Pregnancy after miscarriage - thread 2

[susiebluebell]

Hi! Thought I'd start a new thread as we filled up the previous one. Going to try and tag everyone who's been active recently - apologies if I miss anyone out! Feel free to join in.

I'm expecting my firstborn, having had 2 miscarriages. Currently 17 weeks and 2 days!

@Loulou237
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@GinnyBee
@Tandabear
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@itssquidstella
@Oti22

@Loubylauralou

Hii and congratulations on your pregnancy!!

October 21' I had a mc and my body naturally let it go at 11 weeks but the baby stopped growing just under 6 weeks, it was my 4th pregnancy after 3 healthy babies, this was my partners 1st. We conceived again in Feb '22 but it ended as a chemical pregnancy soon after a positive test 😔 I started taking my multi vitamins and folic acid 5mg near enough straight away and in March '22 we conceived our Rainbow, I'm now 12 weeks and the scan show everything is going as it should be.

I can relate to your stress as all of us on here can, take one day at a time, day by day your baby will grow stronger.

Dont get me wrong I've been a train wreck at every trapped gas, every back pain and every twinge! At 6 weeks 3 days I started spotting and that's when I went for a private scan just to see if it was going ok and there it was... a heartbeat.. a strong one! It's not for everyone but it can give a little reassurance knowing which stage you are at.

I hope your pregnancy is a happy one and everything goes ok!

I'm due christmas day 😬😂

@susiebluebell I've attached my 12 week scan! Due 25/12/22

@Flowerstem Congratulations on your rainbow baby! What a wonderful Christmas present :-)
We've got a scan on the 30th and are counting down the days!
There was no indication anything wrong with my missed miscarriages until we had a scan so finding it hard to be positive, as I'm sure many of you relate with. Just taking it a day at at time. Xx

@Loubylauralou

Keep counting down the days and I hope everything is a positive experience, please keep us updated with your scan or whenever you need to chat 😁

@Flowerstem thank you so much, I will.

@Flowerstem Look at that lovely scan pic! It's made me go all warm and fuzzy 😊 12 weeks and onward the chances of MC drop down soooo quickly. Everything crossed for you.

@Loubylauralou I can fully understand the nerves and worry, I remember being 5-6 weeks and I didn't think about anything else! I was obsessed but also feeling very negative about our prospects.

We decided we were open to having a baby and started 'not trying, not preventing' around end of '19/ start of '20. We then had to spend 4 months apart due to lockdown 😅 I became pregnant in August 2020, first ever pregnancy, I was over the moon and totally oblivious to the possibility of MC. The pregnancy ended naturally around 6 weeks and I was absolutely devastated. I was so clueless!

I didn't fall pregnant again till October 2021 (at least not knowingly) which was really hard in and of itself. Didn't find out why, nothing obvious other than irregular periods. That pregnancy also ended around 5 weeks, which was less of a shock, but made me feel really really negative about it ever happening. I felt like such a failure and so disconnected from my body.

Then I must have had one of those odd flukes where you ovulate straight after a bleed, because we had sex about a week after the 2nd MC and then my period didn't come for ages. I took a pg test (more to punish myself I think, as I say I was in a bad mindset) and it was positive! And I did about another 6 tests over the next few days and they were all positive too!

We took the first 12 weeks really carefully, basically didn't make a big deal of it. I was pretty nauseous so knew that things were happening, but I only told my mum, sis and best friends. At the 12 week scan when we saw her and heard her heartbeat, it suddenly became hugely more real and we told most other people.

Fast forward to today and I'm lying on the sofa with a massive belly, she's flip-flopping around and taking over more of my personal space! Due next month sometime. I know it's a cliché but if it can happen for me then it can happen for you. I had such irregular periods and literally only got pregnant once per year before conceiving this one. This might be a successful pregnancy for you, or it might be a future one. You will definitely get through it either way 💪🏻

@susiebluebell Ahh congratulations to you :-) It's lovely to read your success stories and gives me hope. The strange thing with me is I have no problem whatsoever getting pregnant (he only has to look at me lol!) but then it doesn't progress. They haven't found anything wrong so just don't know what's going on. I really hope this one works out.

