Minsters Sidecar Bumping Along - ttc graduates thread 5

[larrythelizard]

As I'm avoiding doing any of the useful stuff I should be doing I thought I'd just pop another sidecar up x

Woop midwife just called and she wants me to come in for a booking in appointment on Monday. I'll be 10 weeks exactly then so not bad timing wise!

@Minster2012 my mum has always knitted so we had jumpers growing up. There was definitely a Thomas one (for my brother obviously 🤣)! I remember Tom and Jerry, Betty Boop and I even had a horse one with a mane! 🤣 She did them for other people too.
@larrythelizard I feel your pain! I've had a headache for a couple of days again. 😭
@Juno231 Yay for the midwifes being on the ball. Who were we to doubt them? 🤣

@Juno231 boom that's great!

@paintfairy yes we did too, loving the sound of Betty boop one!

So the midwife I saw was lovely but over half an hour late which wasn't ideal, & it took a couple of mins to hear little baby but happy to report she was all ok in there and heartbeat all good 😊 so I'm pleased. She said hopefully movements will come but it's not unusual (as expected but still it's worrying) & I asked about the side sleeping & she said not to worry too much which is good as I was struggling again

@bez91 I frequently have the same oh shit how am I going to do this moments! With one you can stay in your jammies if you're sleep deprived and do very little but feed baby all day, but the thought of having to do the school run for DS on next to no sleep is daunting! 🙈 We'll just need to rock the matchsticks look for a while 😂

Aww @Minster2012 those wee cardis brought back memories of DS being that small, I actually felt a bit emotional seeing them (damn hormones) 😍 My sister made him a cardi just like one of those and I had a pic of it next to a mobile phone and it was the same size (tried looking for the pic but can't find it), the cardi was too big for him! But he was a premie (5lb 2), it def would have fit a newborn.
Glad to hear you got the reasurrance you needed from the midwife. I think with your bump still being so neat you can probably get away with another few weeks on your back, your body will soon tell you when it's time up, I get really sicky/dizzy feeling if I'm on my back any longer than half an hour now.

@Juno231 size of a 3 month old 😲 Please tell me she had a section and didn't have to push that out 🙈 One of my colleagues was telling me yesterday her son was 11lbs, she's only 5ft 2 and really petite and said she had him naturally, I winced at the thought!
Good news on the booking appointment 😊

@kate105 unfortunately calpol doesn't have any sedative in it anyways so it wouldn't help him get to sleep, unless pain was the reason for being awake in the first place. Think they did have a night version a few years back for toddlers that did have a sedative in it but it wasnt around for long, it was taken off the market. Now if someone did come up with a baby medicine with a safe dosage of sedative in it to aid sleep, they'd be a millionaire as sleep deprived parents all over the world would pay good money for it........right ladies anyone good at chemistry, I'm sure between us we can make it 🤔😂

@Minster2012 aren't they always late? Great news everything is OK though and you got to hear the heartbeat! The side sleeping thing is difficult if you just can't get comfortable but maybe you'll find as you get bigger that you might then prefer it? That's my hope. 🤣 All these rules. Does the pregnancy pillow not help at all?
@DKDK123 @Juno231 I won't be pushing anything the size of a 3 month old from anywhere, thanks! 🤣 I know a few people though that have had over 10lb babies.
And isn't getting babies to sleep what whisky is for? 🤔🤣 I'm sure calpol did work when I was a child but they've changed it a million times since then. All this safety nonsense. 😆

@Minster2012 exactly!! Nothing yet, he said we could look round in a couple of weeks and that was on Sunday, so I'll message maybe next Thursday and see if he's still happy for us to go! I might have a drive past the house today! So so glad baby girl is fine and you got to hear the heartbeat again!! And wooo to choosing a name, I'm sure it'll be lovely!!

@larrythelizard or even peanut butter on something you do like like bez said!

Trying to catch up after a strange few days!

