Due June 2022 (thread eight)

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@DaimDillyDoo so beautiful!! Amazing how much detail is picked up! 🥰 The private place we go to said between 28-32 weeks for a 4d appointment 😭 seems like so long away!

@beansprout55 I have had thrush throughout the pregnancy, tend to put the cream on when it gets too much. It did cause my skin to break and for me to bleed a tiny bit but I can’t imagine thrush to cause tiny clots unless you’ve been scratching hard?
If they’ve checked you over I’m sure you are okay, but please don’t feel like you can’t call them back or go back in. You should be seen to if you are worried and think something is wrong, I wouldn’t worry if they say the same thing again, atleast you will have the reassurance!!

I am relieved to see some anecdotal evidence that my "problem" is probably pregnancy related. @pregnancydiaries I'm particularly happy to see we're in the same boat (sorry not sorry)!

Ladies, I had awful constipation for months. I don't miss it at all, even though my new normal is pretty awful too. It doesn't last forever.

I have 20-week-scan-take-two tomorrow. 🤞

Aww @beansprout55 so sorry to hear about the spotting, so pleased to hear all is ok. But please go in again if you're still worried.

@PeeAche good luck with scan take 2! Hope you get a lovely picture as well

Guys I’m wondering if anyone is in the same boat as me. I work from home, I wake up in the morning and walk into my spare room and sit down for work. I get up and go downstairs a few times a day, but when I’m finished with work I end up sitting on the sofa most the evening.
I had 20 weeks of nausea and sickness, and now I am having restless sleep I lack any energy to exercise. I am feeling like a terrible mom as I know exercise is really good for the baby.
I just wanna know does anyone have any exercise recommendations or is anyone in the same boat as me? :(
I hate this time of year, I really hate the idea of walking alone in the dark and cold, as DH doesn’t get back until late.
I’ve tried yoga and my body isn’t what it used to be anymore 😅 I feel like I’m running out of options other than waiting for spring.

I just asked my husband (very seriously) if he thinks the baby "gets lonely in there?"

... I'm losing my mind.

@DaimDillyDoo awww gorgeous! Thanks for sharing that beautiful little face with us.

@Vimto1991 I currently only work very part time for myself and still feel too knackered to exercise most of the time. I tell myself I’m going to go for a swim pretty much every day and hardly ever actually make it. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Try and do a loop around the block when you feel up to it? But I know what you mean about the time of year. But it’s true that… spring is just around the corner!

@beansprout55 sorry to hear about the spotting but glad everything seems okay. Hopefully it’s just a very temporary thing that soon buggers off 🤞🏻

Hope take 2 goes well, @PeeAche

Oh @PeeAche I do love your posts! What a hilarious existential question 😂 Good luck with your scan, hope all is well.

@Vimto1991 I also wfh and have had to get strict with my calendar during the day. I block out time for a daytime walk at lunch or sometimes after schools are out. Of course some days are too hectic and I miss the walk, but then I’m left with even less energy. It’s basically a vicious cycle! Are you able to carve out some small time in the day for a short walk, even if it’s just to the shops and back or down a local road? It can also help to find a friend to walk with? My only decent cardio is badminton once a week which I am holding onto for as long as I can!

Try not to be too tough on yourself though, your body is working incredibly hard and you’ll be burning calories more frequently as it is! 😊

@PeeAche welcome to my rush to the loo life! I have IBS so it’s always been like that for me (a few times at the very farthest point of a long run 😱). Oh, and somehow I manage to suffer from constipation as well. The two often go together according to the gastroenterologist I saw ages ago.
I don’t think pregnancy has made a difference one way or another, but I’ve been told it can definitely cause these issues.So I’m guessing that’s all there is to it in your case. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not minimising and I have A LOT of sympathy!!!

I really feel for others on here with smoking family members. I've always hated it but now I'm pregnant it is so difficult. I really hoped they'd stop once I was pregnant but they haven't. They smoke outside now but still, they stink! I hate the thought of them holding my baby with all that smoke on their hands. It's so sad because I love them and want them to be involved in our life but the smoking feels like a non negotiable issue for me. I don't know how it's going to go!

@PeeAche I'm having urgency issues too haha. Putting it down to baby's position. Think I was the same in my last pregnancy, it did get better after she was born.
And i found out the other day that baby can hear you now, and feel it if you touch your stomach so not lonely haha!

@Vimto1991 I cannot exercise at all at the minute. I thought the exhaustion was supposed to be better in the second trimester but not for me! Swear I could sleep 12 hours a day if I didn't have work. I spend most evenings and weekends on the sofa, and my job is mostly desk based. I feel bad but I genuinely don't have the energy to do any exercise.

