Due July 2022 (thread 3)

[CaptainCarp]

Hi all
I could see the other thread only had a few posts left so thought I'd do a new thread before i missed the chance like last time & we lost people 🙈

Thank you @Chh0412 for making the Facebook group 😌

@Hope3821 I know at the moment a lot of areas aren't permitting home births because of midwife shortages. You might be lucky in your area and certainly by the summer things might have changed but something to keep in mind.

I considered a home birth with my first but I was concerned about the distance to the hospital should something go wrong and so opted for a birth centre. As it turned out I ended up with with a full complement of doctors, nurses and midwives at my birth so I may as well have been in the delivery suite and not the birth centre. I wouldn't necessarily be afraid of having doctors around, in my case I am extremely thankful they were there. I guess what I'm trying to say without making you more anxious is that your birth might not go to plan but what is ultimately most important is that everyone is ok in the end.

Perhaps look into a hypnobirthing course, mine was fantastic at making me feel like I was in control and also understanding where your body will do it's own thing and how you can support that process through state of mind and breathing and how your birth partner can help and what the least painful birthing positions are. It also helped me with my fear of child birth too.

@Chh0412

https://www.facebook.com/groups/300405932102482/?ref=share

Link for Facebook group

Thank you

Does anyone know if it will show that ive joined the group on my facebook? Im yet to tell some people im pregnant yet and would hate for them to find out through facebook but would love to join the group

Hi all. Just wanted to introduce myself

Hope it's ok to join! I'm very hesitant as I feel that talking about my pregnancy may tempt fate after a miscarriage in jan.

Due in July with my first rainbow baby - due the 2nd and I've been very lucky to have hardly any sickness - but this brings quite intense anxiety.

No bump yet. Plus size so again anxious about anything going wrong because of this, but otherwise I have been grand. Very nervous about birth and will probably have to think about an elective section

Hope we are all well!

@WotsitMum I just sent a join request and then saw your message and cancelled it as we haven’t told people yet. @Chh0412 do you know how private it is? I know it says you can’t see members but is there a way to make it so that the group can’t be searched just incase? :)

It's a private group and can't be searched.

Feeling really shit tonight. I've been sick ALL day had no energy after a busy day yesterday. Slept on the sofa and knew my partner was annoyed when I woke up. So spoke to him and he said he was fed up of doing nothing on the weekend. He went to his MIL as we do on a Sunday but I stayed home. He came back pissy and said the same thing again. I got upset and cried. I told him I am not responsible for his happiness and planning ideas. I told him to go out with friends/ get a hobby. I feel shit and guilty as it is being so useless. I feel disgusting as it is and worry about making him happy. My dad went into hospital last night with a suspected heart attack too but luckily it wasn't and he was discharged this evening.

Trying to enjoy being pregnant but I can't do anything I'd normally do and it's really getting me down 😢

Sorry to rant I just need to speak to people who don't know me personally and can give outsider views x

@Capricorn8990 So sorry you're feeling this way - I'm exactly the same. Can't remember the last time I did a chore, my whole life is literally sleep, eat, spew, work & sleep.
I'm sorry to hear your partner isn't being more supportive - men really don't understand how difficult it is growing a whole assed human 🙄🙄 Would like to see them grow some organs & then have the energy to do activities 🥱🥱

@Chh0412 do you mind sharing a new link to the facebook group please as it seems to not be working now but did earlier🤷‍♀️

@Chh0412 I'd like to have the link too as earlier one not working. I commented on the earlier threads but find it hard to keep up on mumsnet x

fb.me/g/1nmLbZcFZ/GuF5udou

Hopefully this link will work 😊

@Chh0412 amazing, I will join when there’s a new link. Thanks! :)

@Capricorn8990 so sorry you are feeling rubbish! Hopefully your partner starts to understand how much hard work it is growing a baby. I’m sure given the choice you would prefer to feel okay and enjoy your weekends! Sending lots of love! 💕

So i was supposed to have my 'booking in' blood tests done today (at 14 weeeks!) But ive been in close contact with a person who tested positive for covid yestoday so the hospital wount see me untill a week after contact or a negative pcr! My bloods are allready late due to them having no appointments available! I wonder if ill ever get the booking in blood tests done, by 20 weeks maybe?! Anyone else experiencing problems and delays in appointments? I swear its been harder with appointments this time round than when i had my first during all the lockdowns at the start of the pandemic!