@paintfairy my babies at the 12(13wk) scan were opposite twin 1 was very active, twin 2 hardly moved at all!! I was worried until we saw a good heartbeat. Now at 23 weeks both are equally active and moving. She's clearly just more relaxed than her brother 🤣

Congratulations @feliznavidad2 how lovely a little girl!! And low risk 💖
Happy belated birthday @bez91 🎁
@Minster2012 I got my daughter an Alexa for her room as every morning she would ask about the weather (ASD) and she still chats to her now some days (11) but uses her for music more so. It definitely stopped her bugging me at 6am asking me what the weather would be like that day 🤣

I've bought a few bits and got a pair of tiny babygrows and OMG they're so small I can't imagine babies being that small, but apparently they prob will be 5lbs each...! 😬
Still no names here 🤣🤦🏽‍♀️

Not the best update from me, covid well and truly kicked my arse! I ended up in hospital Sunday (hence my radio silence) doubled over with stomach pains- nearly 23 weeks so there was concern for premature labour but thankfully it wasn't! Then they questioned my appendix but thankfully it wasn't!
It looks like the covid (and the fact carrying twins has already messed it up) has screwed up my digestive system to the point I couldn't eat/drink without pain or sickness. I couldn't even swallow at one point pain killers. Then throw in severe constipation because I hadn't eaten/drank properly since NYE.. thankfully after a few days one several medications, codeine and lots of sleep I'm starting to eat and drink again and I've had a 💩 which wasn't fun but was a blessing.still uncomfy and getting pains in my stomach but it's cope able on paracetamol now and not stopping me eating/drinking (small amounts) plus throw in 2 active babies 😩 as much if a relief each kick was it left me in severe pain!
On wards and upwards...! 23+1 today, still snuggled up and very active. MW check up Tuesday and scan Thursday xx

Oh good @Minster2012 I'm pleased you heard the heartbeat and all is well. Did try the peg but no relief really. So far today it's not too bad 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Also scared at the prospect of two @bez91 @DKDK123!!

Great news on the booking appt @Juno231!

Oh goodness @Lexber that sounds stressful and scary, pleased you seem to be a bit more out of the other side. How's DH? And your big girls?

@Minster2012 glad to hear the appointment went well and you got to hear the heartbeat, I'm sure that was a lovely sound to hear!

@Lexber sorry to hear you've had such a rough go lately, hope you're feeling better soon!

Okay lads, I've got an AIBU situation that I'd like your insight on. DH's parents will be coming to visit in the summer (they live overseas and haven't been here since the pandemic started). DH's siblings also live over here, and there are a few grandchildren now. The in laws want to do a big family holiday together (they had originally said they wanted to do this in Europe with the whole gang but this was before they knew I was pregnant, so we did tell them we wouldn't be able to do that when we shared the news with them). They've now said they would like to do a long weekend away somewhere in the UK so we can be included, which is really lovely of them. BUT, there are now some timing conflicts with DH's siblings, so trying to nail down a weekend for us to do this is proving tricky. DH has suggested (to his entire family) that we go away in mid-late July. Bear in mind, I'm due 5 June but as a first time mum will almost definitely go over, so he's potentially proposing a date for a weekend away with his ENTIRE family 5-6 weeks after I've given birth. AIBU for saying this is a terrible idea and I don't want the stress of having to go away so soon after having the baby?

@DKDK123 I'm not scientific or anything but I can do sales! If you make the product then I'm sure @larrythelizard & I can make us all millionaires 😂

@paintfairy yeah I guess everyone is always late, but I was dying for a wee as per usual

@Vil10 thank you, yeah next week sounds like a good idea!

Oh my god @Lexber you have been in the wars! That sounds terrible, can you eat and drink better now?

