Due June 2022 (thread six)

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[quote 3yearstrying]@Brightsmoke thats reassuring thank you. I also feel its so important to not have to 'love' pregnancy. Many do but i for one hate it, i love what im growing but do not want to do this again. Such a strange feeling i wont just be me again, i will be mummy! So anyone else who cant wait for baby to be here and done with pregnancy you're not alone![/quote]
You are like my twin! I hate being pregnant too haha

Another member of constipation club here 🤚🏻 I actually said to my mum the other day I don’t know I am going to have a baby when I’m struggling to get a poo out lately 😂😂😂 it’s hands down been the worst part of pregnancy for me I had it at the start tired everything natural and ended up with lactulose but that sends me the other way. I thought after 10 weeks I was over the constipation but the past weeks it’s back with a vengeance 😭😭😭

Wow you guys have been busy yesterday! Love catching up on this thread!

@Prema112 sorry the scan didn't go to plan but glad that you got to see your baby and that what they could measure was normal 💚

Also a fully signed up member of the constipation club here, I've been using syrup of figs when I've been particularly bad and that has helped me (has calcium in it too so good for baby!) - blame mum for the old fashioned constipation cure but I checked with midwife who said it was safe (and insulted mum, ex midwife, in the process 😂)

Congratulations on your scan too @Brightsmoke, and I think it's lovely how you've opened up the thread on the gender disappointment front, although I was lucky to be very happy with ours 💚

Anyone else really starting the feel the effects of "baby brain" I swear I'm losing brain cells at an alarming rate!

@ChildOfFriday of yes of course! I keep losing track this thread is so busy. So jealous you got to jump 6 weeks forward in your pregnancy! I definitely want to find out, hubby won't even discuss names with me til we know the gender as we know it's going to be such a minefield (two different languages so needs to work/be pronounceable in both).

I've not been the biggest fan or pregnancy so far either and wishing June to come round sooner rather than later. Although saying that I had my whopping cough injection last week and my arm really hurt and ached for days so slightly concerned about my pain threshold and geeting through birth 😅

Hi @Brightsmoke I've always said 1. I want a surprise and 2. I don't mind what I have. I had to have an emergency scan the other day and think I saw a willy. I'm not 100% sure as I may have been seeing things but it shocked me how upset I've been since. I never found out with my first because I didn't want to be upset about if it's a boy or girl during pregnancy. I'm not sure if I should find out officially now, given that I think i know what it is. I'm also a bit gutted that the surprise element may be ruined.

I'm also completely over being pregnant and just generally in a bad mood 24/7. Poor DH doesn't know what to do or say. Roll on June!

@Clueless22 i need to get that jab booked in so we'll see how that goes! Hoping a water birth will save me with some pain but who am i kidding

I'm not planning to find out gender - my mum and sister can't believe it! I definitely would if I thought I would be disappointed either way so that I could process those feelings but I don't have a preference. I think my husband wants a boy but he keeps saying he doesn't mind either! I'm going to get lots of hand me downs from my niece and nephew so will be prepared whatever happens.

We used an app to make a list of names and it worked really well for us! You swipe on the name like on tinder and you can choose what language names come up and then you each have a list that you like and you can go through your partners list and also rank the names. I think it was a really good way of doing it for us.

@3yearstrying I'm hoping for a water birth as a bath has always helped during my time of the month and I've always suffered from painful periods... how different can pushing a baby out be!!
At least therre will be an amazing little baby at the end of this pain however.

@3yearstrying @Brightsmoke ditto... Can't wait for this part to be over and the mummy part to start! My friend kindly reassured me that the worst is yet to come and I'm lucky I can still get up from the sofa without help*

*I didn't ask DH for help as we had guests, I could have done with done though 😂

Also want a girl and feel like it's probably a boy and @Turniptracker need a name that works in 2 languages - which is easy for a girl, not so much for a boy. We have a few girls names, no boys 😬

@AlbatrossSociety also used the Kinder app, need to pay to add a language, so will be doing that as soon as the gender is confirmed on Friday 👧🏻👦🏼

Gone right off work at the moment, brain isn't doing focus and I'm just not that interested, it's going to be a long slog til June!

@AlbatrossSociety do you remember the name of the app? I had loads of girls names but really stuck for a boy! That sounds ideal

Gender disappointment is so common isn’t it. And often for absolutely no real reason at all. With my third baby I was desperate for a little boy, I thought it was my last and really wanted the experience of a son. Didn’t find out until she was born and didn’t experience a shred of disappointment at all that she was a girl and not my longed for boy. So you would think I would be thrilled that this time I’m having a boy, but actually I was so convinced that it would be another girl that I had already named her and planned all things pink - although actually none of my daughters so far are into anything girly or pink 😂 so I was a little disappointed to find out he was a boy. I need to change my mindset re-think things and definitely come up with a new name! But it’s not really about him being a boy it’s just those plans etc that we will miss. I know that I will love him just as much as my daughters and our bond will be just as strong and it will be the same for all of us once we have our babies in our arms. At that point nothing else will matter, we will just be glad that pregnancy and labour are over and done with!

