Minsters Sidecar Bumping Along - ttc graduates thread 5

[larrythelizard]

As I'm avoiding doing any of the useful stuff I should be doing I thought I'd just pop another sidecar up x

@Juno231 yayyy girl 😊 happy birthday 🥳

We do seem very top heavy on the girl front here 😆 we're not finding out but I suspect a boy. Saying that I thought DD was a boy 🤦🏼‍♀️

@2020mission yes I don't see truth in that theory either. I ov'd the latest I ever have this pregnancy and the last time we DTD was 3 days before as we ran out of steam so in theory should be a girl. I think the gender preference is really sad too in some cultures 😔 I read stories on here about women who are heartbroken and I just can't associate, especially when people struggle for years with infertility and pregnancy loss

@Vil10 that is a shift in how many weeks you are, I thought when I saw your IG announcement yesterday phew good it wasn't another day with the little announcement plaque thing you had 😅 to make them a July baby. Super lovely when people are so thrilled for you 🥰

Happy Birthday @Juno231 and yay for it being a girl!

I think if you have problems later on @Vil10 then you're going to need support more than ever so probably good people know

@paintfairy I have no complaints in terms of DH and his parenting, we're pretty 50/50 so I get plenty of time on my own (theoretically because once I've done the gym, work, and seeing DS for a bit there isn't much more time anyway). It was probably more me when DS was little but I think that's because DH didn't necessarily have the confidence for it because I was off on Mat Leave and with DS all the time and also probably a bit controlling!

I'm assuming I'm having another boy. In my heart of hearts I'd like a girl so we'd have one of each but I've decided it's a boy so im not disappointed. Im pretty keen on the boy I've got so another one would be no bad thing. Also won't have to buy anything new then!

We went swimming this afternoon, I really needed a wee by the end - my jeans were nowhere near doing up with the size of my bladder, it looked properly bumpy - I didn't really have any form of bump (just looked fat) until gone 20 weeks last time, don't think it'll be like that this time!

@2020mission wooo birthday twin!! How exciting!! Weve decided to both book the full day off work and after the scan in the morning go for a drive out with the dogs and go for a walk and some dinner somewhere nice! I am quite sceptical in how true it is, baring in mind I don't actually have a clue what I'm looking for😂 not telling others due to losses is completely understandable! I think if I had been in that same position I'd have done exactly the same as you!! I know I know, my mum has just reassured me too all the way from Jamaica bless her, and I know I'm being so irrational, I think if the midwives were worried they'd have said! Thankyou for being a voice of reason❤️

@bez91 hahaha I know i said that!! At both my early scans and my estimate our due date was 6th august, I'd have have re carve the plaque😂 however I'm so confused how I can be 12+6 today when my LMP is 12+3🙄

@larrythelizard are you finding out the gender or keeping it as team yellow?? My mums just suggested swimming to me, I'm really looking forward to it as well! Feel you on the jeans and bladder front, when I need a wee I'm so so bloated it's crazy! They say you show sooner with your second dont they?

Congratulations @Juno231, what great news and on your birthday too! “Who run the world?” 🎺 👸🏻

I would be fuming if DH sent DD up to join me in the bath @Minster2012! Don’t get me wrong I’m in the bath with DD on a regular basis but sometimes you just need an hour to wallow like a pregnant hippo by yourself 😂 at least he sorted dinner though.

I think you are still in time for NIPT if you want it @Vil10, under your circumstances I probably would have had it but I’m 36 now, was 35 at 12w scan so risk is much higher I expect.

Oh I forgot to mention too I did end up getting my booking in appointment blood test results back yesterday too! From what others had said I expected to get them at my next midwife appointment but they went over them with me yesterday and now they're on my app and the midwife told me "I was a picture of health", which again made me feel more reassured just in myself and my ability to look after this baby

@Haiyaa I did contemplate it but from what the sonographer and midwife said, OH said it would be pointless and he's confident everything is fine, I'm getting the downs bloods in 2 weeks anyway it's just the other 2 syndromes I won't get tested for until 20 weeks, which is kind of a worry because it's still 7 weeks away but suppose I'm getting tested for the more common one so I think I'm just over reacting and need to keep remembering what I was told yesterday!