Oh @whatwonder that's a really hard one. If it's 5 weeks after it's not ideal, and for instance if you have a c section then you aren't meant to do anything strenuous for 6 weeks so it's maybe cutting it fine. But I'd say it is also a decent time to go early whilst baby's generally are pretty easy so it's really tough. I'd prob say yes tbh if it couldn't be moved by a week or so and say "on the basis you are doing everything to help me" 😂

I've been ironing watching 22 kids and counting and it's just 😳to me. The noise omg.

Oh seems better, he ended up being quite poorly too - his chest infection and eye infection have cleared up. Still can't hear out his ear, and being monitored for high BP at the minute. Thanks for asking @larrythelizard youngest sailed through covid in her room and eldest seems immune 🤷🏽‍♀️ we've joked that covid is scared of catching her germs 🤣
We are hopeful to get rid of all this illness and start feeling normal soon - we have a nursery to start!!

@whatwonder it's such a lovely idea could they maybe push into August?
We are due May, will be here April and I e just decided to cancel a holiday we had booked for July as the prospect of a 6/7hr drive with twins isn't going to work! We will do a small thing closer to home instead or maybe even go away in Oct with friends instead. I don't think you ABU - if you have a section you will need recovery time. Either way you will be busy for the first couple of months xx

@Minster2012 I've just tried taking my tablets now but I seem to have an issue swallowing them it's a fight to get them down still.

I have zero appetite or will to drink so I'm forcing myself - back on anti sickness medication to stop me feeling sick after I've eaten.

It depends on the family I think @whatwonder - if it were my in-laws I literally wouldn't have to lift a finger and they'd be really conscious of me and sending me off for naps all the time. I felt alright by 5-6 weeks after my C section with DS (I mean I wasn't doing anything more than gentle walking) so I think you could be OK - really depends on how the family are though!

So in for that @Minster2012 @DKDK123 - once or twice the thought of giving DS piriton has crossed my mind as that's meant to be drowsy but obv never have!

Pleased they're all through the worst of it @Lexber. Pregnancy sounds tough but at least you're over half way now!

Max 14 weeks @larrythelizard 😬

thanks @Minster2012 @larrythelizard @Lexber I agree it could be fine, but it really depends on the type of delivery I have (as well as the type of baby!) there is a chance we can push it to August (which I have suggested to give myself a bit more breathing room). I was mostly annoyed at DH because he suggested these dates in the group chat without asking me first (and honestly couldn't understand why I would have an issue with having to go on a family trip with his family potentially 5 weeks after having a baby). His mum is really lovely and would deffo help out, but the whole family together is actually quite intense.

@Minster2012 great news, glad that's provided you some reassurance!

DKDK123 that's very true, I've told DH he'll have to do some nursery drop offs initially (he usually starts too early to do them but is moving jobs)

@Lexber arggggh, that sounds rough 💕I hope your digestive system is getting back to its best behaviour now.

YANBU @whatwonder it all sounds very overwhelming especially when you'll be surrounded by people you haven't seen some time when you're getting to grips with baby, I think you're well within your rights to postpone it a few weeks. DH wants to go away before July (so we get to go out of term time before DD starts school in September) which would be nice but I don't know if i want to up routes with a potential 4 to 6 week old baby. I'd rather be in my own bed sleep deprived thanks 🙈

Hmmmm not swallowing the tablets isn't ideal @Lexber, when DS needs to take a tablet and doesn't want to swallow it we put it in half a grape 🍇 🤪

@larrythelizard we've all been there and DS needed quite a lot of piriton as a baby/child 😋abd tbh my in laws would also be the same, @whatwonder well men just don't think like that, can you send a message in the group saying "well I think DH has forgotten I might be in bits from a birth so let's forget those dates & how bout august?"

