Due October 2022

[BecLJ]

Hi all,

I've just had my BFP and am due early October 2022, for my first baby I joined a group on here for people all due the same month so thought I'd start one this time round - early days I know but nice to speak to people in the same boat! 🙂

I'm 31 and have a DD who is 16 months.

Is anyone else due in October? How are you feeling?

@Dorset555 such a tough situation as ofcourse you don't want to hurt them and be insensitive but equally you just want your friends back and be able to tell them and moan. Probably is best to not say anything but I haven't had pregnancy loss so maybe other people who have are in a better position to say. We're always here to listen. My little boys teething so being hard work and I'm thinking lord what have I left myself in for. I just keep saying it's going to be really tough for a few years but then it will get easier and it will be worth it as I do really want a close age gap. Your feelings are still valid though it's sad people struggle to conceive but you also have the right to moan every now and then too :) x

@SharkoG I'm similar - I was 6 weeks yesterday. My only symptoms are slightly sore boobs and needing to go to the toilet a lot.

I haven't had any sickness but I didn't when I was pregnant with my son either. I wasn't sick once though I was often nauseous. I don't have the nausea yet this time

I think the exhaustion is quite a strong symptom tbh, I haven't had it yet but I got it about six weeks when I was pregnant with my son and could hardly get out of bed.

@Bridgey8 @Vie8126 welcome to the club :)

@SharkoG I don't really have any symptoms but I didn't with my first. We read so much about morning sickness etc but some people are lucky and really don't get any. I was tired with my little boy but didn't get any other symptoms. It does hurt when I BF but they aren't really sore to touch otherwise. Sat watching the Olympics drinking tea that's all the effort I've got lol.

[quote Dorset555]@123walrus thank you that's really good advise. I just don't know if I should tell them at all now or wait to 12 weeks. Seems very strange keeping it from them but I really don't want to upset them in any way. I think I'll leave it at least for a bit. I can't imagine how hard to must be for those struggling to conceive x[/quote]
It took me 8 years to conceive. It's a suprised pregnancy after lots of fertility treatment and ivf, and a mmc after a fet in November. My advice coming from someone who's been on that side of things is to break it to them over text, not face to face as it would be hard for them to hide their initial reactions. And I second not going on about anything really pregnancy related. They will come around but it'll take some time.
My upset was usually from the pregnancy announcements, once I got over that initial shock I was fine after a few days, it was more grieving for something i didn't have and feeling like life was cruel. Once the babies were here I was all for the snuggles !
I did have a friend that was quite insensitive and kept messaging me about how sick she felt, how bloated she was, sending me pics of her growing bump etc, it was just relentless. I'm not saying you would do that btw ! But some people can be abit thoughtless I guess. I'm sure they'll be happy for you they will just need time to come to terms with it

@HeyDuggeesFavouriteSquirrel thanks!
I never been so exhausted, maybe when I was younger and barely slept for few nights in a row because I was studying and/or partying!

I'm guessing cutting down massively on the caffeine is also adding to this. I used to drink one very strong coffee but plenty green tea during day, just 2 weeks ago i realised I need to cut down green tea as well! So I'm having one very very weak coffee and one green tea a day now.
I ordered some non-chemical decaf as well as for some reason forbidden fruit tempt me a lot!

@SharkoG I didn't actually know I was pregnant til week 11 the first time and I thought the exhaustion and nausea at week 6 was a bad case of food poisoning! I was an exhaustion beyond anything I'd ever felt, I could barely lift my head from the pillow. I hope I don't have that this time as I have a two year old to look after!

I'm on one coffee a day too!

Hi ladies. I'm still waiting for my booking in appt however I was just wondering how many of you are going with partners or going alone?

I plan to go with my husband to every appt as he missed every single appointment in 2020 with our DD, including all scans.

@HermioneGr

I plan to go with my husband to every appt as he missed every single appointment in 2020 with our DD, including all scans.

I would love to have my DH attend all apptswith me for the exact same reason, but sadly we won't have anyone to look after our LO this time round so looks like I'll be going alone, again.

