I honestly don’t know how ladies who really suffer with it manage, as if the time doesn’t go slow enough anyway

Which reminds me… @CurbsideProphet how are you feeling today? Are the meds helping at all?

Thanks @TheBirdintheCave and @DM1720 - no reason why I don't think the pregnancy isn't viable in terms of symptoms (I'm still getting nausea, tender boobs etc), just that I had two rounds of ivf with no genetically normal embryos and I'm 40, so there is a high probability that there may be chromosomal abnormalities that would result in miscarriage...also, my last miscarriage the baby never progressed beyond 5/6 weeks even though I didn't actually physically miscarry until 10 weeks...

After over a year of ttc, this is the furthest we have got, so it at least gives me more optimism that we can still get pregnant...!

@99pctpractice I’m totally inspired by your positive attitude, I’m hoping for the best, not least because I’d love to share the journey with you, but you’re amazing to have such strength and positivity after such a long and difficult journey to get here. Fingers crossed that tomorrow is a good day. I’ll be thinking of you x

Thank you @Foxella and others. Still very sicky. I've had 2 early miscarriages previously (1 IVF last year and 1 natural conception 2020) so it's really difficult for me to feel that everything is ok. I'm just trying to go minute to minute.

@99pctpractice sending love and hope 💗💗

@curbsidepropet bless you! How fsr along arr you? I am 5+5 so expecting more nausea next week but for now it's not very often

@99pctpractice I am in the same position after ivf. My beta was 187 at 14dp5dt. The first one at 10dpt was 17. When will you get the second test results back?

Hi @Mochii I'm 23 dpo so I think I'm a bit ahead of you. I'm getting a second test tomorrow so will know more then....your numbers sound great - all you need is for them to be doubling every 48 hrs and you're set :o)

Hello!! Can I join please??

I had a BFP 25th February which will take me to 5 weeks 3 days and got 3+ on the clear blue test. I am due October 30th☺️ this is my second pregnancy however my first was a miscarriage at 11 weeks so I am hoping for the next this time - but very anxious!!

I am looking to book in for an early scan around 8 weeks just to put myself at ease- has anyone else thought of this?

Thank you girlies xxx

@misslahx congratulations and welcome ☺️
I booked one in for 7 weeks so I’ll let you know how it goes. I’m a really anxious person so just wanted to know and see with my own eyes to be like okay I’m pregnant. I know they prefer you go at 8 weeks as you can see more but the sonographer said it’s personal choice and the earliest she can do is 7 weeks so booked for then which is next week ☺️

Hi @misslahx and congratulations! I’ve booked a scan for 20th when I think I’ll be about 8 weeks, I would have done the week before but have family visiting for the weekend and it won’t be easy to make an excuse. It feels forever away tho! But at least then it’ll only be 4 more weeks until the NHS scan. Seems much more manageable to break it down!

I only had nausea for about an hour this morning when I got up and now I feel ok so anxiety has cranked up a notch again. I'm getting my husband to cancel the scan as I still feel hugely guilty about it and there'll be nothing to see anyway because of when I ovulated. Husband called our GP yesterday but they won't do bloods and nor will our local midwives so basically no one cares about mental health in early pregnancy.

I'm still in awe over how positive and optimistic you all are. I wish I could be the same and book scans or register etc or even just be excited but the odds of a pregnancy being successful just seem so awful every time I look at the statistics x__x

Guess who threw up brushing her teeth this morning 🙈 that was a first haha

@foxella that's a good way of thinking about it, breaking it up so the wait before 12 weeks scan isn't as long!

@thebirdinthecave nausea comes and goes for me too depending on if my tummy is empty or not! I would keep the scan lovely. Your tax money paid for it so may as well haha!

I'm sorry to hear how anxious you're feeling @TheBirdintheCave. Is it not possible to book a normal GP appt just to discuss mental health? It's very saddening to hear the lack of support in early pregnancy.

Is everyone here in the UK??

@TheBirdintheCave I agree to keeping the scan! x

@Annny27 Ohhh I remember that from my first pregnancy. Not fun at all! :( I hope that that was just a one off for you and brushing your teeth doesn't become something you dread :(

My nausea came and went last time but this time it doesn't seem to be linked to how full I am :/ I have a diary from my first pregnancy that I've been reading. The entry for 5 weeks says I have nausea every other day but by 5+5 (three days from where I am now) I had 'general nausea and sore boobs every day'.

The other problem with the scan is that it's at the same time as our phone GP appointment (which we had booked weeks ago to see if we could get a checkup on my husband's infertility issues). So we have to pick one or the other :/ The other reason I'm scared of the scan is that if it's an internal one I might bleed afterwards which would just make me worry more.

Some good news is that I just found out I got a bonus at work that will pay for our summer holiday to Italy. My mind is blown.