Girl boom on this thread at the moment @juno231 happy birthday and congratulations! What a lovely present for you :)

We aren’t finding out the sex but I’d love to have a little boy but I’m not fussy either way :) so hopefully we can be team blue like @2020mission
@vil10 your announcement was so cute to see! Makes it all a little bit real, I wouldn’t worry too much about the testing, the sonographer said everything looked normal just little bubs was being abit of a tinker for you and there’s other factors you tick the boxes for everything to be low risk hopefully for you 🤞🏻how does this nub theory work? 🙈 I hear about it but I can’t tell differences in photos
@bez91 I can only imagine what the scan was like if little one looked like a running pig 🤣🤣 glad you had a lovely experience with it
@larrythelizard I’m with you there with the bloat unable to zip jeans, I’ve got one trusty pair what’s hanging on for dear life when zipping up for me it’ll be only a matter of time before I switch to being a leggings queen!

Small little check in, currently on nights so very nocturnal surviving off around 9 hours sleep over last 3 days I cannot sleep at all 🥺 managed to get my scan appointment.. on the 10th of February when I’ll be 13 weeks 3 days or potentially further if everything’s okay leading to difficulty with the measurement side of things for the screening, rang the hospital nothing they can do about it was the only free appointment until valentines week so just got to roll with it 😩 seems forever away

@vil10 do what's right for you although bear in mind the quad test is only 75% accurate. The other thing is that although young mums are much less likely to have babies with DS, statistically most babies with DS are born to young mums precisely because the NHS tests are less accurate on them and they're the least likely to get NIPT done. I'm so risk averse though so that's where my mind goes 😬

Thanks ladies! It is indeed my birthday so the fact that the results came several days early was such a nice surprise.

@Minster2012 I'd have blown up at OH if that was me getting DS sent up to join me in my bath 😬

Team yellow here @Vil10 - I was desperate to find out last time but DH didn't want to, so far this time I'm not too bothered about finding out, sure that will change at some point!

Ergh nights sound tough @kaylsd - how many more before you get a break? Nice to have your 12w scan booked in!

Hope you've had a lovely day @Juno231

I've had my letter through for my 12w scan which is good, 2nd Feb. Annoyingly not at my local hospital so I'm going to ring and see if I can change it. Did everyone else have bloods at the same time as 12w scan? It's for the screening but I completely don't remember last time!

wahooo great news on all the scans :)

happy birthday @Juno231 and fab news about the girl, does seem like there's a strong girl gang building up on this bus and I am here for it!

@Vil10 you can still get nipt at 13 weeks but from what you've said so far, it doesn't seem like you need to? at the end of your day it is entirely your call.

@Minster2012 you are far more patient than me, I would be fuming if my bath time got disrupted haha. also love what @Haiyaa said, hippo bath time for the win! :)

@larrythelizard I finish on Tuesday morning to return back to day shift on the Thursday 😴😩 on my scan letter it says bloods to follow post scan so it may be a similar set up at your trust? :)

@Vil10 it's a difficult one, don't forget you felt very strongly reassured yesterday but also didn't realise the change in date so much! It depends on the rate of growth too, if you have a spurt of growth before the 12 week scan then it makes a difference for dating whereas on others it doesn't change anything and you are the picture of health 😂

@bez91 if you go by the "have sex earlier for a girl" sway theory then this girl is incorrect as we had sex twice the day before OV & not on the day of OV, surely the male ones from then should've beaten the girl sperm from OV -3 days?!