@HRHXO
I'm going on my own for the first appointment, they actually asked to come by myself so I'll oblige. They will take all the samples of my bodily fluids and measure /weight me so I don't think presence of my partner is needed. Then I will have a call scheduled to discuss it as far as I understand.
All the covid restrictions apparently should be ceased but I guess not in NHS yet sadly. I hope he will be able to come for scans with no problems!

If you take your partner to your booking in appointment they may ask to see you on your own for some of it. They will ask very personal health questions and they may also ask how things are at home, just to make sure you have the support you’ll need and there are no issues

Hi to the new joiners! 👋🏻 Here is the link the the FB group if you’d like to join, it’s private and invisible fb.me/g/2OXdCDV5p/7lWgMohs

I will go to the booking appointment myself, or the bloods if the rest is still over the phone, no idea! But like @HermioneGr I want my husband to be at all the scans and as many other appointments as he would like as having a December 2020 baby meant we missed out on everything will be a little trickier this time with an older one, but hopefully can have scans Tues-Thurs when she is at nursery.

Sorry if this is a silly question can you not bring your toddler to the scan? I was planning too as he isn't in nursery so wouldn't have childcare x

Check with your hospital but I don't think so for most maybe due to covid still?

@SharkoG

Does anyone else have little symptoms? I'm 6 weeks. It again makes me doubt myself, even took another test yesterday (super positive). I am not having any sickness yet (only once for couple of hours), contrary I just want to eat more, I have no cramps - maybe as due to adenomyosis I have very painful periods and often ovulation so now my body just don't register anything that is less painful. My boobs are bigger and for couple of weeks they were very sore - now it either settled in or I got used to it.

My only symptom that i struggle with is that I am incredibly exhausted. I struggle to stay awake despite sleeping at night even more than usual. Today is one of the worst days, I literally just stare at my work screen dowsing off all the time.

Anyone else feels similar? It's my first pregnancy and I just don't really know what to expect, can sickness develop later?

Very few symptoms. Have had a couple of days where I feel a bit more tired than normal. Maybe some mild cramps every now and again - so mild I can't tell. No nausea or sickness. If I hadn't done a test, I wouldn't have known. Mind you, only 4+3 so very early days still. But it is unnerving not feeling anything!

Thanks everyone, I don't think my partner will be available to come with me to the booming in appt so glad it's not something he would be missing out on. We are both first timers so unsure what to expect. Only slight worry for me is the blood test I'm terrible with needles and usually need the support but I'll have to find some way to cope.

@Diamondbabe

Sorry if this is a silly question can you not bring your toddler to the scan? I was planning too as he isn't in nursery so wouldn't have childcare x

Not permitted at my local hospital trust, it was the same pre-covid too apparently.

@tooembarrassedtosay
Thanks for reassurance!

@Diamondbabe toddlers not allowed at my trust either. The reason for this is they say that obviously there are incredibly important things to check at the scans / full concentration needed and no distractions.

Very few symptoms here too. Slightly queasy in afternoons / evenings but only if I think about it! Although with my DD this is when I got my "morning" sickness so could just be the start of it. Although I've felt like this for several days and it's not worsened at all. Still very early for me too.

I'll leave my DD with someone else for the scans, she'd be a right pain!

Symptoms still fluctuate. Yesterday afternoon/evening I was so sick but today a bit of gagging this morning and then nothing. Bit crampy and still sore boobs. Had a very weird feeling in my vagina earlier like a heartbeat. So odd. Went quickly though. Literally never had that feeling before.

Got my reassurance scan tomorrow afternoon. Put in my dates and the clinic have put me 4 days ahead. Feeling really anxious about it now. Keep dreaming about MC and I just have this horrible feeling they're going to tell me something is wrong. Just trying to trust the process and relax.

I didn’t take OH to the booking appointment last time and don’t plan to this time either. It’s quite boring really. I hope he can come to scans though. I don’t think children have ever been allowed at scans here, even before Covid, so best to ask someone to have older DC.