Due June 2022 (thread six)

[MrsNT]

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Please tag anyone ive missed

@Vimto1991 honestly, don’t stress about being stressed. I was very anxious in my last pregnancy and being anxious about being anxious was making it worse. Our daughter is and always has been a chilled, easy going child. Now I’m just going with the flow. If I’m stressed one day then I’m stressed, I won’t give myself a hard time. None of us will be be able to go through nine months of pregnancy in a state of Zen like serenity. Pregnancy hormones, for starters, make that pretty difficult!

@EarlGreywithLemon yeah I can end up in a rut sometimes constantly worrying (I have general anxiety), which doesn’t help me or the baby. Started the new year off in a more positive mood but slowly crept back in. It’s great to hear your daughter is so chilled out, that’s one worry of mine that anxiety breeds anxiety haha so good to hear it didn’t affect your pregnancy or daughter!!
Also nice to hear it is somewhat easier on the mind the second time around 🙈
I get frequent palpitations when exerting myself so been sent for a 72 hour ecg in three weeks, obviously I’m anxious about such a long wait as I don’t want anything to affect the baby. Hopefully they are resilient to it all :)

@pregnancydiaries How are you doing lovely?

@CurryandSnuggle Glad I'm not the only one 😬

For anyone wondering if their whooping cough vaccine is "late", it is not.

1. My doctors got me in for it early because they planned on combining it with my flu vaccine. The only hitch in this plan is that they gave me my flu vaccine 4 weeks ago. And forgot to update my records.
2. It's as effective at 32 weeks as 16 weeks. You can, in fact, have it any time up until you go into labour.
3. Babies born to women vaccinated at least a week before birth had a 91% reduced risk of becoming ill with whooping cough in their first weeks of life, compared to babies whose mothers had not been vaccinated. There's really no rush.
4. Mine has caused my "morning sickness" to return to first trimester levels. (I have had HG). Last night was the worst sickness of my entire life. At 2am, I found myself stuck on the toilet after a wee, afraid to move in case I threw up. Eventually I managed to move and promptly sprayed the entire bathroom with projectile vomit. Uncontrollable. Smelly. Mostly liquid. And it even went on the ceiling.

If you've never found yourself stark naked, crying, and mopping the bathroom ceiling at 2.30am on a Thursday morning, have you even been pregnant though?

My stepson wants to know where his Spider-Man toothbrush has gone.

"Sorry kid. I had to burn it."

@Prema112 it’s made me feel so silly.. bubba is kicking away this morning and stamping on my bladder. 😂 I think they were just having a long sleep yesterday!!

@Vimto1991 I completely understand, as I suffer with anxiety too, and have remained on my low dose antidepressants throughout both pregnancies so far (with the doctors’ full backing of course). It actually really annoys me when people tell pregnant women “oooh, don’t get stressed, it’s bad for you etc”. As if it’s in our control, and as if that’s not going to make us more stressed.
I hope your ECG goes well, and I don’t think palpitations in and of themselves can affect the baby.
I’m actually under joint care with cardiology because I have a heart condition. The palpitations in my last pregnancy turned out to be caused by low iron, and went away with iron supplements. All ECGs were fine. In fact, I’ve been getting a few lately and wondering if my iron is going the same way again, as it was borderline at booking. If your ECG shows no concerns, low iron might be worth asking about.

@EarlGreywithLemon yeah that’s the trouble as soon as you tell us not to stress, we’re gonna stress 🙈

My iron levels looked perfect according to my midwife. My GP thinks it’s anxiety/stress related, but I pestered them to refer to cardiology. This started last May but the waiting list has been so long. 🙃 I had a 24 hour one privately in July which showed eptopic beats when exercising which apparently aren’t a concern for nor for baby, but I wanted a cardiologists opinion. Now it’s been so long since July the NHS want me to do another one. 🤦‍♀️
Reading that normal people get palpitations whilst pregnant makes me feel slight relief that must mean baby doesn’t feel any I’ll affects as that’s my main concern now. Funny as soon as your pregnant concerns about yourself fly out the window.

@Vimto1991 definitely no ill effects for baby that I know of. The cardiologist and obstetrician consultants I saw seemed completely unconcerned. In fact it looks like they are pretty common in pregnancy:
my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21941-heart-palpitations-in-pregnancy
Definitely good to get them checked out for your own health, but it doesn’t sound like you should be worried at this point.

@EarlGreywithLemon the consultant I saw as I have hypothyroidism also wasn’t fussed about palpitations so definitley a good sign.

Roll on June!! 😂😂 thank you for your reassurance, been really nice to hear today. :)

@EarlGreywithLemon @Vimto1991
I also had palpitations in this pregnancy which were scary as I've never had anxiety or panic attack before so never had my heart pump so fast and loud.