@kaylsd argh nights when not sleeping but be a night-mare (get it?!) and that's rubbish on your scan yes, least you r tried to push it but 🤨

@paintfairy I get lots of time on my own as DS is such a daddy's boy hence why he had to have free time too. I do worry that it might be cos I didn't breastfeed him so didn't get as close & if I purely breast feed that I'll end up with a velcro child & it does worry me I have to say. I would find it suffocating

@larrythelizard "I quite like the boy I have" love this ❤️I had my bloods done at same time as scan

@Haiyaa @Juno231 @whatwonder yeah I wasn't best pleased as it was meant to be "my relaxing time" which is basically hippo time, def so NOT involving having a boat launched up & down my leg but I did put the rubber ducks on my tummy & try to watch them move 🦆which might just turn into my new favourite hobby 🐤

My friends have come & gone & was lovely (the one who carried X), she did forget to mention til 1.5 hours before they came that her veggie daughter (13) has now turned vegan. So I remembered yesterday before we left the shops that she was veggie so had a mushroom lasagne sorted, the rest of us roast pork, then had made a meringue dessert with cream & fruits. 🙈 cue panic. So now relax 🤪and Least our veggie tea for tomorrow sorted 😋

Oh and my friend said I look "nicely rotund now" 🤪I'll take that as a round ball then 😜but again "OMG your boobs!"

@kaylsd Thankyou!! You are right, they know what they're doing i think I'm just having a wobble!! So the nub theory is how some people think you can predict the gender, they say there a little nub near your babies bum I think and on some scans you can see it, they say if it's pointing straight out it's a girl but if it's pointing more upwards it's a boy! Ohh that's rubbish with being on nights and not sleeping!!

@Juno231 god why is everything just worry worry worry with pregnancy😂 Thankyou x

@larrythelizard aww lovely!! You could always find out later down the line if you decided to! I'm team yellow too! That's not far off at all!! I should've had my bloods yesterday straight after my scan but obviously didn't go to plan!

@whatwonder I do keep telling myself that, remembering what the sonographer and midwife said keeps popping in my head and then I stop worrying for a while!

@Minster2012 You're right I was so reassured yesterday, I think I'm just having a wobble! This baby definitely must've had a growth spurt this last week then!! Oooo that would be a panic, and a bit of warning that she was vegan would've been nice but glad it all went well and you had a lovely night!

@juno231 happy birthday and yayyyyy to little girlie ❤️❤️❤️❤️

OK. So someone from MN has had a baby recently... And I'm trying to figure out if it's one of you ladies 🤣 surname noble?! Xx

@Kirky658 I will send you a message so it's not outting

@minster2012 ta gorgeous 😘❤️

@larrythelizard my bloods will be taken on the 26th and scan is on the 4th. Sounds like lots of places do it the same day though.

@Minster2012 god I'd have little patience for a 13 year old vegan daughter - she'd have to cook her own meals! Also rotund how - you look super trim and slim in the bump pics!

Tbh they have v little patience for it either @Juno231 😂she did say it AFTER the big roast & dessert. (The boob comment was when they arrived!) That's my excuse anyway 😜

Bloody banging headache again so I'll catch up properly tomorrow. But I just wanted to say:
@Vil10 you can have an nipt at any time up until 40 weeks. There's no time limit. To be honest I wouldn't worry about the other 2 syndromes as much. They seem to be less common and they will be picked up at some point if you had a problem. My odds for those are much lower than the downs.
The quad test is even less accurate than the NT test, that's true. However if you have really good odds come back then really you'd still hope it was a pretty low chance of there being an issue. And for most people there really is no issue.
However, the not knowing is a bit stressful. My odds are 1 in 3460. And I still can't decide if I should do an nipt. It seems a waste of money on one hand but on the other I'm stressing about it? 🤷‍♀️ Will I kick myself for not doing later? How accurate they really are I've no idea (the stats are actually not really properly given in a way that is useful). But the test is based on you and your blood test and is looking at your baby. Where as the hospital tests are more guesses based on factors, as opposed to exact tests, which is what worries me. So don't ask me. I don't even know myself. 🤣 And yes, it is just a constant worry! All of it. 😭

@minster2012 I see what you did there ;) I’m glad you had a lovely evening with company ❤️ ah it’s out of my hands with the scan thing hopefully everything’s okay for it not to be much of a inconvenience 🤞🏻🤞🏻I’d be a rubbish vegan, I have limited scope in Vegs in what I like 🙈
@vil10 I’ll take note at the scan then to see if we can predict anything even though we’re not finding out, I love all the tales what people suggest! How was your bubs heart rate? They say over 140 is more likely girl but like I’ve said it’s a tale! :’)
@paintfairy sending hugs, whatever decision you decide whether it’s the NIPT or just to ride with it we’re here! I don’t think the worrying will ever stop from what I gather from now until they are 18 years old no doubt and prob a while after that! 🤣🙈