@PleaseSendNoodles @Rolledthedice thank you for the kind words! Hoping when the sun comes back I can take a walk after work, I never manage to get out on my lunch breaks but maybe I should give it a go. I have been wanting to do swimming but the local swimming pool doesn’t open until March 😅

@Octoblockisadick yeah this is exactly me, when I’m done with my working day I am both mentally and physically exhausted, I end up falling asleep downstairs at 10pm for a few hours before dragging myself to bed. We are doing a great job at growing a life force inside us so think we need to be less harsh on ourselves!! Takes a lot of energy from us. :)

@Octoblockisadick I asked my GP about this and she said that not everybody gets the energy back at the second trimester. I'm not one of the lucky ones 😔 I'm so exhausted and get breathless so easily. I manage to do exercise on the days I feel a bit better but more for my mental health.

Good luck today @PeeAche xx

@Lostintranslatio I get breathless pretty easy, too. Even just talking in a meeting I can get breathless. Then again I ramble very quick without pause feel like I have to catch my breath just from speaking. 🙈

I was at the GP yesterday regarding my breathlessness. Definitely noticing it more 😔 Doesn't help running around a hospital!

20-week-scan-take-two was pretty awful. I couldn't see the screen, I didn't get any photos and they had run out of jelly so my stomach is covered in carpet burns. I cried the whole way through because it hurt so much. (I'm such a baby. But it turns out those scanning things REALLY hurt without the jelly!)

I have to focus on the positive (and it's a big positive!) the baby is 100% totally healthy.

The sonographer was really nasty and kept telling me off for moving (breathing! 😅) and she wouldn't participate in the gender thing. Not a Trust rule, just a her rule. So no idea if we're having a girl or a boy.

I am probably now booking a couple of private scans.

1 for the gender. (I know this is just a silly thing but it has become important to me for some reason. It's become like a milestone that I don't want to miss out on)

2 for the late scan that I'm scheduled to have at 32 weeks, to see if the placenta has moved. I have decided I won't be accepting this from the NHS and will go privately instead, I think. I'm pretty sure they can't force the issue and I'm done with the NHS scans now, I think.

It's an hours drive, and finding childcare was very difficult today (I have step children that live with me). Plus all the time I'm missing from work. And the scans just don't work. The staff are rude, the service is so underfunded they don't even have belly jelly(!), and they can't tell me anything.

To give an idea of how badly this will end for me, if I go for the placenta scan and they just can't tell whether the placenta has moved, it will then mean I get submitted for elective CS, even if I don't need one. And since 90% of placentas do move by week 28, there's a 90% chance that I will be forced to go for an unnecessary CS because of a dodgy scan.

This is my third NHS scan today. Both my 12 week and first 20 week scans "failed". Today's was too painful to go through again.

Oh @PeeAche
I'm not even going to try sugar coat because that just sounded shit from every aspect. Scans are a precious thing for us all.
I don't blame you for going private!!

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Oh my word @PeeAche that's awful!! How can they have no jelly?!? And not telling you gender just 'because' is not cool. I don't blame you for wanting private scans. So glad to hear baby is perfect though! X

Sorry that last message was from me, I don't know why mumsnet keeps defaulting to an old username!

@PeeAche I think the baby might be lonely too!! Every time I feel him move I feel like I need to talk to him which can be a bit awkward when I'm on a train muttering to my belly...

@PeeAche that's just unbelievable! I'd definitely be submitting a formal complaint to the trust. An ultrasound without the jelly just isn't as clear or accurate and it's unacceptable to cause you completely unnecessary pain. I don't blame you at all for going private going forward (I have a friend doing the same thing due to piss poor experiences) and I'm just outraged on your behalf!!!!

Also I actually don't think it's acceptable for the sonographer to make up their own set of rules. Fair enough if a trust has rules but then the sonographers should just follow them and if they don't like it move to a trust who's values align with their own! No one else is allowed to make up their own set of rules to work by in the work place so why on earth should they!

Grrrrrrr 😤

Glad the result was good though 💚

@PeeAche that sounds like an awful experience - so sorry to hear that. We build these scans up and they are so important to us - the sonographer just sounds like a total b1tch!

I had my appointment with fetal medicine today and after scanning me, the doctor said she thought it all looked fine. I cried with relief after a week of convincing myself the baby had cystic fibrosis or some other horrible genetic condition.

Really hoping I can relax a bit and enjoy this pregnancy now. 4 hospital appointments in a week plus thrush and hideous constipation and exhaustion means it hasn't felt like much fun recently!

 @PeeAche- that sounds like an awful experience. I'm shocked you were treated like that.

Wtf @PeeAche????? That's absolutely shocking.

No wonder you feel so p*ssed off, especially now having to wait longer to find out babies gender. I hope you are straight on to private clinics and can get some time this week.

The MAIN thing that is amazing news though is that the baby is 100% healthy. ♥️♥️♥️