I later read that palpitations are normal in pregnancy so when I get them now occasionally I just breathe deeper and let them pass

[quote pregnancydiaries]**@ChildOfFriday* @EarlGreywithLemon* @Prema112 @PeeAche thank you so much for love ladies ♥️ Still here!! All looks ok with baby thank goodness and got to hear his wee heartbeat. Had a speculum exam and smear and now I’m freaking out that’s caused damage to the baby…will the worry ever end? Anyway waiting for bloods to come back as stomach tender on examination and they keep talking about appendicitis which I’m very convinced it is not 🙄 just sent DP to the shops for supplies xxx[/quote]
Home now ladies, but jumping on this panic of baby not moving bandwagon. Usually I feel wee one move every day quite a lot but haven’t had anything since Tuesday night now. Somehow hearing the heartbeat hasn’t even given me reassurance, why am I like this? 😂

Anyway as I thought, no appendicitis. They did say the cells on my cervix looked “different to normal but that this could be something or could be nothing and just a side effect of pregnancy hormones…more worry 😂

Happy Thursday all, June - hurry up!!!!xxx

@laurenGame breathing through and trying to distract yourself is definitely the best thing to help when you get them! I’ve just been trying to get myself out of constantly thinking about them, difficult but hopefully will get there. Nice to know it’s normal and baby probably has no idea what’s going on 😂

In other news, you guys talking about movements, I had two strong movements today! Called my DH upstairs and they stopped 🙈 they’re like fireworks, soon as you get up to see them they stop lol. Honestly thought they’d freak me out but I really love feeling them. :)

Omg that sounds brutal! I'm so sorry xx

@pregnancydiaries glad to hear you’re doing well!! Baby movements at this stage are sporadic. I think someone here said you don’t start counting movements until 28 weeks so I wouldn’t worry! If you’ve not felt anything maybe they are chilling near your back. :)

Also abnormal cells via a smear are common in people who are pregnant/just given birth so shouldn’t be a worry there either. :)

Is anyone getting pain in upper inner thigh while sleeping? Had that last night and was up at like 3am. Changed sides but it then happened on the other thigh.

I can’t remember who it was that had BV but when I mentioned it to my midwife she said it doesn’t sound like I have the symptoms of it. For anyone that had BV did the smell start minutes after sex or was it more you slept and overnight the smell built up?

@MrsNT

Is anyone getting pain in upper inner thigh while sleeping? Had that last night and was up at like 3am. Changed sides but it then happened on the other thigh.

Yes. A thousand times yes.

Hi I'm new here and due date 25th June 2022 ❤️

Are other FTMs being subjected to the smirking fortune tellers of your impending doom? Or is this just me?

"Enjoy sleeping now. You'll never sleep again"
"Bye bye sex life"
"The first year is hell"
"Forget showering"
"Forget eating"
"I hope your washing machine is up to the task"

One woman I work with, let's call her Smugstic Smeg, can't stop telling me how awful she predicts my baby will be. She has done the new born thing no fewer than 4 times herself. She seems to think this qualifies her as a Subject Matter Expert in my life. I think it makes her absolutely bloody insane for not following her own bloody advice.

Oh yes, you can see that I'm a fat, uncomfortable, scared pregnant woman... please tell me again how much you think I have messed up my life.

My SIL is the worst.

When I have got through what, by all accounts sounds to be 2 years of total and unrelenting hell, I promise to talk to new mums about the good bits. Leave all the nastiness up to the bitter old Smugstic Smegs. It's a bit late to be filling women with buyers remorse, after all.

Ladies on here that already have kids - please can you reassure me that it's all worth it?

@peeache what do you do to get relief? I Had to shift to other room as that had a softer mattress and that helped me sleep

Hi All,

Hoping to get people's thoughts, I got my quad test back today and the results are 1 in 2300 of downs - has anyone had a similar result? I can't decide if I should get the NIPT or not.
Any advice welcome
:)

@PeeAche I'm so sorry to hear of your awful night!! Sounds horrific!! Hope you're feeling better today?

The first year is NOT awful. Yes, it is HARD but it is also WONDERFUL. This tiny little thing you love so much you want to burst changes almost daily and it's so worth all the poo, milk vomit, sleeplessness and sore nipples when they smile at you, do something for the first time, snuggle into you 💗 Those first few weeks will feel like the longest time of your life and at the same time you won't believe it when you are planning their first birthday 🥲 It's such a special unique time, don't listen to the haters!

I do remember wanting to write a poem called 'cold cups of tea' in the first few months though 😂

Hi @redbearmum ! We're due date twins! I just had my 16 week scan today and got to hear a little heartbeat. Very jealous of all those already through their 20 week scans tho - the price we pay for being at the end of the month.

Is it your first?