Pregnancy after miscarriage - thread 2

[susiebluebell]

Hi! Thought I'd start a new thread as we filled up the previous one. Going to try and tag everyone who's been active recently - apologies if I miss anyone out! Feel free to join in.

I'm expecting my firstborn, having had 2 miscarriages. Currently 17 weeks and 2 days!

@Loulou237
@thunderonlyhappenswhenits
@OnceUponAThread
@Hopingforarainbow27
@chasingtherainbow1
@GinnyBee
@Tandabear
@CocoLoco88
@itssquidstella
@Oti22

Yes unfortunately at the early stage it's all a waiting game. We saw a heartbeat at 6 weeks, but that's the absolute earliest and not guaranteed to see anything - even if the pregnancy is fine. You guys just have to sit tight and trust! Been there and know how hard it is x

@Hftb - how long ago did she take the 2-3 clear blue test? I can't at all see how you're coming up with 9+ weeks unless she took it a month ago?

When she took the test she would have been 4-5 weeks pregnant (2-3 week indicator means 4-5 weeks pregnant). They are a bit unreliable as everyone's levels are different, so actually it could be 2 weeks or even 6 weeks. But I can't work out where you're getting nine from.

If she took it over a month ago and baby is only measuring six weeks on a scan, I can see why it's a worry. But if she took it recently it sounds like the scan dating it about right.

When was the first day of her last pregnancy? That might help us help you.

@OnceUponAThread she had a positive test 25 Jan saying 2-3 weeks. She has had and still has pregnancy symptoms. Her periods are very irregular. She paid for a early scan which only saw a sac and a yolk, two weeks later she has had an nhs scan which now shows a small fetal pole measuring just over six weeks so things have progressed in two weeks. She has to go back in two weeks. All the dates just do not add up especially when we read a 2-3 weeks cb means 4-5? It’s all just confusing. You read so many different stories over inaccuracies and embryos developing slower than others. The doctor didn’t seem concerned he said things are very early and all is there what should be. We will just have to wait and see.

@Hftb - ah I see. Ok. So 2-3 week test on 25th Jan, would in theory have made her 4-5 then.

Which would have put her at 8-9weeks or so when she had the early scan earlier this week.

Scan showed 6 weeks so she's measuring behind.

Without a last period date it's really hard to tell. Those clear blue tests can be very unreliable.

It could be that there's a problem, but it could also be that she was actually only 2 weeks when she took that test (but had high HGC levels).

That would make her more around 7 weeks and she could then be measuring a week behind (which would be fine. I've been a week behind throughout.

Early scans are also very unreliable for dating as a couple of millimetres makes a huge difference.

Fetal pole is a good sign, and it sounds like the scanner wasn't too worried? Wishing you lots of luck and strength for the next scan.

@OnceUponAThread yes that’s right, phew. I’ve never read so many different stories some positive and some not. They didn’t seem worried. I thought it was positive that the fetal pole had devolved from first scan. It’s all so confusing. I will update after the next scan where hopefully there is progress again. Thankyou for taking the time to reply.

Hi girls. Sorry I've been quiet! I got covid about two weeks ago and it's only just left me! My next scan is on 16th March and I will be around 13 weeks. I have never got this far before so I hope everything is ok with the babies! 💕

[quote Hftb]@Raindrops2015
This is the concern. If she adds 2 weeks onto the clearblue which was showing 2-3 weeks. It would make her 9 plus weeks which she deffinatally isn’t. We will just have to wait and see and hope for a positive scan of a heartbeat.[/quote]
If she adds 2 weeks to 2-3 on CB that makes here 4-5 weeks, impossible to be 9 weeks, how did you conclude 9? Also, CB is not a measure of anything, the range of hCG values can be extremely huge and you simply cannot rely on CB at all. CB is actually test that should not be for selling because it creates enormous misunderstanding among women who are already stressed about their results. Blood test is the only one to tell how many weeks someone is.

With that being said, ultrasound measures could tell you in which week she is and if next ultrasound measures are progressing as expected then you can estimate the time for sure. So if LMP is unknown, 2 ultrasounds and hCG value from blood will give you exact answer. Hang in there, I hope everything will be fine!!

@HftbAh I see, her scan could have been at 9, sorry I did not see your other reply. Anyway, do not take CB as some type of measurement or important info. I really hope it goes well!! Sending you hugs!

@Silvermisty I agree the CB estimating weeks should be banned. This is where all the anxiety and expectations of her weeks has came from. As her periods are so irregular we were going off that to start with before her first scan so obviously we’re expecting to see more at the scan than was actually there. She was sure she had miscarried. I was not sure as there has been progress from first scan to the next scan so to me that was a positive sign.

@Hopingforarainbow27

Hi girls. Sorry I've been quiet! I got covid about two weeks ago and it's only just left me! My next scan is on 16th March and I will be around 13 weeks. I have never got this far before so I hope everything is ok with the babies! 💕

Hi Hoping! I've been thinking about you. I'm sure all is fine with the babies, fingers crossed for a smooth ride till then!