@whatwonder its very difficult because its all so unknown. If you can do it on a wait and see basis (they are booking a huge house, and you can just decide last minute whether to go, or its somewhere you can last minute easily book accommodation to join them) then I would say we'll come if we can, but right now we can't commit. If its something that requires commitment (and money) then personally no, I wouldn't. I wouldn't even book a holiday with just DH (because we can't afford to throw money away). With family there's the added issue they'll moan you dropped out.
By then you might feel great, have a good routine and be bossing it. But you might not (and no one can predict any complications that might arise) and if you feel like shit, it'll be awful. As @larrythelizard says- it does depend how supportive they'll be? But if I was napping all the time and feeling crap, and they were all spending time together and having a nice time, then I'd be feeling pretty resentful about it! That's not a holiday to me. 🤷‍♀️
@Lexber interesting about the difference in movement! Being ill sounds terrible! I hope things will be a bit easier from here on in for you. And I think if you feel nauseous you do struggle to take tablets. I have never struggled in my life but I have struggled taking my vitamins every day! Really unhelpful in your situation. 😔
@Minster2012 why couldn't you wee? You weren't having a scan were you? Can you never wee for appointments?! Aaarrrgghhh.

See @bez91 im the opposite, we also want to go away this year & my attitude is if I'm gonna be sleep deprived then I might as well be snoozing in the sunshine 🤪

@paintfairy there was a sign on the door saying "ladies please don't use the toilet before your appointment in case of needing a sample" 😫it's not been like that at others but staring at that sign just made me want to wee more 😜

I don't know if now is the time to break it to you @paintfairy but holidays are never going to be the same again (unless you ditch the kid obv!)

If there's a chance to push it to august @whatwonder then that sounds much better, removes any stress about it.

Ooh good trick @Minster2012 - we're still on headlocks and holding his mouth firmly after a well aimed syringe to get any meds in!

We already have a holiday booked - I'll be at the hippo stage so plan to do very little and let DH do the lions share of playing with DS (much like now!) I am really looking forward to it despite hippo status

@bez91 on the bright side all my excess weight is on my bump 🤣🤣
@Minster2012 it's more a case of I swallow and it comes back up 😬 no idea why it's like I have a reflux issue when taking medication
@paintfairy he is still more active but she gives her own portion of pain too 🤣

Maybe I need that @larrythelizard could you come put me in a head lock and syringe mine in for me 🤣 I remember that with my daughter..

We also have another weekend break booked before they're due but I'm cancelling as daren't risk it - I think from 30 weeks I'm staying local just in case 🤣🤦🏽‍♀️ knowing my luck if I venture away they will decide to appear early!

@larrythelizard 🤣 no i know. But I would like to be awake for it and feeling human?
@Minster2012 oh no! What if you'd already been? If they expect people not to wee then they need to be on time! And yes, knowing you can't absolutely makes you need to go. 🤣 For my appointments I'll have to just drink a bit and hope its enough. I will wee on the chair otherwise! 🤣 And sunshine hinges on where you go? If it's a holiday abroad then maybe? @bez91 but one here when the weather is usually slinging it down, definitely not. 🤣 I hate going on holiday here but I can't see us getting abroad for a very long time now.

@whatwonder the other thing to consider is how far away the trip will be and how you'll get there? Driving hours with a newborn doesn't sound ideal. I'm also not convinced how happy I'd be to expose a few weeks old baby to a large family - some of which will have flown in. No immune system and all! I'd definitely be annoyed with OH and inclined to say no to the trip.

@Lexber oh that sounds stressful, you've really been through it haven't you!! I hope you start to feel better soon lovely x

@whatwonder ooo that's a tough one, if they could push it back to august it would obviously be better, maybe ask the question about moving dates and then go from there?

On the holidays front, we have our friends wedding booked for august 2023 in Turkey, baby will be 1 by then, we originally booked the holiday for 10 nights but now I'm like ahhh what do we do, Turkey in august will be absolutely boiling and surely too hot for a 1 year old? But I couldn't leave a 1 year old for a week whilst I went on holiday and they stayed with my mum, so we have no idea, I'm kinda trying to brush it under the carpet and ignore it😂