3 nights in, 1 to go 😴 zombie nurse mode activated

Lovely scan pic @vil10 😁 Glad to hear all is well, even if baby was a wriggler making things difficult

@bez91 glad to hear your scan went well too, chuckling at DDs comments on it tho 🤣

Hope they accommodate your request @kate105 I dropped down to 0.6 after DS was born and it made the work/life balance so much easier (dont get me wrong you end up still doing more than 0.6 workload wise, but the 2 extra days off to fit it in definitely helps!), I dont think I'd manage to go back full time with a little one.

@Minster2012 I'd have killed DH if he'd sent DS to interrupt my bath time (although we only have a shower now but that's beside the point!). I hope you make him suffer with his next hangover by organising a Daddy son day at soft play, 9am next time he's got a hangover. Send DS running in saying mummy said you're taking me to soft play! So he can't say no 🤣

@paintfairy alone time is tricky especially in the toddler years when they want to follow you everywhere. But I'm finding now at 4 1/2 DS is starting to need me less and wanting to play by himself (sometimes). But when I really need it I just say to DH I'm going upstairs for half an hour, you watch DS and he'll do the same when he really needs it so if you work together you can factor in your alone time.

Welcome to the girl club @Juno231 🥳 Happy (belated) birthday 🎂

1 more night to go zombie nurse, you can do it! 😂 @kaylsd

Feels like little madam has been tap dancing all day, I've been so uncomfy. She is however now kicking hard enough that DH finally got to feel her from the outside so he's well happy. I haven't let on to DS you can feel her yet or he'd never be leaving my stomach alone constantly touching it waiting for a kick. Feels like he's already attached to me 24/7 some days, either singing to the baby, talking to her or just generally afraid I'm going to sneak off to have her without telling him 😂 He keeps reminding me that he's not going to stay at his Grans when I go into hospital, he's coming too so that he can hold 'his' baby first and he doesn't mind that she's covered in 'jam' he'll put her in a bath to get her clean. He'd watched an episode of One born with me and just assumed all the blood was jam and I didn't correct him so now he thinks all babies are born covered in jam 🤣
He'd actually walked in while I was watching it and I went to turn it off thinking it would terrify him but he wanted it to stay on completely amazed by it all, asking loads of questions totally unfazed by all the screaming and gore. He even watched a woman have a section and its helped him understand why my tummy will be sore when I come home and he cant jump on me. To sum it up in his words 'You can't do the screaming and push and poo the baby out your bum like the other ladies do so you've got to get an operation on your tummy. But don't worry mummy you've just got to be brave and it doesn't hurt because you'll get special medicine and a green curtain. Then the doctors will pull Emily out of your tummy, covered in jam and she'll cry to tell them she wants me, and then I'll give her cuddles while the doctor puts a big plaster on your tummy to make it all better again. Then we can go home and there will be 4 people in our family." Not too bad an explanation for a 4 year old! 🥰

@paintfairy hope the headache eases soon. I think your odds are low enough not to worry about a NIPT

@kaylsd are you free now?!

@DKDK123 that's so sweet of DS and an accurate description, so lovely! I am watching call the midwife and DS sat in the same room & he just said "you will have to go to hospital like that to have baby sister, I will look after daddy" again, very true love 🥰

Woke up feeling particularly queasy, and rotund. Could do without going to other neighbours this morning to discuss the planning & menial stuff. I can't be arsed to be on my best behaviour 😂

@DKDK123 yikes your DS is a genius! Such precious things to say ❣️

@paintfairy I'm sorry about your headaches - must be so frustrating to have no way to alleviate them! Are there ice packs or anything you could try? Would caffeine help at all?

Had my booster on Saturday and managed to dodge a fever so I'm happy to have that over and done with 😊

Happy Monday, everyone :)

@DKDK123 that is so sweet of your DS, making me a bit teary!

@Minster2012 hope you don't have to spend too much time at your neighbours

Came across this thread, made me chuckle

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4460947-Breathing-in-alcohol-breath