Hi everyone, I'm just commenting on here so I can have a proper read through later on! Currently around 5 weeks pregnant after a mmc at 9 weeks in November. I have a very early scan at my epu on Monday because I've had some spotting, although thats stopped now. Did anyone have their progesterone tested early on? Hope you're all okay xx

@Cruz86

Hi everyone, I'm just commenting on here so I can have a proper read through later on! Currently around 5 weeks pregnant after a mmc at 9 weeks in November. I have a very early scan at my epu on Monday because I've had some spotting, although thats stopped now. Did anyone have their progesterone tested early on? Hope you're all okay xx

If you've had a previous miscarriage and have ANY bleeding you should be put on progesterone. Not all doctors know this but that is the recently updated guidance so get onto your doctor armed with the info and insist on it.

@Cruz86 I agree with @Raindrops2015 You need to take progesterone, especially with a history of MMC.

I did not know that! I had one big bleed at 6 weeks, terrified the life out of me, but they put it down to an implantation bleed. No idea if that's correct, but still OK 15 weeks later

Sorry for your loss @Cruz86 but happy that you're pregnant again!

Hi ladies how is everyone doing? I am almost in the third trimester, how the hell did that happen?! Hope everyone is doing ok and getting more excited than anxious xxx

@Loulou237 gosh, it's amazing how far we've all come. You're nearly on the home stretch now.

I'm doing well, albeit very, very emotional at the moment, so keep weeping over the tiniest things 😬😩

Hi everyone,
I hope I’m okay to hop on this thread? Reading all of your messages to each other has been so comforting.
I had a miscarriage at 6w+3 back in 2013 and found the entire situation so traumatising (Abusive relationship + miscarriage) that I pushed any desire for children deep down for a long time.

Found out I’m pg on Tuesday - think I’m 5w+1 now so approaching the time I had the miscarriage in the next week or so and it’s taking up every second of my waking hours. I’m sleeping to avoid thinking about it.
Poor DH is ecstatic and I’m panicking every time I feel a cramp or if my morning sickness/sore boobs disappear.
It’s relieving to see it’s fairly normal to have these fears though.
I’ve seen a lot of you ladies are getting scans in EPU’s. How are you getting the appointments? I spoke with my GP yesterday and she’s told me that it’s common to miscarry and then go on to have normal births so to stop worrying, but she won’t refer me for a scan.
I’m delighted to be pregnant but don’t want the worrying to ruin the enjoyment for DH. I feel like a scan might set my mind at ease but not sure how to get one.

I went through my GP for EPU scan. I basically just spelled out how anxious I was. That it was affecting my sleep and I was experiencing extreme low mood. And that I was worried the stress levels weren't good for the baby. Etc etc

Fortunately my GP was super supportive and referred me straight away to our EPU. And thereafter it was straightforward.

Generally the hospital rules in my area are you only get an early scan automatically after three miscarriages, but if your GP refers you, they'll make an exception.

If my GP had refused / I couldn't find a GP to refer me, I'd have gone private. I couldn't bear the thought of waiting to 12 weeks (especially given my miscarriage was missed).

One word of caution, I would try to hang on till 7 weeks if you can. Before that they're so tiny and there is so much room for error. So many people have inconclusive scans which just makes anxiety a million times worse. By 7/8 weeks you should get a concrete answer.

Xx

@Loulou237 @OnceUponAThread I know, I'm 22 weeks today and feeling verrrrrrry weepy, it's hilarious! Full-on hormones. So happy that you're nearly in 3rd trimester Lou.

@FirstTimeMama22 welcome! I'm sorry you're so anxious - I've been there. Like Once the GP offered me a scan when she understood I'd had two miscarriages and was freaking out. It might be an idea to do a private one if you can afford it? Though do wait as long as you can, at least past 6 weeks. I truly feel you - try not to add more stress by trying to keep it together for your partner. Xx

PS not sure if my last sentence was clear. I just meant you don't need to feel like you 'should' be joyful just because your partner is. It's fucking worrying before you know what's going on in there!

@OnceUponAThread just thought I’d check in. DD has had some discharge on wiping for 3 days, phoned epu who advised to go to a&e as foul smelling. Anyways after bloods they ruled out infection. Hcg levels were high and still a positive pregnancy test. Is this the beginning of a miscarriage. We will find out tomorrow when she has her scan.

@Hftb - that sounds so worrying, but good that they've ruled out infection. Did the blood test also look at HCG levels?

Crossing everything for the scan tomorrow. I really hope it's good news. X

@OnceUponAThread yes they said hcg levels were high and also positive pregnancy test. Just want tomorrow to come for her now.

[quote Hftb]@OnceUponAThread yes they said hcg levels were high and also positive pregnancy test. Just want tomorrow to come for her now.[/quote]
@Hftb obviously it's impossible to know for sure, but it sounds like the blood test is as positive as it can be. Sending you so much luck for tomorrow. I know the wait can feel like a lifetime.

I actually spent the evening looking at private scans yesterday. Just trying to convince DH that £79 and a 120 mile round trip is worth it now! Although, my lovely Mum used to say “What will be, will be” and I’m trying very hard to accept that and calm myself down. I’ve spent the last few days having panic attacks and asking Dr Google every question under the sun. How do people make it through the entire 40 weeks with their sanity intact? 😂