@Hope3821 I had a home birth with my 2nd, and planning a home birth with this one too :) It was the most incredible experience of my life. I had intended to have a home birth with my first as well but he decided to join us at 36 weeks so ended up on labour ward as we weren't ready and he was a bit early (although he was 6lb12 so was completely fine).

I would definitely put lots of consideration into it. Evidence shows that even just planning a home birth results in better outcomes for mum and baby and fewer interventions (i.e. even if you transfer in). I have very quick labours so I feel like I wouldn't have made it anyway, but for me I couldn't imagine travelling when in labour, I just stayed in my warm dark safe comfortable space. My husband felt so much more involved and could see that I was central to the process compared to at hospital where he said it felt like things were done 'to' me not 'for' or 'with' me. There are some great books to read to find out more - 'home birth matters' is a good one, but also 'the positive birth book' and 'give birth like a feminist' were great for me for planning.

There just was nothing like curling up on the sofa with my husband and new baby immediately after, then climbing into our bed. Knowing my toddler was safe and snoozing upstairs!

Can u join please - currently 13+2, EDD 15 July!

This is our second. Number 1 is 15 months old so this was a bit of a surprise!

Does anyone have a bump yet? 😁 I think I'm showing a bit earlier this time (mornings are fine, but evenings I do look preggers!). Can still hide pretty well though.

Are you ladies telling people yet? We have told family and close friends but I'll wait with telling work until the 20 weeks scan if u can hide for that long! I've had 2 miscarriages in the past (1 MMC) before our son.

Oh sorry one more thing, at the 12 week scan my placenta was low :( they said should move out of the way when the uterus grows but if it stays low need c section. I really don't want one, I had a really easy vaginal birth wirh our first.

Have any ladies here been in the same situation where the placenta moved?

@SunStruck yes me with my first, moved right up and no problems at birth. I think it's more common for the placenta to move up than not from how it was explained to me anyway. I'm sure it'll be fine.

@SunStruck congratulations!

it is much more likely for it to move than not. Everyone I know who's been told they've had a low placenta it has moved out of the way by the time it's got closer to the date. I wonder if it's just part of hte normal process that it gets pulled up and out of the way as you grow!

I have a definite bump now so no hiding it. I also have a 14 month old :) (and a 3 year old).

@SunStruck
My first is 15months too. Planned this one but got pregnant much quicker than expected. Took us nearly 15months last time to fall pregnant. This happened in 10 weeks!

My placenta was low last time but moved by 20 weeks. 😃

Hii, Can I join? EDD 16th July. I was a little apprehensive of joining before as I had a MMC in June, had my 12 week scan and everything looks ok which is a relief.

@Capricorn8990 @Lianna93 I'm totally with you on the sickness and feeling rubbish mine doesn't seem to be getting any better. I can't remeber the last time I did any housework, OH is doing the lot and working full time, I felt bad but tbf before pregnancy I did the majority of the cooking, housework and worked full time so 🤷🏼‍♀️ the sickness and not being able to do anything really is starting to make me miserable though!

Welcome @ChinChilly I remember you from other threads 👋🏻 x

@Lianna93 @Coco9910 thank you both very much. We both apologised to each other and he sent me a text this morning saying sorry for being moany. I am feeling better today and not as sick.

Been having lucozade every few days and had a latte today as were allowed 200mg of caffeine a day aren't we? Need to feel more human xx

@ChinChilly welcome! I hope you're okay. I was similar to you too, did a lot of stuff round the house and feel so guilty for not doing it now. Hopefully we all start feeling better soon xx

@ChinChilly hello! I remember you too 👋 hope you are doing okay. I had a challenging Christmas feeling very sick and was signed off work for the whole of December, but finally feeling a bit less sick now and able to work from home now so getting there. Small amounts of lucozade were a life saver for me when I was feeling so ill x