I really hope it works out for you too @Loubylauralou 😊 Feel free to continue chatting and venting etc., it often goes in waves of activity here but several of us get notifications when things are posted, so we're always listening 🤰🏻

Personally I'm now 35 weeks and feeling fat, breathless and twingey 😅

Aw bless you, not long now! 😊Are you all prepared?
Thank you I will, feeling very tired and bloated atm plus super sore boobs but felt this way with both missed mmcs so can't take any comfort from that. Also having various aches and pains which obviously I'm second guessing and over analysing! The 30th can't come soon enough.

I've got my 12 week scan tomorrow, the first I've ever had after 4 earlier mcs, latest at 7 weeks. Got myself into a right tearful state last night and convinced myself it won't be good news 😕 I'll feel better once (if) I see a heartbeat, not sure I can take anymore bad news!

@Loubylauralou Yeah mostly prepared, except small things that will occur to me at bedtime like us not having any bottles yet! My DP will definitely be doing his share of feeding, I'm determined!

It's such a pain waiting for those first milestones isn't it, especially that the pregnancy symptoms and period/miscarriage symptoms are so similar!

@TwoBulletsFiveZombies Will be thinking of you tomorrow, and please do update us if you want to! I cannot stress how unconvinced and upset I was before our 12wk scan - it was my first too. Whatever happens, you'll find the strength for it xx

@TwoBulletsFiveZombies all the best for tomorrow. Have you had an early scan already or is the 1st one? x

@Loubylauralou I just wanted to say hi. I think you and I had missed miscarriages together last year - I remember your name in some of the threads. Congratulations! I'm also pregnant again and we must be roughly the same in dates - currently 6+2. Wishing you all the luck this time round!

@Onebabyandamadcat yes I remember you! Congratulations to you too :-) I'm 5 + 4 so very close. Fingers crossed for us both. x

Thanks @Loubylauralou and @susiebluebell .

It was my first ever scan - picture attached!! A good heartbeat, wiggling around and measuring fine. There was a little area where I've had a bleed but they weren't overly concerned about it.

I'm still waiting for it to feel real, I never thought I'd get to this point. We're telling family later so hopefully it might sink in a bit more then 😀

@TwoBulletsFiveZombies aww how lovely, so wonderful! Congratulations ❤️

@Loubylauralou thank you!

@TwoBulletsFiveZombies Well look at you! Isn't that amazing, you must be feeling over the moon. So happy for you, enjoy this moment and the amazement of seeing your little one xx

@TwoBulletsFiveZombies Aw amazing! And your scan I so clear too. Congratulations on your 12 weeks 🥰 so excited for you
Are you still due around christmas or has it changed x

@susiebluebell thank you so much!

@Flowerstem thank you, I'm still due around Christmas, in fact they moved it forward a few days to 27th December!

We've told our parents and siblings who are all overjoyed, my mum burst into tears. She's seen a lot of what I've been through, sat next to me in hospital through miscarriages and IVF many times when my ex wouldn't make an appearance, I don't think she thought it would ever happen for me either.

Just my DPs daughters to tell now, which we're both quite nervous about. The 6yo should be fine and excited but the nearly 12yo is going through a stroppy phase and might take a bit of talking round!

@TwoBulletsFiveZombies Aw amazing, I'm so happy for you that you've got your rainbow and as mentioned before the mc % goes down so much!

I hope you get to enjoy your pregnancy chapter now 🌈🌻

Hi ladies
congratulations @TwoBulletsFiveZombies on the scan it’s such a big milestone to reach! I hope you can start getting excited now.

I just wanted to spread a bit more hope and good news, I had my little boy last week at 40+3 no complications and quite a fast birth compared to my first one. Needless to say we are completely in love and so happy!

just wondering who is next in the queue for baby arrival?! Is it @OnceUponAThread have you got a date for section yet? And @susiebluebell are you full term yet?! Hope everyone is doing ok and you are not too uncomfortable in the heat xx

@Louharding ahhhhh he's perfect!

I think it'll be a photo finish between me and @susiebluebell on who is next.

@Louharding Congratulations! What a beautiful boy ❤️
It's lovely to read some success stories, definitely gives me more hope.

Congratulations @Louharding he's absolutely beautiful 😍

Ah @Louharding what a beauty! Well done you amazing woman!

I'm 36.5 weeks so still a bit to go, although I suppose it could be sort of anytime too. It'll be a toss-up between me and @OnceUponAThread 😜