We used one called baby name together. We tried kinder but it was a bit glitchy and my husband turned the Lord of the rings names on as a joke and then we couldn't get rid of them so it just kept coming up with Bilbo and Treebeard etc.

Kinder also only keeps names that you match, the one we used keeps a list of matches plus a list for you and list for your partner so you can go through their list and (laugh at them) see if there are any you like. Means I had time on my own to process my husband's slightly rogue suggestions and one actually made it onto the list - although still not sure if it's too out there! You can also add names if one you like isn't coming up. I sound a bit like an ad but I'm not we just really did find it handy!

"We tried kinder but it was a bit glitchy and my husband turned the Lord of the rings names on as a joke and then we couldn't get rid of them so it just kept coming up with Bilbo and Treebeard etc."

Bahahahaha!!! 😂

Perhaps you would end up really loving these names through over exposure. Like songs that get played too many times on the radio and you start singing along.

"It's got to be Treebeard. I can't imagine it any other way."

@fpeg @Rolledthedice @3yearstrying @pregnancydiaries Thank you so much ladies for all your replies.

For constipation try daily porridge with flax, works for me!

We opened the envelope last night to find out gender. I was so so sure it would be a girl, had always felt it was a girl, would have bet quite a lot of money on it being a girl. Well, he's a boy! I'm not really sure how I feel. I'm not exactly disappointed, more disoriented. It feels weird to strongly believe something and then it's not true! My mum has been calling the baby 'she' for over a month which hasn't helped. DH is disappointed so I'm disappointed for him, but I'm also delighted as I love my little boy so much and I'm so happy he will have a brother. @Brightsmoke thanks so much for being so honest about gender disappointment. My feelings are all mixed up so will be good to have time to process them

@Whatcanmyusernamebe well said!

Oh @Prema112 congrats on your perfect little boy. ❤️

I too am convinced mine is a boy. My scan isn't until the 7th. I want a girl so either way I should be happy. If it's a girl, I get what I want. If it's a boy, I am right. And nothing is more important to me than being right. Just ask my husband.

@PeeAche I had loads more examples but I was like 'what if someone on this thread wants to name their baby Boromir or Glorfindel and I mortally offend them'

I'm also struggling with constipation. Tried lactulose but it's gross. Loads of fruit and water plus kefir seems to be helping a bit. Also eating / drinking the same things for breakfast every day seems to wake up my digestion a bit.

Apart from that and the painful droopy breasts, I'm not finding pregnancy as difficult as in the first trimester. I've got more energy and I've been working out sometimes or doing yoga, both of which feel really good (although what has happened to my core???).

@destiEos DH and I also need a name that works across 2 cultures / languages (Arabic and English). I've enjoyed looking through Arabic names to find ones I like and then running them past DH. (He's doing the same, but knows loads of Arabic names already.) That feels nicer than picking from the really small subset of names that are the same in both languages. My priority is something that sounds/feels nice. His is names that won't be Anglicised or mispronounced in the UK - his name usually is and he doesn't like it!

@PeeAche @AlbatrossSociety i was definitely considering Bilbo, middle name Baggins for extra effect

Ladies how do you or how will you shop for sizes if buying from h&m. Im so confused. Some places have 0 to 3months but h&m have 0 then 0 to 1.then 1 to 2. 2 to 4. How to buy from there !!

@PeeAche I am in exactly the same boat, get a girl - whoo, get a boy - I'm right: win-win!

@AlbatrossSociety 'what if someone on this thread wants to name their baby Boromir or Glorfindel and I mortally offend them' - Brilliant :)

@InvisibleDragon - we're going the other way round, I run through Greek names I like and then DH tells me they sound odd in English - although it's my first language too, I can't hear them objectively if you know what I mean..anyway, there's a lot of pretty commonly used Greek names already and I'm aiming for something a bit more original - although, I'll be skipping Treebeard probably

I would love a girl but I think a lot of that stems from the fact that my DH parents have three grandsons already and it would be lovely to give them a granddaughter. There are also so many cute dresses for girls!
Although as long as baby is healthy, I will be happy and if baby turns out to be a boy, anything goes these days so I'll just have to dress him as a girl every now and again!

[quote AlbatrossSociety]@PeeAche I had loads more examples but I was like 'what if someone on this thread wants to name their baby Boromir or Glorfindel and I mortally offend them'[/quote]
That's me striking Galadriel Jean off my list! 😂

Shotgun treebeard if it's a boy!